Re: Re: Pregnancy and Fibroids

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In a message dated 02/15/2001 2:00:42 PM Eastern Standard Time,

TroublTime@... writes:

<< I am faced with a

myomectomy, a tubal reversal, hopefully getting pregnant, hopefully

carrying the baby to a safe term, having a c-section to deliver and

of course the fibroids will grow back so one day I will still have to

have a hysterctomy. I am an emotional wreck. Is there anyone who has

had to go through all of these things >>

First I would find a reporductive dr who will just aspirate your eggs. I

would not with today's technology have my tubes untied. They can aspirate

them right out of the ovary with you in the dr's office so they can be

fertilized and put back in you after they have fertilized. You still

ovulate, the eggs just cannot find their way to your uterus because your

tubes are tied.

Having the fibroids removed is major sugery. And yes they can grow back, see

a few drs and get a few opinions. My sister tells me the second c section

hurts less than the first and you recover faster. Also your baby will look

nicer and not be forced to be traumatized being squeezed through a vaginal

birth process.

[Guest guest]

I am sorry that you are going through so much, but it would help if you tried

to be a little more positive and focused on what you want. If you want a

child then go through the myomectomy and tubal ligation reversal. It will be

worth while if this is what you want.

Also, don't assume that fibroids will grow back. I had a myomectomy and my

doctor told me that there is a 20% chance of regrowth. Even if they grow

back, you don't necessarily have to have a hysterectomy. A friend of mine had

2 myomectomies.

Try to be positive as much as possible. You should also try talking to a

therapist, or getting in touch with your religious beliefs if any. If you are

not religious you should try some sort of meditation.

Good luck to you.

[Guest guest]

I have had a myomectomy, the fibroids grew back, got pregnant, carried the

baby to term, had a c-section and now am left to deal with fibroids again.

Although I did not deal with tubal reversal. Emotional wreck maybe we should

rename the group something to this affect.

If you have any concerns I may be able to help. I have not been on line in

past few days had to stay in bed due to more hemorraghing from fibroid.

Things seem to be settling down I hope.

Patty

[Guest guest]

I have had a myomectomy, the fibroids grew back, got pregnant, carried the

baby to term, had a c-section and now am left to deal with fibroids again.

Although I did not deal with tubal reversal. Emotional wreck maybe we should

rename the group something to this affect.

If you have any concerns I may be able to help. I have not been on line in

past few days had to stay in bed due to more hemorraghing from fibroid.

Things seem to be settling down I hope.

Patty

[Guest guest]

what can your new husband possibly be thinking of? I would never go through

those mechanizations of

trying to conceive for any man, nor make the changes to my current life and job

and children, and

body for any man, much less for one who would not do the same for me. that's

prob why I am still

single. been there, learned that. gg

TroublTime@... wrote:

>

> >First I would find a reporductive dr who will just aspirate your

> >eggs. I would not with today's technology have my tubes untied.

> >Having the fibroids removed is major sugery. And yes they can grow

> >back, see a few drs and get a few opinions. My sister tells me the

> >second c section hurts less than the first and you recover faster.

> >Also your baby will look nicer and not be forced to be traumatized

> >being squeezed through a vaginal birth process.

>

> I have an excellent reproductive Doctor. My fibroid has to be

> removed because of the location. I don't have enough uterus

> available to carry a child to a safe term. To clear things up, I

> already have two children, 17 and 14, and I had easy vaginal births

> with both of them. My new husband has no children. I am also a

> childcare provider and I will probably be out of a job because of all

> the time I will have to take off. I have a lot of families that rely

> on me to take care of their kids. So, I guess this is something that

> my husband wants more than I do, which makes it a very difficult

> decision. I asked him if he would have all of these surgeries and

> lose his job to have a child of his own and he said " no " . I just

> want to live a full, active and healthy life. I have two children

> that still need me and I need to take care of myself first. Just

> trying to do what is best for everyone. Sorry about the rambling, I

> have a lot of thoughts in my head. Kristy

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Boy, this all sure is confusing. My DR says not to have surgery, as it

could weaken the uterus wall. Yours says the fibroids could weaken it, so

you should have surgery. Perhaps the location of the fibroids is the

issue?

Anyone have insight?

