Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Hi Tricia I am new to this so I am not sure that I am " responding " properly I am 45 (soon to be 46) and I was told almost 3 years ago that I had a large fibroid. I have had symptons very similar to yours...Very heavy bleeding (sometimes for 2 weeks or more), low backaches, etc. I am also feeling a " tight, cramped " feeling under my left breast area. I attributed it to the fact that the fibroid is growing. I have an appointment on the 27th of this month with a new gyn, (due to the fact that my insurance wont cover the gyn I wanted). When this all started 3 yrs ago, I thought I was beginning menopause. I had bloodwork done that showed it wasn't the case. The dr then sent me for a uterine ultrasound that showed the fibroid. My doctor had a difficult time doing a pap test on me due to the fact that my uteris is tipped and she couldnt " reach " the cervix very well. I didnt go back for the 3rd follow up, but now the symptoms have increased. I hate the feeling of being bloated! It feels alot like being pregnant, when you cant easily bend at the waist because there is something there! I also find myself sitting " erect " to ease the pressure off my rib area. If all goes well at my gyn appointment, I am thinking of just going with the hysterectomy (and hopefully leaving the ovaries so I wont need HRT). Both my sister (at age 32) and my sister-in-law had this done and they felt great after! My sister is now 53 and she looks and feels wonderful! I hope all goes well for you. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Hi Tricia I am new to this so I am not sure that I am " responding " properly I am 45 (soon to be 46) and I was told almost 3 years ago that I had a large fibroid. I have had symptons very similar to yours...Very heavy bleeding (sometimes for 2 weeks or more), low backaches, etc. I am also feeling a " tight, cramped " feeling under my left breast area. I attributed it to the fact that the fibroid is growing. I have an appointment on the 27th of this month with a new gyn, (due to the fact that my insurance wont cover the gyn I wanted). When this all started 3 yrs ago, I thought I was beginning menopause. I had bloodwork done that showed it wasn't the case. The dr then sent me for a uterine ultrasound that showed the fibroid. My doctor had a difficult time doing a pap test on me due to the fact that my uteris is tipped and she couldnt " reach " the cervix very well. I didnt go back for the 3rd follow up, but now the symptoms have increased. I hate the feeling of being bloated! It feels alot like being pregnant, when you cant easily bend at the waist because there is something there! I also find myself sitting " erect " to ease the pressure off my rib area. If all goes well at my gyn appointment, I am thinking of just going with the hysterectomy (and hopefully leaving the ovaries so I wont need HRT). Both my sister (at age 32) and my sister-in-law had this done and they felt great after! My sister is now 53 and she looks and feels wonderful! I hope all goes well for you. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Hi Tricia! I know you don't know me nor anyone at this subscription but you are the first person I have written to as it seems I am going through a similar situation but, obviously, with a different company. I have a position where I have been making 'great strides' but it seems as I am always being 'tested'. I have that same compressed feeling as you and most recently, was at work and had to sit straight up as I had a sharp pain in the left groing area (perhaps ovaries -- who knows). I went to the physician and currently, awaiting results of a urine 'culture' as my urine analysis showed a lot of blood. He mentioned that it might be a bladder infection but my fibroid tumor is as big as a watermelon; (and I don't feel that he is making this up) I can feel it. I am 50 but a very young 50. I have a busy agenda and cannot afford to take time off from work but I look at it this way: If it should be anything where you need to take care of your health; then you just have to take the time to do it. Forgive me for being so bold as I don't know you or know if you would resent me being so open and honest. Your health comes first before anything. So far as the doctor getting back to you with an answer you are going to have to call yourself and follow up; " The squeaky wheel gets oiled. " You might be peri-menopausal at your age as I was tested at your age and that was how I was diagnosed. I am not your physician and he is the one that will explain that to you. Women have to go through a lot. It's difficult to not agonize over it because it weighs on your mind but HANG in there until you hear from your doctor. Fibroids are not uncommon in women and it's just a thing should be monitored as you would any other type of physical concern. If there is any thing else you need to know; stay in touch as I am finding that this subscription lends itself to much insight in the uterine fibroid subject. Take care and let me know how you made out. in New Jersey Frustrated Hi, I'm not sure why I'm here. I had my tests last Wednesday and still haven't heard anything back from the doctor, so I'm not even really sure that my problem is Uterine Fibroids. It's just that all the symptoms seem so similar. Cramping, much heavier periods, lower back pain, constipation, etc... This has been going on for about 3 months. I'm 48 years old, and still having periods. Doctor took blood to see if hormonal level showed if I was in pre-menopause...but no answer yet. This morning for some reason, I feel as if my insides are compressed. It feels as though my stomach is being pushed up into my ribs under my left breast. I have to keep sitting up straighter because it just feels so strange. Has anyone else felt this sensation? I'm thinking my period is coming up, and wondering if my uterus get's a bit swollen or larger because of that, and maybe everything gets tighter. It's awful not knowing. I keep thinking that it's good that the doctor hasn't called me yet.....sort of the " no news is good news " theory. At least, I mean that if it was something very serious.....he would have contacted me right away. I hate the waiting....and imagining all the awful things that could be wrong with me physically. Also, I'm on my own and support myself. I'm thinking about how it won't go well at work if I have to take much time off for surgery. We've had lots of layoffs lately...I've only been with the company for a year....and I hate the thought of them finding out they can survive without me for any extended period. I'm a manager, and most of the other managers in my industry are men. They just won't empathize and it will seem like a weakness on my part. I just don't have time for this right now.....and I'm really angry with my body. :>( I eat right....exercise, etc... This isn't supposed to happen. Thanks for listening, Tricia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Hi Tricia! I know you don't know me nor anyone at this subscription but you are the first person I have written to as it seems I am going through a similar situation but, obviously, with a different company. I have a position where I have been making 'great strides' but it seems as I am always being 'tested'. I have that same compressed feeling as you and most recently, was at work and had to sit straight up as I had a sharp pain in the left groing area (perhaps ovaries -- who knows). I went to the physician and currently, awaiting results of a urine 'culture' as my urine analysis showed a lot of blood. He mentioned that it might be a bladder infection but my fibroid tumor is as big as a watermelon; (and I don't feel that he is making this up) I can feel it. I am 50 but a very young 50. I have a busy agenda and cannot afford to take time off from work but I look at it this way: If it should be anything where you need to take care of your health; then you just have to take the time to do it. Forgive me for being so bold as I don't know you or know if you would resent me being so open and honest. Your health comes first before anything. So far as the doctor getting back to you with an answer you are going to have to call yourself and follow up; " The squeaky wheel gets oiled. " You might be peri-menopausal at your age as I was tested at your age and that was how I was diagnosed. I am not your physician and he is the one that will explain that to you. Women have to go through a lot. It's difficult to not agonize over it because it weighs on your mind but HANG in there until you hear from your doctor. Fibroids are not uncommon in women and it's just a thing should be monitored as you would any other type of physical concern. If there is any thing else you need to know; stay in touch as I am finding that this subscription lends itself to much insight in the uterine fibroid subject. Take care and let me know how you made out. in New Jersey Frustrated Hi, I'm not sure why I'm here. I had my tests last Wednesday and still haven't heard anything back from the doctor, so I'm not even really sure that my problem is Uterine Fibroids. It's just that all the symptoms seem so similar. Cramping, much heavier periods, lower back pain, constipation, etc... This has been going on for about 3 months. I'm 48 years old, and still having periods. Doctor took blood to see if hormonal level showed if I was in pre-menopause...but no answer yet. This morning for some reason, I feel as if my insides are compressed. It feels as though my stomach is being pushed up into my ribs under my left breast. I have to keep sitting up straighter because it just feels so strange. Has