Re: dealing with non-IE'ers

[Guest guest]

Well, as they say in Recovery, " detach any way you can. " Can you

physically remove yourself from their conversation? Short of that, I

would just continue to remind myself that they have a right to have

the relationship to food, eating and their bodies that THEY want to

have, and you have the right to have the relationship to food, eating

and your body that YOU want to have. Live and let live.

And I wouldn't feel obligated to explain what I'm eating, what I'm

doing, or how I'm taking care of myself. I'm not obligated to; my only

obligation is to meet my needs. It's okay if people are curious and if

they broach the subject first, then I either may or may not share my

headspace. It's my choice.

I always remind myself that it's not my responsibility to enlighten

anyone, give them their answers or change their habits; that is their

journey, their job. If I'm an example of positive change, great! And

if they want to emulate that in their own lives, great.

(Oh, and my experience is that recovery is kind of lonely at times;

you can begin to see the dysfunction around you. It's normal, so just

remind yourself that your feelings are okay and normal).

I hope this helps a little.

~Caitlin

>

> New to IE and recovering from an eating disorder. Any

> suggestions/thoughts on how to deal with non IE co-workers who fill

> the office with a constant barrage of conversation about calories,

> weightwatchers points, workouts, guilt about what they ate or lack of

> exercise, comparison of pounds lost, etc, etc, etc.

> At this point I feel: threatened, annoyed, angry, hurt, lonely and

> generally negative in response to this and it makes me dread a job

> that I used to love.

> I know I need to challenge my thoughts in response to this situation

> in order to change my feelings but I'm not sure how to start that

> process.

> Anyone share this experience?

>

[Guest guest]

hallberf wrote:

> Anyone share this experience?

Yes. It's interesting how many conversation about food and weight and

diets is around. I never noticed it until I decided to gave up on this

torture.

At the moment I have to deal with a friend on a formula diet. Horrible,

I tell you. We're going to meet on Saturday. I don't really want to.

Watching someone " eating " formula stuff isn't really what I want while

eating some real food.

Regards

s.

[Guest guest]

hallberf wrote:

> Anyone share this experience?

Yes. It's interesting how many conversation about food and weight and

diets is around. I never noticed it until I decided to gave up on this

torture.

At the moment I have to deal with a friend on a formula diet. Horrible,

I tell you. We're going to meet on Saturday. I don't really want to.

Watching someone " eating " formula stuff isn't really what I want while

eating some real food.

Regards

s.

[Guest guest]

Wow, I can completely relate to hating the diet conversations,

especially when you trying to enjoy your food. I am at least 70lbs

over the BMI index ideal, whatever that means. I also am recovered

from bulimia and anorexia. One time I actually came out and asked a

woman to change the topic, and explained that its hard to enjoy my

food when she is talking about how many calories are in each item.

Well, she stopped for about 2 minutes, then continued so I just walked

over and talked to another group of people.

Just last week when I was in training I was seated next to a woman who

was going to die if she wasn't skinny by next month to look good for

her pictures. It was really annoying and no matter how many times I

tried to change the subject it veered back to how fat she was and how

awful she looked etc. To me this is insulting as I am much larger

than her myself. If she is saying she looks awful, well, what does

that imply about me? Anyhow, it was 4 days of this annoyance. After

the second day I just avoided her. I wish I were proud enough to tell

her why, but I am not. Maybe someday. Then I ate a lovely chocolate

chip cookie right in frint of her. She kept staring at it and was

practically drooling. My little revenge, I am evil - lol.

I have also had people at my work tell me how bad it is to eat a

certain food, or tell me how good I am to eat a certain food. Oh, and

the diet tips and exercises that will make me shape up. I tell them

that I eat what I feel like eating and that I do exercise when and how

I feel like, period. One co-worker insisted that I'd never lose

weight unless I did kickboxing or some other extreme exercise. I told

him flat out that I don't like " extreme " , and that I'm just fine with

my routine, which I created with a personal trainer.

