Amy

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> How has your

> significant others coped with this stuff with you and

> have they been supportive for you? I think I may have

> picked a sour apple! ANY coments are welcome!

> Thanks! -AMY

Amy,

I sympathize with you. When my husband and I began ttc 19 months

ago, he was extremely unsupportive about my disappointments month

after month. I thought I might have to kill him!!! Anyway, by the

time I was diagnosed with my bu this month, he is a new man. It has

taken him a long time (over a year of this) to learn how to be the

support I need. I frankly tell him now when he is not being

supportive. I also tell him very explicitly what I need from him. I

have found this to be quite effective. Most men I know tend to act

like jerks when they don't understand how their sig. other feels or

if they don't know how to " fix it " for you. My hubby likes to tell

me that if I can't do anything about something, I have no reason to

be upset. To me this is twisted thinking, but this is the difference

between men and women.

How much of the lack of support you want to deal with is your

decision. I have learned that being a supportive member in a couple

is very much a learning process for many people.

I will keep you in my prayers, and know that we will support you as

much as you want during this time. Take care of yourself, and don't

be afraid to express your needs firmly.

bu

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Haha, Jenn, you know what? I didn't think it was possible either.

I started at size 16 and had been large my whole life. Never say

never. ;-) I guess IE would say let your body decide what size it

wants.

Amy

> I might have to wear a size 4 instead of a

> size 2. Is that a bad thing?

>

> ** Oh my! And, I was thinking I'd be happy in a size 8! LOL Sizes

4 and 2 are just NEVER gonna happen for me! LOL

>

> Jenn

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I never thought so either. I had worn a size 10 as long as I can remember. Im talking all through junior high and high school, which I hated at the time beause "every other girl" wore a size 2.-which was never true. WHen I first lost weight, I thought to myself, I really neeed new jeans, these are a little baggy, maybe a size 8, i went to American eagle and lo and behold, i walked out with a size 4. i was ecstatic! It was such a good feeling- but i had never though it could happen. amytherrien wrote: Haha, Jenn,

you know what? I didn't think it was possible either. I started at size 16 and had been large my whole life. Never say never. ;-) I guess IE would say let your body decide what size it wants. Amy > I might have to wear a size 4 instead of a > size 2. Is that a bad thing? > > ** Oh my! And, I was thinking I'd be happy in a size 8! LOL Sizes 4 and 2 are just NEVER gonna happen for me! LOL > > Jenn > <>< > > > Books Read: http://mizbooksreads.blogspot.com > Faith Group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unshakablefocus > Healthy Eating: http://intuitive-eating.blogspot.com > Wishlist: http://www.librarything.com/catalog/mizbooks94 >

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Amy, What is your whole " story " and do you IE conquered?

>

> Haha, Jenn, you know what? I didn't think it was possible either.

> I started at size 16 and had been large my whole life. Never say

> never. ;-) I guess IE would say let your body decide what size it

> wants.

>

> Amy

>

>

>

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Hi Carol,

Thanks for asking.

My IE story begins after the weightloss story. I used dieting to go

from a size 16 to a size 2. I unofficially dieted down to a size 8. I

found myself struggling to maintain that weight so I went on an

official diet to help me maintain. I became a dieting expert and ended

up a size 2. At size 2, I was at the lowest possible healthy weight

according to charts so I decided to stop. I am very good at following

rules, I guess.

After the diet ended, I was fine for a while. Then, I increased my

exercize training for an event and started to gain muscle. The scale

started to go up and because the numbers went up I freaked out. I

started to restrict my calories as to not gain weight. This exactly

contradicted by training. So, I ended up having lots of uncontrollable

binges. All said and I done, I realized that dieting did not teach me

a healthy way to maintain and I didn't want to have to " diet " for the

rest of my life. I didn't want to feel guilty about food anymore. I

was just so miserable obsessing about food. That's why I turned to IE.

So, I have not conquered IE at all. I'm just beginning my journey.

After reading a book on IE, I felt much regret for ever going on a diet

official or otherwise. I feel like the diet mentality is really

strongly ingrained in my brain and it's hard to give up.

Sorry for rambling on so long. Sometimes writing out my own story

helps me understand some of my own issues. Thanks for listening.

It's only fair for you to share your story. :-)

Amy

> >

> > Haha, Jenn, you know what? I didn't think it was possible either.

> > I started at size 16 and had been large my whole life. Never say

> > never. ;-) I guess IE would say let your body decide what size it

> > wants.

> >

> > Amy

> >

> >

> >

>

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I wish I could cut and past because this can be very long. I have

had a chronic disease, sarcoidosis, for 30 yr but was untreated for

about 25 yr. In the beginning and since last summer I have been on

prednisone. Every time they tell me I have to take that I cry. It

always gives me the most ravenous appetite. How do you use IE with

that? The only way is with the Lord's help. I also have 10

children so that made weight loss hard between pregnancies and

breastfeeding. I think if I had done IE all my life I would have no

problem. But I have been dieting, even fasting , for more than 30

yr. I am now 57. What made me wonder was that after I started

fasting my problem with wieght became much worse. I am now 60lb

overweight. The only reprieve I have had recently is when I got

really sick last summer and lost 30lb. It felt so good. But the

weight came back with a vengence when I started on prednisone and

the dr. told me I would need it for life. Just recently I started

taking B6 in small amounts which seems to help with the ravenous

hunger that feels like nausea. My biggest problem with this disease

is high blood calcium which ruins the kidneys. That is what the

prednisone is for. The disease is mainly little tumors in the lungs

but these cause the blood calcium problem. Any suggestions?

