Your opinion...please

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Hi all

I belong to another group and there's an ongoing discussion about a

post that might be seen as ridiculing another fat person (well *I*

see it that way, let's say that). It started out about an article

regarding a 625 lb man and how he got that size, his comments about

WLS (he won't have it because he can't eat the food he wants to) and

more. The original post didn't bother me, but the followup was

about snide remarks made by the poster, herself a former fat person,

while in a restaurant. Apparently a fat couple came in, sat

together (she noted it as squeezed in together) and then " ate

everything in sight " . Her and some restaurant employees were

wondering about this couples' sex life!

Normally this person has tended to be very compassionate but I was

pretty shocked by her comments--considering that she was once one of

the fat people she was mocking!

How many times have you heard/read someone who has had WLS turn

around and mock someone who hasn't? When we lose weight, do we also

lose the ability to feel compassion to those who, for whatever

reason, choose NOT to have WLS to lose weight? I've not responded

back to her post yet, but several others have, and they've said that

they didn't appreciate the fact that she was mocking the very people

she used to be a group of. They especially took issue with the fact

that she was specifically discussing their sex life (or in her mind

lack of sex life) with others. The discussion hasn't gotten heated

but it has been pretty fast and furious.

So if you happen to hear/read someone in a WLS " support group " who

mocks a fat person...how does that make you feel? Do you agree with

what they say or what?

Yes...the post has me a bit upset simply because it almost seems

like she has completely forgotten that she was once where that

couple is now. Am I off base in feeling bad about this discussion?

Alisab