Guest guest Posted December 21, 2006 Report Share Posted December 21, 2006 Sure! I feel that way all the time! I've not gotten to the point, yet, where I can look in the mirror, and not be critical of what I see. I always see the " fat " . :-? But, I also know I'm doing something about it, so it won't be like this forever. I know that I looked a lot better last year, when I was really diligent about putting the principles into practice, and I dropped 25 lbs. So, I know I can be there again. But, I'm not stressing about it until Christmas is over. There's just no point. ;o) Praying you'll see the positives! ;o) Jenn <>< > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. its > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2006 Report Share Posted December 21, 2006 Sure, I feel this way sometimes. I believe that every single person has days like this...not always about weight. Here's something to consider. Do you think your disappointment could be a result of unrealistic expectations? Are you expecting the weight to come flying off at some kind of quick pace? If you hold onto these expectations or only hold onto the long term goal of weigh less, you can continually be setting yourself up for disappointment and more days of feeling like a failure. An alternative is to come up with realistic expectations that you can and will acheive on a daily basis. Make goals things like " drink plenty of water today " or " only eat this one meal until my hunger is satisfied " ...small goals. After a while, success at realistic small goals gives you momentum towards the long term goal. Little milestones really work to keep you feeling good...and feeling good helps you reach the long term goal....just like feeling bad can delay the long term goal. For many of us, just thinking about the end, long term goal is not enough to keep us motivated...it always seems so far away. > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. its > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2006 Report Share Posted December 21, 2006 Sure, I feel this way sometimes. I believe that every single person has days like this...not always about weight. Here's something to consider. Do you think your disappointment could be a result of unrealistic expectations? Are you expecting the weight to come flying off at some kind of quick pace? If you hold onto these expectations or only hold onto the long term goal of weigh less, you can continually be setting yourself up for disappointment and more days of feeling like a failure. An alternative is to come up with realistic expectations that you can and will acheive on a daily basis. Make goals things like " drink plenty of water today " or " only eat this one meal until my hunger is satisfied " ...small goals. After a while, success at realistic small goals gives you momentum towards the long term goal. Little milestones really work to keep you feeling good...and feeling good helps you reach the long term goal....just like feeling bad can delay the long term goal. For many of us, just thinking about the end, long term goal is not enough to keep us motivated...it always seems so far away. > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. its > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2006 Report Share Posted December 21, 2006 I feel this way a lot. I think I am feeling thinner but when I actually look at myself all I see is lots of weight. I have learned not to look at myself too much. I have never liked my pic taken or to look at myself in the mirror. I have never been able to undress in front of anyone....even my husband when I was married. I made him have the lights off or not look. I know that is silly but that is the way things have been for me. I am trying desperately to get over that. Just take time to relish the feeling that you are doing what you need to do via IE. Keep working at it and your body will follow suit. Don't let that get you down. Keep your head up. Michele babybianor85 wrote: I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought "wow, i'm so fat. its disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight" and my good mood and hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way?Michele CR: The Last Juror by Grisham __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2006 Report Share Posted December 21, 2006 I feel this way a lot. I think I am feeling thinner but when I actually look at myself all I see is lots of weight. I have learned not to look at myself too much. I have never liked my pic taken or to look at myself in the mirror. I have never been able to undress in front of anyone....even my husband when I was married. I made him have the lights off or not look. I know that is silly but that is the way things have been for me. I am trying desperately to get over that. Just take time to relish the feeling that you are doing what you need to do via IE. Keep working at it and your body will follow suit. Don't let that get you down. Keep your head up. Michele babybianor85 wrote: I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought "wow, i'm so fat. its disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight" and my good mood and hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way?Michele CR: The Last Juror by Grisham __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2006 Report Share Posted December 21, 2006 > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. its > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? > I have just joined this group and have been trying Intuitive eating for about a week. I deal with the same issue because I have so much weight to lose, and on past diets, yes I could lose weight fast, but I would always gain it back faster! Sometimes I try to focus on something that I like about myself when I have those destructive thoughts , or think of the person I am inside, and that I am changing my behavior and relationship with food, and my body will follow. The negative thinking about my fat usually puts me in a panic mode, and into " diet " thinking. I like what amytherrien had to say about daily goals that we can achieve. I will be working on that. I'm on the journey with you. We can learn and change. I'm stuggling with changing my thoughts also, so your post really helped me. Julz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2006 Report Share Posted December 21, 2006 > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. its > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? > I have just joined this group and have been trying Intuitive eating for about a week. I deal with the same issue because I have so much weight to lose, and on past diets, yes I could lose weight fast, but I would always gain it back faster! Sometimes I try to focus on something that I like about myself when I have those destructive thoughts , or think of the person I am inside, and that I am changing my behavior and relationship with food, and my body will follow. The negative thinking about my fat usually puts me in a panic mode, and into " diet " thinking. I like what amytherrien had to say about daily goals that we can achieve. I will be working on that. I'm on the journey with you. We can learn and change. I'm stuggling with changing my thoughts also, so your post really helped me. Julz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2006 Report Share Posted December 22, 2006 , At the risk of sounding wierd, those thoughts are your old patterns of thinking fighting for life. Whenever we change something, the old way fights really hard to stay alive. So, when you are changing your thinking patterns to be more self loving and self empowering, your old negative ways are going to come up more often, as if they are trying to stay dominant. The best way to handle it is as if you were handling a young child who was saying something wrong. You know how young kids get. "I hate Timmy. He's stupid." "No, honey. Timmy's not stupid, he's just not in the second grade like you are. He's only in Kindergarten." So for you it might think, "I hate my thighs. I'm such a fat pig." Then, you replace the thought with a kinder one. "No, . You are a wonderful person. You are curvy and beautiful, and love life to the fullest." What I am realizing is that we won't look better on the outside until our negative thoughts on the inside change. Everytime you have a negative thought, replace it with something loving. Eventually those old patterns of thinking will fade away to almost nothing. It's a process, . Be gentle on yourself. PS: I find that my nasty voice comes out when I am feeling insecure about something else. Men, generally, tend to focus on money when they feel insecure, and women focus on their bodies.