anyone else felt this sensation? I'm thinking my period is coming up, and wondering if my uterus get's a bit swollen or larger because of that, and maybe everything gets tighter. It's awful not knowing. I keep thinking that it's good that the doctor hasn't called me yet.....sort of the " no news is good news " theory. At least, I mean that if it was something very serious.....he would have contacted me right away. I hate the waiting....and imagining all the awful things that could be wrong with me physically. Also, I'm on my own and support myself. I'm thinking about how it won't go well at work if I have to take much time off for surgery. We've had lots of layoffs lately...I've only been with the company for a year....and I hate the thought of them finding out they can survive without me for any extended period. I'm a manager, and most of the other managers in my industry are men. They just won't empathize and it will seem like a weakness on my part. I just don't have time for this right now.....and I'm really angry with my body. :>( I eat right....exercise, etc... This isn't supposed to happen. Thanks for listening, Tricia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Hello , Thanks very much for you kind and informative reply. It really is comforting and reassuring to know that so many other women are going through similar situations. Quite honestly, this is something I've never heard of before and I'm amazed at the number of women who seem to be touched by it. I've always been very healthy, and it's just driving me crazy knowing there is something growing inside me. I keep wondering how close I am to menopause, and if the fibroid (if that's what it is) will begin to shrink as the estrogen decreases. I suppose it's foolish for me to be doing all this second-guessing before I even talk to the doctor, but you know how our minds work. <s> I understand your point about my health, and I'm sure I'll deal with this however I need to once I have all the facts. It's just so difficult when your job is already very stressful, and then life throws you a curve ball to make it a little tougher. Thanks so much for your kind words and good luck to you, Tricia Tricia Frustrated Hi, I'm not sure why I'm here. I had my tests last Wednesday and still haven't heard anything back from the doctor, so I'm not even really sure that my problem is Uterine Fibroids. It's just that all the symptoms seem so similar. Cramping, much heavier periods, lower back pain, constipation, etc... This has been going on for about 3 months. I'm 48 years old, and still having periods. Doctor took blood to see if hormonal level showed if I was in pre-menopause...but no answer yet. This morning for some reason, I feel as if my insides are compressed. It feels as though my stomach is being pushed up into my ribs under my left breast. I have to keep sitting up straighter because it just feels so strange. Has anyone else felt this sensation? I'm thinking my period is coming up, and wondering if my uterus get's a bit swollen or larger because of that, and maybe everything gets tighter. It's awful not knowing. I keep thinking that it's good that the doctor hasn't called me yet.....sort of the " no news is good news " theory. At least, I mean that if it was something very serious.....he would have contacted me right away. I hate the waiting....and imagining all the awful things that could be wrong with me physically. Also, I'm on my own and support myself. I'm thinking about how it won't go well at work if I have to take much time off for surgery. We've had lots of layoffs lately...I've only been with the company for a year....and I hate the thought of them finding out they can survive without me for any extended period. I'm a manager, and most of the other managers in my industry are men. They just won't empathize and it will seem like a weakness on my part. I just don't have time for this right now.....and I'm really angry with my body. :>( I eat right....exercise, etc... This isn't supposed to happen. Thanks for listening, Tricia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Hello , Thanks very much for you kind and informative reply. It really is comforting and reassuring to know that so many other women are going through similar situations. Quite honestly, this is something I've never heard of before and I'm amazed at the number of women who seem to be touched by it. I've always been very healthy, and it's just driving me crazy knowing there is something growing inside me. I keep wondering how close I am to menopause, and if the fibroid (if that's what it is) will begin to shrink as the estrogen decreases. I suppose it's foolish for me to be doing all this second-guessing before I even talk to the doctor, but you know how our minds work. <s> I understand your point about my health, and I'm sure I'll deal with this however I need to once I have all the facts. It's just so difficult when your job is already very stressful, and then life throws you a curve ball to make it a little tougher. Thanks so much for your kind words and good luck to you, Tricia Tricia Frustrated Hi, I'm not sure why I'm here. I had my tests last Wednesday and still haven't heard anything back from the doctor, so I'm not even really sure that my problem is Uterine Fibroids. It's just that all the symptoms seem so similar. Cramping, much heavier periods, lower back pain, constipation, etc... This has been going on for about 3 months. I'm 48 years old, and still having periods. Doctor took blood to see if hormonal level showed if I was in pre-menopause...but no answer yet. This morning for some reason, I feel as if my insides are compressed. It feels as though my stomach is being pushed up into my ribs under my left breast. I have to keep sitting up straighter because it just feels so strange. Has anyone else felt this sensation? I'm thinking my period is coming up, and wondering if my uterus get's a bit swollen or larger because of that, and maybe everything gets tighter. It's awful not knowing. I keep thinking that it's good that the doctor hasn't called me yet.....sort of the " no news is good news " theory. At least, I mean that if it was something very serious.....he would have contacted me right away. I hate the waiting....and imagining all the awful things that could be wrong with me physically. Also, I'm on my own and support myself. I'm thinking about how it won't go well at work if I have to take much time off for surgery. We've had lots of layoffs lately...I've only been with the company for a year....and I hate the thought of them finding out they can survive without me for any extended period. I'm a manager, and most of the other managers in my industry are men. They just won't empathize and it will seem like a weakness on my part. I just don't have time for this right now.....and I'm really angry with my body. :>( I eat right....exercise, etc... This isn't supposed to happen. Thanks for listening, Tricia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Hi Pam, Thanks so much for your thoughtful reply. It's really helped me to hear of other women's similar situations, and your symptoms certainly seem very much like mine. I know exactly what you are describing when you say that you feel bloated and that you can't bend at the waist easily. I even noticed the other evening when I went to stand up from a chair that I felt as though I couldn't bend forward to stand up very easily. It made me feel like I was 80 years old. And all my life I've been very tall, athletic and somewhat slim and healthy. I just hate how this feels, and I've begun to feel like my uterus is my enemy...even though I know that's not rational. All the different methods are so confusing. Perhaps you've noticed that most of the messages seem to stress avoiding a hysterectomy at all costs, but I also have a few friends and my mother, who had absolutely no problem after their uterus was removed, felt fantastic and have been pushing me to just do it. I'm sure there are women who have bad experiences, moods etc.... after hysterectomy, but I haven't met them. I'm grateful to hear some of the different experiences within this website so I know what questions to ask the doctor. After I hear the test results from my doctor and have my exact diagnosis, I'll be better able to know my options. Right now I'm praying that it's nothing more serious than a fibroid, and I think I'll be relieved to hear that it's nothing life-threatening. I feel much more prepared now to make decisions thanks to the information within this website, the books I've picked up recently, and kind people such as yourself. The information available has been a tremendous help and I can't say enough about them. Take care and stay in touch, Tricia Re: Frustrated Hi Tricia I am new to this so I am not sure that I am " responding " properly I am 45 (soon to be 46) and I was told almost 3 years ago that I had a large fibroid. I have had symptons very similar to yours...Very heavy bleeding (sometimes for 2 weeks or more), low backaches, etc. I am also feeling a " tight, cramped " feeling under my left breast area. I attributed it to the fact that the fibroid is growing. I have an appointment on the 27th of this month with a new gyn, (due to the fact that my insurance wont cover the gyn I wanted). When this all started 3 yrs ago, I thought I was beginning menopause. I had bloodwork done that showed it wasn't the case. The dr then sent me for a uterine ultrasound that showed the fibroid. My doctor had a difficult time doing a pap test on me due to the fact that my uteris is tipped and she couldnt " reach " the cervix very well. I didnt go back for the 3rd follow up, but now the symptoms have increased. I hate the feeling of being bloated! It feels alot like being pregnant, when you cant easily bend at the waist because there is something there! I also find myself sitting " erect " to ease the pressure off my rib area. If all goes well at my gyn appointment, I am thinking of just going with the hysterectomy (and hopefully leaving the ovaries so I wont need HRT). Both my sister (at age 32) and my sister-in-law had this done and they felt great after! My sister is now 53 and she looks and feels wonderful! I hope all goes well for you. