Guest guest Posted January 19, 2007 Report Share Posted January 19, 2007 Great post. In the book I'm currently reading, When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies, this woman related a story of when she was little, she said to her mom, " Mom, I feel I have a great power within me and I see you have it too, but I don't see you using it. " Her mother replies, " Oh honey, you'll learn to tone that down once you start interacting with men. " I think it's so true, we have great power within all of us, imagine what we can accomplish if we didnt think about food and our weight. > > Hi everyone. > > Okay, one of the other posts used the phrase " unless I have > something to keep me under control " or something like that. > > I had a HUGE flash of insight relating to that. > > Many other countries use various method to oppress women. " Female > circumcision " is one. Marrying females off as teenagers is another. > Clothing and religious customs... I always thought, " Wow. Isn't it > great that we do that. " > > But... what if all this " diet mentality " is another way to keep > women (mostly) " under control? " We are so focused on what we eat, > what we don't eat, are we fat, are we thin enough, how do we look... > that we never go beyond appearances. > > Now, I'm not suggesting that there is some council of white guys > somewhere promoting diets so that women will never have power. > > But... maybe we as a world and as individuals are so afraid of our > REAL power that we " control it " by focusing so intensely on dieting > and weight. > > What would happen if we all realized that we are more than our > bodies? We are equally as awesome at 275 pounds as we are at 105. > > It's scary to release control over our eating because we might just > find out that we have more power than we think we do... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2007 Report Share Posted January 19, 2007 What's bad is that we are doing it to ourselves. While it's true that men are very visual when it comes to being attracted to women, most of them really aren't attracted the uber-thin girls who look like they haven't even hit puberty. But, that's the image of beauty that we're given in magazines and stuff. Take a look at beer commercials shown during football games. The women in those commercials are nowhere near as scrawny as the women in fashion magazines. Most men don't read fashion magazines, but they do watch football. So, it's only women telling other women that they have to be ultra-thin to be attractive. Men apparently like curves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2007 Report Share Posted January 19, 2007 I agree totally. We perpetuate this problem for our own gender...especially women in certain western cultures. Mothers, grandmas, aunts, and other female relatives are so great at pressuring women to find a man so that she can find happiness. By associating your success as a women with the ability to attract a man, we perpetuate the problem. We make it even worse by trying to make looks the defining way to accomplish that. We don't have to attract a man to be happy and certainly attracting a man who only cares about your looks won't! > > What's bad is that we are doing it to ourselves. While it's true that > men are very visual when it comes to being attracted to women, most of > them really aren't attracted the uber-thin girls who look like they > haven't even hit puberty. But, that's the image of beauty that we're > given in magazines and stuff. > > Take a look at beer commercials shown during football games. The women > in those commercials are nowhere near as scrawny as the women in > fashion magazines. Most men don't read fashion magazines, but they do > watch football. So, it's only women telling other women that they have > to be ultra-thin to be attractive. Men apparently like curves. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2007 Report Share Posted January 19, 2007 I agree totally. We perpetuate this problem for our own gender...especially women in certain western cultures. Mothers, grandmas, aunts, and other female relatives are so great at pressuring women to find a man so that she can find happiness. By associating your success as a women with the ability to attract a man, we perpetuate the problem. We make it even worse by trying to make looks the defining way to accomplish that. We don't have to attract a man to be happy and certainly attracting a man who only cares about your looks won't! > > What's bad is that we are doing it to ourselves. While it's true that > men are very visual when it comes to being attracted to women, most of > them really aren't attracted the uber-thin girls who look like they > haven't even hit puberty. But, that's the image of beauty that we're > given in magazines and stuff. > > Take a look at beer commercials shown during football games. The women > in those commercials are nowhere near as scrawny as the women in > fashion magazines. Most men don't read fashion magazines, but they do > watch football. So, it's only women telling other women that they have > to be ultra-thin to be attractive. Men apparently like curves. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2007 Report Share Posted January 19, 2007 I agree wholeheartedly and enthusiastically! I just broke up with someone and at first I of course wanted to diet my way back to a man attracting size. Luckily I have come to my senses and realized I don't actually need a boyfriend. I'm doing just fine by myself and if freezing myself from diets forever means I spend forever with my cats then so be it. > > > > What's bad is that we are doing it to ourselves. While it's true that > > men are very visual when it comes to being attracted to women, most of > > them really aren't attracted the uber-thin girls who look like they > > haven't even hit puberty. But, that's the image of beauty that we're > > given in magazines and stuff. > > > > Take a look at beer commercials shown during football games. The women > > in those commercials are nowhere near as scrawny as the women in > > fashion magazines. Most men don't read fashion magazines, but they do > > watch football. So, it's only women telling other women that they have > > to be ultra-thin to be attractive. Men apparently like curves. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2007 Report Share Posted January 19, 2007 How many women were put on their first diets by their mothers as children? I know women who are so afraid that their daughters will be fat that they start controlling how much and what they eat when they're 5 or 6 years old. I knew a woman who was morbidly obese who told me that her mother put her on a diet when she was 11 MONTHS old! Once these girls reach their teens, then they and their friends start sharing diet " secrets " like purging. Unfortunately, the whole body image thing is starting to affect men and boys too. My 11 year old son worries about getting fat. He and his friends have compared their weights. Boys in high school are under pressure to be muscular, so they take steroids and supplements. And, men are getting almost as much plastic surgery as women. It sucks. > > > > What's bad is that we are doing it to ourselves. While it's true that > > men are very visual when it comes to being attracted to women, most of > > them really aren't attracted the uber-thin girls who look like they > > haven't even hit puberty. But, that's the image of beauty that we're > > given in magazines and stuff. > > > > Take a look at beer commercials shown during football games. The women > > in those commercials are nowhere near as scrawny as the women in > > fashion magazines. Most men don't read fashion magazines, but they do > > watch football. So, it's only women telling other women that they have > > to be ultra-thin to be attractive. Men apparently like curves. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 20, 2007 Report Share Posted January 20, 2007 He, don't knock cats! I've broken up w/my bf 2 years ago, and now I have 2 cats. Let's see... I'm sorry, cats win!!! okay okay that might depend on the bf mine was a a**hole. Sylvie I agree wholeheartedly and enthusiastically! I just broke up with someone and at first I of course wanted to diet my way back to a man attracting size. Luckily I have come to my senses and realized I don't actually need a boyfriend. I'm doing just fine by myself and if freezing myself from diets forever means I spend forever with my cats then so be it. > > > > What's bad is that we are doing it to ourselves. While it's true that > > men are very visual when it comes to being attracted to women, most of > > them really aren't attracted the uber-thin girls who look like they > > haven't even hit puberty. But, that's the image of beauty that we're > > given in magazines and stuff. > > > > Take a look at beer commercials shown during football games. The women > > in those commercials are nowhere near as scrawny as the women in > > fashion magazines. Most men don't read fashion magazines, but they do > > watch football. So, it's only women telling other women that they have > > to be ultra-thin to be attractive. Men apparently like curves. > > > -- Sylvie... working on it!Don't believe your mind, it will lie to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2007 Report Share Posted January 21, 2007 Lol. I've had many **hole bf's. I've posted before how a couple of years ago I went on a crazy crash diet and lost a lot of weight (people told me I was too skinny, I was very unhealthy). That was all because of an **hole bf. Why do we let men treat us this way? Yes, cats win hands down. They like to lay on my squishy belly rather than criticize me about it. The guy I broke up with wasn't a jerk, it just didn't work out. But I'm definately glad the cats are here for me. > > > > > > > > What's bad is that we are doing it to ourselves. While it's true > > that > > > > men are very visual when it comes to being attracted to women, > > most of > > > > them really aren't attracted the uber-thin girls who look like > > they > > > > haven't even hit puberty. But, that's the image of beauty that > > we're > > > > given in magazines and stuff. > > > > > > > > Take a look at beer commercials shown during football games. The > > women > > > > in those commercials are nowhere near as scrawny as the women in > > > > fashion magazines. Most men don't read fashion magazines, but > > they do > > > > watch football. So, it's only women telling other women that > > they have > > > > to be ultra-thin to be attractive. Men apparently like curves. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > -- > Sylvie... working on it! > > Don't believe your mind, it will lie to you! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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