Re: volume control of your voice when deaf?

[Guest guest]

Hi Barbara,

I have a pblm with " volume control " . Not always, but people are somtimes

telling me to speak up or talk quieter. Like I would forget the setting,

like library vs. train station, and talk at inappropriate levels. I've had

some embarassing moments (talking too loud at a wedding and having people

shushing me) and so my new deal is to talk a little quieter EVERYWHERE and

if people tell me to speak up, I do so incrementally since I think it's

better to speak inappropriatly softer than louder. Hope this all makes

sense.

nisha

>From: bbryan2@...

>Reply-To: NF2_Crewegroups

>To: NF2_Crewegroups

>Subject: volume control of your voice when deaf?

>Date: Tue, 16 May 2000 15:34:27 EDT

>

>Crew,

>

>I don't remember meeting any crew member who had difficulty with " volume

>control " but I am being told that this can be a problem.

>

>Barbara B., facing possible / lilkely? deafness - soon?

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Hi Barbara,

I have a pblm with " volume control " . Not always, but people are somtimes

telling me to speak up or talk quieter. Like I would forget the setting,

like library vs. train station, and talk at inappropriate levels. I've had

some embarassing moments (talking too loud at a wedding and having people

shushing me) and so my new deal is to talk a little quieter EVERYWHERE and

if people tell me to speak up, I do so incrementally since I think it's

better to speak inappropriatly softer than louder. Hope this all makes

sense.

nisha

>From: bbryan2@...

>Reply-To: NF2_Crewegroups

>To: NF2_Crewegroups

>Subject: volume control of your voice when deaf?

>Date: Tue, 16 May 2000 15:34:27 EDT

>

>Crew,

>

>I don't remember meeting any crew member who had difficulty with " volume

>control " but I am being told that this can be a problem.

>

>Barbara B., facing possible / lilkely? deafness - soon?

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

my voice is toooo quiet now, and i neverknow if people understand what i say

or just nod because they dont want me to repeat it.

i think, this may be in part because i was at a deaf college for about 5

years, and when i sign, i don't use my voice (i cant talk nearly as fast as i

can sign!!!!), so not using my voice for so long has kinda messed it up

also of course having a paralyzed vocal cord makes my voice raspy (like ive

been smoking for 60 years kinda voice)

sooo too quiet, and raspy?? not a good combination hm??

I do know of a certain crewbie who mentioned sometimes he talks tooo loud,

like when meeting us at a resturant he kinda figured he tlked too loud when

everyone looked at him when hr talked to hostess (or maybe its because he's

so good looking no one could take their eyes off him?) hmm/

hugs

caren

[Guest guest]

my voice is toooo quiet now, and i neverknow if people understand what i say

or just nod because they dont want me to repeat it.

i think, this may be in part because i was at a deaf college for about 5

years, and when i sign, i don't use my voice (i cant talk nearly as fast as i

can sign!!!!), so not using my voice for so long has kinda messed it up

also of course having a paralyzed vocal cord makes my voice raspy (like ive

been smoking for 60 years kinda voice)

sooo too quiet, and raspy?? not a good combination hm??

I do know of a certain crewbie who mentioned sometimes he talks tooo loud,

like when meeting us at a resturant he kinda figured he tlked too loud when

everyone looked at him when hr talked to hostess (or maybe its because he's

so good looking no one could take their eyes off him?) hmm/

hugs

caren

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 5/16/00 5:05:19 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

rclong1@... writes:

<< I made a B-A-D blunder in CHURCH concerning volume

control just a few months after I became deaf. >>

i think church is taboo right after deafness because i too had the absolute

most embarressing deaf moment in chucrh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I had been going to same church since i was 3 years old, and grew quite used

to my pastors incredibly LONG sermons. Well they seemed quite longer after I

was deaf because I lipread the entire thing (they usually lasted 30 mns at

minimum!)

anyway, one sunday the sermon was longer than usual and i was getting tired,

of course i could have stopped paying attention but thats kinda rude and

disrespectful so i continued to lipread and was ready to close my eyes and

just go to sleep. I turned to my mom, and meaning to whisper, asked " when is

he going to shut up my eyes hurt! " well just my luck right as i began

talking he ended, and my voice was not the whisper it was meant to

be!!!!!!!!!!!! (everyone in church heard, even pator!) needless to say i got

alot of strange looks and a few giggles and a super red face!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

just glad i knew theses people and pastor very well and they knew me for 15

years, so they understood!!! from then on, i listened to mom who always told

us " youre not supposed to talk in church! "

*still laughing at carla!*

Caren

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 5/16/00 5:05:19 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

rclong1@... writes:

<< I made a B-A-D blunder in CHURCH concerning volume

control just a few months after I became deaf. >>

i think church is taboo right after deafness because i too had the absolute

most embarressing deaf moment in chucrh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I had been going to same church since i was 3 years old, and grew quite used

to my pastors incredibly LONG sermons. Well they seemed quite longer after I

was deaf because I lipread the entire thing (they usually lasted 30 mns at

minimum!)

anyway, one sunday the sermon was longer than usual and i was getting tired,

of course i could have stopped paying attention but thats kinda rude and

disrespectful so i continued to lipread and was ready to close my eyes and

just go to sleep. I turned to my mom, and meaning to whisper, asked " when is

he going to shut up my eyes hurt! " well just my luck right as i began

talking he ended, and my voice was not the whisper it was meant to

be!!!!!!!!!!!! (everyone in church heard, even pator!) needless to say i got

alot of strange looks and a few giggles and a super red face!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

just glad i knew theses people and pastor very well and they knew me for 15

years, so they understood!!! from then on, i listened to mom who always told

us " youre not supposed to talk in church! "

*still laughing at carla!*

Caren

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 5/16/00 7:02:25 PM Eastern Daylight Time, ashley@...

writes:

<< Hey, we could get together and have a raspy sing-a-long, you and me!

Mikey A >>

thank god we're deaf, i always had a horrible singing voice and would never

want to hear it now!! but we can torture those hearies, hmmm....

caren - who should get a job and not goof off all day

[Guest guest]

Well, Barbara,

I think we ought to meet sometime. I get people telling me to be quiet ALL

the time. It seems that I yell a lot ;-() I am totally, 125%, Deaf. And

sometimes get in " hot water " for the " level " of my voice. FYI, I still can

and LOVE to talk. I don't really mind embarassing myself. When it happens,

I'm all gushy with the " sorrys " but I turn around and do it again! It's just

a habit.

June

[Guest guest]

Well, Barbara,

I think we ought to meet sometime. I get people telling me to be quiet ALL

the time. It seems that I yell a lot ;-() I am totally, 125%, Deaf. And

sometimes get in " hot water " for the " level " of my voice. FYI, I still can

and LOVE to talk. I don't really mind embarassing myself. When it happens,

I'm all gushy with the " sorrys " but I turn around and do it again! It's just

a habit.

June

[Guest guest]

Well, Barbara,

I think we ought to meet sometime. I get people telling me to be quiet ALL

the time. It seems that I yell a lot ;-() I am totally, 125%, Deaf. And

sometimes get in " hot water " for the " level " of my voice. FYI, I still can

and LOVE to talk. I don't really mind embarassing myself. When it happens,

I'm all gushy with the " sorrys " but I turn around and do it again! It's just

a habit.

June

[Guest guest]

Oh wow, this is a huge problem for me. I've been deaf for 2.5 years and to

be honest, it seems volume control has gotten worse over time. My family

tends to think I just don't " like " to use my voice anymore, but the truth is

I just am so insecure about volume. It's ok around the house but out in

public it can be tough. I made a B-A-D blunder in CHURCH concerning volume

control just a few months after I became deaf. It was the most embarrassing

thing and I've been so paranoid in public every since. (No one knows this

story cept my sis Misha and she got a big kick out of it.) Ok well let me go

ahead and tell it, what the heck. This should actually to go our

Embarrassing Deaf Moments file that we had going a while back. I was at a

wedding rehearsal at our church for Bobby's brother and his wife-to-be.

Kind of a big wedding party up there at the front of the empty church

(including Bobby) practicing how to walk and what not. Prolly 6 girls and

guys, the bride and groom-to-be, our Pastor. I'm sitting at the back of the

church with a few family members and friends, mainly talking to my SIL. We

were doing great and she's very patient with me, I was still new and nervous

to being deaf but felt comfy (little too much) talking to her. She could

hear me fine! The music was playing, the wedding party was rehearsing, SIL

and I were chatting, my voice level was perfect. I was not saying the

nicest of things (neither was she!) and it was rather gossipy (about the

bride), well my SIL's eyes grew so big while I was rambling then she and I

notice the wedding party waaaaaaaaay down at the front of church is looking

at me. Turned out the music had stopped as I was deep into my rambling and

it traveled throughout the entire church. ha ha I think you had to be there.

Very embarrassing. Of all places! Later Bobby told me it wasn't that bad,

they heard me but weren't real sure what I'd said.

Around the house is usually ok, even if there are several people around

talking. Going out to restaurants can be tough. Hard to find the right

level. Have someone motion to you whether you're too loud or soft helps.

