Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 Hi Traci! Thanks so much for your nice thoughts and prayers- made my day so much better. Yes, the main reason he's leaving is career-related. I think he realized in the last year or so that he didn't really like the field he chose to study, but it was too late to change, and so now is not motivated to start a career in something he doesn't like. He said something like, this trip will help him forget he's not really doing anything worthwhile or productive with his life. (I haven't brought up to him that after he comes back in 8 months, he's still going to be jobless, and even more out of money, and will have to move back in with his parents- it's not really my place to bring that up). Yeah, I know I need a partner who's more comfortable with himself, so I don't resent his leaving or feel like it has anything to do with " us " . I think this is for the best. Thanks again for listening! Misty > Misty, ((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))) > To you. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. is there a reason why he is leaving? Is it just because he does not have a job? I am so sorry. Hugs to you sweetie, I pray that G-d will give you peace in your heart so that you will be able to go on and find happiness. > Traci Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 Hi Traci! Thanks so much for your nice thoughts and prayers- made my day so much better. Yes, the main reason he's leaving is career-related. I think he realized in the last year or so that he didn't really like the field he chose to study, but it was too late to change, and so now is not motivated to start a career in something he doesn't like. He said something like, this trip will help him forget he's not really doing anything worthwhile or productive with his life. (I haven't brought up to him that after he comes back in 8 months, he's still going to be jobless, and even more out of money, and will have to move back in with his parents- it's not really my place to bring that up). Yeah, I know I need a partner who's more comfortable with himself, so I don't resent his leaving or feel like it has anything to do with " us " . I think this is for the best. Thanks again for listening! Misty > Misty, ((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))) > To you. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. is there a reason why he is leaving? Is it just because he does not have a job? I am so sorry. Hugs to you sweetie, I pray that G-d will give you peace in your heart so that you will be able to go on and find happiness. > Traci Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 I am sorry to hear that. Even when you may know that it is right, it still doesn't make you feel good when someone you care about leaves. You said you are better, was it the PT that worked? mcmallinson wrote: Hey everyone-I'm feeling down so thought I'd throw in a shameless plea for comfort My boyfriend of almost a year (and live-in for 4 months) is leaving- he's moving to backpack across Europe for 8 months. We're recently out of college, and he doesn't have a job yet. (Not that he's been looking especially hard). Even though I care about him a lot, and enjoy his company, I don't think we have enough to keep us going for 8 months long distance. We've talked about that, and are just enjoying (well, trying anyway) the last few weeks that he's here. After that, we'll just keep in touch and wish eachother well. I guess it's kind of nice to have a breakup that's not all "I hate you! Get out of my life!" I think it's the right thing for me- I am not exactly comfortable with long distance relationships, and Kris and I have never really talked about our long term plans anyway- I don't want to wait for 8 months without being exactly sure what I'm waiting for. He's been so supportive with my vaginal problems, too- he helped with my PT stretches and massage at home (I don't think he really minded and didn't pressure me when I wasn't able to have sex. I'm better now, but nervous if the VV comes back. So yeah, I'm a little down. Well, at least I won't have to worry about running into him at the store, or on another date or something. Thanks, all, for listening :)LaterMisty*****END OF MESSAGE*****-------------------------------------------------To post message: VulvarDisorders To Subscribe: VulvarDisorders-subscribe Unsubscribe: VulvarDisorders-unsubscribe List owner: VulvarDisorders-owner ***** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 I am sorry to hear that. Even when you may know that it is right, it still doesn't make you feel good when someone you care about leaves. You said you are better, was it the PT that worked? mcmallinson wrote: Hey everyone-I'm feeling down so thought I'd throw in a shameless plea for comfort My boyfriend of almost a year (and live-in for 4 months) is leaving- he's moving to backpack across Europe for 8 months. We're recently out of college, and he doesn't have a job yet. (Not that he's been looking especially hard). Even though I care about him a lot, and enjoy his company, I don't think we have enough to keep us going for 8 months long distance. We've talked about that, and are just enjoying (well, trying anyway) the last few weeks that he's here. After that, we'll just keep in touch and wish eachother well. I guess it's kind of nice to have a breakup that's not all "I hate you! Get out of my life!" I think it's the right thing for me- I am not exactly comfortable with long distance relationships, and Kris and I have never really talked about our long term plans anyway- I don't want to wait for 8 months without being exactly sure what I'm waiting for. He's been so supportive with my vaginal problems, too- he helped with my PT stretches and massage at home (I don't think he really minded and didn't pressure me when I wasn't able to have sex. I'm better now, but nervous if the VV comes back. So yeah, I'm a little down. Well, at least I won't have to worry about running into him at the