Re: Pain-Compassion from Friends and Family

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> Also I have lot's of pets. They seem

> to be might best people to vent to....lol

>

YES!

Pets are such great healers!

They ask for nothing in return, but are great listeners!

It has been proven that people heal faster with pets than without.

Pris

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[Guest guest]

I have found the most compassionate people are in groups like ours, were

we know what people feel and are going thru. Also I have lot's of pets. They

seem

to be might best people to vent to....lol

Maybe there is a chronic pain support group at a local hospital you could

join.

Hang in there and big hugs to you!

Joy

greenigirl34691 <greenigirl34691@...> wrote:

No one seems to understand the level of pain you can experience from

RA, I have been in SOOOOOOOOOO much pain lately, crying myself to

sleep. When I first had RA I pretended like I was fine but as the pain

as progressed I can not even cover it anymore. It is written all over

my face the pain, so I dont lie I tell them that it isnt a good day!

And there is no response. People are so funny about diseases I thought

it was a joke until I saw when my mom was suffering from cancer and

when one of my best friends lost her son to osteasarcoma. People just

are dumbfounded and don't know how to respond.

I guess it is alot for me to understand because I am such an

compassionate person. I want to help everyone but i guess too I have

learned my boundaries. Are there people out there that will stand by

you? It only seems like one friends sticks by me but it is because she

is suffering from a auto immune disease too!

Dating is still bad, can not seem to get someone who gets it....

[Guest guest]

Hi greengirl - I do understand about the pain being so bad you cry yourself to

sleep and how you can't hide it anymore as it is written all over your face - -

it has been on mine for years - people will say " what's wrong " and I just say

" Oh I am in a lot of pain today - does it show? " and they will always answer

yes....Bringing them into the confirmation that yes it is apparent that I am in

pain seems to help them realize that - OH GEE SHE'S IN PAIN! It's not that they

mean to be so dense, but until you live it you just can have no comprehension.

I have one grown daughter who is compassionate towards me - but even she has

days where she does not get it... I live with her now - I am only 43 but being

widowed - I got to the place that being alone wasn't good for me when I have bad

spells - I need someone able to pull me out of bed.

I have dated ONE person since I've been widowed and that was last year - when I

told him " NO, I cannot climb that hill of sand " His response was to drag me up

the hill and that is literally what he did - - I had no strength to get up the

hill - but he drug me. Needless to say I did not go back on a date with him or

anyone else... he kinda scared me.... so I am just concentrating on me - I don't

have the time for people who cannot listen to me because for the first time in

my life my needs have to be considered -- - I just can't 'make do " so not to

put anyone out - I have to take care of me now - - because no one else will do

it for me....

That being said - I am home alone for the 4th as my daughter and her husband

have gone down to southern Indiana to his family get together. I wanted to go

alone and just hang out at the hotel room - they got a suite with two rooms - I

would have loved to just been able to use the jacuzzi while they were away

visiting his family - - but because he felt I didn't need to go - so I am stuck

here in pain and alone.... Oh well, it could be worse - I remember what it was

like to be young and married - but I was always one to consider the needs of our

parents - after all they spent their lives considering my needs - but my son in

law is just not that way....

I have decided if I ever get disability I am going to splurge and go get a hotel

room with a jacuzzi tub and forget about him LOL

I can dream, can't I?

I hope you are feeling better soon....

Rose

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Rose,

I am sorry that you are all alone today.

I have to admit it would be nice to be alone sometimes. LOL

Here I am this morning it's not even 7am and my darling children are up and at

it. They must have forgotten that it's summer vacation. LOL

Oh, well. I hope your able to turn it around and enjoy yourself. Even if that's

just relaxing and watching whatever you want on TV. Hang in there honey!

Zoni

Re: [ ] Pain-Compassion from Friends and Family

Hi greengirl - I do understand about the pain being so bad you cry yourself to

sleep and how you can't hide it anymore as it is written all over your face - -

it has been on mine for years - people will say " what's wrong " and I just say

" Oh I am in a lot of pain today - does it show? " and they will always answer

yes....Bringing them into the confirmation that yes it is apparent that I am in

pain seems to help them realize that - OH GEE SHE'S IN PAIN! It's not that they

mean to be so dense, but until you live it you just can have no comprehension.

I have one grown daughter who is compassionate towards me - but even she has

days where she does not get it... I live with her now - I am only 43 but being

widowed - I got to the place that being alone wasn't good for me when I have bad

spells - I need someone able to pull me out of bed.

I have dated ONE person since I've been widowed and that was last year - when

I told him " NO, I cannot climb that hill of sand " His response was to drag me up

the hill and that is literally what he did - - I had no strength to get up the

hill - but he drug me. Needless to say I did not go back on a date with him or

anyone else... he kinda scared me.... so I am just concentrating on me - I don't

have the time for people who cannot listen to me because for the first time in

my life my needs have to be considered -- - I just can't 'make do " so not to put

anyone out - I have to take care of me now - - because no one else will do it

for me....

That being said - I am home alone for the 4th as my daughter and her husband

have gone down to southern Indiana to his family get together. I wanted to go

alone and just hang out at the hotel room - they got a suite with two rooms - I

would have loved to just been able to use the jacuzzi while they were away

visiting his family - - but because he felt I didn't need to go - so I am stuck

here in pain and alone.... Oh well, it could be worse - I remember what it was

like to be young and married - but I was always one to consider the needs of our

parents - after all they spent their lives considering my needs - but my son in

law is just not that way....

