Guest guest Posted January 14, 2007 Report Share Posted January 14, 2007 Hi Jazzerhay, It sounds like you ate some really yummy caramel pecans! Don't sweat it, even normal eaters overeat sometimes when a food is really delicious...they just make a conscious decision about it rather than lying to themselves by saying " It wasn't that much... " or feelings super guilty about it and not even enjoying it. That last sentence brings me to my question: Did you enjoy those pecans? You said you felt guilty when you were finishing them off. How can you enjoy something while you are feeling guilty? No wonder you weren't satisfied and needed some chocolate. If you had truly enjoyed the pecans, even after overeating them, you would have been like " Those were sooo good! " , rather than " Oh great, now I've blown it, may as well blow it some more. " It's important to remember that normal eaters sometimes have too much. Here's a quote by Ellyn Satter that explains normal eaters pretty well: " Normal eating is being able to eat when you are hungry and continue eating until you are satisfied. It is being able to choose food you like and eat it and truly get enough of it-not just stop eating because you think you should. Normal eating is being able to use some moderate constraint in your food selection to get the right food, but not being so restrictive that you miss out on pleasurable foods. Normal eating is giving yourself permission to eat sometimes because you are happy, sad or bored, or just because it feels good. Normal eating is three meals a day, most of the time, but it can also be choosing to munch along. It is leaving some cookies on the plate because you know you can have some again tomorrow, or it is eating more now because they taste so wonderful when they are fresh. Normal eating is overeating at times: feeling stuffed and uncomfortable. It is also undereating at times and wishing you had more. Normal eating is trusting your body to make up for your mistakes in eating. Normal eating takes up some of your time and attention, but keeps its place as only one important area of your life. In short, normal eating is flexible. It varies in response to your emotions, your schedule, your hunger, and your proximity to food. " Don't forget that intuitive eating is a process. You are re-learning how to enjoy treats without beating yourself up. This takes some time. Don't be hard on yourself, treat your body respectfully. You aren't bad or gross because you overate. You are not a better or worse person because you overate. You are dearly loved and you should treat yourself with love and respect and forgiveness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2007 Report Share Posted January 14, 2007 One of the most gratifying parts of the book for me was when you just ate what you want. I think most people skip this part and it's really theraputic. It allows you to challenge the " have a little " diet mentality that still creeps in. If you want 2 pies, have 2 pies...if it satisfies you. If it tastes good savor each bite and if you find that you at 20 at the end then either your body needed it or it was just heavenly and wow what a nice experience that is. Remember this isn't a diet. It's a way of eating. I remember when I was young one thanksgiving I ate nothing but rolls....they tasted so yummy I ate 12! And nothing else. I didn't beat myself up--and I didn't get fat. It sounds like the diet police are still on your back! You're fine and remember if you like it savor it. If you don't, don't eat it. Welcome back and jump back on! V > > Hi everyone, > > Last week started off so well for me - Monday through Wednesday I > really paid attention to my hunger and fullness schedules and I did > my best not to restrict myself from having whatever I felt like. > Thursday rolled around and I had the day off work and the apartment > to myself. I was doing fine until the afternoon rolled around and > I'd just finished off a chicken wrap. It was great, but I was > craving something sweet. I told myself I could have a few of my > fiance's carmelized pecan things and that would be enough to satisfy > me, but one bite turned into nearly the whole tin! They literally > tasted so good...melt in your mouth and then I felt so guilty after > nearly finishing them off because they weren't even mine! Then that > turned into trying to satisfy my sweet tooth completely by having > some chocolate and before I knew it I was eating everything. That > one day turned into the next two...Friday and Saturday. I've been so > disappointed in myself because all week I felt so great and over the > past three I've felt miserable. It's like I know how bad overeating > makes me feel and yet I can't seem to stop doing it! I'm trying not > to beat myself up because it only perpetuates the cycle, but of > course now I feel 10 times fatter and like I've failed once again. I > finished the IE book but I think I'm going to go back and read it > again for inspiration. The thing about this is that I tried to give > in to my cravings for something sweet my having something, but a > couple did not satisfy me, so now I'm worried that next time I'm > craving something I will be afraid to eat it for fear that the same > thing will happen! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2007 Report Share Posted January 14, 2007 ditto what she said! > > Hi Jazzerhay, > > It sounds like you ate some really yummy caramel pecans! Don't sweat > it, even normal eaters overeat sometimes when a food is really > delicious...they just make a conscious decision about it rather than > lying to themselves by saying " It wasn't that much... " or feelings > super guilty about it and not even enjoying it. > > That last sentence brings me to my question: Did you enjoy those > pecans? You said you felt guilty when you were finishing them off. How > can you enjoy something while you are feeling guilty? No wonder you > weren't satisfied and needed some chocolate. If you had truly enjoyed > the pecans, even after overeating them, you would have been like > " Those were sooo good! " , rather than " Oh great, now I've blown it, may > as well blow it some more. " > > It's important to remember that normal eaters sometimes have too much. > Here's a quote by Ellyn Satter that explains normal eaters pretty well: > > " Normal eating is being able to eat when you are hungry and continue > eating until you are satisfied. It is being able to choose food you > like and eat it and truly get enough of it-not just stop eating > because you think you should. Normal eating is being able to use some > moderate constraint in your food selection to get the right food, but > not being so restrictive that you miss out on pleasurable foods. > Normal eating is giving yourself permission to eat sometimes because > you are happy, sad or bored, or just because it feels good. Normal > eating is three meals a day, most of the time, but it can also be > choosing to munch along. It is leaving some cookies on the plate > because you know you can have some again tomorrow, or it is eating > more now because they taste so wonderful when they are fresh. Normal > eating is overeating at times: feeling stuffed and uncomfortable. It > is also undereating at times and wishing you had more. Normal eating > is trusting your body to make up for your mistakes in eating. Normal > eating takes up some of your time and attention, but keeps its place > as only one important area of your life. > > In short, normal eating is flexible. It varies in response to your > emotions, your schedule, your hunger, and your proximity to food. " > > Don't forget that intuitive eating is a process. You are re-learning > how to enjoy treats without beating yourself up. This takes some time. > Don't be hard on yourself, treat your body respectfully. You aren't > bad or gross because you overate. You are not a better or worse person > because you overate. You are dearly loved and you should treat > yourself with love and respect and forgiveness. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2007 Report Share Posted January 14, 2007 Hi Jazzerhay, The author of the quote is Ellyn Satter and she actually writes books on how to raise children as intuitive eaters. I think the principles are applicable to anyone, though. Her best book (in my opinion " is " Your Child's Weight: Helping without Harming " . Reading this, I saw a lot of places where my parents contributed to me developing an eating disorder, and the book gave great advice on how to raise children with healthy attitudes about eating. I agree with you that the reason for the overeating after the caramel pecans was the result of guilt and beating yourself up by telling yourself you had proven that you can't be responsible with certain foods. I recommend rereading the IE book by Tribole, because she discusses the idea that " I can't be trusted around such and such food " becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Anyway, you are doing such a great job with IE. Normal eaters overeat sometimes. Normal eaters also sometimes stop with a couple bites of dessert (like you did with your boyfriend). You are becoming a normal eater! You can do this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2007 Report Share Posted January 14, 2007 Hi Jazzerhay, The author of the quote is Ellyn Satter and she actually writes books on how to raise children as intuitive eaters. I think the principles are applicable to anyone, though. Her best book (in my opinion " is " Your Child's Weight: Helping without Harming " . Reading this, I saw a lot of places where my parents contributed to me developing an eating disorder, and the book gave great advice on how to raise children with healthy attitudes about eating. I agree with you that the reason for the overeating after the caramel pecans was the result of guilt and beating yourself up by telling yourself you had proven that you can't be responsible with certain foods. I recommend rereading the IE book by Tribole, because she discusses the idea that " I can't be trusted around such and such food " becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Anyway, you are doing such a great job with IE. Normal eaters overeat sometimes. Normal eaters also sometimes stop with a couple bites of dessert (like you did with your boyfriend). You are becoming a normal eater! You can do this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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