Guest guest Posted November 19, 1999 Report Share Posted November 19, 1999 >And remember, don't tell them this private school > >is the *BEST* place for your child, they don't have to provide the BEST >of > >anything, but they do need to provide what's appropriate. Interesting Sue, I never thought of it that way. My children are homeschooled or in college, but I think this statement applies to services in general and to private insurance, not just to public school. Kathy, If I may add an addendum to the therapy thought, speaking of what is " appropriate " , make sure they don't over work your child if you pursue therapy. Over working is just as detrimental as not enough. In fact, for my family we do not " work " or do strength building exercises for therapy and we receive homebound services. With the therapist under my watchful eye, they STILL want to work on strength!! When we over use our muscles, we actually LOSE muscles. Literal atrophy that can be both seen and felt. It is very erie to see sunk in spots on one's body. I say all of this because I see how the therapist are in my home. For some reason they just don't get it. Their focus seems to ALWAYS be on strength training, in addition to other things. There is a fine line where if you under use your muscles, you can't maintain what you have, but for us, and possibly for some on the list, doing more than that (which for us are activities of daily living, nothing more) results in losing that precious muscle. For my youngest, more is at stake than just muscle as he gets into respiratory troubles as well. I know that if I wasn't around to monitor these things for my children, or if I didn't experience it myself, I would never know to look out for it. We discontinued another therapy as of yesterday to get a holiday break and the OT STILL was saying to have my son reach across the table to get to his project at hand rather then for me to place it next to him so that it is convenient. He wants to do a good job and I would rather he put his energy into being able to work on the project at hand for longer periods of time and improve his skills than to tire out in five minutes and not stand a chance to " practice " improving his skills. The end result is the same, he has only but so much stamina and he always pushes himself. He is going to work his muscles to their max but he would rather get more time doing the artwork than to have to quit so suddenly because he was forced to struggle harder to do only a few minutes. It is a very easy concept and I get frustrated that NO therapist seems to be able to see this. They just seem to want to make everything the hardest it can be and if therapy is done in a few minutes because he gives out, then so be it. I know it apparently is the way they are trained, but it is frustrating nevertheless. for what it is worth, Cheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 19, 1999 Report Share Posted November 19, 1999 >And remember, don't tell them this private school > >is the *BEST* place for your child, they don't have to provide the BEST >of > >anything, but they do need to provide what's appropriate. Interesting Sue, I never thought of it that way. My children are homeschooled or in college, but I think this statement applies to services in general and to private insurance, not just to public school. Kathy, If I may add an addendum to the therapy thought, speaking of what is " appropriate " , make sure they don't over work your child if you pursue therapy. Over working is just as detrimental as not enough. In fact, for my family we do not " work " or do strength building exercises for therapy and we receive homebound services. With the therapist under my watchful eye, they STILL want to work on strength!! When we over use our muscles, we actually LOSE muscles. Literal atrophy that can be both seen and felt. It is very erie to see sunk in spots on one's body. I say all of this because I see how the therapist are in my home. For some reason they just don't get it. Their focus seems to ALWAYS be on strength training, in addition to other things. There is a fine line where if you under use your muscles, you can't maintain what you have, but for us, and possibly for some on the list, doing more than that (which for us are activities of daily living, nothing more) results in losing that precious muscle. For my youngest, more is at stake than just muscle as he gets into respiratory troubles as well. I know that if I wasn't around to monitor these things for my children, or if I didn't experience it myself, I would never know to look out for it. We discontinued another therapy as of yesterday to get a holiday break and the OT STILL was saying to have my son reach across the table to get to his project at hand rather then for me to place it next to him so that it is convenient. He wants to do a good job and I would rather he put his energy into being able to work on the project at hand for longer periods of time and improve his skills than to tire out in five