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Hi Pam, Thanks so much for your thoughtful reply. It's really helped me to hear of other women's similar situations, and your symptoms certainly seem very much like mine. I know exactly what you are describing when you say that you feel bloated and that you can't bend at the waist easily. I even noticed the other evening when I went to stand up from a chair that I felt as though I couldn't bend forward to stand up very easily. It made me feel like I was 80 years old. And all my life I've been very tall, athletic and somewhat slim and healthy. I just hate how this feels, and I've begun to feel like my uterus is my enemy...even though I know that's not rational. All the different methods are so confusing. Perhaps you've noticed that most of the messages seem to stress avoiding a hysterectomy at all costs, but I also have a few friends and my mother, who had absolutely no problem after their uterus was removed, felt fantastic and have been pushing me to just do it. I'm sure there are women who have bad experiences, moods etc.... after hysterectomy, but I haven't met them. I'm grateful to hear some of the different experiences within this website so I know what questions to ask the doctor. After I hear the test results from my doctor and have my exact diagnosis, I'll be better able to know my options. Right now I'm praying that it's nothing more serious than a fibroid, and I think I'll be relieved to hear that it's nothing life-threatening. I feel much more prepared now to make decisions thanks to the information within this website, the books I've picked up recently, and kind people such as yourself. The information available has been a tremendous help and I can't say enough about them. Take care and stay in touch, Tricia Re: Frustrated Hi Tricia I am new to this so I am not sure that I am " responding " properly I am 45 (soon to be 46) and I was told almost 3 years ago that I had a large fibroid. I have had symptons very similar to yours...Very heavy bleeding (sometimes for 2 weeks or more), low backaches, etc. I am also feeling a " tight, cramped " feeling under my left breast area. I attributed it to the fact that the fibroid is growing. I have an appointment on the 27th of this month with a new gyn, (due to the fact that my insurance wont cover the gyn I wanted). When this all started 3 yrs ago, I thought I was beginning menopause. I had bloodwork done that showed it wasn't the case. The dr then sent me for a uterine ultrasound that showed the fibroid. My doctor had a difficult time doing a pap test on me due to the fact that my uteris is tipped and she couldnt " reach " the cervix very well. I didnt go back for the 3rd follow up, but now the symptoms have increased. I hate the feeling of being bloated! It feels alot like being pregnant, when you cant easily bend at the waist because there is something there! I also find myself sitting " erect " to ease the pressure off my rib area. If all goes well at my gyn appointment, I am thinking of just going with the hysterectomy (and hopefully leaving the ovaries so I wont need HRT). Both my sister (at age 32) and my sister-in-law had this done and they felt great after! My sister is now 53 and she looks and feels wonderful! I hope all goes well for you. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2001 Report Share Posted June 4, 2001 Tricia, Yes, all the different methods are confusing at first, but choose one method at a time (like UAE) and get to know what that is, then get to know another. It's important we know our options. I also know women who are fine even though they've had a hysterectomy, but I also know some who are not (in fact, very much not-just spoke to one yesterday who is extremely unwell). My two major concerns and reasons for not getting a hysterectomy are how would someone know which category they'd be in? - would they'd be fine or always have health issues from an operation which is now irresversible. It's taking a gamble. The other question is how will it affect these women down the road (eg increases rate of osteoporosis? etc). If the hormones are thrown off it can lead to a whole host of immune disorders. There's a website listing health issues arising from hysterectomies, anyone know where that is? You might have a better chance of it going well since your mom's went ok, but for me there are too many risks with the otcomes too extreme gamble with. Even if only the uterus is removed, you probably read here that it's possible for some women's ovaries to just shrink up and die after the uterus is out , then that would have greater consequences. In the end, I feel I was designed with a uterus for more reasons than having a baby, I don't think it's up to me to mess with the design of the human body. If there is a growth, I'll get rid of the growth not what surrounds or neighbours it. I would only go further if absolutely necessary. If I had something on my baby toe or my ear lobe, I'd try to get the growth removed and not the whole toe or ear lobe. In men with prostrate cancer, the extra effort is put in so only the diseased part is removed - they're not castrated simply because there are other parts attached to it - hmmm. Elyse Re: Frustrated Hi Tricia I am new to this so I am not sure that I am " responding " properly I am 45 (soon to be 46) and I was told almost 3 years ago that I had a large fibroid. I have had symptons very similar to yours...Very heavy bleeding (sometimes for 2 weeks or more), low backaches, etc. I am also feeling a " tight, cramped " feeling under my left breast area. I attributed it to the fact that the fibroid is growing. I have an appointment on the 27th of this month with a new gyn, (due to the fact that my insurance wont cover the gyn I wanted). When this all started 3 yrs ago, I thought I was beginning menopause. I had bloodwork done that showed it wasn't the case. The dr then sent me for a uterine ultrasound that showed the fibroid. My doctor had a difficult time doing a pap test on me due to the fact that my uteris is tipped and she couldnt " reach " the cervix very well. I didnt go back for the 3rd follow up, but now the symptoms have increased. I hate the feeling of being bloated! It feels alot like being pregnant, when you cant easily bend at the waist because there is something there! I also find myself sitting " erect " to ease the pressure off my rib area. If all goes well at my gyn appointment, I am thinking of just going with the hysterectomy (and hopefully leaving the ovaries so I wont need HRT). Both my sister (at age 32) and my sister-in-law had this done and they felt great after! My sister is now 53 and she looks and feels wonderful! I hope all goes well for you. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2001 Report Share Posted June 4, 2001 Dear tricia, Hang in there. You may be suprised about your job situation. I was only at my job for a year when I needed surgery. I had the same feeling that you do. As it turned out, everyone was very understanding and supportive. They even sent me flowers at the hospital. It was a bit of an inconvenience for them because of the lost time. I was able to go back to work in two weeks and it all worked out just fine. Tish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2001 Report Share Posted June 4, 2001 I wanted to add to my last post, that I understand that at times a hysterectomy may be necessary, and/or if it's the woman's choice then it's her choice. I'm just frustrated myself also at how quickly doctor's suggest it, without a second thought.. Would you believe - and this a TRUE story - a friend of mine had to go into the hospital to get a few stitches because of a tear in her vagina that occurred during the birth of her daughter. The surgeon said " why not clean everything up while we're down there " ... " clean " everything up! Was he implying there was something dirty or wrong? There was no other reason offered except that they would be in the general vicinity. He gave her such a good sales pitch that she actually considered it, but didn't do it. Elyse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2001 Report Share Posted June 4, 2001 I wanted to add to my last post, that I understand that at times a hysterectomy may be necessary, and/or if it's the woman's choice then it's her choice. I'm just frustrated myself also at how quickly doctor's suggest it, without a second thought.. Would you believe - and this a TRUE story - a friend of mine had to go into the hospital to get a few stitches because of a tear in her vagina that occurred during the birth of her daughter. The surgeon said " why not clean everything up while we're down there " ... " clean " everything up! Was he implying there was something dirty or wrong? There was no other reason offered except that they would be in the general vicinity. He gave her such a good sales pitch that she actually considered it, but didn't do it. Elyse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2001 Report Share Posted June 4, 2001 I wanted to add to my last post, that I understand that at times a hysterectomy