Re: D

[Guest guest]

thank you for sharing that story, I am glad your dh was able to stay

with his sister, I tell my boys all the time " No matter how mad you may get at

your brothers, you all have to promise me to always be there for each other,

parents may come and go but when you feel like you have nothing else in the

world you can always count on your brothers. " My sister was my bestfriend in

the world, we were very close from ages 16-22, when I was 22 and she was 20 she

was killed in a freak car accident, my life changed forever.

I am glad you decided not to give up on your dream of giving your dh his first

born I have the same desire. God bless you on this journey.

Love,

Chrissy 31

29

13

Dylan 11

Devin 11

TL '93

re-married 2001

michellesmunchkins wrote: Good Morning to all,

my new friends and friends I have not yet met...

On July 30th, I turned 36 and received the best birthday present

ever, a surgery date w/Dr.L for TR (including buddies too!) on Aug

26 with a possible success rate between 75-90%...I know you all know

how special that is...we are a special group here, brought together

by a common bond, the desire to have a baby with the one we love...

My story is not all that different, had the TL, regretted it, never

imagined we could get to the place of affording it, and now, even

more than having a baby, I want to be restored to the way I was

before the TL. The rest I place in God's hands, if we are meant to

have a baby, then it will happen. I know I will just have FUN TTC !!!

WooooHooooo!!!!

Anyhow, I wanted to share a little about my DH and why it would

be so special to have a baby together with him. He is already a

great dad to my oldest dd and stepdad to my youngest two dd's.

My DH was born in Korea, into poverty as an amer-asian. Half Korean,

half black. Totally rejected by his own culture, he had no future to

look forward to. You know one the commercials you see on tv, support

a child in a foreign country for $.50 cents a day....he was one of

those kids. He was able to attend school because of that money. When

he was 14, his dear mom begged a military chaplain to take her son

and 10 yr old dtr to America, the country where dreams come true, so

her children could have a future. That man wrote his wife and after

one year of God's grace and lots of paperwork, he got my DH and my

SIL to the US. That woman, my dearest MIL, did the most couragest

thing and most loving thing. I am sure it was the hardest thing she

ever did. She had many opportunities to adopt out my SIL, but no one

had wanted the older brother, she waited until she found someone to

take them both. That was in 1981, in 1993, as an adult my DH went

back to Korea to see his mom. He was able to reconcile with his mom

as an adult and reconnect with her. By 1995, when I met my DH, his

relationship was still budding with her and I got to see it blossom.

It was a wonderful thing to see. We worked on the papers to bring

her to US. She was afraid to come, a foreign country. She put it off

for two years. Finally, December of 2001, we received a call, Oma

was ready to come!

She had decided she was going to face her fear and come. We were so

happy and excited, I had spoken to her many times, now I was going

to meet her and be able to bless her, we just wanted to do so much

for her. She used to tease me about not having a baby yet. She would

say, " no baby, no come, have baby, I come " ....my DH never told her I

have my TL.

Well, three weeks after her phone call, we received another phone

call...Oma had died...a heart attack...and alone. It was devastating.

Within 3 days, my DH, me, SIL and her DH flew to Korea for 10 days.

It was awful, being there after she had passed and not when she was

alive. I hated it. I was so mad. We should have gone when she was

alive. We did what we had to do. It was comforting to be where she

had been, once lived. We met many of her friends, some even

remembered my DH and SIL.

There was some inheritance for the kids and with that money, we

tried several IVF cycles. My DH was so sure that this would be a

gift from his mom and that it would work. When the cylces failed, it

was another devastating blow. We nearly gave up, we almost quit.

Then my DH said, let's try the stimulated cycle, our last shot. It

did not set right in my heart. If it did not work, we were not only

out $5500+ dollars, but I would still be unfulfilled. I got on the

net and soon found Dr. Levin. I felt hope rise again, I felt peace.

Knowing I could be restored fulfilled me, even before I would TTC.

My DH was unsure at first with the TR, we were so into the IVF, but

it did not take long for him to see that Dr. L is special. When a

doc still makes personal phone calls, even without having received a

penny yet....Amazing....we are both so excited and looking forward

to the possibility of creating a life together. My DH has been so

blessed, he was spared a life of poverty, he was brought into a God

loving family in the states, got to go to college and now ministers

through his work with juvenile youth. To top it off, he met his wife

on the internet back in late 95...incredible story and I pray the

next chapter includes a child for this incredible man whom I love so

dearly.

Okay, sorry for the book, tried to keep it short, just wanted you to

read a lil about our story, get to know us...I look forward to

getting to know as many of you as possible. God bless and have a

wonderful day.... )

D in WA

me 36

DH 36

dd 15

dd 11

dd 9

TL 7/93

remarried 7/97

TR 8/26/02 w/Dr. Levin