Re: Opening up here , need advise!!

August 12, 2005

We need to (((hug))) each other!!! Here you go!

((()))

I'm afraid I can't be of much help because I understand where you're

coming from, sweetie. I'm not very good at dealing with stress and I

find myself getting snippy with dh and my oldest son.

I haven't touched a cigarette in 4 years (this June YEA!!!), but

there are times I feel like I could just step out the door and relax

with a puff, and that makes me even more frustrated. I suppose those

oral fixations (food, alcohol, smoking) were behind the addictions

that led us to obesity in the first place. They're toughies to get

past and I for one haven't been very successful.

, don't feel like you need to be the sunshine of the group.

You're human and you're entitled to lean on us for support or just to

gripe to if needed, just like everyone else is. I don't mind

listening and lending a cyber shoulder.

Huggz,

Toi

>

> I went to support group tonight. I normally keep my post to you all

> light hearted and happy, but I haven't felt light hearted and happy

> the past few months. I've been feeling angry and snippy and oh my

> gosh DON'T cut me off on the freeway or I will completely freak on

> you!!!!!!!!! It is really bugging me!! This isn't me. I'm not

> normally an angry snippy person. It was interesting to see tonight

> in-group that there were a lot of people feeling this way. We no

> longer have food our coping mechanism. I haven't found

> the " something " to help me cope. I've tried exercising " LOL " I do

> exercise I just don't really really like it. I can't shop no money.

> I pray and read my bible and ask God to please help me with this

> anger and help fill me with something else. LOL some days it works

> some days the anger is just too big and takes over and it is time

to

> lock my bedroom door and get it back under control.

>

> How do you all deal with things? How have you been coping? Are you

> angry and snippy? What do you do when things get too big and

> overwhelming?

>

> Hugs!!!

>

August 12, 2005

--

I, for one, was thrilled to see you last night.

I went through an angry phase, but not to the extreme that a lot of people seem

to.

I guess I found my solace in prayer. I asked God to help me to see those that

frustrated my as someone who needs my love. They obviously are in a worse place

than me, so I tried (difficult as it was some days) to have empathy for those

that pissed me off...sounds liek the punch line of a bad joke...

I think it is a phase that we all have to walk through, to one degree or

another. And each of us will find out 'escape' somewhere. The fact that you

are realizing that part of the frustration is the fact that you need a new

coping tool, is (I think) an enlightening (is that a word?) to begin with. Keep

your chin up, and try to giggle when someone makes you mad. Picture the men in

frilly panties and a baby bonnet...should get a smile...and remember that you

are better off because you have a whole new life to live while they are stuck in

their old one.

Love to you always!

jb-bb

toibox_twins wrote:

We need to (((hug))) each other!!! Here you go!

((()))

I'm afraid I can't be of much help because I understand where you're

coming from, sweetie. I'm not very good at dealing with stress and I

find myself getting snippy with dh and my oldest son.

I haven't touched a cigarette in 4 years (this June YEA!!!), but

there are times I feel like I could just step out the door and relax

with a puff, and that makes me even more frustrated. I suppose those

oral fixations (food, alcohol, smoking) were behind the addictions

that led us to obesity in the first place. They're toughies to get

past and I for one haven't been very successful.

, don't feel like you need to be the sunshine of the group.

You're human and you're entitled to lean on us for support or just to

gripe to if needed, just like everyone else is. I don't mind

listening and lending a cyber shoulder.

Huggz,

Toi

>

> I went to support group tonight. I normally keep my post to you all

> light hearted and happy, but I haven't felt light hearted and happy

> the past few months. I've been feeling angry and snippy and oh my

> gosh DON'T cut me off on the freeway or I will completely freak on

> you!!!!!!!!! It is really bugging me!! This isn't me. I'm not

> normally an angry snippy person. It was interesting to see tonight

> in-group that there were a lot of people feeling this way. We no

> longer have food our coping mechanism. I haven't found

> the " something " to help me cope. I've tried exercising " LOL " I do

> exercise I just don't really really like it. I can't shop no money.

> I pray and read my bible and ask God to please help me with this

> anger and help fill me with something else. LOL some days it works

> some days the anger is just too big and takes over and it is time

to

> lock my bedroom door and get it back under control.

>

> How do you all deal with things? How have you been coping? Are you

> angry and snippy? What do you do when things get too big and

> overwhelming?

>

> Hugs!!!

>

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August 12, 2005

It was great to see you too. You know I thought I didn't need the

support group meetings. I have wanted to go it just hasn't been

working out. I DO need them!! I was shocked to hear that SO MANY

others were feeling this anger thing. I know identifying this and

being aware is a big thing. I just wish I knew what to do with it

now. I have been praying (LOL maybe I should make it continuous!!!)

and I will continue to do so. I know therapy would help and I will

also look into that. BUT I've been in therapy and I know a lot of

the tools that are out there. I honestly believe that God and I are

the only ones that can fix this. Don't get me wrong a little

guidance from a therapist probably wouldn't hurt, but I think it is

going to be something I'm just going to have to work through.

*Sigh* I just wish my brain would hurry up!!!!!!

Hugs!!

> >

> > I went to support group tonight. I normally keep my post to you

all

> > light hearted and happy, but I haven't felt light hearted and

happy

> > the past few months. I've been feeling angry and snippy and oh

my

> > gosh DON'T cut me off on the freeway or I will completely freak

on

> > you!!!!!!!!! It is really bugging me!! This isn't me. I'm not

> > normally an angry snippy person. It was interesting to see

tonight

> > in-group that there were a lot of people feeling this way. We no

> > longer have food our coping mechanism. I haven't found

> > the " something " to help me cope. I've tried exercising " LOL " I

do

> > exercise I just don't really really like it. I can't shop no

money.

> > I pray and read my bible and ask God to please help me with this

> > anger and help fill me with something else. LOL some days it

works

> > some days the anger is just too big and takes over and it is

time

> to

> > lock my bedroom door and get it back under control.

> >

> > How do you all deal with things? How have you been coping? Are

you

> > angry and snippy? What do you do when things get too big and

> > overwhelming?

> >

> > Hugs!!!

> >

>

> We are a very active support group.

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> please change your setting to NO EMAIL!

> Please stay with us!

>

> Any questions?

> Please contact Group Creator/Moderator

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>

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August 12, 2005