Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 Help her with the little things such as, grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning, ets. It means a lot when someone does these thing with out being ask to. Also you might want to go with her to her Dr appointments, some times the mind shuts down with so much information. Take a note pad, and ask lots of questions. About chemo, radiation, hair loss, fatigue, and anything else you can think of. Also get copies of all test results, for your records. Prayers Jeana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 Help her with the little things such as, grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning, ets. It means a lot when someone does these thing with out being ask to. Also you might want to go with her to her Dr appointments, some times the mind shuts down with so much information. Take a note pad, and ask lots of questions. About chemo, radiation, hair loss, fatigue, and anything else you can think of. Also get copies of all test results, for your records. Prayers Jeana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 My mom has been diagnosed with breast cancer back in Dec. She is having a lumpectomy April 15th. Tax write off on them. HEHHEHE. I was concerned what do I expect from my mom when she returns from the hospital. Or anything that might be benefical for me as her daughter. I have so much I want to post right now but it isn't coming to me. But I will post it when I remember. Thanks. -Melika Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 My mom has been diagnosed with breast cancer back in Dec. She is having a lumpectomy April 15th. Tax write off on them. HEHHEHE. I was concerned what do I expect from my mom when she returns from the hospital. Or anything that might be benefical for me as her daughter. I have so much I want to post right now but it isn't coming to me. But I will post it when I remember. Thanks. -Melika Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 Hi Melika, When your Mom gets home maybe you could cook a few meals for her till she is feeling better. I had a mastectomy and really had no pain or anything afterwards. I was a little tired when I got home so I rested for a few days. Be there to listen to her if she wants to talk. Give her lots of hugs and if she needs any errands run you could maybe help out there. I will keep her in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my breast cancer ornaments at: http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html also check out my other ornaments and lots of nice gifts at: http://www.cancerclub.com Re: My mom > My mom has been diagnosed with breast cancer back in Dec. She is > having a lumpectomy April 15th. Tax write off on them. HEHHEHE. I was > concerned what do I expect from my mom when she returns from the > hospital. Or anything that might be benefical for me as her daughter. > I have so much I want to post right now but it isn't coming to me. > But I will post it when I remember. Thanks. > -Melika > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 Hi Melika, When your Mom gets home maybe you could cook a few meals for her till she is feeling better. I had a mastectomy and really had no pain or anything afterwards. I was a little tired when I got home so I rested for a few days. Be there to listen to her if she wants to talk. Give her lots of hugs and if she needs any errands run you could maybe help out there. I will keep her in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my breast cancer ornaments at: http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html also check out my other ornaments and lots of nice gifts at: http://www.cancerclub.com Re: My mom > My mom has been diagnosed with breast cancer back in Dec. She is > having a lumpectomy April 15th. Tax write off on them. HEHHEHE. I was > concerned what do I expect from my mom when she returns from the > hospital. Or anything that might be benefical for me as her daughter. > I have so much I want to post right now but it isn't coming to me. > But I will post it when I remember. Thanks. > -Melika > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2009 Report Share Posted June 28, 2009 > I think I made her mad today! Considering what she did, that's the least she could expect. Good going! (snip) > I do not need her negativity! We have enough to deal with without that.... If I were to disclose some of the things my mother did........... (snip) > Am I wrong? Not in my opinion. Regards and best wishes, Steve J May the road rise to meet you May the wind be always at your back The sun shine warm upon your face The rains fall soft upon your fields And until we meet again, May God hold you in the hollow of his hand. --Irish Blessing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2009 Report Share Posted June 28, 2009 > I think I made her mad today! Considering what she did, that's the least she could expect. Good going! (snip) > I do not need her negativity! We have enough to deal with without that.... If I were to disclose some of the things my mother did........... (snip) > Am I wrong? Not in my opinion. Regards and best wishes, Steve J May the road rise to meet you May the wind be always at your back The sun shine warm upon your face The rains fall soft upon your fields And until we meet again, May God hold you in the hollow of his hand. --Irish