Anyhow, I think the most important thing is to know that the opinion

that matters the most is you own. It is your body and you decide what

is best. As long as you keep a self-loving frame of mind you will feel

loved. When others disaprove or I make a mistake I look myself in the

eye in the mirror and say " I love you anyway. "

I hope this gives you a few idea, let us know how it goes, good luck!!

>

> New to IE and recovering from an eating disorder. Any

> suggestions/thoughts on how to deal with non IE co-workers who fill

> the office with a constant barrage of conversation about calories,

> weightwatchers points, workouts, guilt about what they ate or lack of

> exercise, comparison of pounds lost, etc, etc, etc.

> At this point I feel: threatened, annoyed, angry, hurt, lonely and

> generally negative in response to this and it makes me dread a job

> that I used to love.

> I know I need to challenge my thoughts in response to this situation

> in order to change my feelings but I'm not sure how to start that

> process.

> Anyone share this experience?

>

[Guest guest]

I KNOW! I went clothes shopping yesterday for the first time in about a hundred years. (I'm doing so much better at accepting myself!) All through the stores you could hear women talking like that. "Oh, I'm too fat to wear that." I wanted to get on the loudspeaker and yell, "To all the women who are obssessing about food/calories/fat/body size.... SHUT UP!!!" Interestingly, I went to Lane (a plus sized shop) to check out some pretty lingerie and noticed that it was the only store I went to that didn't have the self-loathing vibe. Can you imagine what we humans could do in the world if we just focused our attention on helping others and not on why we are so "bad" or inadequate?Check out my latest You Tube video! http://www.youtube.com/applepiemommy

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[Guest guest]

Traci,I hope you found some nice things. It really feels good getting new clothes and looking great isn't it. Its been so long since I bought my self new clothes other then sweat pants. The problem is now its 90 degrees so I can't justify wearing sweat pants now. My daughters always yell at me to get rid of the sweats and buy other things. It feels good to wear other things and look nicer. When I hear thin people complain about their weight I just want to scream also, or when I hear people talking about the latest diet. But I bite my tongue and just do my thing. IE is helping me so much with dealing with stuff like this. BonnieTraci Vujicich wrote: I KNOW! I went clothes shopping yesterday for the first time in about a hundred years. (I'm doing so much better at accepting myself!) All through the stores you could hear women talking like that. "Oh, I'm too fat to wear that." I wanted to get on the loudspeaker and yell, "To all the women who are obssessing about food/calories/fat/body size.... SHUT UP!!!" Interestingly, I went to Lane (a plus sized shop) to check out some pretty lingerie and noticed that it was the only store I went to that didn't have the self-loathing vibe. Can you imagine what we humans could do in the world if we just focused our attention on helping others and not on why we are so "bad" or inadequate?Check out my

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[Guest guest]

Traci,I hope you found some nice things. It really feels good getting new clothes and looking great isn't it. Its been so long since I bought my self new clothes other then sweat pants. The problem is now its 90 degrees so I can't justify wearing sweat pants now. My daughters always yell at me to get rid of the sweats and buy other things. It feels good to wear other things and look nicer. When I hear thin people complain about their weight I just want to scream also, or when I hear people talking about the latest diet. But I bite my tongue and just do my thing. IE is helping me so much with dealing with stuff like this. BonnieTraci Vujicich wrote: I KNOW! I went clothes shopping yesterday for the first time in about a hundred years. (I'm doing so much better at accepting myself!) All through the stores you could hear women talking like that. "Oh, I'm too fat to wear that." I wanted to get on the loudspeaker and yell, "To all the women who are obssessing about food/calories/fat/body size.... SHUT UP!!!" Interestingly, I went to Lane (a plus sized shop) to check out some pretty lingerie and noticed that it was the only store I went to that didn't have the self-loathing vibe. Can you imagine what we humans could do in the world if we just focused our attention on helping others and not on why we are so "bad" or inadequate?Check out my

latest You Tube video! http://www.youtube.com/applepiemommy Looking for earth-friendly autos? Browse Top Cars by "Green Rating" at Yahoo! Autos' Green Center.

