Guest guest Posted March 9, 2003 Report Share Posted March 9, 2003 In a message dated 3/9/2003 8:32:55 AM Eastern Standard Time, crmedbery@... writes: > ! I have been at a party and the hostess > feels the need to announce to everybody that I won't > be " enjoying " her lard and sugar cake. You could always counter with the truth - her cake makes me sick. That should shut her up <vbg>. -Crys- (Lifetimer since August 1995) 178.6 / 138.2 / 140.0 / 125.0 (-40.4) Starting Wt/Current Wt/WW Goal/Personal Goal Please say a prayer for Margie and Lura in their weight loss. Thank you! I'm not crazy; I'm just a little unwell. I know, right now you can't tell. But stay a while and maybe then you'll see a different side of me. I'm not crazy; I'm just a little impaired. I know, right now you don't care. But in a while you're gonna think of me, and how I used to be. Matchbox 20 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 9, 2003 Report Share Posted March 9, 2003 In a message dated 3/9/2003 1:03:06 PM Eastern Standard Time, jayswof@... writes: > > I really don't know why I put up with me either! <G> > > Kris ) > -----Original Message----- > > > and frankly I don't see why you're putting up with you. -Crys- > > > hehehehe - you know that was a typo. Putting up with HER, but when I think faster than I type it doesn't always come out as I intend. I have a lot of trouble putting up with myself, but that's another story -Crys- (Lifetimer since August 1995) 178.6 / 138.2 / 140.0 / 125.0 (-40.4) Starting Wt/Current Wt/WW Goal/Personal Goal Please say a prayer for Margie and Lura in their weight loss. Thank you! I'm not crazy; I'm just a little unwell. I know, right now you can't tell. But stay a while and maybe then you'll see a different side of me. I'm not crazy; I'm just a little impaired. I know, right now you don't care. But in a while you're gonna think of me, and how I used to be. Matchbox 20 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 9, 2003 Report Share Posted March 9, 2003 I like this. Why would I quit when it's working so well! Kris -----Original Message----- it worked well up to this point, why stop? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 9, 2003 Report Share Posted March 9, 2003 Well I have to say that ordinarily I have no problem telling a person to mind their own business...if it's someone I don't get along with. I really struggle though when it's friends or family because these are people I have to spend time with on a regular basis. I think part of it is also the fact that it hurts more and is harder to deal with when it comes from the people you would most expect to be supportive. My husband is very supportive and so are my friends, whether they are on WW or not. And the most surprising thing is that my FIL who is married to this woman is one of my biggest supporters! (He stays with us during the week because of his job, he commutes between OR and WA and lives with us part of the time) He has never said anything negative when I refuse to eat the doughnuts or cinnamon rolls he brings home, and he is always telling me I look nice. And best of all he never asks " should you be eating that? " <G> I guess I'm just going to have to get the nerve up to tell her to mind her own business. Either that or say something really ruthless next time like... " You really should think about joining WW yourself " ;o) Kris Re: unsupportive people Kris asks: > So how do you nicely tell people to mind their own business? Today I felt > like telling my MIL that if she didn't stop making snide comments about my > diet then I was going to start telling her the fat and calorie content of > everything she put in her mouth!! I don't. That's probably the major difference between us. I tell them my life is *not* a topic for their speculation; that I'm not interested in their opinions since they don't know what the hell they're talking about, and to drop it right here and now. It may not be delicate, but you'd be amazed at its effectiveness. I've never had to tell *anyone* twice. I figure if they are crass enough to be disrespectful and insulting to me, they don't deserve consideration. Besides, when they keel over from their fat-clogged arteries, I'll still be standing. Case closed. Tony Florida 278/226.5/155 (since Jul 26, '02) NAFC = 220 ============================= RE: unsupportive people > > Does anyone have any good advice on how to handle people who are > unsupportive of the healthier lifestyle we are choosing to live?? I am > getting really tiered of people who make snide comments about what I choose > to eat or not to eat. Here is an example.... > > Our relatives were in town visiting today and the guys wanted to do one > thing and the gals wanted to do something else. So we decided we would split > up for a couple hours and then all meet back at the Burgerville parking lot. > When we got there the guys had gone in and sat down. I told my MIL that I > hoped they didn't want to eat there because I sure didn't (it's a dieters > nightmare). She say's in a smart tone... " Why is not on your diet? " and I > said " No, I just don't feel like eating burgers and fries and there isn't > much else here to eat. " So when we got in the restaurant I asked if the guys > had already ordered and if they wanted to eat there. I said if they wanted > to eat there it was fine with me but I wanted to stop at the Subway across > the street on the way out. So the MIL pipes in again and say's " Yea, it's > not on her diet. " Then she say's to me " Why don't you just splurge this > once, it won't kill you. " So I felt like I had to explain myself and I told > her that (my daughter) and I had just had Burger King yesterday and I > don't really like hamburgers and I didn't want to eat them two days in a > row. It really is the truth, I very rarely eat red meat and spending ten > points on a hamburger isn't very appealing to me. I don't mind if other > people around me want to eat junk food, and I would never sit there and tell > people how much fat and calories are in their food (unless they ask ;o). > > It really just drives me crazy when people (especially the ones you expect > to be supportive) are so negative about the fact I choose to live a > healthier life. Sometimes it's just really hard to explain to people that > it's not that hamburgers (or whatever) is not on my diet, it just isn't > " POINT worthy " ! I think the bottom line in this case is that my MIL is over > weight and she was on WW a long time ago and didn't like it for whatever > reason and decided to quit. So now she sees me succeeding, and staying OP > for almost a year now, and I think she is jealous. I usually get along great > with her but it seems that lately every time I see her she makes a point of > asking me " Are you still doing the Weight Watchers thing? " > > > Kris > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 9, 2003 Report Share Posted March 9, 2003 I really don't know why I put up with me either! <G> Kris ) -----Original Message----- and frankly I don't see why you're putting up with you. -Crys- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 9, 2003 Report Share Posted March 9, 2003 I get really sarcastic with people who question my food choices. My usual replies are: " Do you think I got up at 5:30 this morning to workout, planned my meals last night, and packed a bag of food for today just so I could blow it on some stinkin' doughnut (or whatever food)?!! I don't think so! " Or if I feel that they're being rude, I'll say, " I've lost 15 lbs (or whatever) since Dec. 29/02, how much have you lost? " Those usually shut people up. Rhonda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 9, 2003 Report Share Posted March 9, 2003 I've been reading the emails about the unsupportive people and want to relate my experience with them ... when I told someone that SuSit was my choice to eat the way I was and I felt it was much healthier than the way I'd eaten in the past the person I made the comment to starting telling others that I was getting " testy " because of the diet I was on and I was experience " low blood sugar " because of it ... in other words all I got for standing up for myself was others talking about how I now had an " attitude " . So I guess what I'm saying is that unsupportive people are probably going to stay unsupportive for whatever reason ... in my case I'm sure it was jealousy because I was losing weight and the person making to comments about me was overweight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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