Blessing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2009 Report Share Posted June 28, 2009 Print out the NCI information for her. It s not just people on the internet, it is the National Cancer Institute. As I said, the state of Virginia put the information on their material but they corrected it when they found out that it was not factual. If she doesn’t want to accept that information I would give her space. Be calm and polite but do what you need to do to make it through this with the least amount of stress. Kathy From: ProstateCancerSupport [mailto:ProstateCancerSupport ] On Behalf Of Sent: Sunday, June 28, 2009 5:30 PM To: ProstateCancerSupport Subject: My mom I think I made her mad today! We had a cookout and had our four sons and my mom and other family and friends. I told my mom that I did some asking of the group and looking online about the vasecetomy and prostate cancer. She got upset with me and she said she foundit is a medical book that she uses for every ailment she has or other people have. Not sure how old this book is, but she says it has the answers to every ailment known to man. She left the cookout not long after I told her what I found out. If she does not talk to my for awhile it use to bother me but now it does not. I do not need her negativity! We are planning another cookout in a few months again. If my mom comes great, if she does not well it is her loss!! She wagoing to go with us when Ray has his surgry, I don't want her to make me more stressed during the surgery. Knowing me I will try and keep peace with the family. Ray's daughters want to be ther for they surgery and I know I can't keep them from their dad, that would not be right. They have every right to be there. Am I wrong? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2009 Report Share Posted June 28, 2009 Print out the NCI information for her. It s not just people on the internet, it is the National Cancer Institute. As I said, the state of Virginia put the information on their material but they corrected it when they found out that it was not factual. If she doesn’t want to accept that information I would give her space. Be calm and polite but do what you need to do to make it through this with the least amount of stress. Kathy From: ProstateCancerSupport [mailto:ProstateCancerSupport ] On Behalf Of Sent: Sunday, June 28, 2009 5:30 PM To: ProstateCancerSupport Subject: My mom I think I made her mad today! We had a cookout and had our four sons and my mom and other family and friends. I told my mom that I did some asking of the group and looking online about the vasecetomy and prostate cancer. She got upset with me and she said she foundit is a medical book that she uses for every ailment she has or other people have. Not sure how old this book is, but she says it has the answers to every ailment known to man. She left the cookout not long after I told her what I found out. If she does not talk to my for awhile it use to bother me but now it does not. I do not need her negativity! We are planning another cookout in a few months again. If my mom comes great, if she does not well it is her loss!! She wagoing to go with us when Ray has his surgry, I don't want her to make me more stressed during the surgery. Knowing me I will try and keep peace with the family. Ray's daughters want to be ther for they surgery and I know I can't keep them from their dad, that would not be right. They have every right to be there. Am I wrong? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2009 Report Share Posted June 28, 2009 Print out the NCI information for her. It s not just people on the internet, it is the National Cancer Institute. As I said, the state of Virginia put the information on their material but they corrected it when they found out that it was not factual. If she doesn’t want to accept that information I would give her space. Be calm and polite but do what you need to do to make it through this with the least amount of stress. Kathy From: ProstateCancerSupport [mailto:ProstateCancerSupport ] On Behalf Of Sent: Sunday, June 28, 2009 5:30 PM To: ProstateCancerSupport Subject: My mom I think I made her mad today! We had a cookout and had our four sons and my mom and other family and friends. I told my mom that I did some asking of the group and looking online about the vasecetomy and prostate cancer. She got upset with me and she said she foundit is a medical book that she uses for every ailment she has or other people have. Not sure how old this book is, but she says it has the answers to every ailment known to man. She left the cookout not long after I told her what I found out. If she does not talk to my for awhile it use to bother me but now it does not. I do not need her negativity! We are planning another cookout in a few months again. If my mom comes great, if she does not well it is her loss!! She wagoing to go with us when Ray has his surgry, I don't want her to make me more stressed during the surgery. Knowing me I will try and keep peace with the family. Ray's daughters want to be ther for they surgery and I know I can't keep them from their dad, that would not be right. They have every right to be there. Am I wrong? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2009 Report Share Posted June 28, 2009 FWIW - IMO - you are doing all the right things with respect to Mom. Stay the course. Good luck! Coy My mom >I think I made her mad today! > > We had a cookout and had our four sons and my mom and other family and > friends. I told my mom that I did some asking of the group and looking > online about the vasecetomy and prostate cancer. She got upset with me > and she said she foundit is a medical book that she uses for every ailment > she has or other people have. Not sure how old this book is, but she says > it has the answers to every ailment known to man. She left the cookout > not long after I told her what I found out. If she does not talk to my > for awhile it use to bother me but now it does not. I do not need her > negativity! > > We are planning another cookout in a few months again. If my mom comes > great, if she does not well it is her loss!! > > She wagoing to go with us when Ray has his surgry, I don't want her to > make me more stressed during the surgery. Knowing me I will try and keep > peace with the family. Ray's daughters want to be ther for they surgery > and I know I can't keep them from their dad, that would not be right. > They have every right to be there. Am I wrong? > > > > > > ------------------------------------ > > There are just two rules for this group > 1 No Spam > 2 Be kind to others > > Please recognise that Prostate Cancerhas different guises and needs > different levels of treatment and in some cases no treatment at all. Some > men even with all options offered chose radical options that you would not > choose. We only ask that people be informed before choice is made, we > cannot and should not tell other members what to do, other than look at > other options. > > Try to delete old material that is no longer applying when clicking reply > Try to change the title if the content requires it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2009 Report Share Posted June 29, 2009 To quote Genesis 2:24: " Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. " At this time, your primary duty is to support your husband. Your mother can take care of herself for a while. I wouldn't worry about 'being fair' to the kids. If your husband wants the kids present, it's a good idea. If he wants the kids far away, that's a good idea too. He may have some ideas about it; listen carefully. From my experience, getting through a prostatectomy is bad enough without worrying about 'the family' and how _they_ are feeling. My wife was invaluable to me. I don't think anyone else would have really helped. But you know your family better than I do. " > > I think I made her mad today! > > We had a cookout and had our four sons and my mom and other family and friends. I told my mom that I did some asking of the group and looking online about the vasecetomy and prostate cancer. She got upset with me and she said she foundit is a medical book that she uses for every ailment she has or other people have. Not sure how old this book is, but she says it has the answers to every ailment known to man. She left the cookout not long after I told her what I found out. If she does not talk to my for awhile it use to bother me but now it does not. I do not need her negativity! > > We are planning another cookout in a few months again. If my mom comes great, if she does not well it is her loss!! > > She wagoing to go with us when Ray has his surgry, I don't want her to make me more stressed during the surgery. Knowing me I will try and keep peace with the family. Ray's daughters want to be ther for they surgery and I know I can't keep them from their dad, that would not be right. They have every right to be there. Am I wrong? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2009 Report Share Posted June 29, 2009 To quote Genesis 2:24: " Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. " At this time, your primary duty is to support your husband. Your mother can take care of herself for a while. I wouldn't worry about 'being fair' to the kids. If your husband wants the kids present, it's a good idea. If he wants the kids far away, that's a good idea too. He may have some ideas about it; listen carefully. From my experience, getting through a prostatectomy is bad enough without worrying about 'the family' and how _they_ are feeling. My wife was invaluable to me. I don't think anyone else would have really helped. But you know your family better than I do. " > > I think I made her mad today! > > We had a cookout and had our four sons and my mom and other family and friends. I told my mom that I did some asking of the group and looking online about the vasecetomy and prostate cancer. She got upset with me and she said she foundit is a medical book that she uses for every ailment she has or other people have. Not sure how old this book is, but she says it has the answers to every ailment known to man. She left the cookout not long after I told her what I found out. If she does not talk to my for awhile it use to bother me but now it does not. I do not need her negativity! > > We are planning another cookout in a few months again. If my mom comes great, if she does not well it is her loss!! > > She wagoing to go with us when Ray has his surgry, I don't want her to make me more stressed during the surgery. Knowing me I will try and keep peace with the family. Ray's daughters want to be ther for they surgery and I know I can't keep them from their dad, that would not be right. They have every right to be there. Am I wrong? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2009 Report Share Posted June 30, 2009 Well put To quote Genesis 2:24: " Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. " At this time, your primary duty is to support your husband. Your mother can take care of herself for a while. I wouldn't worry about 'being fair' to the kids. If your husband wants the kids present, it's a good idea. If he wants the kids far away, that's a good idea too. He may have some ideas about it; listen carefully. From my experience, getting through a prostatectomy is bad enough without worrying about 'the family' and how _they_ are feeling. My wife was invaluable to me. I don't think anyone else would have really helped. But you know your family better than I do. " > > I think I made her mad today! > > We had a cookout and had our four sons and my mom and other family and friends. I told my mom that I did some asking of the group and looking online about the vasecetomy and prostate cancer. She got upset with me and she said she foundit is a medical book that she uses for every ailment she has or other people have. Not sure how old this book is, but she says it has the answers to every ailment known to man. She left the cookout not long after I told her what I found out. If she does not talk to my for awhile it use to bother me but now it does not. I do not need her negativity! > > We are planning another cookout in a few months again. If my mom comes great, if she does not well it is her loss!! > > She wagoing to go with us when Ray has his surgry, I don't want her to make me more stressed during the surgery. Knowing me I will try and keep peace with the family. Ray's daughters want to be ther for they surgery and I know I can't keep them from their dad, that would not be right. They have every right to be there. Am I wrong? > -- Emersonwww.flhw.org Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2009 Report Share Posted June 30, 2009 Well put To quote Genesis 2:24: " Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. " At this time, your primary duty is to support your husband. Your mother can take care of herself for a while. I wouldn't worry about 'being fair' to the kids. If your husband wants the kids present, it's a good idea. If he wants the kids far away, that's a good idea too. He may have some ideas about it; listen carefully. From my experience, getting through a prostatectomy is bad enough without worrying about 'the family' and how _they_ are feeling. My wife was invaluable to me. I don't think anyone else would have really helped. But you know your family better than I do. " > > I think I made her mad today! > > We had a cookout and had our four sons and my mom and other family and friends. I told my mom that I did some asking of the group and looking online about the vasecetomy and prostate cancer. She got upset with me and she said she foundit is a medical book that she uses for every ailment she has or other people have. Not sure how old this book is, but she says it has the answers to every ailment known to man. She left the cookout not long after I told her what I found out. If she does not talk to my for awhile it use to bother me but now it does not. I do not need her negativity! > > We are planning another cookout in a few months again. If my mom comes great, if she does not well it is her loss!! > > She wagoing to go with us when Ray has his surgry, I don't want her to make me more stressed during the surgery. Knowing me I will try and keep peace with the family. Ray's daughters want to be ther for they surgery and I know I can't keep them from their dad, that would not be right. They have every right to be there. Am I wrong? > -- Emersonwww.flhw.org Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2009 Report Share Posted June 30, 2009 I agree with and . I guess people have to somehow want to place blame on a cause. If that book she has provides all the answers to every disease known to man then the author should be getting the Nobel Prize and every other award possible. What nonsense. Worry about your husband he needs all the support you can give him and follow his wishes. We all have had our share of emotional distress with this disease family disputes do not help. I wish you all the best. Harry To quote Genesis 2:24:"Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh."At this time, your primary duty is to support your husband. Your mother can take care of herself for a while. I wouldn't worry about 'being fair' to the kids. If your husband wants the kids present, it's a good idea. If he wants the kids far away, that's a good idea too. He may have some ideas about it; listen carefully.From my experience, getting through a prostatectomy is bad enough without worrying about 'the family' and how _they_ are feeling. My wife was invaluable to me. I don't think anyone else would have really helped. But you know your family better than I do.">> I think I made her mad today! > > We had a cookout and had our four sons and my mom and other family and friends. I told my mom that I did some asking of the group and looking online about the vasecetomy and prostate cancer. She got upset with me and she said she foundit is a medical book that she uses for every ailment she has or other people have. Not sure how old this book is, but she says it has the answers to every ailment known to man. She left the cookout not long after I told her what I found out. If she does not talk to my for awhile it use to bother me but now it does not. I do not need her negativity!