Re: IE and emotions

[Guest guest]

Amen!

I used to have a book called " Fat! So? " And it was GREAT! I wish I

could find it.

>

> Hi, folks:

>

>

>

> I've been following the posts on how the media vilifies fat people.

In the

> recent past, there were posts about nephews and nieces making

comments about

> the IE member's weight and the source was their parent's comments.

I, too,

> have been hurt to the core by these comments and portrayals.

>

>

>

> Recently, however, I've come to realize that there's nothing

inherently evil

> about being fat. (Some people would argue it's immoral because

Gluttony is

> one of the seven sins. Whatever.) I've decided that I'm not going

to be

> offended at being called fat, anymore, because I AM fat. I'm not

going to

> be any more offended at being called fat than I am being called a

woman or

> blonde. You know what? I'm not ditzy. I'm not the sidekick. In

fact, I

> regularly get sexed up!! Fat myths all exploded!!

>

>

>

> I'm just going to continue being the open, giving person I am. Maybe by

> being our authentic selves, people who have fat fear (their fear of

becoming

> fat is where the jeers come from) will see that we're valuable

people, too.

>

>

>

> Suzanne

[Guest guest]

I guess the thing to remember is that there will always be those who

have to cut others down in order to build themselves up, and that the

comments and looks say more about them than about you. And, they're

riding around in a car (probably not even wearing their seatbelts!)

while you're out walking and taking care of yourself!

It reminds me of the " health " nuts who eat all organic food, go to the

gym every day, and smoke like chimneys.

> Another thing that bothers me is that the fat person on

a show is always the goofy sidekick.

>

> I too get very upset when people make fun of fat people. I feel

like they are making fun of me even though it's not directed at me. I

remember several years ago after I had lost 60 pounds on Weight

Watchers I was out for a walk and some body driving by in a car mooed

at me. I was devasted. I had worked so hard and thought I was

looking good but it still wasn't good enough. I know they were just

immature teenagers trying to make their friends laugh but it really

hurt. I went home and binged.

>

>

[Guest guest]

I guess the thing to remember is that there will always be those who

have to cut others down in order to build themselves up, and that the

comments and looks say more about them than about you. And, they're

riding around in a car (probably not even wearing their seatbelts!)

while you're out walking and taking care of yourself!

It reminds me of the " health " nuts who eat all organic food, go to the

gym every day, and smoke like chimneys.

> Another thing that bothers me is that the fat person on

a show is always the goofy sidekick.

>

> I too get very upset when people make fun of fat people. I feel

like they are making fun of me even though it's not directed at me. I

remember several years ago after I had lost 60 pounds on Weight

Watchers I was out for a walk and some body driving by in a car mooed

at me. I was devasted. I had worked so hard and thought I was

looking good but it still wasn't good enough. I know they were just

immature teenagers trying to make their friends laugh but it really

hurt. I went home and binged.

>

>

[Guest guest]

I guess the thing to remember is that there will always be those who

have to cut others down in order to build themselves up, and that the

comments and looks say more about them than about you. And, they're

riding around in a car (probably not even wearing their seatbelts!)

while you're out walking and taking care of yourself!

It reminds me of the " health " nuts who eat all organic food, go to the

gym every day, and smoke like chimneys.

> Another thing that bothers me is that the fat person on

a show is always the goofy sidekick.

>

> I too get very upset when people make fun of fat people. I feel

like they are making fun of me even though it's not directed at me. I

remember several years ago after I had lost 60 pounds on Weight

Watchers I was out for a walk and some body driving by in a car mooed

at me. I was devasted. I had worked so hard and thought I was

looking good but it still wasn't good enough. I know they were just

immature teenagers trying to make their friends laugh but it really

hurt. I went home and binged.

>

>

[Guest guest]

bonnie, you wrote that you were more sensitive to the making fun of

(and downright bashing of) fat people on tv since getting into IE, and

you said " I am wondering if this is because I am an emotional eater and

IE is not letting me eat instead of feeling these things? "

but i wondered if the dynamic at work has more to do with not buying

into the premise that we should hate ourselves for our fat, that we

deserve to be made fun of, and that we should punish ourselves by

starving and exercising. i know i am not buying into that like i used

to. and when you don't believe that they they are right and you deserve

it, you can recognize how totally out-of-line that kind of stuff is.

whattaya think?

