JO

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JO THAT IS GOOD NEWS IN A MISERABLE, SAD DAY. CARO

[Guest guest]

JO THAT IS GOOD NEWS IN A MISERABLE, SAD DAY. CARO

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DONI-M THANKS FOR UNDERSTANDING AND YOU ARE RIGHT I WALK AWAY TO KEEP

FROM VENTING MY ANGER ON PPL WHO I HAVE LIVED AROUND FOR A LONG TIME

ONLY IN THIS TIME OF ANGER AND VIOLENCE EVERYWHERE I JUST WISH WHEN THEY

ARE IN PUBLIC PLACES THEY WOULD RESPECT US ENOUGH TO SPEAK ENGLISH AND

CARE ENOUGH FOR THEIR CHILDRENS SAFETY ESPECIALLY HERE TO DO SO. YEARS

AGO I USED TO WORK AS A WAITRESS WITH A BUNCH OF GUYS FROM THE MID EAST

AND I PICKED UP A FEW WORDS OF THEIR NATIVE TONGUE SO TO SPEAK AND AT

TIMES I CAN UNDERSTAND SOME OF WHAT THEY ARE SAYING. BUT HERE SOME FOLKS

WILL HURT THEM BECAUSE THEY WILL THINK THEY ARE BEING PLOTTED AGAINST IF

THEY DON'T SPEAK ENGLISH WE ARE NOW ANGRY AT ANYONE AND EVERYONE. BUT

THE SAD TRUTH IS THAT THE NICE LADY WITH THE BEAUTIFUL CHILD IN FRONT OF

YOU COULD BE PLOTTING AGAINST YOU AND YOUR COUNTRY OR HER HUSBAND COULD

BE. ITS A SAD TIME FOR EVERYONE THESE DAYS. LVE JO

                              

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JO,

HON, UNDER THE CIRCUMSTANCES, THAT YOU SPOKE IN ANGER IS CERTAINLY

UNDERSTANDABLE. YOU ARE IN EMOTIONAL PAIN AND SHOCK. THAT IS WHEN WE OFTEN

LASH OUT UNTHINKING AND UNHEEDING THE WORDS COMING OUT OF OUR MOUTHS, THINGS

WE MIGHT NEVER SAY IN A MILLION YEARS. WE ARE ALL IN SHOCK, AND ALL HANDLING

IT THE BEST WE CAN. WHAT YOU SAID WAS MY FIRST INSTINCT, TOO, SADDLY.

ANGER AND FEAR CLOUD WHO WE REALLY ARE, AND YOU ARE A LOVING DEAR LADY WHO

WOULD BEND OVER BACKWARDS TO HELP A STRANGER. WE ALL KNOW THIS. AND YOU HAVE

SPOKEN OUT IN THE PAST AGAINST BIGOTRY AND PREJUDISM, SO WE KNOW THESE ARE

NOT THE WORDS YOU WOULD NORMALLY SAY. WE KNOW THE BEAUTIFUL LADY YOU ARE.

FEELINGS ARE NEITHER BAD NOR GOOD, THEY SIMPLY ARE. IT IS WHAT WE CHOOSE TO

DO WITH THEM THAT MAKES THE DIFFERENCE. YOU CAN'T HELP HOW YOU ARE FEELING,

BUT WE KNOW YOU WOULD NEVER ACT ON THOSE FEELINGS, AND THAT IS THE

DIFFERENCE BETWEEN YOU AND THE PEOPLE HURTING THOSE CITIZENS OF ARAB DESCENT

(WHO ARE USING THIS AS AN EXCUSE FOR ACTING ON THEIR PREJUDICES). JUST GIVE

YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL.

THIS IS LIKE A FESTERING WOUND WE HAVE ALL BEEN GIVEN. SOME OF US WILL HEAL

FROM IT FASTER THAN OTHERS. HON, IF YOU NEED TO VENT THE ANGER YOU ARE

FEELING, THIS IS CERTAINLY THE PLACE FOR IT. WE LOVE YOU, AND WILL SUPPORT

YOU THROUGH THIS IN ANY WAY WE CAN, OK.

