Re: Re: Sincere

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Don't hope... just know that he will make it through... and

if you ever need someone to talk to please feel free to e-mail me..

I will keep you and your family in my prayers...

Tamara

To: ProstateCancerSupport Sent: Tuesday, July 14, 2009 4:59:23 AMSubject: Re: Sincere

Tamara,I heart goes out to you. I too agree with you. Stand by your man's side through the good and the bad.My husband was diagnosed and had the surgery. He is schedule to start radiation in August.. Although it's scary, I try to be strong and give him incouraging support.My husband means alot to me and I hope that he will make it through.. We have a five year old child that also needs him andloves him very much.Thanks for sharing.>> My name is Tamara and i have been here on and off for sometime now.> > we found out that my husband had Prostate cancer Six months after we married... This was a very devastating time for us... > > His prostate was

removed months later... Though it was too late as the cancer had already sipped out of his prostate.. This was in 2005... 4 years later and lots of chemo, meds etc... I am sad to say that My husband passed away this year... > I knew he was sick.. but nothing and no one could have prepared me for this.. > > Today I crept into bed alone, picked up a book that i was going to read before turning the lights out .. I thought to myself.. what could i have done differently for him.. for my husband.. for us....> and i was all of a sudden prompted to get up and come and post this note.. I don't know who is going to read this. but i sure hope that someone's wife or partner reads this..> > There is so much that you can do..> Love your husband.. be by his side.. its not an easy road to travel..> I know this may sound silly but go completely organic.. > Don't give up.. Never ever give up... do not allow

yourself to be around negative people.. believe in your heart that you will fight this off together... no matter how hard the times get.. Picture yourself well again.. > > To the wives i say... This is the time that you need to bring your super woman out.. have enough strength for the both of you.. when he is feeling down that is when you pick him up.. I know its not easy when you have to juggle work kids and a husband... That is why i say bring out the superwoman..> > During my husband's illness i stumbled upon a writer... Louise Hay... I would like to highly reccommend her books to you.. she has DVD's that make for good listening too.> > Its never over until you yourself say so.. it has nothing to do with the fat lady... It is you who commands the fat lady to sing...> > I hope i am making sense here..> > If only i had known all that i know now.. maybe my husband would be here with

me.. I am sure he is in a better place but i miss him dearly.>

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Hey Sheila,

You wanna chat sometime..

If you ever need someon to talk to

feel free to call on me..

Tamara

To: ProstateCancerSupport Sent: Monday, July 13, 2009 11:32:45 PMSubject: Re: Sincere

>> My name is Tamara and i have been here on and off for sometime now.> > we found out that my husband had Prostate cancer Six months after we married.. This was a very devastating time for us... > > His prostate was removed months later... Though it was too late as the cancer had already sipped out of his prostate.. This was in 2005... 4 years later and lots of chemo, meds etc... I am sad to say that My husband passed away this year... > I knew he was sick.. but nothing and no one could have prepared me for this.. > > Today I crept into bed alone, picked up a book that i was going to read before turning the lights out .. I thought to myself.. what could i have

done differently for him.. for my husband.. for us...> and i was all of a sudden prompted to get up and come and post this note.. I don't know who is going to read this. but i sure hope that someone's wife or partner reads this..> > There is so much that you can do..> Love your husband.. be by his side.. its not an easy road to travel..> I know this may sound silly but go completely organic.. > Don't give up.. Never ever give up... do not allow yourself to be around negative people.. believe in your heart that you will fight this off together... no matter how hard the times get.. Picture yourself well again.. > > To the wives i say... This is the time that you need to bring your super woman out.. have enough strength for the both of you.. when he is feeling down that is when you pick him up.. I know its not easy when you have to juggle work kids and a husband... That is why i say bring out the

superwoman..> > During my husband's illness i stumbled upon a writer... Louise Hay... I would like to highly reccommend her books to you.. she has DVD's that make for good listening too.> > Its never over until you yourself say so.. it has nothing to do with the fat lady.... It is you who commands the fat lady to sing...> > I hope i am making sense here..> > If only i had known all that i know now.. maybe my husband would be here with me.. I am sure he is in a better place but i miss him dearly.>Dear Tamara,I am so sorry to hear about your husband. How old was he when he was diagnosed? Your post was very touching. I wish I could get my husband to eat organic. He fights me on it all the time, but I keep trying. My husband was diagnosed in January of last year and choose IMRT treatments,, ,a form of radiation. He has only had his second PSA test in April and it was good. But he's still

coming off the hormone therapy. Life has not been easy. But I just try to keep on supporting him and bugging him to eat good when he's going out to lunch. He just loves those Big Mac's, which is the worst he could eat and he knows it. Now he wants to sell our home and get a motor home and travel. But now he can't retire for a few more years because of the ecomony he lost a good chunk of his retirement. But selling the house has me really nervous.. I try to be supportive, but I don't know if I could live in an RV for the rest of my life. It's got me a little nervous.I will pray that you have continued strenght. Thank you for your post. Best of luck in the future.Sincerely,Sheila