TroublTime@... on 02/15/2001 12:57:23 PM

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> I have several large fibroids, and my doctor is recommending I have

> children within the year, as I'm 36. Are there any procedures you'd

> recommend to remove the fibroids, that wouldn't increase risks of

> pregnancy?

I am new here and I am also facing the " what to do " when you have

fibroids and want to get pregnant. I am 36 and have one large

fibroid that is taking up much of my uterus. My uterus is enlarged

and I don't know how weak my uterine wall is. I also have my tubes

tied. My reprodutive surgeon told me that before I can have my tubes

reversed, I have to have the fibroid removed because it is in a spot

that will probably prevent me from getting pregnant and the chances

of carrying the baby full term are slim. He is also worried that my

uterus will ruture during labor from being to weak. I have a surgery

date set in April to either do a myomectomy or a hysterectomy. I am

not sure if I want to go through 4 surgeries. I am faced with a

myomectomy, a tubal reversal, hopefully getting pregnant, hopefully

carrying the baby to a safe term, having a c-section to deliver and

of course the fibroids will grow back so one day I will still have to

have a hysterctomy. I am an emotional wreck. Is there anyone who has

had to go through all of these things and still lives a healthy life

and had a healthy baby? I think it might be too much for my body to

go through.

[Guest guest]

Boy, this all sure is confusing. My DR says not to have surgery, as it

could weaken the uterus wall. Yours says the fibroids could weaken it, so

you should have surgery. Perhaps the location of the fibroids is the

issue?

Anyone have insight?

TroublTime@... on 02/15/2001 12:57:23 PM

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> I have several large fibroids, and my doctor is recommending I have

> children within the year, as I'm 36. Are there any procedures you'd

> recommend to remove the fibroids, that wouldn't increase risks of

> pregnancy?

I am new here and I am also facing the " what to do " when you have

fibroids and want to get pregnant. I am 36 and have one large

fibroid that is taking up much of my uterus. My uterus is enlarged

and I don't know how weak my uterine wall is. I also have my tubes

tied. My reprodutive surgeon told me that before I can have my tubes

reversed, I have to have the fibroid removed because it is in a spot

that will probably prevent me from getting pregnant and the chances

of carrying the baby full term are slim. He is also worried that my

uterus will ruture during labor from being to weak. I have a surgery

date set in April to either do a myomectomy or a hysterectomy. I am

not sure if I want to go through 4 surgeries. I am faced with a

myomectomy, a tubal reversal, hopefully getting pregnant, hopefully

carrying the baby to a safe term, having a c-section to deliver and

of course the fibroids will grow back so one day I will still have to

have a hysterctomy. I am an emotional wreck. Is there anyone who has

had to go through all of these things and still lives a healthy life

and had a healthy baby? I think it might be too much for my body to

go through.

[Guest guest]

Boy, this all sure is confusing. My DR says not to have surgery, as it

could weaken the uterus wall. Yours says the fibroids could weaken it, so

you should have surgery. Perhaps the location of the fibroids is the

issue?

Anyone have insight?

TroublTime@... on 02/15/2001 12:57:23 PM

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Subject: Re: Pregnancy and Fibroids

> I have several large fibroids, and my doctor is recommending I have

> children within the year, as I'm 36. Are there any procedures you'd

> recommend to remove the fibroids, that wouldn't increase risks of

> pregnancy?

I am new here and I am also facing the " what to do " when you have

fibroids and want to get pregnant. I am 36 and have one large

fibroid that is taking up much of my uterus. My uterus is enlarged

and I don't know how weak my uterine wall is. I also have my tubes

tied. My reprodutive surgeon told me that before I can have my tubes

reversed, I have to have the fibroid removed because it is in a spot

that will probably prevent me from getting pregnant and the chances

of carrying the baby full term are slim. He is also worried that my

uterus will ruture during labor from being to weak. I have a surgery

date set in April to either do a myomectomy or a hysterectomy. I am

not sure if I want to go through 4 surgeries. I am faced with a

myomectomy, a tubal reversal, hopefully getting pregnant, hopefully

carrying the baby to a safe term, having a c-section to deliver and

of course the fibroids will grow back so one day I will still have to

have a hysterctomy. I am an emotional wreck. Is there anyone who has

had to go through all of these things and still lives a healthy life

and had a healthy baby? I think it might be too much for my body to

go through.

