Re: Re: again

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I wonder, if you were small to start with, do you think people will really notice? I guess since I'm quite heavy, I almost always wear "loose" shirts, so I'm sure no one even notices my boobs anyways----kind of flow with the fabric!!!!

But about 2 years back, I started noticing mine "sagging" a bit (and no, I am not big chested, 38B), so I started wearing the underwires, as well as with a slight padding on them, so you couldn't see when I got "cold"!). And wow, I really like those.

But now, after having surgery (just a lumpectomy), I come back to work, and at first I thought all the guys would be looking at me/my chest to see if I looked the same! But with my bra, there isn't any difference. Even without it, I just have a ripple I guess you could call it! So I worried for nothing!!!! (although I guess I'd worry if I weren't married and had to expose myself to a new lover!)

BTW, I work in Engineering, so out of 80 or so people, there are only 7 women, and the rest are men. They are almost all very gentlemanly, most are married, kids, grandkids, etc., so no, I don't feel uncomfortable. I haven't seen any "visible" looking by them, but once in a while I "wonder", probably from my own paranoia, was he checking my chest out to see how it looks now???

So, I am around men all day long, and even though I am wearing a bra, I really don't think they are looking anyways. Although I do understand, if I couldn't wear a bra, I guess I would be worried also, but for no reason.

Heck, I'm worried now when the radiologist told me I can't use deoderant on one side for the next 7 weeks!!!---I'm worried I stink something awful, but no one has the heart to tell me that!!!!

So for you, with or without bra/prosthesis, I bet they aren't looking at your chest either. I think it's our own paranoia.

Look at it this way, if you worked with a guy who was diagnosed & treated for prostrate cancer, when he came back to work, would you be checking him out? I seriously doubt it, so I doubt people you work with or see are checking you out either!

And if someone you don't know does look and snicker, who cares!!! You know you are a bigger and better person because of all you've been through. This crass and rude person who may comment is a small-time person who doesn't have a clue what "real life" is all about.

Go out and be YOURSELF, who you are inside!!!! That's what counts!!!

Patty in CT

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Hi there you never wear the bras and prosthesis? I can't wait till I can wear a bra etc as I'm paranoid that someone will notice that I have a flat side... I called the Australian Breast cancer society and they are sending me something to put in my bra , they also put me in touch with the free wig loan service.I'm thinking ahead,I feel like my mind is ready to go back to work but my body isn't. I had a build up of fluid and had to get it drained today. Can't wait till the fluid stops building up. > > Hi there,> > I bolted when I read some posts from the lady with stage iv as > it > > scared me but I have been reading your digests again and everyone > is > > giving me inspiration. > > Congratulations nne .....You give me

hope.> > I had a bone scan and ultra sound yesterday and I've been really > > panicking about it but then I read about someone elses > experience...> > I will get to know you all but I just can't remember the name now.> > I never thought of other things that they could find.....these > > scans are amazing but I feel a lot better now.> > I had my drain out finally 2 days ago mainly for my scans but > I > > have a build up of fluid in there(thought that I was growing a new > > boob lol) I have togo to the doctor today so he can drain it.> > Thank heavens that I don't have my drain in my library bag > > anymore as I went to K-Mart and they check all bags > lolol........at > > your own risk love....hehe> > I see the chemo guy

tomorrow.......> > A few of you are wondering why some people have chemo and some > > radiation....my doctor told me I don't have to have radiation > because > > my tumours perimeter had no cancer cells,they were contained but > its > > probably different doctors.....my doctor is quite young ,I was > very > > surprised but lately I have been hearing that he has a very good > > name....> > I'm coping quite well....when I look into the mirror it > doesn't > > worry me...why? > > Seriously I have or had quite small boobs....it must be hard > for a > > person with bigger boobs to lose one as it could make them fall > over > > couldn't it?> > I'm sorry about my silly questions.> > Talk to you all

soon.> >