~ Re: Your opinion...please

[Guest guest]

Ahhh , I could never hate you. It does make me sad and having

been one of those post wls baby people, probably pretty sensitive,

especially since I realize how easy it can be to revert to old eating

habits since we need to return to eating foods (for baby's healthy

development) that were previously off limits to us before we got

preggo.

The good thing about Carnie, and a praise that people overlook in

order to bash, is that she is once again taking control of her

weight. Something she probably wouldn't have been able to do pre-

wls, and is proving to people that she is as human as the next person

and can fall back but can also have the strength to pick up again and

choose the right path.

((()))

Toi

> <Sheepishly raising her hand>

>

> I'm one of the ones who have bashed Carnie's weight gain after

surgery

> (on another board) and feel awful for it (the minute it was off my

> fingers). I, at that point, was feeling bad about myself and felt

like i

> had to bash someone else to feel better. I realized that it wasn't

the

> way I wanted to be--I wasn't intending to be a former fat person

who

> bashed others, I was just in a pity mode and took it out on someone

that

> didn't derseve it. I guess you can lose the weight but not

necessarily

> the attitudes that go with it sometimes. Self-preservation is such

a big

> thing when you are fat that it doesn't ever totally leave you and

can

> manifest itself in nasty, snide comments that shouldn't be made. I

said,

> " I'm not going to let myself be like Carnie " and what I

meant

> was, I don't want to ever go back to being the way I was. Please

don't

> hate me for being (however breifly) one of " them " .

>

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