{{{Gentle Hugs}}}

Doni-Marie

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DONI-M THANKS FOR UNDERSTANDING AND YOU ARE RIGHT I WALK AWAY TO KEEP

FROM VENTING MY ANGER ON PPL WHO I HAVE LIVED AROUND FOR A LONG TIME

ONLY IN THIS TIME OF ANGER AND VIOLENCE EVERYWHERE I JUST WISH WHEN THEY

ARE IN PUBLIC PLACES THEY WOULD RESPECT US ENOUGH TO SPEAK ENGLISH AND

CARE ENOUGH FOR THEIR CHILDRENS SAFETY ESPECIALLY HERE TO DO SO. YEARS

AGO I USED TO WORK AS A WAITRESS WITH A BUNCH OF GUYS FROM THE MID EAST

AND I PICKED UP A FEW WORDS OF THEIR NATIVE TONGUE SO TO SPEAK AND AT

TIMES I CAN UNDERSTAND SOME OF WHAT THEY ARE SAYING. BUT HERE SOME FOLKS

WILL HURT THEM BECAUSE THEY WILL THINK THEY ARE BEING PLOTTED AGAINST IF

THEY DON'T SPEAK ENGLISH WE ARE NOW ANGRY AT ANYONE AND EVERYONE. BUT

THE SAD TRUTH IS THAT THE NICE LADY WITH THE BEAUTIFUL CHILD IN FRONT OF

YOU COULD BE PLOTTING AGAINST YOU AND YOUR COUNTRY OR HER HUSBAND COULD

BE. ITS A SAD TIME FOR EVERYONE THESE DAYS. LVE JO

                              

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JO,

HON, UNDER THE CIRCUMSTANCES, THAT YOU SPOKE IN ANGER IS CERTAINLY

UNDERSTANDABLE. YOU ARE IN EMOTIONAL PAIN AND SHOCK. THAT IS WHEN WE OFTEN

LASH OUT UNTHINKING AND UNHEEDING THE WORDS COMING OUT OF OUR MOUTHS, THINGS

WE MIGHT NEVER SAY IN A MILLION YEARS. WE ARE ALL IN SHOCK, AND ALL HANDLING

IT THE BEST WE CAN. WHAT YOU SAID WAS MY FIRST INSTINCT, TOO, SADDLY.

ANGER AND FEAR CLOUD WHO WE REALLY ARE, AND YOU ARE A LOVING DEAR LADY WHO

WOULD BEND OVER BACKWARDS TO HELP A STRANGER. WE ALL KNOW THIS. AND YOU HAVE

SPOKEN OUT IN THE PAST AGAINST BIGOTRY AND PREJUDISM, SO WE KNOW THESE ARE

NOT THE WORDS YOU WOULD NORMALLY SAY. WE KNOW THE BEAUTIFUL LADY YOU ARE.

FEELINGS ARE NEITHER BAD NOR GOOD, THEY SIMPLY ARE. IT IS WHAT WE CHOOSE TO

DO WITH THEM THAT MAKES THE DIFFERENCE. YOU CAN'T HELP HOW YOU ARE FEELING,

BUT WE KNOW YOU WOULD NEVER ACT ON THOSE FEELINGS, AND THAT IS THE

DIFFERENCE BETWEEN YOU AND THE PEOPLE HURTING THOSE CITIZENS OF ARAB DESCENT

(WHO ARE USING THIS AS AN EXCUSE FOR ACTING ON THEIR PREJUDICES). JUST GIVE

YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL.

THIS IS LIKE A FESTERING WOUND WE HAVE ALL BEEN GIVEN. SOME OF US WILL HEAL

FROM IT FASTER THAN OTHERS. HON, IF YOU NEED TO VENT THE ANGER YOU ARE

FEELING, THIS IS CERTAINLY THE PLACE FOR IT. WE LOVE YOU, AND WILL SUPPORT

YOU THROUGH THIS IN ANY WAY WE CAN, OK.

