Guest guest Posted September 17, 2004 Report Share Posted September 17, 2004 BIG HUGS back at ya, girl! I know it seems crazy, but a lot of what you are expressing is just plain *normal* for what is happening to you right now. Most of us have been through the very same thing, including having the feeling that our head was spinning and we couldn't concentrate on a single thing for more than ten seconds. That's anxiety. It just comes in a grabs you like a dog in its teeth, and shakes you around until you are weak and limp and don't know if you can sit up or not. And it leaves....for a few hours or minutes....but you still can't relax, because you think you see out of the corner of your eye that it is coming back and it's going to get you again. You live in constant fear. Of something. Something bad. You lose your perspective. You can't tell what is a real fear and what is just imaginary. You start to be afraid of things that might not happen, and you don't trust your ability to handle anything, much less the bad things. This is why you need to allow yourself and allow others to TAKE CARE OF JUDY. Everything else needs to wait right now, and JUDY is the one that needs the help. Do not go into work. Your boss is most likely easier on you than you are on yourself. Do not worry about Randy's children. Do not make major decisions about your husband's retirement or anything else right now. You aren't thinking straight. Nobody is thinking straight when their life has been turned upside down. Think calm thoughts. Eat healthy food. Listen to good music. I never could sit still long enough to read during this time, but I tried to read things that were uplifting and calming, like the " Chicken Soup for the Soul " type books. Avoid stress (yeah, I know, you're living in a tornado of emotion, and I'm telling you to avoid stress, but you can at least try, can't you?). You are stronger than you think you are. Now be a strong enough woman to ask for help when you need it. This is when you need it. We're here for you for the emotional things, and the practical advice. Let everybody else in your life " do for you, " as we say in the south. It's your turn. Then when you are past this part, and you are feeling strong again, you will pass that on by doing for someone else. That's what keeps the earth spinning...hands helping hands, hearts reaching out to hearts. I will pray for you every day, just as I do for all my breast cancer friends. You are in the palm of God's hand, and that's a very safe place to be. Doesn't matter if you believe in God; he believes in you. Love, Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2004 Report Share Posted September 17, 2004 Aww thanks Kathy......I know I'll get through this.....and I have asked for my church members to give me a blessing......Ive been on the outs with them for couple of years now.. I guess now is the time to put that aside...I need the blessing... So that is one positive step Ive done..Ty for such a wonderful response. You really did help me.....and I have been reading...I have read the cover of a book Ive been trying to read now for the past month...about a million times.LOL so I am making strides...LOL although very small one..lOL I hope I can get past the cover soon...it looks like a good book... Love ya and the very best to you..... Judy -- more Judy BIG HUGS back at ya, girl!I know it seems crazy, but a lot of what you are expressing is just plain *normal* for what is happening to you right now. Most of us have been through the very same thing, including having the feeling that our head was spinning and we couldn't concentrate on a single thing for more than ten seconds.That's anxiety. It just comes in a grabs you like a dog in its teeth, and shakes you around until you are weak and limp and don't know if you can sit up or not. And it leaves....for a few hours or minutes....but you still can't relax, because you think you see out of the corner of your eye that it is coming back and it's going to get you again. You live in constant fear. Of something. Something bad.You lose your perspective. You can't tell what is a real fear and what is just imaginary. You start to be afraid of things that might not happen, and you don't trust your ability to handle anything, much less the bad things. This is why you need to allow yourself and allow others to TAKE CARE OF JUDY. Everything else needs to wait right now, and JUDY is the one that needs the help.Do not go into work. Your boss is most likely easier on you than you are on yourself. Do not worry about Randy's children. Do not make major decisions about your husband's retirement or anything else right now. You aren't thinking straight. Nobody is thinking straight when their life has been turned upside down. Think calm thoughts. Eat healthy food. Listen to good music. I never could sit still long enough to read during this time, but I tried to read things that were uplifting and calming, like the "Chicken Soup for the Soul" type books. Avoid stress (yeah, I know, you're living in a tornado of emotion, and I'm telling you to avoid stress, but you can at least try, can't you?).You are stronger than you think you are. Now be a strong enough woman to ask for help when you need it. This is when you need it. We're here for you for the emotional things, and the practical advice. Let everybody else in your life "do for you," as we say in the south. It's your turn. Then when you are past this part, and you are feeling strong again, you will pass that on by doing for someone else. That's what keeps the earth spinning...hands helping hands, hearts reaching out to hearts.I will pray for you every day, just as I do for all my breast cancer friends. You are in the palm of God's hand, and that's a very safe place to be. Doesn't matter if you believe in God; he believes in you.Love,Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2004 Report Share Posted September 17, 2004 Aww thanks Kathy......I know I'll get through this.....and I have asked for my church members to give me a blessing......Ive been on the outs with them for couple of years now.. I guess now is the time to put that aside...I need the blessing... So that is one positive step Ive done..Ty for