8:00? 8:25? 8:40? Find a flick in no time with theYahoo! Search movie showtime shortcut.

[Guest guest]

Traci,I hope you found some nice things. It really feels good getting new clothes and looking great isn't it. Its been so long since I bought my self new clothes other then sweat pants. The problem is now its 90 degrees so I can't justify wearing sweat pants now. My daughters always yell at me to get rid of the sweats and buy other things. It feels good to wear other things and look nicer. When I hear thin people complain about their weight I just want to scream also, or when I hear people talking about the latest diet. But I bite my tongue and just do my thing. IE is helping me so much with dealing with stuff like this. BonnieTraci Vujicich wrote: I KNOW! I went clothes shopping yesterday for the first time in about a hundred years. (I'm doing so much better at accepting myself!) All through the stores you could hear women talking like that. "Oh, I'm too fat to wear that." I wanted to get on the loudspeaker and yell, "To all the women who are obssessing about food/calories/fat/body size.... SHUT UP!!!" Interestingly, I went to Lane (a plus sized shop) to check out some pretty lingerie and noticed that it was the only store I went to that didn't have the self-loathing vibe. Can you imagine what we humans could do in the world if we just focused our attention on helping others and not on why we are so "bad" or inadequate?Check out my

latest You Tube video! http://www.youtube.com/applepiemommy Looking for earth-friendly autos? Browse Top Cars by "Green Rating" at Yahoo! Autos' Green Center.

8:00? 8:25? 8:40? Find a flick in no time with theYahoo! Search movie showtime shortcut.

[Guest guest]

I did get some nice things. It's the first time in about a hundred

years that I enjoyed shopping. I didn't enjoy the mirrors in the

dressing rooms, but I kept reminding myself that I don't really look

like that. I got all the clothes home and looked at them in my normal

mirror (not two inches away or in bright lighting) and they all

looked cute. I bought a whole new wardrobe in size appropriate

clothes, and feel fantastic. I realized that in order for my size to

change I have to love myself first, and running around in my old

AC/DC t-shirt and sweat shorts just wasn't doing it for me anymore.

> I KNOW! I went clothes shopping yesterday for the first time in

about a hundred years. (I'm doing so much better at accepting

myself!) All through the stores you could hear women talking like

that. " Oh, I'm too fat to wear that. " I wanted to get on the

loudspeaker and yell, " To all the women who are obssessing about

food/calories/fat/body size.... SHUT UP!!! "

>

> Interestingly, I went to Lane (a plus sized shop) to check

out some pretty lingerie and noticed that it was the only store I

went to that didn't have the self-loathing vibe.

>

> Can you imagine what we humans could do in the world if we just

focused our attention on helping others and not on why we are

so " bad " or inadequate?

>

>

> Check out my latest You Tube video!

http://www.youtube.com/applepiemommy

>

> ---------------------------------

> Looking for earth-friendly autos?

> Browse Top Cars by " Green Rating " at Yahoo! Autos' Green Center.

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> 8:00? 8:25? 8:40? Find a flick in no time

> with theYahoo! Search movie showtime shortcut.

>

[Guest guest]

I did get some nice things. It's the first time in about a hundred

years that I enjoyed shopping. I didn't enjoy the mirrors in the

dressing rooms, but I kept reminding myself that I don't really look

like that. I got all the clothes home and looked at them in my normal

mirror (not two inches away or in bright lighting) and they all

looked cute. I bought a whole new wardrobe in size appropriate

clothes, and feel fantastic. I realized that in order for my size to

change I have to love myself first, and running around in my old

AC/DC t-shirt and sweat shorts just wasn't doing it for me anymore.

> I KNOW! I went clothes shopping yesterday for the first time in

about a hundred years. (I'm doing so much better at accepting

myself!) All through the stores you could hear women talking like

that. " Oh, I'm too fat to wear that. " I wanted to get on the

loudspeaker and yell, " To all the women who are obssessing about

food/calories/fat/body size.... SHUT UP!!! "

>

> Interestingly, I went to Lane (a plus sized shop) to check

out some pretty lingerie and noticed that it was the only store I

went to that didn't have the self-loathing vibe.