{{{Gentle Hugs}}}

Doni-Marie

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JO,

>THE SAD TRUTH IS THAT THE NICE LADY WITH THE BEAUTIFUL CHILD IN FRONT >OF

>YOU COULD BE PLOTTING AGAINST YOU AND YOUR COUNTRY OR HER HUSBAND >COULD

>BE. ITS A SAD TIME FOR EVERYONE THESE DAYS. LOVE JO

I KNOW, HON. BUT IF YOU LET YOURSELF BECOME PARANOID THEN THE TERRORISTS WIN

(TERRORISM IS ABOUT PSYCHOLOGICALLY INJURING PEOPLE AS MUCH AS PHYSICALLY

INJURING AND KILLING THEM). THEY WANT US TURNING ON EACH OTHER, WHILE THEY

HOVER LIKE VULTURES AND TURN ON US WHEN WE ARE WEAK. DO WE WANT TO GIVE THEM

THAT SATISFACTION? WHEN WE REFUSE TO FEEL FEAR, WE SPIT IN THE TERRORISTS'

FACES. AND I WILL DO EVERYTHING IN MY POWER (LIMITED AS IT MAY BE) TO HELP

OTHERS STAND STRONG TOO, SO WE ARE ALL UNITED AND UNBREAKABLE AND SPITTING

IN THEIR FACES.

AS FOR PEOPLE OF OTHER CULTURES NOT SPEAKING ENGLISH EVEN WHEN THEY HAVE

LIVED IN OUR COUNTRIES FOR A LONG TIME, THERE ARE MANY REASONS FOR IT. SOME

OF IT IS FEAR-- LIKE THE FEAR OF SAYING THINGS WRONG AND BEING RIDICULED,

AFTER A WHILE THE FEAR BECOMES A HABIT ANDSO BIG THEY FEEL THEY CAN NEVER

OVERCOME IT. SOME OF IT IS BECAUSE NO MATTER HOW HARD THEY TRY THEY CAN'T

LEARN IT (THE LADY WHO WAS LIKE A MOTHER TO ME WAS FROM GERMANY, AND WITH

ALL MY HEART I WANTED TO LEARN GERMAN. I TOOK CLASSES, I WORKED HARD, BUT I

JUST COUNLDN'T DO IT. IT JUST WOULDN'T SINK IN).

AND WHEN THEY SPEAK IN THEIR OWN LANGUAGE, IT IS NOT BECAUSE THEY ARE HIDING

ANYTHING OR BEING SNEAKY -- MY TWO SISTER-IN-LAWS ARE FINNISH, AND FOR YEARS

MY HUSBAND ALWAYS THOUGHT THEY WERE TALKING ABOUT US, AND IT TOOK ME AGES TO

SHOW HIM IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THAT. WHEN YOU ARE RAISED WITH A

LANGUAGE, THAT IS THE ONE YOUR BRAIN THINKS IN, SO EVERYTHING YOU SAY OR DO

HAS TO BE TRANSLATED INTO A SECOND LANGUAGE TO COME OUT THAT WAY. IT CAN BE

VERY CONFUSING AND TAKES A LOT OF CONCENTRATION FOR SOME PEOPLE, SO WHEN

THEY GET TOGETHER, THEY AUTOMATICALLY SPEAK IN THE LANGUAGE THAT IS

COMFORTABLE FOR THEIR BRAIN. IT ISN'T EVEN ALWAYS A CONCIOUS DECISION.

AS FOR NOT KNOWING WHY YOU ARE TAKING THIS SO HARD, HON, YOU ARE FEELING

THIS RAGE BECAUSE YOU FEEL VICTIMIZED. YOU SAID YOU HAD BEEN ABUSED, AND IT

MAY BE YOUR SUBCONCIOUS HAS SUMMED ALL PAST PERSONAL 'TERRORIST' ATTACKS

(ABUSE IS TERRORISM ON A PERSONAL SCALE), AND NOW YOU ARE NOT ONLY DEALING

WITH THIS EVENT, BUT ALL YOU HAVE ENDURED IN THE PAST AS WELL. KIND OF LIKE

'FLASHBACKS'.