> > >

> > > Haha, Jenn, you know what? I didn't think it was possible

either.

> > > I started at size 16 and had been large my whole life. Never

say

> > > never. ;-) I guess IE would say let your body decide what

size it

> > > wants.

> > >

> > > Amy

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

>

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I wish I could cut and past because this can be very long. I have

had a chronic disease, sarcoidosis, for 30 yr but was untreated for

about 25 yr. In the beginning and since last summer I have been on

prednisone. Every time they tell me I have to take that I cry. It

always gives me the most ravenous appetite. How do you use IE with

that? The only way is with the Lord's help. I also have 10

children so that made weight loss hard between pregnancies and

breastfeeding. I think if I had done IE all my life I would have no

problem. But I have been dieting, even fasting , for more than 30

yr. I am now 57. What made me wonder was that after I started

fasting my problem with wieght became much worse. I am now 60lb

overweight. The only reprieve I have had recently is when I got

really sick last summer and lost 30lb. It felt so good. But the

weight came back with a vengence when I started on prednisone and

the dr. told me I would need it for life. Just recently I started

taking B6 in small amounts which seems to help with the ravenous

hunger that feels like nausea. My biggest problem with this disease

is high blood calcium which ruins the kidneys. That is what the

prednisone is for. The disease is mainly little tumors in the lungs

but these cause the blood calcium problem. Any suggestions?

> > >

> > > Haha, Jenn, you know what? I didn't think it was possible

either.

> > > I started at size 16 and had been large my whole life. Never

say

> > > never. ;-) I guess IE would say let your body decide what

size it

> > > wants.

> > >

> > > Amy

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

>

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I really have no suggestions- other than that I will keep you in my prayers and wish you luck. Ten children?! You go girl- i couldnt even imagine!Carol wrote: I wish I could cut and past because this can be very long. I have had a chronic disease, sarcoidosis, for 30 yr but was untreated for about 25 yr. In the beginning and since last summer I have been on prednisone. Every time they tell me I have to take that I cry. It always gives me the most ravenous appetite. How do you use IE

with that? The only way is with the Lord's help. I also have 10 children so that made weight loss hard between pregnancies and breastfeeding. I think if I had done IE all my life I would have no problem. But I have been dieting, even fasting , for more than 30 yr. I am now 57. What made me wonder was that after I started fasting my problem with wieght became much worse. I am now 60lb overweight. The only reprieve I have had recently is when I got really sick last summer and lost 30lb. It felt so good. But the weight came back with a vengence when I started on prednisone and the dr. told me I would need it for life. Just recently I started taking B6 in small amounts which seems to help with the ravenous hunger that feels like nausea. My biggest problem with this disease is high blood calcium which ruins the kidneys. That is what the prednisone is for. The disease is mainly little tumors in

the lungs but these cause the blood calcium problem. Any suggestions? > > > > > > Haha, Jenn, you know what? I didn't think it was possible either. > > > I started at size 16 and had been large my whole life. Never say > > > never. ;-) I guess IE would say let

your body decide what size it > > > wants. > > > > > > Amy > > > > > > > > > > > >

[Guest guest]

I could have written this-this is me! You are not alone. I have started therapy and have been learning new coping skills and IEing. Life just keeps getting better when you accept yourself and others.

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Hi Carol,Thanks for asking.My IE story begins after the weightloss story. I used dieting to go from a size 16 to a size 2. I unofficially dieted down to a size 8. I found myself struggling to maintain that weight so I went on an official diet to help me maintain. I became a dieting expert and ended up a size 2. At size 2, I was at the lowest possible healthy weight according to charts so I decided to stop. I am very good at following rules, I guess.After the diet ended, I was fine for a while. Then, I increased my exercize training for an event and started to gain muscle. The scale started to go up and because the numbers went up I freaked out. I started to restrict my calories as to not gain weight. This exactly contradicted by training. So, I ended up having lots of uncontrollable binges. All said and I done, I realized that dieting did not teach me a healthy way to maintain and I didn't want to have to "d

iet" for the rest of my life. I didn't want to feel guilty about food anymore. I was just so miserable obsessing about food. That's why I turned to IE.So, I have not conquered IE at all. I'm just beginning my journey. After reading a book on IE, I felt much regret for ever going on a diet official or otherwise. I feel like the diet mentality is really strongly ingrained in my brain and it's hard to give up.Sorry for rambling on so long. Sometimes writing out my own story helps me understand some of my own issues. Thanks for listening.It's only fair for you to share your story. :-)Amy> >> > Haha, Jenn, you know what? I didn't think it was possible either. > > I started at size 16 and had been large my whole life. Never say > > never. ;-) I guess IE would say let your body decide what size it > > wants.> > > > Amy> > > > > >>