>

> Can you imagine what we humans could do in the world if we just

focused our attention on helping others and not on why we are

so " bad " or inadequate?

>

>

> Check out my latest You Tube video!

http://www.youtube.com/applepiemommy

>

> ---------------------------------

> Looking for earth-friendly autos?

> Browse Top Cars by " Green Rating " at Yahoo! Autos' Green Center.

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> 8:00? 8:25? 8:40? Find a flick in no time

> with theYahoo! Search movie showtime shortcut.

>

[Guest guest]

I did get some nice things. It's the first time in about a hundred

years that I enjoyed shopping. I didn't enjoy the mirrors in the

dressing rooms, but I kept reminding myself that I don't really look

like that. I got all the clothes home and looked at them in my normal

mirror (not two inches away or in bright lighting) and they all

looked cute. I bought a whole new wardrobe in size appropriate

clothes, and feel fantastic. I realized that in order for my size to

change I have to love myself first, and running around in my old

AC/DC t-shirt and sweat shorts just wasn't doing it for me anymore.

> I KNOW! I went clothes shopping yesterday for the first time in

about a hundred years. (I'm doing so much better at accepting

myself!) All through the stores you could hear women talking like

that. " Oh, I'm too fat to wear that. " I wanted to get on the

loudspeaker and yell, " To all the women who are obssessing about

food/calories/fat/body size.... SHUT UP!!! "

>

> Interestingly, I went to Lane (a plus sized shop) to check

out some pretty lingerie and noticed that it was the only store I

went to that didn't have the self-loathing vibe.

>

> Can you imagine what we humans could do in the world if we just

focused our attention on helping others and not on why we are

so " bad " or inadequate?

>

>

> Check out my latest You Tube video!

http://www.youtube.com/applepiemommy

>

> ---------------------------------

> Looking for earth-friendly autos?

> Browse Top Cars by " Green Rating " at Yahoo! Autos' Green Center.

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> 8:00? 8:25? 8:40? Find a flick in no time

> with theYahoo! Search movie showtime shortcut.

>

[Guest guest]

Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can remember being in the throes of ED and watching people who were

" heavier " than I was eating and enjoying food that I denied myself. I

didn't focus on them or their weight, I just wanted that cookie,lol!

That was probably what that woman was thinking as she watched you eat it!

Last week I started a new yoga class. I go to a YMCA-type gym, so

there aren't as many " perfect " types wandering around, thank goodness!

(There were a lot of those at the gym I went to when we lived in Los

Angeles. It was torture!) I was intimidated at first because I

noticed the younger, thinner women near me. But then the class

started and I noticed how much stronger I've gotten, and how much

longer I could hold the poses, and go more deeply into them. Then I

saw the woman next to me; healthy,strong, flexible, and in her 60's.

And she reminded me of WHY I work out. Not to fit into skinny jeans,

but to be like that woman. At my Pilates class two days later, which

is taught by a woman who is also a nurse, we learned how each exercise

we did would strengthen our bodies and stave off injury and help

prevent some of the maladies that come with age. It seems like

everywhere I turn, there are " signs " pointing me in the direction of

IE and health, as opposed to dieting and getting skinny.

It takes a lot of courage to go against the grain, especially when you

are surrounded by people who disapprove of what you are doing and give

you lots of " advice. " It's especially difficult when what they are

doing seems to be working for them, when they lose weight and go on

and on about the new diet and how great it is. the thing to remember

is that they will probably, unfortunately, get tired of it and gain

the weight back, eventually And they will not have dealt with the

issues that make them overeat in the first place. Slow and steady wins

the race, not fast and trendy.

> >

> > New to IE and recovering from an eating disorder. Any

> > suggestions/thoughts on how to deal with non IE co-workers who fill

> > the office with a constant barrage of conversation about calories,

> > weightwatchers points, workouts, guilt about what they ate or lack of

> > exercise, comparison of pounds lost, etc, etc, etc.