may be necessary, and/or if it's the woman's choice then it's her choice. I'm just frustrated myself also at how quickly doctor's suggest it, without a second thought.. Would you believe - and this a TRUE story - a friend of mine had to go into the hospital to get a few stitches because of a tear in her vagina that occurred during the birth of her daughter. The surgeon said " why not clean everything up while we're down there " ... " clean " everything up! Was he implying there was something dirty or wrong? There was no other reason offered except that they would be in the general vicinity. He gave her such a good sales pitch that she actually considered it, but didn't do it. Elyse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2001 Report Share Posted June 4, 2001 These are all such interesting points. I think in a lot of cases, we as women sometimes perpetuate this myth because we've been told it for so many years, by not only doctors but by our mothers and other women as well. At work today, another women approximately my age......late 40's, told me she had been experiencing constant bleeding and had to have 3 D & C's. She told me she was begging the doctor to just " take the stupid thing out " .....but her doctor refused. She said her mother and sisters had all had hysterectomies.....and she told her doctor that's " just what happens in her family to all the women " . She said it was genetic. But then she also told me that the 3rd D & C finally was successful and she's had no problems since then. My uterus is causing me so much discomfort. I feel fat and bloated for the first time in my life. I'm cramping all the time, and all I want to do is cry. Sometimes the thought of going through one procedure after another trying to figure out which one is right......and fighting with my insurance company.....just doesn't seem worth it. If I was younger and hadn't had children, I would fight with every part of my being.....and see some meaning to it all. Right now, I can't imagine that I could feel worse. It's amazing to me that this organ which is so much a part of our womanhood causes us so many problems and discomfort as we get older. I've been so healthy all my life, that it's really hard for me to accept it. I still feel betrayed by my uterus. Why does it foster so many problems as we get older. Nothing else on our body behaves the same way. An analogy that was made to me actually was a good one... " if I had a sore on my toe, would I want my toe cut off " .....and I understand that. But it almost seems for so many woman, that our uterus is ongoing problems.....bleeding endlessly, bloating, pain, etc.....not just one sore that heals. I've grown to hate it. Please don't misunderstand. I think I'm close to my period, and I just feel really weepy and frustrated. I know I'm in for a week or two of heavy bleeding ahead, and I'm overheating to fill the void.....making my insides feel three times as compressed. It just feels good to be able to vent. I sincerely appreciate and respect your thoughts as well. Thanks, Tricia Re: Re: Frustrated I wanted to add to my last post, that I understand that at times a hysterectomy may be necessary, and/or if it's the woman's choice then it's her choice. I'm just frustrated myself also at how quickly doctor's suggest it, without a second thought.. Would you believe - and this a TRUE story - a friend of mine had to go into the hospital to get a few stitches because of a tear in her vagina that occurred during the birth of her daughter. The surgeon said " why not clean everything up while we're down there " ... " clean " everything up! Was he implying there was something dirty or wrong? There was no other reason offered except that they would be in the general vicinity. He gave her such a good sales pitch that she actually considered it, but didn't do it. Elyse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2001 Report Share Posted June 4, 2001 These are all such interesting points. I think in a lot of cases, we as women sometimes perpetuate this myth because we've been told it for so many years, by not only doctors but by our mothers and other women as well. At work today, another women approximately my age......late 40's, told me she had been experiencing constant bleeding and had to have 3 D & C's. She told me she was begging the doctor to just " take the stupid thing out " .....but her doctor refused. She said her mother and sisters had all had hysterectomies.....and she told her doctor that's " just what happens in her family to all the women " . She said it was genetic. But then she also told me that the 3rd D & C finally was successful and she's had no problems since then. My uterus is causing me so much discomfort. I feel fat and bloated for the first time in my life. I'm cramping all the time, and all I want to do is cry. Sometimes the thought of going through one procedure after another trying to figure out which one is right......and fighting with my insurance company.....just doesn't seem worth it. If I was younger and hadn't had children, I would fight with every part of my being.....and see some meaning to it all. Right now, I can't imagine that I could feel worse. It's amazing to me that this organ which is so much a part of our womanhood causes us so many problems and discomfort as we get older. I've been so healthy all my life, that it's really hard for me to accept it. I still feel betrayed by my uterus. Why does it foster so many problems as we get older. Nothing else on our body behaves the same way. An analogy that was made to me actually was a good one... " if I had a sore on my toe, would I want my toe cut off " .....and I understand that. But it almost seems for so many woman, that our uterus is ongoing problems.....bleeding endlessly, bloating, pain, etc.....not just one sore that heals. I've grown to hate it. Please don't misunderstand. I think I'm close to my period, and I just feel really weepy and frustrated. I know I'm in for a week or two of heavy bleeding ahead, and I'm overheating to fill the void.....making my insides feel three times as compressed. It just feels good to be able to vent. I sincerely appreciate and respect your thoughts as well. Thanks, Tricia Re: Re: Frustrated I wanted to add to my last post, that I understand that at times a hysterectomy may be necessary, and/or if it's the woman's choice then it's her choice. I'm just frustrated myself also at how quickly doctor's suggest it, without a second thought.. Would you believe - and this a TRUE story - a friend of mine had to go into the hospital to get a few stitches because of a tear in her vagina that occurred during the birth of her daughter. The surgeon said " why not clean everything up while we're down there " ... " clean " everything up! Was he implying there was something dirty or wrong? There was no other reason offered except that they would be in the general vicinity. He gave her such a good sales pitch that she actually considered it, but didn't do it. Elyse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2001 Report Share Posted June 4, 2001 Thanks for your comments. I really appreciate it. Tricia Re: Frustrated Dear tricia, Hang in there. You may be suprised about your job situation. I was only at my job for a year when I needed surgery. I had the same feeling that you do. As it turned out, everyone was very understanding and supportive. They even sent me flowers at the hospital. It was a bit of an inconvenience for them because of the lost time. I was able to go back to work in two weeks and it all worked out just fine. Tish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2001 Report Share Posted June 5, 2001 Dear Tricia, We all need to vent every now and then. We all have our low or weak moments every now and then as well. I hope you know that this is the perfect place to vent. Sometimes during these frustrating, weird hormonal imbalances we get so irritated or depressed. I do not know whether sometimes if I should yell and scream, kick and throw things or sit down, curl up like a baby, and cry and cry till I can't cry anymore like I sometimes want to. I know that at these time I am not thinking straight. I am sure that the ladies on this site understand this and they understand that we may say things at these times that we might not otherwise say. What ever is written is not intended to offend in anyway. Sometime though something gets posted that can seem offensive if misinterpreted. Just give the writer the benefit of the doubt and know that it was not a personal attack. Many women for various reasons feel very strongly about keeping their uteruses. Sometimes it may seem that this group is all anti-hyst. Maybe for the most part it is. But this does not mean that we are anti-hyst-patients. If you have had or are thinking of having a hyst you are still welcomed in this group. Hyst is a viable medical procedure that is an option like all the others discussed here for the treatment of fibroids. Like all the other options though it should not be entered into lightly or blindly. You have a right to know what to expect after what ever procedure you decide to do. You have a right to make an educated and informed decision as to which procedure to use if any. You have a right to even KNOW that there are options. I think what many women are upset about is the fact that most women are not given a choice at all. If I had not taken it upon myself to research fibroids and their treatment, I would not know that I don't have to have a hyst. It is not the only option but it is quite often the only option women are given. It isn't right or fair. We all have a right to make a choice that will