store, or on another date or something. Thanks, all, for listening :)LaterMisty*****END OF MESSAGE*****-------------------------------------------------To post message: VulvarDisorders To Subscribe: VulvarDisorders-subscribe Unsubscribe: VulvarDisorders-unsubscribe List owner: VulvarDisorders-owner ***** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 Here's your hug, honey. (( )) You know, it might be nice to have a male friend who is willing to help you out with your PT stuff if you should ever need him to again! But hopefully, you'll soon find another wonderful, caring man who can do that for you. Be good to yourself, and try to de-stress as much as possible. Love, Suzy __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 Here's your hug, honey. (( )) You know, it might be nice to have a male friend who is willing to help you out with your PT stuff if you should ever need him to again! But hopefully, you'll soon find another wonderful, caring man who can do that for you. Be good to yourself, and try to de-stress as much as possible. Love, Suzy __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 Misty, ((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))) To you. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. is there a reason why he is leaving? Is it just because he does not have a job? I am so sorry. Hugs to you sweetie, I pray that G-d will give you peace in your heart so that you will be able to go on and find happiness. Traci could use a hug... Hey everyone-I'm feeling down so thought I'd throw in a shameless plea for comfort My boyfriend of almost a year (and live-in for 4 months) is leaving- he's moving to backpack across Europe for 8 months. We're recently out of college, and he doesn't have a job yet. (Not that he's been looking especially hard). Even though I care about him a lot, and enjoy his company, I don't think we have enough to keep us going for 8 months long distance. We've talked about that, and are just enjoying (well, trying anyway) the last few weeks that he's here. After that, we'll just keep in touch and wish eachother well. I guess it's kind of nice to have a breakup that's not all "I hate you! Get out of my life!" I think it's the right thing for me- I am not exactly comfortable with long distance relationships, and Kris and I have never really talked about our long term plans anyway- I don't want to wait for 8 months without being exactly sure what I'm waiting for. He's been so supportive with my vaginal problems, too- he helped with my PT stretches and massage at home (I don't think he really minded and didn't pressure me when I wasn't able to have sex. I'm better now, but nervous if the VV comes back. So yeah, I'm a little down. Well, at least I won't have to worry about running into him at the store, or on another date or something. Thanks, all, for listening :)LaterMisty*****END OF MESSAGE*****-------------------------------------------------To post message: VulvarDisorders To Subscribe: VulvarDisorders-subscribe Unsubscribe: VulvarDisorders-unsubscribe List owner: VulvarDisorders-owner ***** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 Well, you never know. Betty and I are over 300 miles apart so anything is possible. could use a hug... > Hey everyone- > > I'm feeling down so thought I'd throw in a shameless plea for comfort > My boyfriend of almost a year (and live-in for 4 months) is > leaving- he's moving to backpack across Europe for 8 months. We're > recently out of college, and he doesn't have a job yet. (Not that > he's been looking especially hard). Even though I care about him a > lot, and enjoy his company, I don't think we have enough to keep us > going for 8 months long distance. We've talked about that, and are > just enjoying (well, trying anyway) the last few weeks that he's here. > After that, we'll just keep in touch and wish eachother well. > > I guess it's kind of nice to have a breakup that's not all " I hate > you! Get out of my life! " I think it's the right thing for me- I am > not exactly comfortable with long distance relationships, and Kris and > I have never really talked about our long term plans anyway- I don't > want to wait for 8 months without being exactly sure what I'm waiting > for. He's been so supportive with my vaginal problems, too- he helped > with my PT stretches and massage at home (I don't think he really > minded and didn't pressure me when I wasn't able to have sex. I'm > better now, but nervous if the VV comes back. > > So yeah, I'm a little down. Well, at least I won't have to worry > about running into him at the store, or on another date or something. > > > Thanks, all, for listening > Later > Misty > > > > *****END OF MESSAGE***** > ------------------------------------------------- > To post message: VulvarDisorders > To Subscribe: VulvarDisorders-subscribe > Unsubscribe: VulvarDisorders-unsubscribe > List owner: VulvarDisorders-owner > > ***** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 Misty, Just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you. Break ups are tough, and sometimes in someways its harder when there is not hate involved (I know that sounds weird)because you keep wondering what if... I wish you well, and I know it is a little trite, but if there is something there worth comming back to, the two of you may get back together again when you both figure out what you want. Best of luck to you, Bunny /| |\ . . ( ! ) _________________________________________________________________ Send and receive Hotmail on your mobile device: http://mobile.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2002 Report Share Posted April 11, 2002 (((((((( BIG HUG TO YOU )))))))))))) Take care of yourself, Misty. He'll figure his stuff out, and you will figure out yours. And enjoy exploring life--a lot! I know break ups are painful, and I'm sorry you have to go thru it, but sometimes lots of good comes from the bad. Love, Meg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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