Watery Discharge/Cycle&Agony/Elitism/Buying Adult Diapers

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Clear Watery Discharge:

Yes – I’ve had it – was worst at the time I was on Provera to try to control

bleeding – the bleeding stopped for a few days & the watery discharge took

it’s place for about a week before the bleeding returned. In it’s favor, I

have to say that at least clear doesn’t make as big and noticeable a mess as

bloody red does. It would just sort of pour out – I found it strange, but I

asked a Nurse Practitioner and was told it was “normal.” -- I didn’t find

having water running out of my vagina and down the insides of my legs to be

normal at all. I’ve also had it a little now and then ever since – but no

more really bad spells of it.

Cycle & Degree of Agony

After coming off the Provera and Lupron and suddenly having my submucosal

pedunculated fibroid removed (fairly simultaneous events), I had 2 really

regular cycles like I was 30 years old again – during which my most

uncomfortable time was the 2 weeks after my period. The week before and the

week of the period were both great. Then I lengthened out – I’ve been

perimenopausal for YEARS. Had 2 good weeks post-period followed by 2 more

bad weeks – waiting now for another period

My gut feeling is that for me it’s the high-estrogen parts of the month that

give me the most problem. And yes, when it’s bad, eating makes it worse –

eating in little bits helps (I spoon in the granola/fruit all morning &

spend all afternoon nibbling on the lunch during the bad weeks). I keep a

heating pad handy even at work, but sometimes it’s hard to tell whether to

put it on the front or the back.

Classism/Elitism/Paternalism:

I agree with all the folks who complain about having to try to carry on

serious adult conversations on a “partnership” level while sitting-up on a

table (usually with your bare feet dangling in mid-air and no backrest with

no place to set down so much as a scrap of paper) wrapped in a large paper

towel – or that baby-blue paper backed saran-wrap stuff or even a sheet.

Another thing that gets to me is that it’s always “Dr. SoAndSo,” but the

patients are all “” and “, ” etc. (and ½ the time they don’t even

get your name right) I’m into being friendly and I don’t mind being called

by my first name as long as I get to call the other person back by her/his

first name, but if it’s Dr. SoAndSo, then I think I should be “Ms. SoAndSo”

and if I’m “” then I think the doctor should be “Lorraine” or “Steve” or

whatever – maybe I’d give them “Dr. Sally” – but then I’d have to be “Ms.

Pat,” in which case we’d all sound like we were on a pediatric ward, or

part of a Romper Room cast or something & I probably wouldn’t be able to

keep a straight face.

What’s with I only get to have a first name, and not even a middle name, and

the doctor gets to have a title and only a last name??? I think it’s all

another attempt to be “in charge,” to establish who is more and less

important and that it is very manipulative. Definitely

classist/elitist/paternalistic – something. Maybe we should all just start

calling our doctors by their first names!!!!!

Buying Adult Diapers:

Someone mentioned being embarrassed to buy adult diapers. I remember being

young and embarrassed to buy Kotex or tampons too – getting an a check-out

line with a female checker & then having her go on break just before my turn

and winding up with a male checker & thinking I was going to die. – But, of

course, this was a lot less embarrassing than not having Kotex or tampons

would have been.

A few years ago, an older gentleman friend with no family to take him in,

came and stayed at my home after prostate surgery. At first I felt the same

way about buying the diapers he needed during his recovery - but then I

realized that a lot of the people buying them are loving caretakers bringing

them home to someone who is ill, recovering from something, or invalid.

Sure, some people are buying for themselves – but even for them it beats the

alternative! After I figured that out, it really didn’t matter any more,

and I just tossed them in with my other stuff. So, how’s anyone to know

you’re buying for yourself? If they assume that, just think how wrong they

could be. Try to just IMAGINE you’re buying them for someone else – take

that attitude and it will probably be easier to get past the embarrassment

thing.

Pat

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