: Re: Jayni's 3 month check up

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

It is hard not to compare our weight loss. But we are all different.

has lost 97 pounds in 6 months but she is also VERY tall and

had a high starting weight. She is also younger than some of us.

As long as we do what we are supposed to do, the weight will come

off. And remember, weight is just a number. The journey is to find

health and well being. I am 21 months post op. I never reached

my " goal. " But, I am relatively healthy and active and that works

for me! I am 6 months from my 50th birthday and that would never

have happened without WLS. Normal sized is fine with me!!!

Robyn

> hugs to you jayni

> i can relate because at first i seemed to do good but i have

tapered off

> quite a bit too .. someone here at our group is like 6 months

post op and has

> lost 97 lbs .. while of course i am happy for them i am feeling

depressed

> because i am 4 1/2 months and have lost 60 lbs +

[Guest guest]

i agree and this is why i previously have not shared much about weight loss,

i was sad though because i felt like most people reach goal way down the

road .. and the original post i read said 97 lbs and 20 lbs away from goal, i

know comparing is NOT good, but lets face it

its kind of a normal thing to do and one most of us probably cant help but

do, its the goal part that got me, i still have more than that to go to reach

goal and i am just being hard on myself, i do realize its important to keep

in mind why i did this in the first place, normally i do not say too much as

i said earlier its just a human thing to compare and i probably should have

kept my feelings to myself ..

i wasn't wanting to make anyone feel bad

sorry

i think i will be quiet now

i apologize if this offended anyone

[Guest guest]

hi robyn

thanks for writing this .. i totally understand what you are saying

i answered another post to someone about this .. i was just feeling those

blues i guess

thanks again

[Guest guest]

melissa

no its ok, you are fine ..

thank you for letting me know too

that's sweet of you

i have all of a sudden majorly slowed down

and at this point too .. ( comparing ) but just letting

you know the dumb thoughts my head thinks

i am behind you in this .. you started ahead of me

by around 40 lbs, ( but i am also way short lol )

and now you are even UNDER my weight .. i cant seem

to lose much right now and to be honest i dont pig out but

lately i am eating for comfort i think or boredom being upset

something .. i am not even sure what its about ..

big sigh as i am so frustrated..

i dont even like talking about it

i dont want to deal with it.. i know sounds dumb but its too much

to look at right now

well i got some paper work i have to do .. thanks again

u didn't hurt me honestly

[Guest guest]

That is usually why I dont like to say what my loss amount is. I know that we

each move through this journey differently. Like Robyn said I am very tall 5 9

1/2 and my starting weight was 282. One of my very best friends is almost a

year out and has lost 60 pounds. The weight will come off. Just keep keeping

on.......

Love

[Guest guest]

,

I guess I missed something!

Don't feel bad. If you need to share or talk to me I will listen.

Love,

S

---------- Original Message ----------------------------------

From: TynknSnickers@...

Reply-To: GastricBypass-LOSERS

Date: Thu, 16 Jun 2005 11:57:14 EDT

>i agree and this is why i previously have not shared much about weight loss,

> i was sad though because i felt like most people reach goal way down the

>road .. and the original post i read said 97 lbs and 20 lbs away from goal, i

>know comparing is NOT good, but lets face it

>its kind of a normal thing to do and one most of us probably cant help but

>do, its the goal part that got me, i still have more than that to go to reach

>goal and i am just being hard on myself, i do realize its important to keep

>in mind why i did this in the first place, normally i do not say too much as

>i said earlier its just a human thing to compare and i probably should have

>kept my feelings to myself ..

>i wasn't wanting to make anyone feel bad

>

>sorry

>

>i think i will be quiet now

>i apologize if this offended anyone

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oh I am so sorry. I dont want you to think you offended me. I was worried I

had offended you. Although Im 20 pounds from goal I do honestly believe it will

be the hardest 20 pounds to lose. I keep bouncing from 189-185 189 - 185. UGH!

I dont know if I will ever get out of the 180's. Which is so close to 200 it

scares the crap out of me. Ive always heard losing slower is healthier ?

Anyways I just wanted you to know you can voice your thoughts anytime. Im just

sorry if I hurt you in any way.

[Guest guest]

awwww sweet heather... thank you so much for your kind post

u are all so nice, thanks 4 your hugs too ... (((((((heather)))))))

yes its been a lot to bare and forgetting to go to counseling today

first thing this am didn't help any .. too absent minded .. YIKES

well i am going to try not to be so hard on me but i did go to meryn's today

and i wanted so bad to buy a bathing suit.. i didn't allow myself to try one

on though .. NO WAY !!! not yet.. maybe soon i dont know

but one day i will feel confident doing it,

thanks again .. u are so so sweet,

big hugsssssss

[Guest guest]

I just got done with a period and was ovulating before

the stupid thing was DONE!! so I never released the

bloat from the period. So after the ovulating bloat

goes away,I'll lose weight only in that window.

I was supposed to get a hysterectomy, but right now my

PCP is the wrong one and I have to wait til the

insurance updates the PCP.

Margie

--- TynknSnickers@... wrote:

> yikes .. every three weeks .. glad i am still normal

> and regular

> hopefully it will even out for you soon....

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[Guest guest]

I just got done with a period and was ovulating before

the stupid thing was DONE!! so I never released the

bloat from the period. So after the ovulating bloat

goes away,I'll lose weight only in that window.

I was supposed to get a hysterectomy, but right now my

PCP is the wrong one and I have to wait til the

insurance updates the PCP.

Margie

--- TynknSnickers@... wrote:

> yikes .. every three weeks .. glad i am still normal

> and regular

> hopefully it will even out for you soon....

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

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