> > At this point I feel: threatened, annoyed, angry, hurt, lonely and

> > generally negative in response to this and it makes me dread a job

> > that I used to love.

> > I know I need to challenge my thoughts in response to this situation

> > in order to change my feelings but I'm not sure how to start that

> > process.

> > Anyone share this experience?

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can remember being in the throes of ED and watching people who were

" heavier " than I was eating and enjoying food that I denied myself. I

didn't focus on them or their weight, I just wanted that cookie,lol!

That was probably what that woman was thinking as she watched you eat it!

Last week I started a new yoga class. I go to a YMCA-type gym, so

there aren't as many " perfect " types wandering around, thank goodness!

(There were a lot of those at the gym I went to when we lived in Los

Angeles. It was torture!) I was intimidated at first because I

noticed the younger, thinner women near me. But then the class

started and I noticed how much stronger I've gotten, and how much

longer I could hold the poses, and go more deeply into them. Then I

saw the woman next to me; healthy,strong, flexible, and in her 60's.

And she reminded me of WHY I work out. Not to fit into skinny jeans,

but to be like that woman. At my Pilates class two days later, which

is taught by a woman who is also a nurse, we learned how each exercise

we did would strengthen our bodies and stave off injury and help

prevent some of the maladies that come with age. It seems like

everywhere I turn, there are " signs " pointing me in the direction of

IE and health, as opposed to dieting and getting skinny.

It takes a lot of courage to go against the grain, especially when you

are surrounded by people who disapprove of what you are doing and give

you lots of " advice. " It's especially difficult when what they are

doing seems to be working for them, when they lose weight and go on

and on about the new diet and how great it is. the thing to remember

is that they will probably, unfortunately, get tired of it and gain

the weight back, eventually And they will not have dealt with the

issues that make them overeat in the first place. Slow and steady wins

the race, not fast and trendy.

> >

> > New to IE and recovering from an eating disorder. Any

> > suggestions/thoughts on how to deal with non IE co-workers who fill

> > the office with a constant barrage of conversation about calories,

> > weightwatchers points, workouts, guilt about what they ate or lack of

> > exercise, comparison of pounds lost, etc, etc, etc.

> > At this point I feel: threatened, annoyed, angry, hurt, lonely and

> > generally negative in response to this and it makes me dread a job

> > that I used to love.

> > I know I need to challenge my thoughts in response to this situation

> > in order to change my feelings but I'm not sure how to start that

> > process.

> > Anyone share this experience?

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can remember being in the throes of ED and watching people who were

" heavier " than I was eating and enjoying food that I denied myself. I

didn't focus on them or their weight, I just wanted that cookie,lol!

That was probably what that woman was thinking as she watched you eat it!

Last week I started a new yoga class. I go to a YMCA-type gym, so

there aren't as many " perfect " types wandering around, thank goodness!

(There were a lot of those at the gym I went to when we lived in Los

Angeles. It was torture!) I was intimidated at first because I

noticed the younger, thinner women near me. But then the class

started and I noticed how much stronger I've gotten, and how much

longer I could hold the poses, and go more deeply into them. Then I

saw the woman next to me; healthy,strong, flexible, and in her 60's.

And she reminded me of WHY I work out. Not to fit into skinny jeans,

but to be like that woman. At my Pilates class two days later, which

is taught by a woman who is also a nurse, we learned how each exercise

we did would strengthen our bodies and stave off injury and help

prevent some of the maladies that come with age. It seems like

everywhere I turn, there are " signs " pointing me in the direction of

IE and health, as opposed to dieting and getting skinny.

It takes a lot of courage to go against the grain, especially when you

are surrounded by people who disapprove of what you are doing and give

you lots of " advice. " It's especially difficult when what they are

doing seems to be working for them, when they lose weight and go on

and on about the new diet and how great it is. the thing to remember

is that they will probably, unfortunately, get tired of it and gain

the weight back, eventually And they will not have dealt with the

issues that make them overeat in the first place. Slow and steady wins

the race, not fast and trendy.