lauren

[Guest guest]

bonnie, you wrote that you were more sensitive to the making fun of

(and downright bashing of) fat people on tv since getting into IE, and

you said " I am wondering if this is because I am an emotional eater and

IE is not letting me eat instead of feeling these things? "

but i wondered if the dynamic at work has more to do with not buying

into the premise that we should hate ourselves for our fat, that we

deserve to be made fun of, and that we should punish ourselves by

starving and exercising. i know i am not buying into that like i used

to. and when you don't believe that they they are right and you deserve

it, you can recognize how totally out-of-line that kind of stuff is.

whattaya think?

lauren

[Guest guest]

bonnie, you wrote that you were more sensitive to the making fun of

(and downright bashing of) fat people on tv since getting into IE, and

you said " I am wondering if this is because I am an emotional eater and

IE is not letting me eat instead of feeling these things? "

but i wondered if the dynamic at work has more to do with not buying

into the premise that we should hate ourselves for our fat, that we

deserve to be made fun of, and that we should punish ourselves by

starving and exercising. i know i am not buying into that like i used

to. and when you don't believe that they they are right and you deserve

it, you can recognize how totally out-of-line that kind of stuff is.

whattaya think?

lauren

[Guest guest]

Excellent thinking lauren, and the kind that will let us out of the

'peer pit' into our very own lives :)

[Guest guest]

Excellent thinking lauren, and the kind that will let us out of the

'peer pit' into our very own lives :)

[Guest guest]

suzanne,Thanks for this post. I usually do not get upset when people call me fat because I know that I am like you said. But when I see people making fun of others I recently started getting upset. I don't know why I am doing that all of a sudden maybe because I am not eating away all my feelings so I am feeling them more.Not sure. BonnieSuzanne Bertuleit wrote: Hi, folks: I’ve been following the posts on how the media vilifies fat people. In the recent past, there were posts about nephews and nieces making comments about the IE member’s weight and the source was their parent’s comments. I, too, have been hurt to the core by these comments and portrayals. Recently, however, I’ve come to realize that there’s nothing inherently evil about being fat. (Some people would argue

it’s immoral because Gluttony is one of the seven sins. Whatever.) I’ve decided that I’m not going to be offended at being called fat, anymore, because I AM fat. I’m not going to be any more offended at being called fat than I am being called a woman or blonde. You know what? I’m not ditzy. I’m not the sidekick. In fact, I regularly get sexed up!! Fat myths all exploded!! I’m just going to continue being the open, giving person I am. Maybe by being our authentic selves, people who have fat fear (their fear of becoming fat is where the jeers come from) will see that we’re valuable people, too. Suzanne Re: IE and emotions Posted by: "Kipkabob" kipkabobyahoo (DOT) ca kipkabob Fri Jun 15, 2007 4:31 am (PST) Another thing that bothers me is that the fat person on a show is always the goofy sidekick. I too get very upset when people make fun of fat people. I feel like they are making fun of me even though it's not directed at me. I remember several years ago after I had lost 60 pounds on Weight Watchers I was out for a walk and some body driving by in a car mooed at me. I was devasted. I had worked so hard and thought I was looking good but it still wasn't

good enough. I know they were just immature teenagers trying to make their friends laugh but it really hurt. I went home and binged. Michele Hagenlock <sheljo> wrote: I have noticed the same thing. I get very sensitive about the things I see, the things people say and do toward overweight people. I was always sensitive about them it just seems I am more so now. Usually when they have overweight people on those shows it is just to poke fun at them. It sells tv, unfortunately. I think you are making progress. I know when I see a diet show like the Biggest Loser or Celebrity Fit Club I get inspired to "diet" so to speak. But when I see someone who is very very over weight and struggling I get discouraged as well and turn to eating.

I think you are on your way to stopping the emtional eating. Michele Bonnie Henle <suddzie> wrote: I was wondering if anyone else has had different emotions come out when first trying IE. I seem to be really sensitive to people joking or laughing about overweight people. Not that I wasn't sensitive to it before but now to the extreme it seems. Me and my husband were watching a dancing show on tv the other night and there was an overweight person on the show trying out. The judges were just horrible to her because she was overweight. I got so angry I left the room and was really angry at my husband for watching that. I know it was not his fault but I have never felt that angry about it before. I was also watching another show and they had

these clips in between the movie and the commercials and they really bashed overweight people. Again I go so angry I won't watch either channels right now. It just seems that my emotions are really messed up and to the extreme. I am wondering if this is because I am an emotional eater and IE is not letting me eat instead of feeling these things? Bonnie

