(was) Cassy (now) seeking dx, family situations

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Trista:

Can you go to a different neuro? You have so many classic symptoms of MS. Did you have a first BIG attack? Or has it been gradual? When did all this start for you?

I was always the 'strong' one in my family, too. I was the one who took charge in any situation. I'm the one who took charge of my ill Grandmother, my ill Father, and my ill Mother. I took care of them, saw that they got to the doctor, saw they got to the hospital when needed... etc. I took care of Dad and Grandmother until their deaths. Then took care of my mother until she got so ill she needed full time nursing care and then got her into a good nursing home. I have two older brothers. Neither of them has truly helped with any of this. I'm the one who sat in the hospital waiting to hear if my elders were going to live or not each time they were in the hospital. One brother lived out of state but the other one lived next door to me and he would say "I don't like hospitals" so

he wouldn't come. The only time he came was when death was imminent. I was stoic, strong and didn't cry until I got home. Beyond that kind of thing I was a single parent and truly raised my fine children by myself. I took them camping by myself (when women didn't do that sort of thing). Now here I have to ask for rides to the doctor, to the store, etc. I can't drive anymore because I'm such a bad driver now (rolled my van 8 or 9 times end to end and over and over, they say). My cognitive function is screwy and I hit a guy (backed into his truck) one time and never had any memory of it. So I don't drive. My neuro says I shouldn't and the accident investigator said he wouldn't ticket me for the rollover if I voluntarily quit driving. So I don't drive. Here I am the strong one---not strong anymore. Okay...sorry folks. I'm getting maudlin

here.... and soon the violins will start playing.... (smiling)

You mentioned your 13 y/o with Aspergers. Aspies are very special kids. My 10 y/o granddaughter with Aspergers lives with me (and her family--we share a house). If I'm in my room resting, or on the phone, or reading.... she pops in over and over and says she just wanted to check to see if I'm okay. If I'm shopping she will ask her dad to call me on my cell phone to find out if I'm okay. She worries and frets about me. She helps me with all kinds of chores and, in fact, takes over the chores I need to do. She's the "strong one in the making"

maybe? Her 11 y/o brother will come over to me and rub my back when he knows I'm hurting a lot. I take care of all 4 grandkids (ages 3 to 11) while their parents work. The kids have their regular chores to do and I homeschool them all.

Sharon (MSersLife Group Owner/Creator)

Kind words may be short... but their echoes are endless.... Mother Theresa

! HI EVERYONE

HI,MY NAME IS CASSY,AND I AM 25 YRS. OLD.I HAVE BEEN SICK FOR 3YRS.,BUT THIS PAST YEAR I HAVE BECOME DISABLED.I MAY HAVE MS,IHAVE HAD 2 BRAIN MRI'S THAT WERE NORMAL,SO NOW THEY ARE GOING TOLOOK AT MY SPINE.I AM VERY SICK,AND WOULD LOVE TOO TALK TO ANYONE WHO WOULD LIKE TOO SHARE INFO..

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