Re: Response to fat is contagious study

[Guest guest]

Well I had heard bits and pieces of the study from different news shows but I don't think if you have fat friends you will also be fat. I have a friend who is natrually skinny no mattr what she eats she has always been that wayand I always wanted to be skinny like her but I knew that we had a different metabolisim and I had to work harder to lose weight then her. I have alo had friends who are considered overweight although I never thought of them that way because they were only a size 12 or 14 which is my size. I could see the point though how some people could be influenced by there friends who are overweigh even though I have never been that way. EvaGet a sneak peek of the all-new AOL.com.

[Guest guest]

somethings happening...do i think anyone who spends a lot of time

around obese people becomes obese...no...if that is the case...i want

rich friends

>

> I remember that there was recently a discussion over the study about

> the contagiousness of obesity on this board. I was on Geneen Roth's

> website and found her thoughts on the study interesting. Here's the

link:

>

> http://geneenroth.com/notes_from_geneen/?cat=1

>

>

> Hope to hear all your thoughts!

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[Guest guest]

somethings happening...do i think anyone who spends a lot of time

around obese people becomes obese...no...if that is the case...i want

rich friends

>

> I remember that there was recently a discussion over the study about

> the contagiousness of obesity on this board. I was on Geneen Roth's

> website and found her thoughts on the study interesting. Here's the

link:

>

> http://geneenroth.com/notes_from_geneen/?cat=1

>

>

> Hope to hear all your thoughts!

>

> -

>

[Guest guest]

somethings happening...do i think anyone who spends a lot of time

around obese people becomes obese...no...if that is the case...i want

rich friends

>

> I remember that there was recently a discussion over the study about

> the contagiousness of obesity on this board. I was on Geneen Roth's

> website and found her thoughts on the study interesting. Here's the

link:

>

> http://geneenroth.com/notes_from_geneen/?cat=1

>

>

> Hope to hear all your thoughts!

>

> -

>

[Guest guest]

That is a good one, Marty. I like that a lot.... Michele *who is going out to find some rich friends* Marty wrote: somethings happening...do i think anyone who spends a lot of time around obese people becomes obese...no...if that is the case...i want rich friends >> I remember that there was recently a discussion over the study about> the contagiousness of obesity on this board. I was on Geneen Roth's> website and found her thoughts on the study interesting. Here's the link:> > http://geneenroth.com/notes_from_geneen/?cat=1> > > Hope to hear all your thoughts!> > -> Currently Reading: Skinny Dip by Carl Hiaasen Recently Read: Shadowland (The Mediator, Book #1) by Meg

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[Guest guest]

That is a good one, Marty. I like that a lot.... Michele *who is going out to find some rich friends* Marty wrote: somethings happening...do i think anyone who spends a lot of time around obese people becomes obese...no...if that is the case...i want rich friends >> I remember that there was recently a discussion over the study about> the contagiousness of obesity on this board. I was on Geneen Roth's> website and found her thoughts on the study interesting. Here's the link:> > http://geneenroth.com/notes_from_geneen/?cat=1> > > Hope to hear all your thoughts!> > -> Currently Reading: Skinny Dip by Carl Hiaasen Recently Read: Shadowland (The Mediator, Book #1) by Meg

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[Guest guest]

That is a good one, Marty. I like that a lot.... Michele *who is going out to find some rich friends* Marty wrote: somethings happening...do i think anyone who spends a lot of time around obese people becomes obese...no...if that is the case...i want rich friends >> I remember that there was recently a discussion over the study about> the contagiousness of obesity on this board. I was on Geneen Roth's> website and found her thoughts on the study interesting. Here's the link:> > http://geneenroth.com/notes_from_geneen/?cat=1> > > Hope to hear all your thoughts!> > -> Currently Reading: Skinny Dip by Carl Hiaasen Recently Read: Shadowland (The Mediator, Book #1) by Meg

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[Guest guest]

I think she's right--the study is on to something but it's not about who our

friends are as

much as how we treat ourselves. I had a best friend for many years that was my

same

height, hair color, eye color, complexion, even similar bone structure and

Norwegian

heritage, but she was always at least 20 lbs slimmer. Once when I was fourteen

(and

average weight) we were taking a shower after swimming and I declared my hatred

for my

thighs. I said they were so ugly and I wished they didn't touch. She just looked

at me and

said " well mine touch " and I looked and lo and behold they did (a little)! I had

been so

judgmental of myself. I was imposing a standard on myself that was so strict

that even the

body I envied didn't live up to it. She never made me feel badly about myself

and reminded

me that I was beautiful in ways that she envied, too. I had put her in the

category of

" skinnier " and assumed that it meant she was " perfecter " too (note that I do not

now

equate separated thighs with perfection, unless that's someone's natural healthy

body

type). Really, everyone's different not just on a linear scale of thinner to

fatter but differing

proportions that make everyone truly unique.