“I fear one day I'll meet God, he'll sneeze and I won't know what to say.” Ronnie Shakes __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2006 Report Share Posted December 22, 2006 Oops. Just realized that was not the original poster. Sorry! That's what happens when I write before I'm awake.“I fear one day I'll meet God, he'll sneeze and I won't know what to say.” Ronnie Shakes __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2006 Report Share Posted December 22, 2006 You have to actively work on changing your self-talk. Ask yourself, " What's the proof that I will NEVER lose this weight? " Obviously there is no proof. Tell yourself instead something like, " Yes I CAN lose this weight. I'm working on eating intuitively and I WILL lose weight when I no longer overeat. " >>> wrote: > > > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. >its > > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? _________________________________________________________________ Fixing up the home? Live Search can help http://imagine-windowslive.com/search/kits/default.aspx?kit=improve & locale=en-US\ & source=hmemailtaglinenov06 & FORM=WLMTAG Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2006 Report Share Posted December 22, 2006 You have to actively work on changing your self-talk. Ask yourself, " What's the proof that I will NEVER lose this weight? " Obviously there is no proof. Tell yourself instead something like, " Yes I CAN lose this weight. I'm working on eating intuitively and I WILL lose weight when I no longer overeat. " >>> wrote: > > > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. >its > > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? _________________________________________________________________ Fixing up the home? Live Search can help http://imagine-windowslive.com/search/kits/default.aspx?kit=improve & locale=en-US\ & source=hmemailtaglinenov06 & FORM=WLMTAG Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2006 Report Share Posted December 22, 2006 You have to actively work on changing your self-talk. Ask yourself, " What's the proof that I will NEVER lose this weight? " Obviously there is no proof. Tell yourself instead something like, " Yes I CAN lose this weight. I'm working on eating intuitively and I WILL lose weight when I no longer overeat. " >>> wrote: > > > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. >its > > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? _________________________________________________________________ Fixing up the home? Live Search can help http://imagine-windowslive.com/search/kits/default.aspx?kit=improve & locale=en-US\ & source=hmemailtaglinenov06 & FORM=WLMTAG Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2006 Report Share Posted December 23, 2006 I feel that way ALOT...and I have to just keep telling myself to use that disgust as motivation and to realize that I didn't gain all the weight overnight and it will take patience to watch it come off! Keep sticking with the program and you will see results, at least my friend is and that is motivating me! GOOD LUCK!!! Amy S. > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. its > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2006 Report Share Posted December 23, 2006 I feel that way ALOT...and I have to just keep telling myself to use that disgust as motivation and to realize that I didn't gain all the weight overnight and it will take patience to watch it come off! Keep sticking with the program and you will see results, at least my friend is and that is motivating me! GOOD LUCK!!! Amy S. > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. its > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2006 Report Share Posted December 23, 2006 i feel that way too--and lately quite a lot. during those times, i make a point to remind myself of the good progress i have made in the last four weeks, and that makes me feel a bit better. i know i will not drop all 43 lbs i need to drop over a short-period of time (and lately my clothes feel a bit tighter) so i tell myself that what is important is my long-term goal -- have good physical, emotional and mental health. during the times that i don't feel at all hopeful, motivated or inspired about reaching my long-term goal, i visualize myself already there--i do this visualization as often as i need to--it has made a big difference and, at the very least, it helps me get over intense negative moments, which although don't last very long seem to come up often lately. i figure as long as i'm honoring my body, my emotions and my thoughts one step at a time i am doing just fine!!!hang in there, and remember we are all hanging in there with you!!Cecilia >> I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought "wow, i'm so fat. its > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight" and my good mood and > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way?> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 25, 2006 Report Share Posted December 25, 2006 > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. its > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? > Yes. It is your way of thinking that you have to change. If you did well with your I E for the week, meditate on that and mentally give yourself high fives. Say things to yourself like, " I'm doing a good " , and keep repeating it. Remember, it took you time to put on the weight, relax and it will come off if you keep listening to your body. God Speed, Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 25, 2006 Report Share Posted December 25, 2006 > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. its > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? > Yes. It is your way of thinking that you have to change. If you did well with your I E for the week, meditate on that and mentally give yourself high fives. Say things to yourself like, " I'm doing a good " , and keep repeating it. Remember, it took you time to put on the weight, relax and it will come off if you keep listening to your body. God Speed, Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 25, 2006 Report Share Posted December 25, 2006 > > I have had a great week of IE, and ive been happy in general. now, > tonight, i looked in the mirror and just thought " wow, i'm so fat. its > disgusting. i'm NEVER going to lose this weight " and my good mood and > hope were both gone instantly. all i want to do is lie on the couch > and eat right now because i am so fed up with my body when i stop and > look at it. HELP! does anyone else feel this way? > Yes. It is your way of thinking that you have to change. If you did well with your I E for the week, meditate on that and mentally give yourself high fives. Say things to yourself like, " I'm doing a good " , and keep repeating it. Remember, it took you time to put on the weight, relax and it will come off if you keep listening to your body. God Speed, Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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