I have decided if I ever get disability I am going to splurge and go get a

hotel room with a jacuzzi tub and forget about him LOL

I can dream, can't I?

I hope you are feeling better soon....

Rose

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HI Zoni -

I have to admit it is nice to be alone sometimes - but I would so have loved to

spent a few days soaking in a jaccuzzi tub! LOL - That was what I wanted!! LOL

Silly me....

I do miss my kids being as young as yours that was such a fun time of life- now

they are all grown and spread across the US. At least they still are all in the

same country - - for that I am thankful I do so enjoy being able to be with

my youngest grandchild though - another thing to be thankful for - -

Thanks for the good wishes - today does feel like a better day - first off - no

migraine to start the day with like yesterday .. YEAH!!!

Have a good day hon...

Rose

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The jacuzzi sounds wonderful. Anyone have one and we can all have a big party.

Joy

Rose Paterson <mom2rkd@...> wrote:

Hi greengirl - I do understand about the pain being so bad you cry

yourself to sleep and how you can't hide it anymore as it is written all over

your face - - it has been on mine for years - people will say " what's wrong " and

I just say " Oh I am in a lot of pain today - does it show? " and they will always

answer yes....Bringing them into the confirmation that yes it is apparent that I

am in pain seems to help them realize that - OH GEE SHE'S IN PAIN! It's not that

they mean to be so dense, but until you live it you just can have no

comprehension.

I have one grown daughter who is compassionate towards me - but even she has

days where she does not get it... I live with her now - I am only 43 but being

widowed - I got to the place that being alone wasn't good for me when I have bad

spells - I need someone able to pull me out of bed.

I have dated ONE person since I've been widowed and that was last year - when I

told him " NO, I cannot climb that hill of sand " His response was to drag me up

the hill and that is literally what he did - - I had no strength to get up the

hill - but he drug me. Needless to say I did not go back on a date with him or

anyone else... he kinda scared me.... so I am just concentrating on me - I don't

have the time for people who cannot listen to me because for the first time in

my life my needs have to be considered -- - I just can't 'make do " so not to put

anyone out - I have to take care of me now - - because no one else will do it

for me....

That being said - I am home alone for the 4th as my daughter and her husband

have gone down to southern Indiana to his family get together. I wanted to go

alone and just hang out at the hotel room - they got a suite with two rooms - I

would have loved to just been able to use the jacuzzi while they were away

visiting his family - - but because he felt I didn't need to go - so I am stuck

here in pain and alone.... Oh well, it could be worse - I remember what it was

like to be young and married - but I was always one to consider the needs of our

parents - after all they spent their lives considering my needs - but my son in

law is just not that way....

I have decided if I ever get disability I am going to splurge and go get a hotel

room with a jacuzzi tub and forget about him LOL

I can dream, can't I?

I hope you are feeling better soon....

Rose

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Rose,

If you notice a spring in your son-in-law's step and a smile on his

face,when he gets back. It won't be because he went to see his family.

A young couple needs time alone, if you get my drift. You might

suggest if they need some time alone that they sent you to the hotel

with the jacuzzi next time. You would be glad to go. They type of

selfish he was being is good for their marriage.

Just looking at the other side.

[Guest guest]

LOL - my daughter called upset because since they got there he's been

with his family the entire time! I think he was lonesome for some of his

cousins.

It's okay - - I was young married once - and honestly I've sent them off to

hotels before so they could be alone - -

I was just looking so forward to that jaccuzzi - but am having a nice relaxing

time at home with the dogs and cat - and sleeping a lot - which feels really

good.

I do hope they all come back rested and happy.

Thanks for the thoughts and the reminder

Have a great day

rose

cynthiadew1 <cynthiadew1@...> wrote:

Rose,

If you notice a spring in your son-in-law's step and a smile on his

face,when he gets back. It won't be because he went to see his family.

A young couple needs time alone, if you get my drift. You might

suggest if they need some time alone that they sent you to the hotel

with the jacuzzi next time. You would be glad to go. They type of

selfish he was being is good for their marriage.

Just looking at the other side.

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Just a couple of years ago after losing my baby dog to a schoolbus, I got

another, a Chihuahua mix that's now about 23 pounds. Once in a while, she

shows some real intelligence. 2 days ago, she climbed into my lap, stood

with her right side to me, and held her rear foot up. She was telling me

there was something wrong with her leg or foot. It turned out it wasn't bad,

just a little sore. Yesterday she was barking out in the yard and got tired

of waiting for me to come out, so she came in, barked at me, then ran back

outside barking. It turned out that someone had pulled up next door where

nobody was home, and she knew it was not right.

She also checks my body over, licking bad spots that are bruised, bleeding,

or just hurting. Nurse Nibbles does a very good job and even tries to talk,

but it's just a quieter bark sound. Maybe she will figure it out some day.

For now, I'll enjoy her gentle and loving disposition, and keep her in the

yard, away from other dangers.

Dennis in Eastexas

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Re: [ ] Pain-Compassion from Friends and Family

>

>

>

>> Also I have lots of pets. They seem

>> to be might best people to vent to....lol

>>

> YES!

> Pets are such great healers!

> They ask for nothing in return, but are great listeners!

> It has been proven that people heal faster with pets than without.

> Pris

[Guest guest]

awww Dennis - what a blessing you have!!! I have a dog and a cat that way and

my daughters' dog is also that way.... they have been lying in bed with me for

two days trying to help me feel better - with Sylvester (the cat) going from

joint to joint - purring and doing his best to make me better....

God Bless our Pets!!!

Rose

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