Re: Life without food obsession

May 21, 2007

Wow , I hear ya! I'm having a very similar experience right now.

I feel as if I'm FINALLY moving past the food obsession, and some old

behaviors are trying to rear their ugly heads. I used to be an

actress, and I heard all those nasty voices, too. I've been trying to

write lately, but the voices come back sometimes when I do.

The main thing I've found to counteract them is self-talk. One of the

things I learned a few years ago that helped stop my panic attacks was

to picture a stop sign (like the ones on the road) in my head as soon

as I felt the first stirrings of an attack. Now I use it at the first

rumblings of those negative voices. It's not foolproof yet, but, with

time, it will get stronger.

Hope this helps!

Take care,

Alyssa

>

> Im really grateful for IE and this group! It has really helped me

> move past my food obsession/compulsion. Now, I ask myself " What am I

> going to do with all this time??!!! " If I am not working or doing

> things for my children, I have so much time on my hands and housework

> has gotten so old already!

>

> Does anyone else have this problem? What do you do?

>

> Im finding too that character defects Ive worked on are popping back

> up? All of the sudden I am wanting to revert to old behaviors I

> thought were long gone. Negativity, blaming, obsessing.....ack!

>

> Im really working on my spiritual life in a 12 step program (7 days a

> week). In fact, Im heading out to a meditation meeting right now. I

> guess I need to be meditating more often?

>

> I have a degree in art but when I sit to paint or draw those old

> voices of negativity, blaming and obsession crank right up. I think

> I was using food obsession and compulsion to " white noise " this mess

> out!

>

> Any suggestions?

>

> Thank You

>

May 21, 2007

Wow , I hear ya! I'm having a very similar experience right now.

I feel as if I'm FINALLY moving past the food obsession, and some old

behaviors are trying to rear their ugly heads. I used to be an

actress, and I heard all those nasty voices, too. I've been trying to

write lately, but the voices come back sometimes when I do.

The main thing I've found to counteract them is self-talk. One of the

things I learned a few years ago that helped stop my panic attacks was

to picture a stop sign (like the ones on the road) in my head as soon

as I felt the first stirrings of an attack. Now I use it at the first

rumblings of those negative voices. It's not foolproof yet, but, with

time, it will get stronger.

Hope this helps!

Take care,

Alyssa

>

> Im really grateful for IE and this group! It has really helped me

> move past my food obsession/compulsion. Now, I ask myself " What am I

> going to do with all this time??!!! " If I am not working or doing

> things for my children, I have so much time on my hands and housework

> has gotten so old already!

>

> Does anyone else have this problem? What do you do?

>

> Im finding too that character defects Ive worked on are popping back

> up? All of the sudden I am wanting to revert to old behaviors I

> thought were long gone. Negativity, blaming, obsessing.....ack!

>

> Im really working on my spiritual life in a 12 step program (7 days a

> week). In fact, Im heading out to a meditation meeting right now. I

> guess I need to be meditating more often?

>

> I have a degree in art but when I sit to paint or draw those old

> voices of negativity, blaming and obsession crank right up. I think

> I was using food obsession and compulsion to " white noise " this mess

> out!

>

> Any suggestions?

>

> Thank You

>

May 21, 2007

Wow , I hear ya! I'm having a very similar experience right now.

I feel as if I'm FINALLY moving past the food obsession, and some old

behaviors are trying to rear their ugly heads. I used to be an

actress, and I heard all those nasty voices, too. I've been trying to

write lately, but the voices come back sometimes when I do.

The main thing I've found to counteract them is self-talk. One of the

things I learned a few years ago that helped stop my panic attacks was

to picture a stop sign (like the ones on the road) in my head as soon

as I felt the first stirrings of an attack. Now I use it at the first

rumblings of those negative voices. It's not foolproof yet, but, with

time, it will get stronger.

Hope this helps!

Take care,

Alyssa

>

> Im really grateful for IE and this group! It has really helped me

> move past my food obsession/compulsion. Now, I ask myself " What am I

> going to do with all this time??!!! " If I am not working or doing

> things for my children, I have so much time on my hands and housework

> has gotten so old already!

>

> Does anyone else have this problem? What do you do?

>

> Im finding too that character defects Ive worked on are popping back

> up? All of the sudden I am wanting to revert to old behaviors I

> thought were long gone. Negativity, blaming, obsessing.....ack!

>

> Im really working on my spiritual life in a 12 step program (7 days a

> week). In fact, Im heading out to a meditation meeting right now. I

> guess I need to be meditating more often?

>

> I have a degree in art but when I sit to paint or draw those old

> voices of negativity, blaming and obsession crank right up. I think

> I was using food obsession and compulsion to " white noise " this mess

> out!

>

> Any suggestions?

>

> Thank You

>

May 21, 2007

feels so good to know im not alone!

)))

> >

> > Im really grateful for IE and this group! It has really helped

me

> > move past my food obsession/compulsion. Now, I ask myself " What

am I

> > going to do with all this time??!!! " If I am not working or

doing

> > things for my children, I have so much time on my hands and

housework

> > has gotten so old already!

> >

> > Does anyone else have this problem? What do you do?

> >

> > Im finding too that character defects Ive worked on are popping

back

> > up? All of the sudden I am wanting to revert to old behaviors I

> > thought were long gone. Negativity, blaming, obsessing.....ack!

> >

> > Im really working on my spiritual life in a 12 step program (7

days a

> > week). In fact, Im heading out to a meditation meeting right

now. I

> > guess I need to be meditating more often?

> >

> > I have a degree in art but when I sit to paint or draw those old

> > voices of negativity, blaming and obsession crank right up. I

think

> > I was using food obsession and compulsion to " white noise " this

mess

> > out!