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[Guest guest]

suzanne,Thanks for this post. I usually do not get upset when people call me fat because I know that I am like you said. But when I see people making fun of others I recently started getting upset. I don't know why I am doing that all of a sudden maybe because I am not eating away all my feelings so I am feeling them more.Not sure. BonnieSuzanne Bertuleit wrote: Hi, folks: I’ve been following the posts on how the media vilifies fat people. In the recent past, there were posts about nephews and nieces making comments about the IE member’s weight and the source was their parent’s comments. I, too, have been hurt to the core by these comments and portrayals. Recently, however, I’ve come to realize that there’s nothing inherently evil about being fat. (Some people would argue

it’s immoral because Gluttony is one of the seven sins. Whatever.) I’ve decided that I’m not going to be offended at being called fat, anymore, because I AM fat. I’m not going to be any more offended at being called fat than I am being called a woman or blonde. You know what? I’m not ditzy. I’m not the sidekick. In fact, I regularly get sexed up!! Fat myths all exploded!! I’m just going to continue being the open, giving person I am. Maybe by being our authentic selves, people who have fat fear (their fear of becoming fat is where the jeers come from) will see that we’re valuable people, too. Suzanne Re: IE and emotions Posted by: "Kipkabob" kipkabobyahoo (DOT) ca kipkabob Fri Jun 15, 2007 4:31 am (PST) Another thing that bothers me is that the fat person on a show is always the goofy sidekick. I too get very upset when people make fun of fat people. I feel like they are making fun of me even though it's not directed at me. I remember several years ago after I had lost 60 pounds on Weight Watchers I was out for a walk and some body driving by in a car mooed at me. I was devasted. I had worked so hard and thought I was looking good but it still wasn't

good enough. I know they were just immature teenagers trying to make their friends laugh but it really hurt. I went home and binged. Michele Hagenlock <sheljo> wrote: I have noticed the same thing. I get very sensitive about the things I see, the things people say and do toward overweight people. I was always sensitive about them it just seems I am more so now. Usually when they have overweight people on those shows it is just to poke fun at them. It sells tv, unfortunately. I think you are making progress. I know when I see a diet show like the Biggest Loser or Celebrity Fit Club I get inspired to "diet" so to speak. But when I see someone who is very very over weight and struggling I get discouraged as well and turn to eating.

I think you are on your way to stopping the emtional eating. Michele Bonnie Henle <suddzie> wrote: I was wondering if anyone else has had different emotions come out when first trying IE. I seem to be really sensitive to people joking or laughing about overweight people. Not that I wasn't sensitive to it before but now to the extreme it seems. Me and my husband were watching a dancing show on tv the other night and there was an overweight person on the show trying out. The judges were just horrible to her because she was overweight. I got so angry I left the room and was really angry at my husband for watching that. I know it was not his fault but I have never felt that angry about it before. I was also watching another show and they had

these clips in between the movie and the commercials and they really bashed overweight people. Again I go so angry I won't watch either channels right now. It just seems that my emotions are really messed up and to the extreme. I am wondering if this is because I am an emotional eater and IE is not letting me eat instead of feeling these things? Bonnie

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,I think you are right! I think I am just learning that though. I have been punishing myself for so long for being overweight that I turned off my emotions by using more food. I think IE has really helped me in this way. Bonnielauren hoffman wrote: bonnie, you wrote that you were more sensitive to the making fun of (and downright bashing of) fat people on tv since getting into IE, and you said "I am wondering if this is because I am an emotional eater and IE is not letting me eat

instead of feeling these things?" but i wondered if the dynamic at work has more to do with not buying into the premise that we should hate ourselves for our fat, that we deserve to be made fun of, and that we should punish ourselves by starving and exercising. i know i am not buying into that like i used to. and when you don't believe that they they are right and you deserve it, you can recognize how totally out-of-line that kind of stuff is. whattaya think? lauren

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[Guest guest]

,I think you are right! I think I am just learning that though. I have been punishing myself for so long for being overweight that I turned off my emotions by using more food. I think IE has really helped me in this way. Bonnielauren hoffman wrote: bonnie, you wrote that you were more sensitive to the making fun of (and downright bashing of) fat people on tv since getting into IE, and you said "I am wondering if this is because I am an emotional eater and IE is not letting me eat

instead of feeling these things?" but i wondered if the dynamic at work has more to do with not buying into the premise that we should hate ourselves for our fat, that we deserve to be made fun of, and that we should punish ourselves by starving and exercising. i know i am not buying into that like i used to. and when you don't believe that they they are right and you deserve it, you can recognize how totally out-of-line that kind of stuff is. whattaya think? lauren

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