minutes and not stand a chance to " practice " improving his skills. The end result is the same, he has only but so much stamina and he always pushes himself. He is going to work his muscles to their max but he would rather get more time doing the artwork than to have to quit so suddenly because he was forced to struggle harder to do only a few minutes. It is a very easy concept and I get frustrated that NO therapist seems to be able to see this. They just seem to want to make everything the hardest it can be and if therapy is done in a few minutes because he gives out, then so be it. I know it apparently is the way they are trained, but it is frustrating nevertheless. for what it is worth, Cheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 19, 1999 Report Share Posted November 19, 1999 >And remember, don't tell them this private school > >is the *BEST* place for your child, they don't have to provide the BEST >of > >anything, but they do need to provide what's appropriate. Interesting Sue, I never thought of it that way. My children are homeschooled or in college, but I think this statement applies to services in general and to private insurance, not just to public school. Kathy, If I may add an addendum to the therapy thought, speaking of what is " appropriate " , make sure they don't over work your child if you pursue therapy. Over working is just as detrimental as not enough. In fact, for my family we do not " work " or do strength building exercises for therapy and we receive homebound services. With the therapist under my watchful eye, they STILL want to work on strength!! When we over use our muscles, we actually LOSE muscles. Literal atrophy that can be both seen and felt. It is very erie to see sunk in spots on one's body. I say all of this because I see how the therapist are in my home. For some reason they just don't get it. Their focus seems to ALWAYS be on strength training, in addition to other things. There is a fine line where if you under use your muscles, you can't maintain what you have, but for us, and possibly for some on the list, doing more than that (which for us are activities of daily living, nothing more) results in losing that precious muscle. For my youngest, more is at stake than just muscle as he gets into respiratory troubles as well. I know that if I wasn't around to monitor these things for my children, or if I didn't experience it myself, I would never know to look out for it. We discontinued another therapy as of yesterday to get a holiday break and the OT STILL was saying to have my son reach across the table to get to his project at hand rather then for me to place it next to him so that it is convenient. He wants to do a good job and I would rather he put his energy into being able to work on the project at hand for longer periods of time and improve his skills than to tire out in five minutes and not stand a chance to " practice " improving his skills. The end result is the same, he has only but so much stamina and he always pushes himself. He is going to work his muscles to their max but he would rather get more time doing the artwork than to have to quit so suddenly because he was forced to struggle harder to do only a few minutes. It is a very easy concept and I get frustrated that NO therapist seems to be able to see this. They just seem to want to make everything the hardest it can be and if therapy is done in a few minutes because he gives out, then so be it. I know it apparently is the way they are trained, but it is frustrating nevertheless. for what it is worth, Cheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 19, 1999 Report Share Posted November 19, 1999 > > > I know it sounds funny after reading it. What I wanted to get > >across is the LAW says schools only need to provide what is appropriate, >not > >what is best for the child. We as moms and dads need to make sure when >we > >want the best we just use the word appropriate. ) It's all semantics. I understood Sue. And it is all a matter of semantics, but one I intend to remember! It's amazing how one can say the " right " thing and have a far smoother road! I am convinced this will work with our insurance on some issue as well!! Cheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 19, 1999 Report Share Posted November 19, 1999 > > > I know it sounds funny after reading it. What I wanted to get > >across is the LAW says schools only need to provide what is appropriate, >not > >what is best for the child. We as moms and dads need to make sure when >we > >want the best we just use the word appropriate. ) It's all semantics. I understood Sue. And it is all a matter of semantics, but one I intend to remember! It's amazing how one can say the " right " thing and have a far smoother road! I am convinced this will work with our insurance on some issue as well!! Cheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 19, 1999 Report Share Posted November 19, 1999 > > > I know it sounds funny after reading it. What I wanted to