affect the quality of our lives for the rest of our lives. It is unfortunate and quite sad really that many women are not given that right. You have the right to choose hyst as treatment for fibroids. If you do, please know that the women of this group will still support you and still wish you all the best. Perhaps, I should not write as though I represent the group. I do not. But from what I know of this group and their open caring nature, I doubt if anyone would disagree. If I am wrong then I must apologize. I am on, what I hope will be, my last period from hell right now. (I am having UAE on Thursday.) When I am feeling more " normal " and I am thinking more clear, I realize that it would be unwise to make a decision at my low times that will effect me and my family for the rest of our lives. I try to make a decision as important as this on one of my stronger more normal days. Perhaps, you should wait a day or two before making a decision as well. Take the time to gather as much info as you can about fibroids in general an which ever procedure you may be considering. Learn the risks, symptoms, and consequences of each of them. You should know the positive and negative of each of the procedures and then and only then can you make an informed decision. I hope this helps. If nothing else, you should know that you are not alone. You do have a place where it is okay to vent. I apologize if I have written anything anyone does not agree with, but these are my opinions and I have a right to them. I wish everyone luck with which ever path they choose. May you enjoy your journey to better health. Sincerely, Ruth Ann ******** --- tricia wrote: > These are all such interesting points. I think in a lot of cases, we as > women sometimes perpetuate this myth because we've been told it for so > many years, by not only doctors but by our mothers and other women as > well. > > At work today, another women approximately my age......late 40's, told > me she had been experiencing constant bleeding and had to have 3 D & C's. > She told me she was begging the doctor to just " take the stupid thing > out " .....but her doctor refused. She said her mother and sisters had > all had hysterectomies.....and she told her doctor that's " just what > happens in her family to all the women " . She said it was genetic. But > then she also told me that the 3rd D & C finally was successful and she's > had no problems since then. > > My uterus is causing me so much discomfort. I feel fat and bloated for > the first time in my life. I'm cramping all the time, and all I want to > do is cry. Sometimes the thought of going through one procedure after > another trying to figure out which one is right......and fighting with > my insurance company.....just doesn't seem worth it. If I was younger > and hadn't had children, I would fight with every part of my > being.....and see some meaning to it all. Right now, I can't imagine > that I could feel worse. > > It's amazing to me that this organ which is so much a part of our > womanhood causes us so many problems and discomfort as we get older. > I've been so healthy all my life, that it's really hard for me to accept > it. I still feel betrayed by my uterus. Why does it foster so many > problems as we get older. Nothing else on our body behaves the same > way. An analogy that was made to me actually was a good one... " if I had > a sore on my toe, would I want my toe cut off " .....and I understand > that. But it almost seems for so many woman, that our uterus is ongoing > problems.....bleeding endlessly, bloating, pain, etc.....not just one > sore that heals. I've grown to hate it. > > Please don't misunderstand. I think I'm close to my period, and I just > feel really weepy and frustrated. I know I'm in for a week or two of > heavy bleeding ahead, and I'm overheating to fill the void.....making my > insides feel three times as compressed. > > It just feels good to be able to vent. I sincerely appreciate and > respect your thoughts as well. > > Thanks, > > Tricia > Re: Re: Frustrated > > > I wanted to add to my last post, that I understand that at times a > hysterectomy may be necessary, and/or if it's the woman's choice then > it's her choice. I'm just frustrated myself also at how quickly > doctor's suggest it, without a second thought.. > > Would you believe - and this a TRUE story - a friend of mine had to go > into the hospital to get a few stitches because of a tear in her vagina > that occurred during the birth of her daughter. The surgeon said " why > not clean everything up while we're down there " ... " clean " > everything up! Was he implying there was something dirty or wrong? > There was no other reason offered except that they would be in the > general vicinity. He gave her such a good sales pitch that she actually > considered it, but didn't do it. > > Elyse > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2001 Report Share Posted June 5, 2001 Ruth Ann, that was a very nice post you sent. I'll just chime in my support to say that if a woman choses hysterectomy I definitely would not judge her, it's a hard choice to make and we must all respect that she went through that. Obviously, it's not something that's done on a whim, and the woman went through a lot emotionally, mentally, and physically to get to that point. As you say, many women stress learning about alternatives because so many are pushed and scared into hyst without being told other options. I'm of the group who will go to all costs to avoid it, just the prospect scares me to death, and I don't believe it's the right thing for my body. I'm currently in a position where even surgeons who do myomectomies say they might have to take the uterus. They can't tell from the ultrasound where it is, so they don't know the outcome. I can't get an answer from anyone wether an MRI would give us a better picture. Elyse Re: Re: Frustrated Dear Tricia, We all need to vent every now and then. We all have our low or weak moments every now and then as well. I hope you know that this is the perfect place to vent. Sometimes during these frustrating, weird hormonal imbalances we get so irritated or depressed. I do not know whether sometimes if I should yell and scream, kick and throw things or sit down, curl up like a baby, and cry and cry till I can't cry anymore like I sometimes want to. I know that at these time I am not thinking straight. I am sure that the ladies on this site understand this and they understand that we may say things at these times that we might not otherwise say. What ever is written is not intended to offend in anyway. Sometime though something gets posted that can seem offensive if misinterpreted. Just give the writer the benefit of the doubt and know that it was not a personal attack. Many women for various reasons feel very strongly about keeping their uteruses. Sometimes it may seem that this group is all anti-hyst. Maybe for the most part it is. But this does not mean that we are anti-hyst-patients. If you have had or are thinking of having a hyst you are still welcomed in this group. Hyst is a viable medical procedure that is an option like all the others discussed here for the treatment of fibroids. Like all the other options though it should not be entered into lightly or blindly. You have a right to know what to expect after what ever procedure you decide to do. You have a right to make an educated and informed decision as to which procedure to use if any. You have a right to even KNOW that there are options. I think what many women are upset about is the fact that most women are not given a choice at all. If I had not taken it upon myself to research fibroids and their treatment, I would not know that I don't have to have a hyst. It is not the only option but it is quite often the only option women are given. It isn't right or fair. We all have a right to make a choice that will affect the quality of our lives for the rest of our lives. It is unfortunate and quite sad really that many women are not given that right. You have the right to choose hyst as treatment for fibroids. If you do, please know that the women of this group will still support you and still wish you all the best. Perhaps, I should not write as though I represent the group. I do not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2001 Report Share Posted June 5, 2001 Ruth Ann, that was a very nice post you sent. I'll just chime in my support to say that if a woman choses hysterectomy I definitely would not judge her, it's a hard choice to make and we must all respect that she went through that. Obviously, it's not something that's done on a whim, and the woman went through a lot emotionally, mentally, and physically to get to that point. As you say, many women stress learning about alternatives because so many are pushed and scared into hyst without being told other options. I'm of the group who will go to all costs to avoid it, just the prospect scares me to death, and I don't believe it's the right thing for my body. I'm currently in a position where even surgeons who do myomectomies say they might have to take the uterus. They can't tell from the ultrasound where it is, so they don't know the outcome. I can't get an answer from anyone wether an MRI would give us a better picture. Elyse Re: Re: Frustrated Dear Tricia, We all need to vent every now and then. We all have our low or weak moments every now and then as well. I hope you know that this is the perfect place to vent. Sometimes during these frustrating, weird hormonal imbalances we get so irritated or depressed. I do not know whether sometimes if I should yell and scream, kick and throw things or sit down, curl