Guest guest Posted September 30, 2004 Report Share Posted September 30, 2004 Lynn, When I was diagnosed and surgery date was setup, I called both guidance counselors to let them know what was going on in my kid's lives. (12 yr. old daughter/14 yr. old son + one in college.) They alerted their teachers who kept an eye on them for me. It's really important to keep communication open right now with her school. The guidance people told me it was especially important in case they make a 'silly' mistake and are yelled at, etc., should they become easily upset, they know the reason why. My daughter's guidance counselor hooked her up with another student, whose Mom has a brain tumor - turns out, they were already good friends to begin with, but support doesn't stop at us - it is important that they have support too. Hope this helps. Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2004 Report Share Posted September 30, 2004 Lynn, When I was diagnosed and surgery date was setup, I called both guidance counselors to let them know what was going on in my kid's lives. (12 yr. old daughter/14 yr. old son + one in college.) They alerted their teachers who kept an eye on them for me. It's really important to keep communication open right now with her school. The guidance people told me it was especially important in case they make a 'silly' mistake and are yelled at, etc., should they become easily upset, they know the reason why. My daughter's guidance counselor hooked her up with another student, whose Mom has a brain tumor - turns out, they were already good friends to begin with, but support doesn't stop at us - it is important that they have support too. Hope this helps. Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2004 Report Share Posted September 30, 2004 Sit her down and talk to her. Let her know you are not dieing. You will just be going through some tough times. Give her some extra chores and tell her that it would really help you. Maybe she will rise to the occasion and be your little nurse. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2004 Report Share Posted September 30, 2004 Sit her down and talk to her. Let her know you are not dieing. You will just be going through some tough times. Give her some extra chores and tell her that it would really help you. Maybe she will rise to the occasion and be your little nurse. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2004 Report Share Posted September 30, 2004 I guess my daughter (11) is having more of a hard time than I thought. My mother says she's been crying and asking questions, etc, but she doesn't do it in front of me. Plus, she got her first detention ever at school yesterday. She said she's having trouble concentrating. And this kid already has ADHD! I guess I'll have to call the school today to tell them what's going on. Not that I want any special treatment for her, but maybe they need to make sure she's staying focused as much as possible. Anyone else have this problem? Any advice? Lynn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2004 Report Share Posted September 30, 2004 Hi Lynn, Crying and being unable to concentrate are signs of depression. Another sign of depression in teens is anger . Of course your daughter is understandably upset because you have cancer. Kids get so frightened and are often unable to deal with their feelings. The advice to talk openly to her is excellent. I would add that I reminded my kids often that it was the CHEMO that made me look and feel sick - NOT the cancer. As you progress through chemo, each treatment becomes harder. To a child's view that certainly looks as if your condition is worsening - she may not link it to the chemo. Best to talk openly. You said she has ADHD - is she taking meds? How old is she? Please let us know how she's doing. Ann www.cjhats.com__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2004 Report Share Posted September 30, 2004 Hi Lynn, Crying and being unable to concentrate are signs of depression. Another sign of depression in teens is anger . Of course your daughter is understandably upset because you have cancer. Kids get so frightened and are often unable to deal with their feelings. The advice to talk openly to her is excellent. I would add that I reminded my kids often that it was the CHEMO that made me look and feel sick - NOT the cancer. As you progress through chemo, each treatment becomes harder. To a child's view that certainly looks as if your condition is worsening - she may not link it to the chemo. Best to talk openly. You said she has ADHD - is she taking meds? How old is she? Please let us know how she's doing. Ann www.cjhats.com__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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