- dr. indman

[Guest guest]

Hi and all,

I've not stopped thinking about the email you sent me. Two days now, I've thought of nothing else and have tried to analyse everthing in my brain and I have to admit this has been so hard on me and my husband and I am no where nearer any answer. He has actually left the decision up to me and that is what has made it even more difficult. He has also suggested I go see this doctor (who did my first surgery) and just speak to him. I'm actually considering this but at the same time, what next? We chat and then what? I fear that I may have scarred where my perforation was and because there was an "open" wound, perhaps Dr Magos should not have used interceed after all. Who knows? He doesn't know himself because he only used it because I suggested it.

Anyways my biggest problem with coming over to the States is time factor, meaning from now until the adoption. (due date is 15th March). I'm not sure how this will turn out because you know that she has now requested to keep the baby for a few weeks. I am not happy with that but I also feel a bit pressurized into getting this done before the adoption and this only leaves me with 2 months to get everything sorted out. I wish it could be easier and there was more time. It would mean staying away from my family for up to a month. I'd be alone, no husband. I'll probably feel homesick. Have you seen the distance from Cyprus to US? God I wish this could be simpler.

Anyway, another thought that crossed my mind was about what Dr Indman said about it being an art and skill that takes years of practise to develop. We definitely need more skilled doctors and how do we get them? What happens when Dr Indman retires? what then? who takes over? How do you train these doctors? Can it be done? Could Dr Indman train others around the world? I am lucky to have you make me the offer to give me your airmiles but what about others? Others that don't have this group? Where do they stand? I will be forever grateful to you for even considering to help me. You don't know what that means to me. I need to go and get myself an HSG first though. The full word is hysterosalpingogram isn't it? I'll have to tell them the full word of what I need to be done.

I spoke to a gyn friend today who works at the hospital and we had a chat about all my options and he feels that there are excellent doctors in Israel (only round the corner from Cyprus) who may be able to perform such hysteroscopies. I'm not sure that he is right but he is going to give me a name of one. Would it be possible to ask Dr Indman by email if he is aware of excellent ashermans doctors in Israel. He said that they know each other so I will be happy to get some response from him.

As you see from my response, I'm still very confused and feel lonely (doctor wise). I'll wait to see if I get an answer from Dr Indman.

Thanks

Poly