up like a baby, and cry and cry till I can't cry anymore like I sometimes want to. I know that at these time I am not thinking straight. I am sure that the ladies on this site understand this and they understand that we may say things at these times that we might not otherwise say. What ever is written is not intended to offend in anyway. Sometime though something gets posted that can seem offensive if misinterpreted. Just give the writer the benefit of the doubt and know that it was not a personal attack. Many women for various reasons feel very strongly about keeping their uteruses. Sometimes it may seem that this group is all anti-hyst. Maybe for the most part it is. But this does not mean that we are anti-hyst-patients. If you have had or are thinking of having a hyst you are still welcomed in this group. Hyst is a viable medical procedure that is an option like all the others discussed here for the treatment of fibroids. Like all the other options though it should not be entered into lightly or blindly. You have a right to know what to expect after what ever procedure you decide to do. You have a right to make an educated and informed decision as to which procedure to use if any. You have a right to even KNOW that there are options. I think what many women are upset about is the fact that most women are not given a choice at all. If I had not taken it upon myself to research fibroids and their treatment, I would not know that I don't have to have a hyst. It is not the only option but it is quite often the only option women are given. It isn't right or fair. We all have a right to make a choice that will affect the quality of our lives for the rest of our lives. It is unfortunate and quite sad really that many women are not given that right. You have the right to choose hyst as treatment for fibroids. If you do, please know that the women of this group will still support you and still wish you all the best. Perhaps, I should not write as though I represent the group. I do not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2001 Report Share Posted June 5, 2001 Ruth Ann, that was a very nice post you sent. I'll just chime in my support to say that if a woman choses hysterectomy I definitely would not judge her, it's a hard choice to make and we must all respect that she went through that. Obviously, it's not something that's done on a whim, and the woman went through a lot emotionally, mentally, and physically to get to that point. As you say, many women stress learning about alternatives because so many are pushed and scared into hyst without being told other options. I'm of the group who will go to all costs to avoid it, just the prospect scares me to death, and I don't believe it's the right thing for my body. I'm currently in a position where even surgeons who do myomectomies say they might have to take the uterus. They can't tell from the ultrasound where it is, so they don't know the outcome. I can't get an answer from anyone wether an MRI would give us a better picture. Elyse Re: Re: Frustrated Dear Tricia, We all need to vent every now and then. We all have our low or weak moments every now and then as well. I hope you know that this is the perfect place to vent. Sometimes during these frustrating, weird hormonal imbalances we get so irritated or depressed. I do not know whether sometimes if I should yell and scream, kick and throw things or sit down, curl up like a baby, and cry and cry till I can't cry anymore like I sometimes want to. I know that at these time I am not thinking straight. I am sure that the ladies on this site understand this and they understand that we may say things at these times that we might not otherwise say. What ever is written is not intended to offend in anyway. Sometime though something gets posted that can seem offensive if misinterpreted. Just give the writer the benefit of the doubt and know that it was not a personal attack. Many women for various reasons feel very strongly about keeping their uteruses. Sometimes it may seem that this group is all anti-hyst. Maybe for the most part it is. But this does not mean that we are anti-hyst-patients. If you have had or are thinking of having a hyst you are still welcomed in this group. Hyst is a viable medical procedure that is an option like all the others discussed here for the treatment of fibroids. Like all the other options though it should not be entered into lightly or blindly. You have a right to know what to expect after what ever procedure you decide to do. You have a right to make an educated and informed decision as to which procedure to use if any. You have a right to even KNOW that there are options. I think what many women are upset about is the fact that most women are not given a choice at all. If I had not taken it upon myself to research fibroids and their treatment, I would not know that I don't have to have a hyst. It is not the only option but it is quite often the only option women are given. It isn't right or fair. We all have a right to make a choice that will affect the quality of our lives for the rest of our lives. It is unfortunate and quite sad really that many women are not given that right. You have the right to choose hyst as treatment for fibroids. If you do, please know that the women of this group will still support you and still wish you all the best. Perhaps, I should not write as though I represent the group. I do not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2001 Report Share Posted June 5, 2001 Hello, Actually, it made me feel much better to read this email when I arrived home from work. I was in such a low mood last night, and all I wanted to do is cry. I was just so angry and feeling like my body and my womanhood had become an enemy.....after so many years of feeling like a beautiful, sexual, womanly mother and lover. Normally, I am a very positive person.....with an extremely positive attitude. I was looking so forward to my menopause years.....and no more periods. I had just never planned on this excessive bleeding and bloating and pain at this time in my life. It's not fun. I appreciate your comments, because I was truly hurt by the response I received....which I read upon waking this morning. I thought about it a lot at work today, because I felt that perhaps I didn't belong here, and should unsuscribe. I have never been very accepting of people who are self-righteous or judgemental, especially when they use God as a support for their argument which was hinted in the message. I did feel as though.....should I decide to have a hysterectomy (which by the way, I haven't made that decision yet) that I would have to wear a big red H on my chest to atone for the great sin of allowing one of my body parts to be removed....and that I would be the enemy of the women in this forum. I was very disheartened that instead of someone realizing that I was just feeling very sad last night......and understanding the emotion, my message prompted a condescending lecture. I think all I wanted was for someone to say..... " It's going to be alright.....and we understand " . If you've read any of my previous emails, I too have stated that this is an absolutely amazing forum and website. I truly believe it provides an invaluable informational and supportive service to women. I have been so impressed with the intelligence and sensitivity of the women in this group. I am grateful to the time that is devoted by Carla and others to inform and support women. Where would we be without women with that sort of conviction and determination? I can't imagine how terrifying this would be without people like that to help inform us. But through it all, this should never be a place where we are judged or condemned. We as women, in the past, have been guilty of undermining each other. Being competitive, rather than supportive. This shouldn't be a game or test to see who fights the hardest to keep their uterus. It should be a place to compare information, to discuss, to cry, to share, to vent, to be able to speak honestly but most importantly to support.....and then to be able to make the choice which is right for you as an individual with no embarrassment. As I said, I haven't made any decision yet. After all is said and done, I'm praying that menopause will come soon and I won't even have to have surgery. My insurance company lately has been so hard to work with and I dread the battles I might face if I chose something unconventional. I can't afford anything expensive. I don't have an ob-gyn yet, because I'm new to the area and have only been working with a family doctor. I know this just sounds like whining, but isn't it normal to want to feel good again? To not feel pain anymore? For me that's my first priority. To be happy again. My uterus is a part of me. But I'm still ME......whether I have a uterus or not. I appreciate the information on the websites that give further info on Hysterectomies. I will check those out. As I said, I've only met women who have had no problems. Perhaps I am uninformed.....and I appreciate the help in that area. Hang in there ladies.....