[Guest guest]

Those are all good ideas. Let me add a bit more. It is helpful to be

positive, yet at the same time, you are entitled to your feelings. If you

need to be sad and a wreck, to process this, that is OK. Dealing with all

these health challenges is like the grief cycle. I certainly understand

your fear. Let that guide you to some care for yourself. Friends,

therapy, faith. All are wonderful and helpful. And also just respecting

where you are in this process is important.

God bless

margaretleo@... on 02/15/2001 07:56:38 PM

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I am sorry that you are going through so much, but it would help if you

tried

to be a little more positive and focused on what you want. If you want a

child then go through the myomectomy and tubal ligation reversal. It will

be

worth while if this is what you want.

Also, don't assume that fibroids will grow back. I had a myomectomy and my

doctor told me that there is a 20% chance of regrowth. Even if they grow

back, you don't necessarily have to have a hysterectomy. A friend of mine

had

2 myomectomies.

Try to be positive as much as possible. You should also try talking to a

therapist, or getting in touch with your religious beliefs if any. If you

are

not religious you should try some sort of meditation.

Good luck to you.

[Guest guest]

Those are all good ideas. Let me add a bit more. It is helpful to be

positive, yet at the same time, you are entitled to your feelings. If you

need to be sad and a wreck, to process this, that is OK. Dealing with all

these health challenges is like the grief cycle. I certainly understand

your fear. Let that guide you to some care for yourself. Friends,

therapy, faith. All are wonderful and helpful. And also just respecting

where you are in this process is important.

God bless

margaretleo@... on 02/15/2001 07:56:38 PM

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I am sorry that you are going through so much, but it would help if you

tried

to be a little more positive and focused on what you want. If you want a

child then go through the myomectomy and tubal ligation reversal. It will

be

worth while if this is what you want.

Also, don't assume that fibroids will grow back. I had a myomectomy and my

doctor told me that there is a 20% chance of regrowth. Even if they grow

back, you don't necessarily have to have a hysterectomy. A friend of mine

had

2 myomectomies.

Try to be positive as much as possible. You should also try talking to a

therapist, or getting in touch with your religious beliefs if any. If you

are

not religious you should try some sort of meditation.

Good luck to you.

[Guest guest]

Those are all good ideas. Let me add a bit more. It is helpful to be

positive, yet at the same time, you are entitled to your feelings. If you

need to be sad and a wreck, to process this, that is OK. Dealing with all

these health challenges is like the grief cycle. I certainly understand

your fear. Let that guide you to some care for yourself. Friends,

therapy, faith. All are wonderful and helpful. And also just respecting

where you are in this process is important.

God bless

margaretleo@... on 02/15/2001 07:56:38 PM

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Subject: Re: Re: Pregnancy and Fibroids

I am sorry that you are going through so much, but it would help if you

tried

to be a little more positive and focused on what you want. If you want a

child then go through the myomectomy and tubal ligation reversal. It will

be

worth while if this is what you want.

Also, don't assume that fibroids will grow back. I had a myomectomy and my

doctor told me that there is a 20% chance of regrowth. Even if they grow

back, you don't necessarily have to have a hysterectomy. A friend of mine

had

2 myomectomies.

Try to be positive as much as possible. You should also try talking to a

therapist, or getting in touch with your religious beliefs if any. If you

are

not religious you should try some sort of meditation.

Good luck to you.

[Guest guest]

Ditto, darling. I think the best path is to do what's best for YOU. my

fiancee' and i have talked about this very thing. he absolutely wants

what's best for ME first, and if it means not having children, even tho he

would like them, he does not want me to sacrifice health or anything for

it.

GG Schaumburg on 02/16/2001 11:33:36 AM

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what can your new husband possibly be thinking of? I would never go through

those mechanizations of

trying to conceive for any man, nor make the changes to my current life and

job and children, and

body for any man, much less for one who would not do the same for me.

that's prob why I am still

single. been there, learned that. gg

TroublTime@... wrote:

>

> >First I would find a reporductive dr who will just aspirate your

> >eggs. I would not with today's technology have my tubes untied.

> >Having the fibroids removed is major sugery. And yes they can grow

> >back, see a few drs and get a few opinions. My sister tells me the

> >second c section hurts less than the first and you recover faster.

> >Also your baby will look nicer and not be forced to be traumatized

> >being squeezed through a vaginal birth process.