> >

> > New to IE and recovering from an eating disorder. Any

> > suggestions/thoughts on how to deal with non IE co-workers who fill

> > the office with a constant barrage of conversation about calories,

> > weightwatchers points, workouts, guilt about what they ate or lack of

> > exercise, comparison of pounds lost, etc, etc, etc.

> > At this point I feel: threatened, annoyed, angry, hurt, lonely and

> > generally negative in response to this and it makes me dread a job

> > that I used to love.

> > I know I need to challenge my thoughts in response to this situation

> > in order to change my feelings but I'm not sure how to start that

> > process.

> > Anyone share this experience?

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Bonnie Ever consider a nice loose skirt (mid calf?) made of a

light wear summer material? Its cool, covers most of yourself and even

looks casually elegant ;-) There is a web site -

http://www.judgmentofparis.com

dedicated to LARGE models which is a real WOW!! and inspiring too. We

really can look our best at ANY size. So get cool and comfortable too.

Besides you deserve to look your best :)

Bonnie Henle wrote:

My daughters always yell at me to get rid of the sweats and buy other

things. It feels good to wear other things and look nicer.

> Bonnie

[Guest guest]

Hi Bonnie Ever consider a nice loose skirt (mid calf?) made of a

light wear summer material? Its cool, covers most of yourself and even

looks casually elegant ;-) There is a web site -

http://www.judgmentofparis.com

dedicated to LARGE models which is a real WOW!! and inspiring too. We

really can look our best at ANY size. So get cool and comfortable too.

Besides you deserve to look your best :)

Bonnie Henle wrote:

My daughters always yell at me to get rid of the sweats and buy other

things. It feels good to wear other things and look nicer.

> Bonnie

[Guest guest]

Hi Bonnie Ever consider a nice loose skirt (mid calf?) made of a

light wear summer material? Its cool, covers most of yourself and even

looks casually elegant ;-) There is a web site -

http://www.judgmentofparis.com

dedicated to LARGE models which is a real WOW!! and inspiring too. We

really can look our best at ANY size. So get cool and comfortable too.

Besides you deserve to look your best :)

Bonnie Henle wrote:

My daughters always yell at me to get rid of the sweats and buy other

things. It feels good to wear other things and look nicer.

> Bonnie

[Guest guest]

Hi Katcha & all,

I've been lurking for a while and just want to say that after I read your post I immediately went to this web site, and WOW! It has made a huge emotional impact on me! While I knew intellectually that great art has celebrated a voluptuous feminine form, this web site made me really FEEL proud of my womanly curves. It really made me truly realize how unnatural the pressures to be thin are. This is a web site I will be visiting frequently as a reminder to myself that the female shape, MY female shape, is beautiful and should be celebrated and not concealed. Thank you so much, Katcha, for sharing this inspirational web site with us!

~Jen

Katcha wrote:

Hi Bonnie Ever consider a nice loose skirt (mid calf?) made of alight wear summer material? Its cool, covers most of yourself and evenlooks casually elegant ;-) There is a web site - http://www.judgmentofparis.comdedicated to LARGE models which is a real WOW!! and inspiring too. Wereally can look our best at ANY size. So get cool and comfortable too.Besides you deserve to look your best :)See what's free at AOL.com.

[Guest guest]

Hi Katcha & all,

I've been lurking for a while and just want to say that after I read your post I immediately went to this web site, and WOW! It has made a huge emotional impact on me! While I knew intellectually that great art has celebrated a voluptuous feminine form, this web site made me really FEEL proud of my womanly curves. It really made me truly realize how unnatural the pressures to be thin are. This is a web site I will be visiting frequently as a reminder to myself that the female shape, MY female shape, is beautiful and should be celebrated and not concealed. Thank you so much, Katcha, for sharing this inspirational web site with us!

