Talk w/my boss and terrified

[Guest guest]

Well, today was the day that I talked with the Headmaster of my school,, not

my immediate boss. Of course I couldn't get through it without breaking into

tears and i started out so well!! I hate doing that.

The focus quickly became one of not so much my health affecting job but

rather my job afffecting my health. I have to say that he was very good

about it and said that the " easy " things like making sure I can park close

by, get out a little early for doc appts. etc. were not what concerned him.

Those things are easy to work out.He saw that I wasn't ready to admit yet to

what I can or can't do or should or shouldn't but fiances are such a part of

it. He of course has to protect the interest of the school but he was very

concerned that docs are saying that don't see how I can work and that I am

having to do without things that would help me (like PT or doc appts) b/c of

work. He said there needed to be thought how to handle things long term but

also shorter. He said there were teachers who didn't have the severity of

problems and those that were worse that they have been able to help and make

special arrangements for. I know this is true

.. He suggested looking into a partially disabled type arrangement to make up

the difference for cutting back on hours. He is willing to do what ever it

takes tohelp but I don't know how that works and I know that Ican't afford

any pay cut. In general, he was great but he did push me!! I kept saying that

it isn't affecting my job but he keep saying how the job is affecting my

health. There I sat with a splint and sling on trying to explain that I

hadn't been able to start PT for my bad disk in my neck because of refusing

to take time off or not wanting to be penalized for leaving 15 minutes early.

I told him I didn't want any of this to affect my positiion or my evaluation.

I had to give some examples of my immediate boss's insensitivity to my

needs. I still came away from the conversation really nervous. He wants to

revisit the conversation in January and of course wants plenty of notice if I

need to leave and if disability takes a long time then he wants to start now.

I do think he was concerned about me but he is also a manager. I just hope I

haven't made myself and my position vulnerable.

I am feeling really lost , afraid and confused. I haven't even told Mike

about the conversation yet. It's getting harder and harder to work ( I didnt

tell my boss that tidbit) but I'm not ready to quit nor can I.

Thanks for listening. I just had to share this with someone. Now in a way, I

am worried about showing weakness any more. At one point, he said " , you

are a counselor and you are in denial! " Maybe so but ............ I feel like

I have put my job on the line now!!

I hope everyone has a good Thanksgiving. In spite it all, I know we allhave

lots to be thankful for. My hubby invited the family here for turkey and I

can't cook cuz of my surgery on my elbow. It should be an interesting day!!

Everyone take care and thanks again for listening.

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I hope this all works out for you. Remember, nothing is worth your health!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Love Lana

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I hope this all works out for you. Remember, nothing is worth your health!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Love Lana

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

Have you considered trying to get social security? I worked for so long, so

sick, made all kinds of adjustments with the type of work I did, to limiting

the number of hours I worked, etc. I thought I needed to work for the money.

Well, guess what? I received short term disability for six months, which

helped get us through, and then received social security first time around--I

applied on my own. I am now receiving more money than when I was feeling

really sick, pushing myself to work, and barely scrapping by anyway. Now I

can enjoy life, get to all the kids functions most of the time, and if I

don't feel well, I don't have to keep pushing myself, I can just take care of

myself. I am a registered nurse and really felt connected to my career, but

I feel much better now at least mentally, and that makes a big difference.

Hope this helps you to make the right decision for yourself. Just wanted to

let you know there are other options, as I never knew I could do this, and I

had no idea I would get more money than when I was working. Take Care.

Love, Sue Ginley

~Life is tough, but I'm tougher~

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

Have you considered trying to get social security? I worked for so long, so

sick, made all kinds of adjustments with the type of work I did, to limiting

the number of hours I worked, etc. I thought I needed to work for the money.

Well, guess what? I received short term disability for six months, which

helped get us through, and then received social security first time around--I

applied on my own. I am now receiving more money than when I was feeling

really sick, pushing myself to work, and barely scrapping by anyway. Now I

can enjoy life, get to all the kids functions most of the time, and if I

don't feel well, I don't have to keep pushing myself, I can just take care of

myself. I am a registered nurse and really felt connected to my career, but

I feel much better now at least mentally, and that makes a big difference.

Hope this helps you to make the right decision for yourself. Just wanted to

let you know there are other options, as I never knew I could do this, and I

had no idea I would get more money than when I was working. Take Care.