<S>. And once again, thank you for your wonderful, positive support. I really do feel like everything will be alright. Regards, Tricia Re: Re: Frustrated Dear Tricia, We all need to vent every now and then. We all have our low or weak moments every now and then as well. I hope you know that this is the perfect place to vent. Sometimes during these frustrating, weird hormonal imbalances we get so irritated or depressed. I do not know whether sometimes if I should yell and scream, kick and throw things or sit down, curl up like a baby, and cry and cry till I can't cry anymore like I sometimes want to. I know that at these time I am not thinking straight. I am sure that the ladies on this site understand this and they understand that we may say things at these times that we might not otherwise say. What ever is written is not intended to offend in anyway. Sometime though something gets posted that can seem offensive if misinterpreted. Just give the writer the benefit of the doubt and know that it was not a personal attack. Many women for various reasons feel very strongly about keeping their uteruses. Sometimes it may seem that this group is all anti-hyst. Maybe for the most part it is. But this does not mean that we are anti-hyst-patients. If you have had or are thinking of having a hyst you are still welcomed in this group. Hyst is a viable medical procedure that is an option like all the others discussed here for the treatment of fibroids. Like all the other options though it should not be entered into lightly or blindly. You have a right to know what to expect after what ever procedure you decide to do. You have a right to make an educated and informed decision as to which procedure to use if any. You have a right to even KNOW that there are options. I think what many women are upset about is the fact that most women are not given a choice at all. If I had not taken it upon myself to research fibroids and their treatment, I would not know that I don't have to have a hyst. It is not the only option but it is quite often the only option women are given. It isn't right or fair. We all have a right to make a choice that will affect the quality of our lives for the rest of our lives. It is unfortunate and quite sad really that many women are not given that right. You have the right to choose hyst as treatment for fibroids. If you do, please know that the women of this group will still support you and still wish you all the best. Perhaps, I should not write as though I represent the group. I do not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2001 Report Share Posted June 5, 2001 Hello, Actually, it made me feel much better to read this email when I arrived home from work. I was in such a low mood last night, and all I wanted to do is cry. I was just so angry and feeling like my body and my womanhood had become an enemy.....after so many years of feeling like a beautiful, sexual, womanly mother and lover. Normally, I am a very positive person.....with an extremely positive attitude. I was looking so forward to my menopause years.....and no more periods. I had just never planned on this excessive bleeding and bloating and pain at this time in my life. It's not fun. I appreciate your comments, because I was truly hurt by the response I received....which I read upon waking this morning. I thought about it a lot at work today, because I felt that perhaps I didn't belong here, and should unsuscribe. I have never been very accepting of people who are self-righteous or judgemental, especially when they use God as a support for their argument which was hinted in the message. I did feel as though.....should I decide to have a hysterectomy (which by the way, I haven't made that decision yet) that I would have to wear a big red H on my chest to atone for the great sin of allowing one of my body parts to be removed....and that I would be the enemy of the women in this forum. I was very disheartened that instead of someone realizing that I was just feeling very sad last night......and understanding the emotion, my message prompted a condescending lecture. I think all I wanted was for someone to say..... " It's going to be alright.....and we understand " . If you've read any of my previous emails, I too have stated that this is an absolutely amazing forum and website. I truly believe it provides an invaluable informational and supportive service to women. I have been so impressed with the intelligence and sensitivity of the women in this group. I am grateful to the time that is devoted by Carla and others to inform and support women. Where would we be without women with that sort of conviction and determination? I can't imagine how terrifying this would be without people like that to help inform us. But through it all, this should never be a place where we are judged or condemned. We as women, in the past, have been guilty of undermining each other. Being competitive, rather than supportive. This shouldn't be a game or test to see who fights the hardest to keep their uterus. It should be a place to compare information, to discuss, to cry, to share, to vent, to be able to speak honestly but most importantly to support.....and then to be able to make the choice which is right for you as an individual with no embarrassment. As I said, I haven't made any decision yet. After all is said and done, I'm praying that menopause will come soon and I won't even have to have surgery. My insurance company lately has been so hard to work with and I dread the battles I might face if I chose something unconventional. I can't afford anything expensive. I don't have an ob-gyn yet, because I'm new to the area and have only been working with a family doctor. I know this just sounds like whining, but isn't it normal to want to feel good again? To not feel pain anymore? For me that's my first priority. To be happy again. My uterus is a part of me. But I'm still ME......whether I have a uterus or not. I appreciate the information on the websites that give further info on Hysterectomies. I will check those out. As I said, I've only met women who have had no problems. Perhaps I am uninformed.....and I appreciate the help in that area. Hang in there ladies.....<S>. And once again, thank you for your wonderful, positive support. I really do feel like everything will be alright. Regards, Tricia Re: Re: Frustrated Dear Tricia, We all need to vent every now and then. We all have our low or weak moments every now and then as well. I hope you know that this is the perfect place to vent. Sometimes during these frustrating, weird hormonal imbalances we get so irritated or depressed. I do not know whether sometimes if I should yell and scream, kick and throw things or sit down, curl up like a baby, and cry and cry till I can't cry anymore like I sometimes want to. I know that at these time I am not thinking straight. I am sure that the ladies on this site understand this and they understand that we may say things at these times that we might not otherwise say. What ever is written is not intended to offend in anyway. Sometime though something gets posted that can seem offensive if misinterpreted. Just give the writer the benefit of the doubt and know that it was not a personal attack. Many women for various reasons feel very strongly about keeping their uteruses. Sometimes it may seem that this group is all anti-hyst. Maybe for the most part it is. But this does not mean that we are anti-hyst-patients. If you have had or are thinking of having a hyst you are still welcomed in this group. Hyst is a viable medical procedure that is an option like all the others discussed here for the treatment of fibroids. Like all the other options though it should not be entered into lightly or blindly. You have a right to know what to expect after what ever procedure you decide to do. You have a right to make an educated and informed decision as to which procedure to use if any. You have a right to even KNOW that there are options. I think what many women are upset about is the fact that most women are not given a choice at all. If I had not taken it upon myself to research fibroids and their treatment, I would not know that I don't have to have a hyst. It is not the only option but it is quite often the only option women are given. It isn't right or fair. We all have a right to make a choice that will affect the quality of our lives for the rest of our lives. It is unfortunate and quite sad really that many women are not given that right. You have the right to choose hyst as treatment for fibroids. If you do, please know that the women of this group will still support you and still wish you all the best. Perhaps, I should not write as though I represent the group. I do not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2001 Report Share Posted June 5, 2001 Hello, Actually, it made me feel much better to read this email when I arrived home from work. I was in such a low mood last night, and all I wanted to do is cry. I was just so angry and feeling like my body and my womanhood had become an enemy.....after so many years of feeling like a beautiful, sexual, womanly mother and lover. Normally, I am a very positive person.....with an extremely positive attitude. I was looking so forward to my menopause years.....and no more periods. I had just never planned on this excessive bleeding and bloating and pain at this time in my life. It's not fun. I appreciate your comments, because I was truly hurt by the response I received....which I read upon waking this morning. I thought about it a lot at work today, because I felt that perhaps I didn't belong here, and should unsuscribe. I have never been very accepting of people who are self-righteous or judgemental, especially when they use God as a support for their argument which was hinted in the message. I did feel as though.....should I decide to have a hysterectomy (which by the way, I haven't made that decision yet) that I would have to wear a big red H on my chest to atone for the great sin of allowing one of my body parts to be removed....and that I would be the enemy of the women in this forum. I was very disheartened that instead of someone realizing that I was just feeling very sad last night......and understanding