~Jen

Katcha wrote:

Hi Bonnie Ever consider a nice loose skirt (mid calf?) made of alight wear summer material? Its cool, covers most of yourself and evenlooks casually elegant ;-) There is a web site - http://www.judgmentofparis.comdedicated to LARGE models which is a real WOW!! and inspiring too. Wereally can look our best at ANY size. So get cool and comfortable too.Besides you deserve to look your best :)See what's free at AOL.com.

[Guest guest]

Hi Katcha & all,

I've been lurking for a while and just want to say that after I read your post I immediately went to this web site, and WOW! It has made a huge emotional impact on me! While I knew intellectually that great art has celebrated a voluptuous feminine form, this web site made me really FEEL proud of my womanly curves. It really made me truly realize how unnatural the pressures to be thin are. This is a web site I will be visiting frequently as a reminder to myself that the female shape, MY female shape, is beautiful and should be celebrated and not concealed. Thank you so much, Katcha, for sharing this inspirational web site with us!

~Jen

Katcha wrote:

Hi Bonnie Ever consider a nice loose skirt (mid calf?) made of alight wear summer material? Its cool, covers most of yourself and evenlooks casually elegant ;-) There is a web site - http://www.judgmentofparis.comdedicated to LARGE models which is a real WOW!! and inspiring too. Wereally can look our best at ANY size. So get cool and comfortable too.Besides you deserve to look your best :)See what's free at AOL.com.

[Guest guest]

Bonnie - I have just spent the last hour LOST in the www.judgementofparis.com website. There is no way to look at any of those paintings or photos and not see incredible beauty. Thanks for sharing that -it's in my favorites now for those moments when I forget beauty comes in many sizes. CW

Get your own web address. Have a HUGE year through Yahoo! Small Business.

[Guest guest]

Bonnie - I have just spent the last hour LOST in the www.judgementofparis.com website. There is no way to look at any of those paintings or photos and not see incredible beauty. Thanks for sharing that -it's in my favorites now for those moments when I forget beauty comes in many sizes. CW

Get your own web address. Have a HUGE year through Yahoo! Small Business.

[Guest guest]

Bonnie - I have just spent the last hour LOST in the www.judgementofparis.com website. There is no way to look at any of those paintings or photos and not see incredible beauty. Thanks for sharing that -it's in my favorites now for those moments when I forget beauty comes in many sizes. CW

Get your own web address. Have a HUGE year through Yahoo! Small Business.

[Guest guest]

Just want to say I was looking at the the www.judgementofparis.com website and

thought

the women on it all looked fantastic.

Why oh why aren't they everywhere in the TV / adverts / magazines.

Why is our society pushing an 'ideal' of self starvation & cosmetic surgery on

women.

Sometimes in my more cynical moments I wonder if our society actually hates

women and

wants us to starve and suffer and be in pain.

But the Judgement of Paris website has really cheered me up.

Thanks so much for this.

Emma

>

> Bonnie -

> I have just spent the last hour LOST in the www.judgementofparis.com

website. There

is no way to look at any of those paintings or photos and not see incredible

beauty.

> Thanks for sharing that -it's in my favorites now for those moments when I

forget

beauty comes in many sizes.

> CW

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Get your own web address.

> Have a HUGE year through Yahoo! Small Business.

>

[Guest guest]

Just want to say I was looking at the the www.judgementofparis.com website and

thought

the women on it all looked fantastic.

Why oh why aren't they everywhere in the TV / adverts / magazines.

Why is our society pushing an 'ideal' of self starvation & cosmetic surgery on

women.

Sometimes in my more cynical moments I wonder if our society actually hates

women and

wants us to starve and suffer and be in pain.

But the Judgement of Paris website has really cheered me up.

Thanks so much for this.

Emma

>

> Bonnie -

> I have just spent the last hour LOST in the www.judgementofparis.com

website. There

is no way to look at any of those paintings or photos and not see incredible

beauty.

> Thanks for sharing that -it's in my favorites now for those moments when I

forget

beauty comes in many sizes.

> CW

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Get your own web address.

> Have a HUGE year through Yahoo! Small Business.

>