Most of my friends now are about the same size as me--not that I selected them

that way,

but we ended up in similar situations and bonded. However, even though we're the

same

jeans size, we have to get different styles, different shirt/bra sizes,

different lengths.

Everyone's unique. But the biggest difference I see is that I'm free from diet

torture while

they still try (and keep looking like their same fabulous selves in spite of

it).

>

> I remember that there was recently a discussion over the study about

> the contagiousness of obesity on this board. I was on Geneen Roth's

> website and found her thoughts on the study interesting. Here's the link:

>

> http://geneenroth.com/notes_from_geneen/?cat=1

>

>

> Hope to hear all your thoughts!

>

> -

>

[Guest guest]

I think she's right--the study is on to something but it's not about who our

friends are as

much as how we treat ourselves. I had a best friend for many years that was my

same

height, hair color, eye color, complexion, even similar bone structure and

Norwegian

heritage, but she was always at least 20 lbs slimmer. Once when I was fourteen

(and

average weight) we were taking a shower after swimming and I declared my hatred

for my

thighs. I said they were so ugly and I wished they didn't touch. She just looked

at me and

said " well mine touch " and I looked and lo and behold they did (a little)! I had

been so

judgmental of myself. I was imposing a standard on myself that was so strict

that even the

body I envied didn't live up to it. She never made me feel badly about myself

and reminded

me that I was beautiful in ways that she envied, too. I had put her in the

category of

" skinnier " and assumed that it meant she was " perfecter " too (note that I do not

now

equate separated thighs with perfection, unless that's someone's natural healthy

body

type). Really, everyone's different not just on a linear scale of thinner to

fatter but differing

proportions that make everyone truly unique.

Most of my friends now are about the same size as me--not that I selected them

that way,

but we ended up in similar situations and bonded. However, even though we're the

same

jeans size, we have to get different styles, different shirt/bra sizes,

different lengths.

Everyone's unique. But the biggest difference I see is that I'm free from diet

torture while

they still try (and keep looking like their same fabulous selves in spite of

it).

>

> I remember that there was recently a discussion over the study about

> the contagiousness of obesity on this board. I was on Geneen Roth's

> website and found her thoughts on the study interesting. Here's the link:

>

> http://geneenroth.com/notes_from_geneen/?cat=1

>

>

> Hope to hear all your thoughts!

>

> -

>

[Guest guest]

> > I remember that there was recently a discussion over the study about

> > the contagiousness of obesity on this board. I was on Geneen Roth's

website and found her thoughts on the study interesting. Here's the

link:

> >

> > http://geneenroth.com/notes_from_geneen/?cat=1

> > Hope to hear all your thoughts!

> >

> > -

> >

>

Wow. I've just had a quick flash back through the last 20-odd years of

my life and suddenly realised that every really close, significant

friend I've had have all had some pretty serious weight and eating

issues. One in particular was a very dear person and former Weight

Watchers buddy, whom I spent a lot of time eating " freely " with, which

I now recognise was not free or enjoyable eating at all - we were

basically " binge buddies " . (And yes, we would starve ourselves all

Wednesday, go to our WW meeting in the evening for our weigh-in and

lecture, and then head off straight to Mcs afterwards to make up

for lost time ...!!). I had no concept of respecting myself or my

desires or needs, or listening to what my body really wanted, I guess I

was just happy for the opportunity to deal with whatever feelings I had

by stuffing myself with my friend ... somehow that made it okay, less

abnormal, because that's what people do, right? Eat out and have fun

with their friends!

Even now, I find it hard in group situations to go against the flow -

if the person I'm eating with is having a big dessert after dinner,

it's really difficult not to have the same, even though I may be full

and know I'll end up feeling quite uncomfortable - I'm not great at

saying " no thanks, I actually don't feel like anything right now " .

That's something I have to work on, I can see. Being free to eat what

we really feel like also means we are free NOT to eat if we don't feel

like it.

Thanks for raising the topic, .

sigigee

[Guest guest]

Yeah, I don't think that being around fat people will make someone fat. We all

chose to

overeat in one way or another, be it consciously or unconsciously. When I say

consciously, I

mean beating yourself up with negative thoughts to the point where you find

consolation in

the immediate pleasures/displeasures of eating food.

So yeah, I totally disagree. We shouldn't allow other people to define us, you

know what I

mean?