Keep trying! It's hard to imagine how tough it can be until you are deaf.

careful in church,

Carla

bbryan2@... wrote:

> Crew,

>

> I don't remember meeting any crew member who had difficulty with " volume

> control " but I am being told that this can be a problem.

>

> Barbara B., facing possible / lilkely? deafness - soon?

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[Guest guest]

Speaking of volume control and embarrassing stories I came home one time

thinking I would be alone. So remembering an old song in my head, " Crazy " by

Aerosmith. I began to belt out the song really loud. It wasn't long that I

found out I wasn't alone when my sister and mom came out to found out what

the commotion was!

Mark

----Original Message Follows----

>thank god we're deaf, i always had a horrible singing voice and would

never

>want to hear it now!! but we can torture those hearies, hmmm....

>

>caren - who should get a job and not goof off all day

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Speaking of volume control and embarrassing stories I came home one time

thinking I would be alone. So remembering an old song in my head, " Crazy " by

Aerosmith. I began to belt out the song really loud. It wasn't long that I

found out I wasn't alone when my sister and mom came out to found out what

the commotion was!

Mark

----Original Message Follows----

>thank god we're deaf, i always had a horrible singing voice and would

never

>want to hear it now!! but we can torture those hearies, hmmm....

>

>caren - who should get a job and not goof off all day

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Speaking of volume control and embarrassing stories I came home one time

thinking I would be alone. So remembering an old song in my head, " Crazy " by

Aerosmith. I began to belt out the song really loud. It wasn't long that I

found out I wasn't alone when my sister and mom came out to found out what

the commotion was!

Mark

----Original Message Follows----

>thank god we're deaf, i always had a horrible singing voice and would

never

>want to hear it now!! but we can torture those hearies, hmmm....

>

>caren - who should get a job and not goof off all day

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Hey, we could get together and have a raspy sing-a-long, you and me!

Mikey A

At 05:08 PM 5/16/2000 EDT, you wrote:

>my voice is toooo quiet now, and i neverknow if people understand what i say

>or just nod because they dont want me to repeat it.

>

>i think, this may be in part because i was at a deaf college for about 5

>years, and when i sign, i don't use my voice (i cant talk nearly as fast

as i

>can sign!!!!), so not using my voice for so long has kinda messed it up

>

>also of course having a paralyzed vocal cord makes my voice raspy (like ive

>been smoking for 60 years kinda voice)

>

>sooo too quiet, and raspy?? not a good combination hm??

>

>I do know of a certain crewbie who mentioned sometimes he talks tooo loud,

>like when meeting us at a resturant he kinda figured he tlked too loud when

>everyone looked at him when hr talked to hostess (or maybe its because he's

>so good looking no one could take their eyes off him?) hmm/

>

>hugs

>caren

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hey, we could get together and have a raspy sing-a-long, you and me!

Mikey A

At 05:08 PM 5/16/2000 EDT, you wrote:

>my voice is toooo quiet now, and i neverknow if people understand what i say

>or just nod because they dont want me to repeat it.

>

>i think, this may be in part because i was at a deaf college for about 5

>years, and when i sign, i don't use my voice (i cant talk nearly as fast

as i

>can sign!!!!), so not using my voice for so long has kinda messed it up

>

>also of course having a paralyzed vocal cord makes my voice raspy (like ive

>been smoking for 60 years kinda voice)

>

>sooo too quiet, and raspy?? not a good combination hm??

>

>I do know of a certain crewbie who mentioned sometimes he talks tooo loud,

>like when meeting us at a resturant he kinda figured he tlked too loud when

>everyone looked at him when hr talked to hostess (or maybe its because he's

>so good looking no one could take their eyes off him?) hmm/

>

>hugs

>caren

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Not me Caren, just HoH.

At 07:06 PM 5/16/2000 EDT, you wrote:

>In a message dated 5/16/00 7:02:25 PM Eastern Daylight Time, ashley@...

>writes:

>

><< Hey, we could get together and have a raspy sing-a-long, you and me!

> Mikey A >>

>

>thank god we're deaf, i always had a horrible singing voice and would never

>want to hear it now!! but we can torture those hearies, hmmm....

>

>caren - who should get a job and not goof off all day

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Not me Caren, just HoH.

At 07:06 PM 5/16/2000 EDT, you wrote:

>In a message dated 5/16/00 7:02:25 PM Eastern Daylight Time, ashley@...

>writes:

>

><< Hey, we could get together and have a raspy sing-a-long, you and me!