> > We are planning another cookout in a few months again. If my mom comes great, if she does not well it is her loss!!> > She wagoing to go with us when Ray has his surgry, I don't want her to make me more stressed during the surgery. Knowing me I will try and keep peace with the family. Ray's daughters want to be ther for they surgery and I know I can't keep them from their dad, that would not be right. They have every right to be there. Am I wrong?> -- Emersonwww.flhw.org Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2009 Report Share Posted June 30, 2009 I agree with and . I guess people have to somehow want to place blame on a cause. If that book she has provides all the answers to every disease known to man then the author should be getting the Nobel Prize and every other award possible. What nonsense. Worry about your husband he needs all the support you can give him and follow his wishes. We all have had our share of emotional distress with this disease family disputes do not help. I wish you all the best. Harry To quote Genesis 2:24:"Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh."At this time, your primary duty is to support your husband. Your mother can take care of herself for a while. I wouldn't worry about 'being fair' to the kids. If your husband wants the kids present, it's a good idea. If he wants the kids far away, that's a good idea too. He may have some ideas about it; listen carefully.From my experience, getting through a prostatectomy is bad enough without worrying about 'the family' and how _they_ are feeling. My wife was invaluable to me. I don't think anyone else would have really helped. But you know your family better than I do.">> I think I made her mad today! > > We had a cookout and had our four sons and my mom and other family and friends. I told my mom that I did some asking of the group and looking online about the vasecetomy and prostate cancer. She got upset with me and she said she foundit is a medical book that she uses for every ailment she has or other people have. Not sure how old this book is, but she says it has the answers to every ailment known to man. She left the cookout not long after I told her what I found out. If she does not talk to my for awhile it use to bother me but now it does not. I do not need her negativity!> > We are planning another cookout in a few months again. If my mom comes great, if she does not well it is her loss!!> > She wagoing to go with us when Ray has his surgry, I don't want her to make me more stressed during the surgery. Knowing me I will try and keep peace with the family. Ray's daughters want to be ther for they surgery and I know I can't keep them from their dad, that would not be right. They have every right to be there. Am I wrong?> -- Emersonwww.flhw.org Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2009 Report Share Posted June 30, 2009 I agree with and . I guess people have to somehow want to place blame on a cause. If that book she has provides all the answers to every disease known to man then the author should be getting the Nobel Prize and every other award possible. What nonsense. Worry about your husband he needs all the support you can give him and follow his wishes. We all have had our share of emotional distress with this disease family disputes do not help. I wish you all the best. Harry To quote Genesis 2:24:"Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh."At this time, your primary duty is to support your husband. Your mother can take care of herself for a while. I wouldn't worry about 'being fair' to the kids. If your husband wants the kids present, it's a good idea. If he wants the kids far away, that's a good idea too. He may have some ideas about it; listen carefully.From my experience, getting through a prostatectomy is bad enough without worrying about 'the family' and how _they_ are feeling. My wife was invaluable to me. I don't think anyone else would have really helped. But you know your family better than I do.">> I think I made her mad today! > > We had a cookout and had our four sons and my mom and other family and friends. I told my mom that I did some asking of the group and looking online about the vasecetomy and prostate cancer. She got upset with me and she said she foundit is a medical book that she uses for every ailment she has or other people have. Not sure how old this book is, but she says it has the answers to every ailment known to man. She left the cookout not long after I told her what I found out. If she does not talk to my for awhile it use to bother me but now it does not. I do not need her negativity!> > We are planning another cookout in a few months again. If my mom comes great, if she does not well it is her loss!!> > She wagoing to go with us when Ray has his surgry, I don't want her to make me more stressed during the surgery. Knowing me I will try and keep peace with the family. Ray's daughters want to be ther for they surgery and I know I can't keep them from their dad, that would not be right. They have every right to be there. Am I wrong?> -- Emersonwww.flhw.org Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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