Still Really Stunned

[Guest guest]

I finally have gone NC with much of my mother's narcissitic side of

the family. But, I am still completely hurt and stunned by some of

their behaviors towards my innocent little boy. He's the cutest

little thing with gorgeous blue eyes and curly hair. He's autistic

and so I guess that the narcissists in my family -of course- don't

feel he is good enough for them.

I am still in shock. Like my brother was at my mom's house and I

said, " this is your uncle kay " thinking that an uncle can be

accepting and kind to his own nephew. My little boy touched him

gently in a greeting. And my dumb brother said, " OOh, he touched

me. " My child was so hurt and curled up in the fetal position under

a piece of furniture. I was stunned and sat there in silence.

Though, I wish I would have said something to my stupid brother

about what an idiot he'd just been. Who treats an innocent child

like that? And one who is approaching them in friendship.

And then there's my holier than though- Nephew. Who feels he is

quite the righteous something or other. And he is just horrible to

my child. He bullies him. He tried to shun him from visiting his

own grandmother's house. The man is a complete idiot. My son has

never bothered him. But, he can't go out of his way for five

minutes, once a month, to welcome a disabled child. The man's name

by the way is R Thayne, in Utah. So, if you see him, spit

on him for me. It's such a laugh. After he shuns a disabled child,

he still considers himself a " superman " . He has superman photos all

over his house...hung above his childrens cribs as if he's protecting

them. Protecting them from what...the monster that is himself?

I can't stand him. What makes it worse is his superior and cocky

attitude about how holy and wonderful he is. Yet, I haven't seen

much of goodness in him, not in the way that he treats people and

certainly not in the way he and his wife try to manipulate aand use

everyone, selfishly to get what they want. I've never seen such an

appaling display of manipulation. I think it is stupid that people

give in to them. It's created a family monster.

I think though that what I am seeing is abuse from my family that I

have taken for years, being transfered to my child.

I say this because, it's true. I remember my sister saying that

she'd gone to counseling and the therapist had mentioned to her that

all of this venom she had pointed towards her little sister (who was

just a child at the start of it-and was innocent and certainly wasn't

guilty of causing all of the families problems) was ridiculous.

My sister said though that she wasn't going to change

anything...that's how she felt. And this is the crap, I lived under

for years. This last year (I'm now 42) someone came up to me and

said, " there's something I've wanted to say to you. You were not

responsible for the problems in this family. They existed long

before you were ever born. And I think it's horrible the way

everyone tried to pin it all on you. It is not your problem. " And

the person basically encourgaed me just to get out of the family of

losers who have to hurt a child and place blame there.

I think it all is just happening again, only this time, it's being

directed towards my offspring. Which, I will not stand for. That

is why I no longer consider my family as in my or my sons lives. I'm

done. They can take their crap elsewhere. They can swallow it!