such a wonderful response. You really did help me.....and I have been reading...I have read the cover of a book Ive been trying to read now for the past month...about a million times.LOL so I am making strides...LOL although very small one..lOL I hope I can get past the cover soon...it looks like a good book... Love ya and the very best to you..... Judy -- more Judy BIG HUGS back at ya, girl!I know it seems crazy, but a lot of what you are expressing is just plain *normal* for what is happening to you right now. Most of us have been through the very same thing, including having the feeling that our head was spinning and we couldn't concentrate on a single thing for more than ten seconds.That's anxiety. It just comes in a grabs you like a dog in its teeth, and shakes you around until you are weak and limp and don't know if you can sit up or not. And it leaves....for a few hours or minutes....but you still can't relax, because you think you see out of the corner of your eye that it is coming back and it's going to get you again. You live in constant fear. Of something. Something bad.You lose your perspective. You can't tell what is a real fear and what is just imaginary. You start to be afraid of things that might not happen, and you don't trust your ability to handle anything, much less the bad things. This is why you need to allow yourself and allow others to TAKE CARE OF JUDY. Everything else needs to wait right now, and JUDY is the one that needs the help.Do not go into work. Your boss is most likely easier on you than you are on yourself. Do not worry about Randy's children. Do not make major decisions about your husband's retirement or anything else right now. You aren't thinking straight. Nobody is thinking straight when their life has been turned upside down. Think calm thoughts. Eat healthy food. Listen to good music. I never could sit still long enough to read during this time, but I tried to read things that were uplifting and calming, like the "Chicken Soup for the Soul" type books. Avoid stress (yeah, I know, you're living in a tornado of emotion, and I'm telling you to avoid stress, but you can at least try, can't you?).You are stronger than you think you are. Now be a strong enough woman to ask for help when you need it. This is when you need it. We're here for you for the emotional things, and the practical advice. Let everybody else in your life "do for you," as we say in the south. It's your turn. Then when you are past this part, and you are feeling strong again, you will pass that on by doing for someone else. That's what keeps the earth spinning...hands helping hands, hearts reaching out to hearts.I will pray for you every day, just as I do for all my breast cancer friends. You are in the palm of God's hand, and that's a very safe place to be. Doesn't matter if you believe in God; he believes in you.Love,Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2004 Report Share Posted September 17, 2004 Aww thanks Kathy......I know I'll get through this.....and I have asked for my church members to give me a blessing......Ive been on the outs with them for couple of years now.. I guess now is the time to put that aside...I need the blessing... So that is one positive step Ive done..Ty for such a wonderful response. You really did help me.....and I have been reading...I have read the cover of a book Ive been trying to read now for the past month...about a million times.LOL so I am making strides...LOL although very small one..lOL I hope I can get past the cover soon...it looks like a good book... Love ya and the very best to you..... Judy -- more Judy BIG HUGS back at ya, girl!I know it seems crazy, but a lot of what you are expressing is just plain *normal* for what is happening to you right now. Most of us have been through the very same thing, including having the feeling that our head was spinning and we couldn't concentrate on a single thing for more than ten seconds.That's anxiety. It just comes in a grabs you like a dog in its teeth, and shakes you around until you are weak and limp and don't know if you can sit up or not. And it leaves....for a few hours or minutes....but you still can't relax, because you think you see out of the corner of your eye that it is coming back and it's going to get you again. You live in constant fear. Of something. Something bad.You lose your perspective. You can't tell what is a real fear and what is just imaginary. You start to be afraid of things that might not happen, and you don't trust your ability to handle anything, much less the bad things. This is why you need to allow yourself and allow others to TAKE CARE OF JUDY. Everything else needs to wait right now, and JUDY is the one that needs the help.Do not go into work. Your boss is most likely easier on you than you are on yourself. Do not worry about Randy's children. Do not make major decisions about your husband's retirement or anything else right now. You aren't thinking straight. Nobody is thinking straight when their life has been turned upside down. Think calm thoughts. Eat healthy food. Listen to good music. I never could sit still long enough to read during this time, but I tried to read things that were uplifting and calming, like the "Chicken Soup for the Soul" type books. Avoid stress (yeah, I know, you're living in a tornado of emotion, and I'm telling you to avoid stress, but you can at least try, can't you?).You are stronger than you think you are. Now be a strong enough woman to ask for help when you need it. This is when you need it. We're here for you for the emotional things, and the practical advice. Let everybody else in your life "do for you," as we say in the south. It's your turn. Then when you are past this part, and you are feeling strong again, you will pass that on by doing for someone else. That's what keeps the earth spinning...hands helping hands, hearts reaching out to hearts.I will pray for you every day, just as I do for all my breast cancer friends. You are in the palm of God's hand, and that's a very safe place to be. Doesn't matter if you believe in God; he believes in you.Love,Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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