get > >across is the LAW says schools only need to provide what is appropriate, >not > >what is best for the child. We as moms and dads need to make sure when >we > >want the best we just use the word appropriate. ) It's all semantics. I understood Sue. And it is all a matter of semantics, but one I intend to remember! It's amazing how one can say the " right " thing and have a far smoother road! I am convinced this will work with our insurance on some issue as well!! Cheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 1999 Report Share Posted November 20, 1999 Hi Cheri, I know it sounds funny after reading it. What I wanted to get across is the LAW says schools only need to provide what is appropriate, not what is best for the child. We as moms and dads need to make sure when we want the best we just use the word appropriate. ) It's all semantics. Sue ( & Jack)-worn out parents to the greatest kids on earth in Las Vegas, NV Chris-9: Leigh's Disease (?), MR (mild), hypotonia, non-walker/talker -8: Leigh's Disease (?), MR (mild), hypotonia, non-walker/talker, trach tube (larynotracheomalasia), g-tube/fundo Visit us! http://u2.lvcm.com/jscb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 1999 Report Share Posted November 20, 1999 Hi Cheri, I know it sounds funny after reading it. What I wanted to get across is the LAW says schools only need to provide what is appropriate, not what is best for the child. We as moms and dads need to make sure when we want the best we just use the word appropriate. ) It's all semantics. Sue ( & Jack)-worn out parents to the greatest kids on earth in Las Vegas, NV Chris-9: Leigh's Disease (?), MR (mild), hypotonia, non-walker/talker -8: Leigh's Disease (?), MR (mild), hypotonia, non-walker/talker, trach tube (larynotracheomalasia), g-tube/fundo Visit us! http://u2.lvcm.com/jscb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 1999 Report Share Posted November 20, 1999 Hi Cheri, I know it sounds funny after reading it. What I wanted to get across is the LAW says schools only need to provide what is appropriate, not what is best for the child. We as moms and dads need to make sure when we want the best we just use the word appropriate. ) It's all semantics. Sue ( & Jack)-worn out parents to the greatest kids on earth in Las Vegas, NV Chris-9: Leigh's Disease (?), MR (mild), hypotonia, non-walker/talker -8: Leigh's Disease (?), MR (mild), hypotonia, non-walker/talker, trach tube (larynotracheomalasia), g-tube/fundo Visit us! http://u2.lvcm.com/jscb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 1999 Report Share Posted November 20, 1999 In a message dated 11/20/99 3:14:02 AM Eastern Standard Time, Cheri77777@... writes: << I understood Sue. And it is all a matter of semantics, but one I intend to remember! It's amazing how one can say the " right " thing and have a far smoother road! I am convinced this will work with our insurance on some issue as well!! Cheri >> Cheri and Sue - I agree on this one, too. It is like a code that you have to know to make things easier. You have to learn the jargon of the industry. If you phrase things in their language, then the road is smoother--both in insurance and education--and other areas of life for that matter!!! Interesting, huh? Thanks for helping me with the " translations " !!!!!!!! Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 1999 Report Share Posted November 20, 1999 In a message dated 11/20/99 3:14:02 AM Eastern Standard Time, Cheri77777@... writes: << I understood Sue. And it is all a matter of semantics, but one I intend to remember! It's amazing how one can say the " right " thing and have a far smoother road! I am convinced this will work with our insurance on some issue as well!! Cheri >> Cheri and Sue - I agree on this one, too. It is like a code that you have to know to make things easier. You have to learn the jargon of the industry. If you phrase things in their language, then the road is smoother--both in insurance and education--and other areas of life for that matter!!! Interesting, huh? Thanks for helping me with the " translations " !!!!!!!! Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 1999 Report Share Posted November 20, 1999 In a message dated 11/20/99 3:14:02 AM Eastern Standard Time, Cheri77777@... writes: << I understood Sue. And it is all a matter of semantics, but one I intend to remember! It's amazing how one can say the " right " thing and have a far smoother road! I am convinced this will work with our insurance on some issue as well!! Cheri >> Cheri and Sue - I agree on this one, too. It is like a code that you have to know to make things easier. You have to learn the jargon of the industry. If you phrase things in their language, then the road is smoother--both in insurance and education--and other areas of life for that matter!!! Interesting, huh? Thanks for helping me with the " translations " !!!!!!!! Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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