the emotion, my message prompted a condescending lecture. I think all I wanted was for someone to say..... " It's going to be alright.....and we understand " . If you've read any of my previous emails, I too have stated that this is an absolutely amazing forum and website. I truly believe it provides an invaluable informational and supportive service to women. I have been so impressed with the intelligence and sensitivity of the women in this group. I am grateful to the time that is devoted by Carla and others to inform and support women. Where would we be without women with that sort of conviction and determination? I can't imagine how terrifying this would be without people like that to help inform us. But through it all, this should never be a place where we are judged or condemned. We as women, in the past, have been guilty of undermining each other. Being competitive, rather than supportive. This shouldn't be a game or test to see who fights the hardest to keep their uterus. It should be a place to compare information, to discuss, to cry, to share, to vent, to be able to speak honestly but most importantly to support.....and then to be able to make the choice which is right for you as an individual with no embarrassment. As I said, I haven't made any decision yet. After all is said and done, I'm praying that menopause will come soon and I won't even have to have surgery. My insurance company lately has been so hard to work with and I dread the battles I might face if I chose something unconventional. I can't afford anything expensive. I don't have an ob-gyn yet, because I'm new to the area and have only been working with a family doctor. I know this just sounds like whining, but isn't it normal to want to feel good again? To not feel pain anymore? For me that's my first priority. To be happy again. My uterus is a part of me. But I'm still ME......whether I have a uterus or not. I appreciate the information on the websites that give further info on Hysterectomies. I will check those out. As I said, I've only met women who have had no problems. Perhaps I am uninformed.....and I appreciate the help in that area. Hang in there ladies.....<S>. And once again, thank you for your wonderful, positive support. I really do feel like everything will be alright. Regards, Tricia Re: Re: Frustrated Dear Tricia, We all need to vent every now and then. We all have our low or weak moments every now and then as well. I hope you know that this is the perfect place to vent. Sometimes during these frustrating, weird hormonal imbalances we get so irritated or depressed. I do not know whether sometimes if I should yell and scream, kick and throw things or sit down, curl up like a baby, and cry and cry till I can't cry anymore like I sometimes want to. I know that at these time I am not thinking straight. I am sure that the ladies on this site understand this and they understand that we may say things at these times that we might not otherwise say. What ever is written is not intended to offend in anyway. Sometime though something gets posted that can seem offensive if misinterpreted. Just give the writer the benefit of the doubt and know that it was not a personal attack. Many women for various reasons feel very strongly about keeping their uteruses. Sometimes it may seem that this group is all anti-hyst. Maybe for the most part it is. But this does not mean that we are anti-hyst-patients. If you have had or are thinking of having a hyst you are still welcomed in this group. Hyst is a viable medical procedure that is an option like all the others discussed here for the treatment of fibroids. Like all the other options though it should not be entered into lightly or blindly. You have a right to know what to expect after what ever procedure you decide to do. You have a right to make an educated and informed decision as to which procedure to use if any. You have a right to even KNOW that there are options. I think what many women are upset about is the fact that most women are not given a choice at all. If I had not taken it upon myself to research fibroids and their treatment, I would not know that I don't have to have a hyst. It is not the only option but it is quite often the only option women are given. It isn't right or fair. We all have a right to make a choice that will affect the quality of our lives for the rest of our lives. It is unfortunate and quite sad really that many women are not given that right. You have the right to choose hyst as treatment for fibroids. If you do, please know that the women of this group will still support you and still wish you all the best. Perhaps, I should not write as though I represent the group. I do not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2001 Report Share Posted June 6, 2001 Tricia, I am glad you understand. I am sorry about the negative feelings you were getting from some of the posts. Like I said before do not take it personally. Everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, though we may wish that they would voice it in a way that didn't sound so righteous or judgmental. I hope you will continue to educate yourself as to your options for treatment whether it be via this group or another route. I will be out of touch for a day or two after tomorrow, but I will be back after that. (Hopefully with good news to post.) I am hardly the most qualified or the most educated member of this group, but I would be glad to answer any questions you may have if I can. Please don't worry. I am sure that it will all be fine in the end and soon we will be back to our " normal " healthy, sexy selves. Take care and best wishes for better health! Sincerely, Ruth Ann ******** --- tricia wrote: > Hello, > > Actually, it made me feel much better to read this email when I arrived > home from work. I was in such a low mood last night, and all I wanted > to do is cry. I was just so angry and feeling like my body and my > womanhood had become an enemy.....after so many years of feeling like a > beautiful, sexual, womanly mother and lover. Normally, I am a very > positive person.....with an extremely positive attitude. I was looking > so forward to my menopause years.....and no more periods. I had just > never planned on this excessive bleeding and bloating and pain at this > time in my life. It's not fun. > > I appreciate your comments, because I was truly hurt by the response I > received....which I read upon waking this morning. I thought about it a > lot at work today, because I felt that perhaps I didn't belong here, and > should unsuscribe. I have never been very accepting of people who are > self-righteous or judgemental, especially when they use God as a support > for their argument which was hinted in the message. I did feel as > though.....should I decide to have a hysterectomy (which by the way, I > haven't made that decision yet) that I would have to wear a big red H on > my chest to atone for the great sin of allowing one of my body parts to > be removed....and that I would be the enemy of the women in this forum. > I was very disheartened that instead of someone realizing that I was > just feeling very sad last night......and understanding the emotion, my > message prompted a condescending lecture. I think all I wanted was for > someone to say..... " It's going to be alright.....and we understand " . > > If you've read any of my previous emails, I too have stated that this is > an absolutely amazing forum and website. I truly believe it provides an > invaluable informational and supportive service to women. I have been > so impressed with the intelligence and sensitivity of the women in this > group. I am grateful to the time that is devoted by Carla and others to > inform and support women. Where would we be without women with that > sort of conviction and determination? I can't imagine how terrifying > this would be without people like that to help inform us. But through > it all, this should never be a place where we are judged or condemned. > We as women, in the past, have been guilty of undermining each other. > Being competitive, rather than supportive. This shouldn't be a game or > test to see who fights the hardest to keep their uterus. It should be a > place to compare information, to discuss, to cry, to share, to vent, to > be able to speak honestly but most importantly to support.....and then > to be able to make the choice which is right for you as an individual > with no embarrassment. > > As I said, I haven't made any decision yet. After all is said and done, > I'm praying that menopause will come soon and I won't even have to have > surgery. My insurance company lately has been so hard to work with and > I dread the battles I might face if I chose something unconventional. I > can't afford anything expensive. I don't have an ob-gyn yet, because > I'm new to the area and have only been working with a family doctor. I > know this just sounds like whining, but isn't it normal to want to feel > good again? To not feel pain anymore? For me that's my first priority. > To be happy again. > > My uterus is a part of me. But I'm still ME......whether I have a > uterus or not. I appreciate the information on the websites that give > further info on Hysterectomies. I will check those out. As I said, > I've only met women who have had no problems. Perhaps I am > uninformed.....and I appreciate the help in that area. > > Hang in there ladies.....<S>. And once again, thank you for your > wonderful, positive support. I really do feel like everything will be > alright. > > Regards, > > Tricia __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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