MAYBE IT WILL HELP YOU TO SAY THIS A FEW TIMES A DAY:

" I REFUSE TO BE A VICTIM IN MY OWN COUNTRY. I WILL DEFEAT THEM. I WON'T STOP

TRUSTING MY NEIGHBORS, AND I WON'T LIVE IN FEAR. THEY WILL NEVER WIN. WE MAY

BE ATTACKED, BUT WE WILL NOT BE 'TERRORIZED'. "

MAYBE THIS WILL HELP YOU CHANNEL THE ANGER INTO A SENSE OF STRENGTH.

I HOPE ANY OF THIS IS HELPING YOU FIND SOME COMFORT, HON. I FIND THAT IF I

UNDERSTAND SOMETHING, IT IS EASIER TO DEAL WITH. I LOVE YOU, AND I WANT TO

DO WHATEVER I CAN TO HELP YOU THROUGH THIS. HANG IN THERE, OK.

{{{Gentle Hugs}}}

Doni-Marie

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JO... I UNDERSTAND WHAT YA MEAN, HON ! WAY BEFORE THIS STARTED, WHEN

WE'D SELL AT THE FLEA MARKET, THERE WAS ALWAYS A LOT OF FORIEGN

LANGUAGES. WE ALWAYS FELT THEY WERE TALING ABOUT THE STUFF WE WERE

SELLING !!! TALK ABOUT PARANOID !! LOL ! 8^)

DONI-M BECAUSE OF WORKING AROUND AND HAVING ROOMMATES THAT SPOKE URDU I

USUALLY CAN PICK UP ENOUGH OF WHAT THEY ARE SAYING TO KNOW WHAT THEY ARE

TALKING ABOUT SO I AM NOT ALL THAT PARANOID. AND I ALSO KNOW THAT THESE

PPL CAN SPEAK ENGLISH VERY WELL AS SOME ARE STUDENTS AT ASU HERE IN TOWN

AND MOST WORK IN THE AREA SOME EVEN OWN BUSINESSES HERE. I THINK THEY

SHOULD RESPECT THIS COMMUNITY ENOUGH AND THEMSELVES TO SPEAK ENGLISH IN

PUBLIC STORES. IT COULD SAVE THEIR LIVES HERE. IF THEY DID NOT KNOW

ENGLISH IT WOULD BE A DIFFERENT STORY THAT I CAN UNDERSTAND. BUT IF YOUR

COUNTRYMEN ATTACKED A COUNTRY YOU LIVED IN AND YOU COULD SPEAK TO WHERE

THE PPL YOU LIVE AROUND COULD UNDERSTAND AND WOULD NOT THINK YOU WERE

PLOTTING HARM TO THEM WOULD YOU NOT GIVE THEM THAT RESPECT? I WOULD. I

LEARNED TAGALOG THE NATIONAL TONGUE OF THE PHILLIPINES WHILE I WAS

THERE BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WAS ONLY RIGHT AND I DID IT OUT OF RESPECT NO

IT WAS NOT EASY CAUSE IT WAS VERY HARD FOR ME BUT I DID IT. MY DAUGHTER

ON THE OTHER HAND WAS TALKING TO MY HOUSEGIRL AND HER SON IN THEIR

TONGUE 2 MONTHS AFTER WE GOT THERE AND WHEN WE LEFT THERE SPOKE 6

DIFFERENT DIALECTS WITH EASE SHE WAS VERY YOUNG AND IT WAS VERY EASY FOR

HER TO LEARN THEM. MY BROTHER IN LAW IS MEXICAN AND HE WAS EXPLAINING

SOMETHING ABOUT US TO HIS BROTHER WHO DID NOT SPEAK MUCH ENGLISH AND SHE

CORRECTED HIM AND STARTED EXPLAINING WHAT EVER IT WAS TO HIS BROTHER. I

DID NOT UNDERSTAND A THING THEY SAID AND LOOKED LIKE A NUT WITH MY MOUTH

OPEN STARING AT HER. SHE HAS NEVER HAD A SPANISH LESSON IN HER LIFE. I'M

LIKE YOU ITS HARD FOR ME TO LEARN A LANGUAGE BUT SHE CAN PICK THEM UP

EASILY. THINGS ARE SO MESSED UP AND STRANGE HERE IT IS SCARY WHERE WE

ACCEPTED OUR NEIGHBORS NOW WE DON'T. RACE IS PUT ASIDE HERE THESE DAYS I

CAN'T HONESTLY SAY THAT IS THE CASE MOST TIME HERE BUT IT IS NOW CULTURE

AND NATIONALITY IS WHAT IS HATED HERE NOW I HOPE AND PRAY THIS ALL END

SOON AND LIFE CAN GET BACK TO WHAT WILL BE NORMAL FROM NOW ON. LUV JO

                              