>

> I have an excellent reproductive Doctor. My fibroid has to be

> removed because of the location. I don't have enough uterus

> available to carry a child to a safe term. To clear things up, I

> already have two children, 17 and 14, and I had easy vaginal births

> with both of them. My new husband has no children. I am also a

> childcare provider and I will probably be out of a job because of all

> the time I will have to take off. I have a lot of families that rely

> on me to take care of their kids. So, I guess this is something that

> my husband wants more than I do, which makes it a very difficult

> decision. I asked him if he would have all of these surgeries and

> lose his job to have a child of his own and he said " no " . I just

> want to live a full, active and healthy life. I have two children

> that still need me and I need to take care of myself first. Just

> trying to do what is best for everyone. Sorry about the rambling, I

> have a lot of thoughts in my head. Kristy

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Ditto, darling. I think the best path is to do what's best for YOU. my

fiancee' and i have talked about this very thing. he absolutely wants

what's best for ME first, and if it means not having children, even tho he

would like them, he does not want me to sacrifice health or anything for

it.

GG Schaumburg on 02/16/2001 11:33:36 AM

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what can your new husband possibly be thinking of? I would never go through

those mechanizations of

trying to conceive for any man, nor make the changes to my current life and

job and children, and

body for any man, much less for one who would not do the same for me.

that's prob why I am still

single. been there, learned that. gg

TroublTime@... wrote:

>

> >First I would find a reporductive dr who will just aspirate your

> >eggs. I would not with today's technology have my tubes untied.

> >Having the fibroids removed is major sugery. And yes they can grow

> >back, see a few drs and get a few opinions. My sister tells me the

> >second c section hurts less than the first and you recover faster.

> >Also your baby will look nicer and not be forced to be traumatized

> >being squeezed through a vaginal birth process.

>

> I have an excellent reproductive Doctor. My fibroid has to be

> removed because of the location. I don't have enough uterus

> available to carry a child to a safe term. To clear things up, I

> already have two children, 17 and 14, and I had easy vaginal births

> with both of them. My new husband has no children. I am also a

> childcare provider and I will probably be out of a job because of all

> the time I will have to take off. I have a lot of families that rely

> on me to take care of their kids. So, I guess this is something that

> my husband wants more than I do, which makes it a very difficult

> decision. I asked him if he would have all of these surgeries and

> lose his job to have a child of his own and he said " no " . I just

> want to live a full, active and healthy life. I have two children

> that still need me and I need to take care of myself first. Just

> trying to do what is best for everyone. Sorry about the rambling, I

> have a lot of thoughts in my head. Kristy

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 02/16/2001 7:23:14 PM Eastern Standard Time,

EMonti@... writes:

<< My DR says not to have surgery, as it

could weaken the uterus wall. Yours says the fibroids could weaken it, so

you should have surgery. >>

Go see a reproductive specialist, someone trained to know when to hold them

and know when to get rid of them. A gyn is not trained to preserve your

uterus. Stop toying with the idea and go see the specialist.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 02/16/2001 7:23:14 PM Eastern Standard Time,

EMonti@... writes:

<< My DR says not to have surgery, as it

could weaken the uterus wall. Yours says the fibroids could weaken it, so

you should have surgery. >>

Go see a reproductive specialist, someone trained to know when to hold them

and know when to get rid of them. A gyn is not trained to preserve your

uterus. Stop toying with the idea and go see the specialist.

[Guest guest]

Nutycr8zy1:

thanks for the advice. a repro specialist sounds like what i need. i

hadn't thought of it!

nutycr8zy1@... on 02/17/2001 09:02:32 AM

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In a message dated 02/16/2001 7:23:14 PM Eastern Standard Time,

EMonti@... writes:

<< My DR says not to have surgery, as it

could weaken the uterus wall. Yours says the fibroids could weaken it, so

you should have surgery. >>

Go see a reproductive specialist, someone trained to know when to hold them

and know when to get rid of them. A gyn is not trained to preserve your

uterus. Stop toying with the idea and go see the specialist.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 02/20/2001 11:49:01 AM Eastern Standard Time,

TroublTime@... writes:

