Feelings

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Hi Everyone--

There have been a lot of posts lately about eating through feelings, what to do, etc.

I would venture to guess that the number one reason why most people struggle with weight is because they are eating through feelings. Somewhere in our pasts we began to use food to soothe us when we were angry or lonely or tired, etc.

Well, here's a bulletin (and I need to read this as much as anyone else) feelings are OKAY. Feelings are meant to be felt. As a matter of fact, you would probably be amazed at how quickly being angry goes away, if you just allow yourself to feel your anger.

Feelings are scary--but only at first and only when we don't allow ourselves to feel them for awhile. What ends up happening is that when I eat through or read through or shop through my feelings (insert your favorite escape method) today--tomorrow when I get angry what comes up is ALL the things I'm angry about, not just tomorrow's issue. Does that make sense? So, when I am angry tomorrow and I haven't dealt with my anger in the past, it almost feels like there are waves of anger that are never going to stop. But, it does stop, and you can work your way through it and let it go.

For anyone who has also been on the Diet Survivors list, here is where Moran espouses cognitive behavior therapy--I'm sorry, I can't remember the name of the exercise, maybe the ABCDEF method--it is a way to work through and counteract irrational thinking. What happens when we let ourselves feel our anger is that we think it will never stop, and we think all sorts of things, irrational things, that aren't necessarily true.

I am not saying this is easy, it isn't. I am not saying it will happen overnight, it won't. It is, unfortunately, one of those things that works the more you work on it!! We eat to make those uncomfortable feelings go away...but all eating really does is make us more miserable.

Cheryl

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As I was gettign ehr readyfor bed, I had the sense of having eaten a good meal, a really deepfeeling of satisfaction, and I had not eaten dinner yet; I realizedthat I felt fed in another way by making some plans for me. I wantedto share that with you all. Amy

Amy, that is so nice to read. I hope I can feel the same way soon. I have neglected myself for so long, I need to learn how to make ME happy again. Where is this Shambala Resort, anyway? I live in Wyoming, but VERY close to the Colorado border.

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