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JO... I UNDERSTAND WHAT YA MEAN, HON ! WAY BEFORE THIS STARTED, WHEN

WE'D SELL AT THE FLEA MARKET, THERE WAS ALWAYS A LOT OF FORIEGN

LANGUAGES. WE ALWAYS FELT THEY WERE TALING ABOUT THE STUFF WE WERE

SELLING !!! TALK ABOUT PARANOID !! LOL ! 8^)

DONI-M BECAUSE OF WORKING AROUND AND HAVING ROOMMATES THAT SPOKE URDU I

USUALLY CAN PICK UP ENOUGH OF WHAT THEY ARE SAYING TO KNOW WHAT THEY ARE

TALKING ABOUT SO I AM NOT ALL THAT PARANOID. AND I ALSO KNOW THAT THESE

PPL CAN SPEAK ENGLISH VERY WELL AS SOME ARE STUDENTS AT ASU HERE IN TOWN

AND MOST WORK IN THE AREA SOME EVEN OWN BUSINESSES HERE. I THINK THEY

SHOULD RESPECT THIS COMMUNITY ENOUGH AND THEMSELVES TO SPEAK ENGLISH IN

PUBLIC STORES. IT COULD SAVE THEIR LIVES HERE. IF THEY DID NOT KNOW

ENGLISH IT WOULD BE A DIFFERENT STORY THAT I CAN UNDERSTAND. BUT IF YOUR

COUNTRYMEN ATTACKED A COUNTRY YOU LIVED IN AND YOU COULD SPEAK TO WHERE

THE PPL YOU LIVE AROUND COULD UNDERSTAND AND WOULD NOT THINK YOU WERE

PLOTTING HARM TO THEM WOULD YOU NOT GIVE THEM THAT RESPECT? I WOULD. I

LEARNED TAGALOG THE NATIONAL TONGUE OF THE PHILLIPINES WHILE I WAS

THERE BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WAS ONLY RIGHT AND I DID IT OUT OF RESPECT NO

IT WAS NOT EASY CAUSE IT WAS VERY HARD FOR ME BUT I DID IT. MY DAUGHTER

ON THE OTHER HAND WAS TALKING TO MY HOUSEGIRL AND HER SON IN THEIR

TONGUE 2 MONTHS AFTER WE GOT THERE AND WHEN WE LEFT THERE SPOKE 6

DIFFERENT DIALECTS WITH EASE SHE WAS VERY YOUNG AND IT WAS VERY EASY FOR

HER TO LEARN THEM. MY BROTHER IN LAW IS MEXICAN AND HE WAS EXPLAINING

SOMETHING ABOUT US TO HIS BROTHER WHO DID NOT SPEAK MUCH ENGLISH AND SHE

CORRECTED HIM AND STARTED EXPLAINING WHAT EVER IT WAS TO HIS BROTHER. I

DID NOT UNDERSTAND A THING THEY SAID AND LOOKED LIKE A NUT WITH MY MOUTH

OPEN STARING AT HER. SHE HAS NEVER HAD A SPANISH LESSON IN HER LIFE. I'M

LIKE YOU ITS HARD FOR ME TO LEARN A LANGUAGE BUT SHE CAN PICK THEM UP

EASILY. THINGS ARE SO MESSED UP AND STRANGE HERE IT IS SCARY WHERE WE

ACCEPTED OUR NEIGHBORS NOW WE DON'T. RACE IS PUT ASIDE HERE THESE DAYS I

CAN'T HONESTLY SAY THAT IS THE CASE MOST TIME HERE BUT IT IS NOW CULTURE

AND NATIONALITY IS WHAT IS HATED HERE NOW I HOPE AND PRAY THIS ALL END

SOON AND LIFE CAN GET BACK TO WHAT WILL BE NORMAL FROM NOW ON. LUV JO

                              