> Mikey A >>

>

>thank god we're deaf, i always had a horrible singing voice and would never

>want to hear it now!! but we can torture those hearies, hmmm....

>

>caren - who should get a job and not goof off all day

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Ha! I have a huge prob with volume control. when you are total deaf it is

difficult bc u dont know what background noise there is competeing with you.

bbryan2@... wrote:

> Crew,

>

> I don't remember meeting any crew member who had difficulty with " volume

> control " but I am being told that this can be a problem.

>

> Barbara B., facing possible / lilkely? deafness - soon?

[Guest guest]

Ha! I have a huge prob with volume control. when you are total deaf it is

difficult bc u dont know what background noise there is competeing with you.

bbryan2@... wrote:

> Crew,

>

> I don't remember meeting any crew member who had difficulty with " volume

> control " but I am being told that this can be a problem.

>

> Barbara B., facing possible / lilkely? deafness - soon?

[Guest guest]

Ha! I have a huge prob with volume control. when you are total deaf it is

difficult bc u dont know what background noise there is competeing with you.

bbryan2@... wrote:

> Crew,

>

> I don't remember meeting any crew member who had difficulty with " volume

> control " but I am being told that this can be a problem.

>

> Barbara B., facing possible / lilkely? deafness - soon?

[Guest guest]

> Hi Barbara,

>

I have a terrible problem with volume control of my voice, I thought

this was a common problem with us newly deafies. I have the ABI and I

tend to think that this makes the problem worse, in that, I try to

speak at a volume that I can hear. In a noisey place I tend to speak

louder so that I hear myself. I am constantly being signed to lower

my vioce or told " you are shouting " . Often at work when I am talking

to my colleagues they start to smile, when I ask What? they say " you

are shouting " .

It also causes a problem with my partner Janet as she gets

embarrassed in a public place when I " shout " a question and everybody

for a mile around turns to see what the fuss is.

If anybody has any suggestions of how to combat this I am all ears,

well all eyes for lipreading.

cheers

Alan.Gordon.Manchester.UK

[Guest guest]

> Hi Barbara,

>

I have a terrible problem with volume control of my voice, I thought

this was a common problem with us newly deafies. I have the ABI and I

tend to think that this makes the problem worse, in that, I try to

speak at a volume that I can hear. In a noisey place I tend to speak

louder so that I hear myself. I am constantly being signed to lower

my vioce or told " you are shouting " . Often at work when I am talking

to my colleagues they start to smile, when I ask What? they say " you

are shouting " .

It also causes a problem with my partner Janet as she gets

embarrassed in a public place when I " shout " a question and everybody

for a mile around turns to see what the fuss is.

If anybody has any suggestions of how to combat this I am all ears,

well all eyes for lipreading.

cheers

Alan.Gordon.Manchester.UK

[Guest guest]

> Hi Barbara,

>

I have a terrible problem with volume control of my voice, I thought

this was a common problem with us newly deafies. I have the ABI and I

tend to think that this makes the problem worse, in that, I try to

speak at a volume that I can hear. In a noisey place I tend to speak

louder so that I hear myself. I am constantly being signed to lower

my vioce or told " you are shouting " . Often at work when I am talking

to my colleagues they start to smile, when I ask What? they say " you

are shouting " .

It also causes a problem with my partner Janet as she gets

embarrassed in a public place when I " shout " a question and everybody

for a mile around turns to see what the fuss is.

If anybody has any suggestions of how to combat this I am all ears,

well all eyes for lipreading.

cheers

Alan.Gordon.Manchester.UK

[Guest guest]

--- Mark Sarmac wrote:

> Speaking of volume control and embarrassing stories

> I came home one time

> thinking I would be alone. So remembering an old

> song in my head, " Crazy " by

> Aerosmith. I began to belt out the song really loud.

> It wasn't long that I

> found out I wasn't alone when my sister and mom came

> out to found out what

> the commotion was!

>

> Mark

>

I can top that, Mark. Years ago, when I was still

living at home, I got out of the shower and had no...

uhhhh... shorts to put on, as they were all in the

dryer.

I threw a towel around my waist, and headed back to

the wash room screaming out the chorus to " Jailbreak "

by AC/DC. My mom had forgotten to tell me she had

called someone to come fix the washing machine. That

guy probably has my image still burned into his

memory!

Another one: In about '91, I was eating at a crowded

restaurant with my college roommate, and he kept

telling me to speak up, because the music was loud.

He was telling me that our waitress was someone he had

a rather embarrassing history with. So, as she was

leaving our table, and right as the music STOPPED!, I

practically yelled: " SHE GAVE YOU CRABS?! "

I didn't go back to that restaurant again....

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