> >

> > Any suggestions?

> >

> > Thank You

> >

>

May 21, 2007

I took up the ukulele. Seriously! I used to spend my time scouring the

net for " thinspiration " to distract me from food, and then I'd get so

discouraged by the bodies that looked nothing like mine that I'd go

binge anyway! Now I play beautiful relaxing Hawaiian music and go easy

on myself. So much better!

Now, I ask myself " What am I

> going to do with all this time??!!! " If I am not working or doing

> things for my children, I have so much time on my hands and housework

> has gotten so old already!

>

> Does anyone else have this problem? What do you do?

>

May 22, 2007

thinspiration.....i love it

>

> I took up the ukulele. Seriously! I used to spend my time scouring the

> net for " thinspiration " to distract me from food, and then I'd get so

> discouraged by the bodies that looked nothing like mine that I'd go

> binge anyway! Now I play beautiful relaxing Hawaiian music and go easy

> on myself. So much better!

>

> Now, I ask myself " What am I

> > going to do with all this time??!!! " If I am not working or doing

> > things for my children, I have so much time on my hands and

housework

> > has gotten so old already!

> >

> > Does anyone else have this problem? What do you do?

> >

>

May 22, 2007

thinspiration.....i love it

>

> I took up the ukulele. Seriously! I used to spend my time scouring the

> net for " thinspiration " to distract me from food, and then I'd get so

> discouraged by the bodies that looked nothing like mine that I'd go

> binge anyway! Now I play beautiful relaxing Hawaiian music and go easy

> on myself. So much better!

>

> Now, I ask myself " What am I

> > going to do with all this time??!!! " If I am not working or doing

> > things for my children, I have so much time on my hands and

housework

> > has gotten so old already!

> >

> > Does anyone else have this problem? What do you do?

> >

>

May 22, 2007

Hi, group:

I’m trying a different approach to the negative

self-talk. I’m engaging in conversations with those negative

voices. They’re trying to tell me something. Maybe if they

get to speak their truth, the issue can be raised to my awareness and dealt

with it at a conscious level. It’s like children. They will

continue to tug on their parents’ sleeves until they get their

attention. Their issue may or may not be crucial to the parent at that

moment, but it’s paramount to the child.

I’m willing to listen now rather than telling them to

shut up – which what I’ve done for the last 43 years.

Thanks,

Suzanne

---------------------

I used to be an actress, and I heard all those nasty voices,

too. I've been trying to

write lately, but the voices come back sometimes when I do.

The main thing I've found to counteract them is self-talk. One of the

things I learned a few years ago that helped stop my panic attacks was

to picture a stop sign (like the ones on the road) in my head as soon

as I felt the first stirrings of an attack. Now I use it at the first

rumblings of those negative voices. It's not foolproof yet, but, with

time, it will get stronger.

Hope this helps!

Take care,

Alyssa

May 22, 2007

Hi, group:

I’m trying a different approach to the negative

self-talk. I’m engaging in conversations with those negative

voices. They’re trying to tell me something. Maybe if they

get to speak their truth, the issue can be raised to my awareness and dealt

with it at a conscious level. It’s like children. They will

continue to tug on their parents’ sleeves until they get their

attention. Their issue may or may not be crucial to the parent at that

moment, but it’s paramount to the child.

I’m willing to listen now rather than telling them to

shut up – which what I’ve done for the last 43 years.

Thanks,

Suzanne

---------------------

I used to be an actress, and I heard all those nasty voices,

too. I've been trying to

write lately, but the voices come back sometimes when I do.

The main thing I've found to counteract them is self-talk. One of the

things I learned a few years ago that helped stop my panic attacks was

to picture a stop sign (like the ones on the road) in my head as soon

as I felt the first stirrings of an attack. Now I use it at the first

rumblings of those negative voices. It's not foolproof yet, but, with

time, it will get stronger.

Hope this helps!

Take care,

Alyssa

May 22, 2007

This is EXACTLY what the therapist in the " My Life without ED " book

suggests!!!! He offers some responses to the conversations like:

I dont know what you want to call it? I call it my " disease "

Disease: , Youre such a loser. Why havent you done all of the

things you said youd do today?

: Ive taken the kids to school, cleaned a house, went to a

meeting, went to the bank, posted on my support sites and theres

still time to have a little fun!

Disease: , theres no time for fun today!!!! Look at yourself.

You need to forget that " painting " bull crap. No one is going to

love you for it. Get busy on losing that weight. People want

evidence of your masterpiece on yourself. Get perfect and then you

can paint.

: Im not strong enough to fight you now but I working on it.

I dont believe you and I am not going to " diet " again. It hasnt

worked in the past and wont work this time. Im going to trust my IE

plan and stick with it for a while. Painting is loving MYSELF and

that IS important. I wont let anyone love me unless I love myself!

OK. This little demonstration just showed me I actually need to

write it out more often!!!! I worked really hard on the final

response. Changing and editing. I feel empowered and like I am

prepared with a response to those messages. I could try to think

them in my head but I fumbled around. If I write them out I can

refer to them as little affirmations!!!!

GREAT POST! SUPER!!!!

THANK YOU!!!

)))))

>

> Hi, group:

>

> I'm trying a different approach to the negative self-talk. I'm

engaging in

> conversations with those negative voices. They're trying to tell me

> something. Maybe if they get to speak their truth, the issue can

be raised

> to my awareness and dealt with it at a conscious level. It's like

children.

> They will continue to tug on their parents' sleeves until they get

their

> attention. Their issue may or may not be crucial to the parent at

that

> moment, but it's paramount to the child.

>

> I'm willing to listen now rather than telling them to shut up -

which what

> I've done for the last 43 years.

>

> Thanks,

>

> Suzanne

May 22, 2007