<< I would be going from a myomectomy, six weeks

recovery, right back into a tubal reversal just to try and get

pregnant. >>

You are entitled to be out from work for up to 6 months without pay its

called FMLA (family medical leave act) and its the law. They cannot say no

to you! Insurance does not pay for tubal reversals. Its easier to have IVF

and have your eggs aspirated out of the ovary in the dr's office and put back

once they are fertilized than to have an abdominal elective surgery which

insurance is not going to cover. Think about what you are saying, a dr that

would ask you to have tubal reversal and not do the egg aspiration is not

trained in the latest and best procedures get a second opinion. Most tubal

reversals do not take.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 02/20/2001 11:49:01 AM Eastern Standard Time,

TroublTime@... writes:

<< I would be going from a myomectomy, six weeks

recovery, right back into a tubal reversal just to try and get

pregnant. >>

You are entitled to be out from work for up to 6 months without pay its

called FMLA (family medical leave act) and its the law. They cannot say no

to you! Insurance does not pay for tubal reversals. Its easier to have IVF

and have your eggs aspirated out of the ovary in the dr's office and put back

once they are fertilized than to have an abdominal elective surgery which

insurance is not going to cover. Think about what you are saying, a dr that

would ask you to have tubal reversal and not do the egg aspiration is not

trained in the latest and best procedures get a second opinion. Most tubal

reversals do not take.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 02/20/2001 11:49:01 AM Eastern Standard Time,

TroublTime@... writes:

<< I would be going from a myomectomy, six weeks

recovery, right back into a tubal reversal just to try and get

pregnant. >>

You are entitled to be out from work for up to 6 months without pay its

called FMLA (family medical leave act) and its the law. They cannot say no

to you! Insurance does not pay for tubal reversals. Its easier to have IVF

and have your eggs aspirated out of the ovary in the dr's office and put back

once they are fertilized than to have an abdominal elective surgery which

insurance is not going to cover. Think about what you are saying, a dr that

would ask you to have tubal reversal and not do the egg aspiration is not

trained in the latest and best procedures get a second opinion. Most tubal

reversals do not take.

[Guest guest]

Very Good , you are absolutely right. Also,

we need to pray for each other and trust God for an

answer.

Diane

--- Monti wrote:

>

> Maybe we can all keep in mind that we are all

> suffering and stressed to

> some degree, as we all have fibroid health issues.

> We're all searching and

> doing our best to help ourselves and others. Let's

> not start attacking

> each other, too. There's enough of that in the

> world already. My hope is

> for all of us is find the best relief and answers to

> our fibroids, to help

> others, and to do it all with love and compassion

> for ourselves and others.

>

> God Bless,

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Very Good , you are absolutely right. Also,

we need to pray for each other and trust God for an

answer.

Diane

--- Monti wrote:

>

> Maybe we can all keep in mind that we are all

> suffering and stressed to

> some degree, as we all have fibroid health issues.

> We're all searching and

> doing our best to help ourselves and others. Let's

> not start attacking

> each other, too. There's enough of that in the

> world already. My hope is

> for all of us is find the best relief and answers to

> our fibroids, to help

> others, and to do it all with love and compassion

> for ourselves and others.

>

> God Bless,

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

:

you are sooooo right!!!! i do believe the answers are with God. and i see

His/Her love extending to all of us and guiding us to the right outcome.

[Guest guest]

:

you are sooooo right!!!! i do believe the answers are with God. and i see

His/Her love extending to all of us and guiding us to the right outcome.

[Guest guest]

I'm fine with that, but I also like honest reactions. gg

Monti wrote:

> Maybe we can all keep in mind that we are all suffering and stressed to

> some degree, as we all have fibroid health issues. We're all searching and

> doing our best to help ourselves and others. Let's not start attacking

> each other, too. There's enough of that in the world already. My hope is

> for all of us is find the best relief and answers to our fibroids, to help

> others, and to do it all with love and compassion for ourselves and others.

>

> God Bless,

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I'm fine with that, but I also like honest reactions. gg

Monti wrote:

> Maybe we can all keep in mind that we are all suffering and stressed to

> some degree, as we all have fibroid health issues. We're all searching and

> doing our best to help ourselves and others. Let's not start attacking

> each other, too. There's enough of that in the world already. My hope is

> for all of us is find the best relief and answers to our fibroids, to help

> others, and to do it all with love and compassion for ourselves and others.

>

> God Bless,

>

>

>

>

>