Love, Sue Ginley

~Life is tough, but I'm tougher~

[Guest guest]

,

Take a deep breath. I don't think it went too badly from what you

describe - but then again, I wasn't thee. Advocating is tough work, you want

to say it all, but nothing at the same time - I know how you feel. What you

can do is arm yourself with the legal support that you deserve and use it if

you have to. You might also see if thee is work you can do at home and get

the family involved to help somehow, or is this a silly idea. I am not

clear on what your role is at school, so I can't be particularly helpful I'm

afraid!

Please hang in there, and know that if this is place that can not

accommodate you, then it's a blessing to find someone who will!

Love and hugs to you!

Jill

[Guest guest]

,

Take a deep breath. I don't think it went too badly from what you

describe - but then again, I wasn't thee. Advocating is tough work, you want

to say it all, but nothing at the same time - I know how you feel. What you

can do is arm yourself with the legal support that you deserve and use it if

you have to. You might also see if thee is work you can do at home and get

the family involved to help somehow, or is this a silly idea. I am not

clear on what your role is at school, so I can't be particularly helpful I'm

afraid!

Please hang in there, and know that if this is place that can not

accommodate you, then it's a blessing to find someone who will!

Love and hugs to you!

Jill

[Guest guest]

,

I live in Calif., and found out that a medical leave that is part time

is available for my job. I also work at a school. I've been on

medical leave (completely off work) for a year. I receive disability

payments that are a percentage of my wages, but taxes are not

taken out, so it works out fine. Soon my year of this benefit will be

out. I'm applying to receive disability from my retirement. It would

be the same as if I am retired and will be based on my last year

worked. I suggest that rather than rely on the headmaster, why

not contact the business office of your school district and ask a

lot of questions. The questions shouldn't affect your job

evaluation. Also, if you get a chance, talk with anyone in your area

who is on medical leave to see what benefits you might ask for.

-Nanette

> Well, today was the day that I talked with the Headmaster of my

school,, not

> my immediate boss. Of course I couldn't get through it without

breaking into

> tears and i started out so well!! I hate doing that.

>

> The focus quickly became one of not so much my health

affecting job but

> rather my job afffecting my health. I have to say that he was

very good

> about it and said that the " easy " things like making sure I can

park close

> by, get out a little early for doc appts. etc. were not what

concerned him.

> Those things are easy to work out.He saw that I wasn't ready to

admit yet to

> what I can or can't do or should or shouldn't but fiances are

such a part of

> it. He of course has to protect the interest of the school but he

was very

> concerned that docs are saying that don't see how I can work

and that I am

> having to do without things that would help me (like PT or doc

appts) b/c of

> work. He said there needed to be thought how to handle things

long term but

> also shorter. He said there were teachers who didn't have the

severity of

> problems and those that were worse that they have been able

to help and make

> special arrangements for. I know this is true

> . He suggested looking into a partially disabled type

arrangement to make up

> the difference for cutting back on hours. He is willing to do what

ever it

> takes tohelp but I don't know how that works and I know that

Ican't afford

> any pay cut. In general, he was great but he did push me!! I

kept saying that

> it isn't affecting my job but he keep saying how the job is

affecting my

> health. There I sat with a splint and sling on trying to explain

that I

> hadn't been able to start PT for my bad disk in my neck

because of refusing

> to take time off or not wanting to be penalized for leaving 15

minutes early.

> I told him I didn't want any of this to affect my positiion or my

evaluation.

> I had to give some examples of my immediate boss's

insensitivity to my

> needs. I still came away from the conversation really nervous.

He wants to

> revisit the conversation in January and of course wants plenty

of notice if I

> need to leave and if disability takes a long time then he wants

to start now.

> I do think he was concerned about me but he is also a

manager. I just hope I

> haven't made myself and my position vulnerable.

> I am feeling really lost , afraid and confused. I haven't even told

Mike

> about the conversation yet. It's getting harder and harder to

work ( I didnt

> tell my boss that tidbit) but I'm not ready to quit nor can I.

> Thanks for listening. I just had to share this with someone.

Now in a way, I

> am worried about showing weakness any more. At one point,

he said " , you

> are a counselor and you are in denial! " Maybe so but ............ I

feel like

> I have put my job on the line now!!

> I hope everyone has a good Thanksgiving. In spite it all, I know

we allhave

> lots to be thankful for. My hubby invited the family here for turkey

and I

> can't cook cuz of my surgery on my elbow. It should be an

interesting day!!

> Everyone take care and thanks again for listening.

>