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[Guest guest]

JO... I UNDERSTAND WHAT YA MEAN, HON ! WAY BEFORE THIS STARTED, WHEN

WE'D SELL AT THE FLEA MARKET, THERE WAS ALWAYS A LOT OF FORIEGN

LANGUAGES. WE ALWAYS FELT THEY WERE TALING ABOUT THE STUFF WE WERE

SELLING !!! TALK ABOUT PARANOID !! LOL ! 8^)

DONI-M BECAUSE OF WORKING AROUND AND HAVING ROOMMATES THAT SPOKE URDU I

USUALLY CAN PICK UP ENOUGH OF WHAT THEY ARE SAYING TO KNOW WHAT THEY ARE

TALKING ABOUT SO I AM NOT ALL THAT PARANOID. AND I ALSO KNOW THAT THESE

PPL CAN SPEAK ENGLISH VERY WELL AS SOME ARE STUDENTS AT ASU HERE IN TOWN

AND MOST WORK IN THE AREA SOME EVEN OWN BUSINESSES HERE. I THINK THEY

SHOULD RESPECT THIS COMMUNITY ENOUGH AND THEMSELVES TO SPEAK ENGLISH IN

PUBLIC STORES. IT COULD SAVE THEIR LIVES HERE. IF THEY DID NOT KNOW

ENGLISH IT WOULD BE A DIFFERENT STORY THAT I CAN UNDERSTAND. BUT IF YOUR

COUNTRYMEN ATTACKED A COUNTRY YOU LIVED IN AND YOU COULD SPEAK TO WHERE

THE PPL YOU LIVE AROUND COULD UNDERSTAND AND WOULD NOT THINK YOU WERE

PLOTTING HARM TO THEM WOULD YOU NOT GIVE THEM THAT RESPECT? I WOULD. I

LEARNED TAGALOG THE NATIONAL TONGUE OF THE PHILLIPINES WHILE I WAS

THERE BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WAS ONLY RIGHT AND I DID IT OUT OF RESPECT NO

IT WAS NOT EASY CAUSE IT WAS VERY HARD FOR ME BUT I DID IT. MY DAUGHTER

ON THE OTHER HAND WAS TALKING TO MY HOUSEGIRL AND HER SON IN THEIR

TONGUE 2 MONTHS AFTER WE GOT THERE AND WHEN WE LEFT THERE SPOKE 6

DIFFERENT DIALECTS WITH EASE SHE WAS VERY YOUNG AND IT WAS VERY EASY FOR

HER TO LEARN THEM. MY BROTHER IN LAW IS MEXICAN AND HE WAS EXPLAINING

SOMETHING ABOUT US TO HIS BROTHER WHO DID NOT SPEAK MUCH ENGLISH AND SHE

CORRECTED HIM AND STARTED EXPLAINING WHAT EVER IT WAS TO HIS BROTHER. I

DID NOT UNDERSTAND A THING THEY SAID AND LOOKED LIKE A NUT WITH MY MOUTH

OPEN STARING AT HER. SHE HAS NEVER HAD A SPANISH LESSON IN HER LIFE. I'M

LIKE YOU ITS HARD FOR ME TO LEARN A LANGUAGE BUT SHE CAN PICK THEM UP

EASILY. THINGS ARE SO MESSED UP AND STRANGE HERE IT IS SCARY WHERE WE

ACCEPTED OUR NEIGHBORS NOW WE DON'T. RACE IS PUT ASIDE HERE THESE DAYS I

CAN'T HONESTLY SAY THAT IS THE CASE MOST TIME HERE BUT IT IS NOW CULTURE

AND NATIONALITY IS WHAT IS HATED HERE NOW I HOPE AND PRAY THIS ALL END

SOON AND LIFE CAN GET BACK TO WHAT WILL BE NORMAL FROM NOW ON. LUV JO

                              

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