Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 Hi , I can completely relate to your feelings. I am also frightened of gaining a huge amount of weight, but as the days go by I'm so relieved not to have to starve myself that those fears are retreating into the background. I can also do myself in by watching TV. Right now on the Today Show they are talking about how much people gain during the hollidays and how we will probably never lose that weight. They are telling us how to avoid the best food at parties. I want to scream at the TV. The worst show for me though is " Biggest Loser " which I feel is terribly destructive and yet I just can't look away. I think getting older is also helping me though. Now that I'm closer to 40 then 20 I'm starting to realize that even if I got down to my old goal weight, I'd probably just look weird. When you are 20 the waif look *might* have some alure for some people, but after a certain point, skinny women just start to look starved to my eye. This is a recent revelation to me as I have been conditioned to think that thinner is always prettier. I am discovering that despite what my mother says, it isn't true! Now I'm trying to be realistic about my goals and my needs and trying to focus more on the important things in my life and less on a number on the scale. I'm also searching around for better role models. Even Tyra Banks isn't really skinny any more. She is gorgeus and veloptuous but certainly not super model skinny. I look at Rosy O'donnel and the girl from " Thats so Raven " (My kids favorite show). I am trying to remind myself that despite what society keeps telling us, you can have a great, fulfilled, successful life and you can have romance and love and family and friends and none of that needs you to be skinny. Sorry for the rant, but talking here really helps!! Jelyn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 Hi , I can completely relate to your feelings. I am also frightened of gaining a huge amount of weight, but as the days go by I'm so relieved not to have to starve myself that those fears are retreating into the background. I can also do myself in by watching TV. Right now on the Today Show they are talking about how much people gain during the hollidays and how we will probably never lose that weight. They are telling us how to avoid the best food at parties. I want to scream at the TV. The worst show for me though is " Biggest Loser " which I feel is terribly destructive and yet I just can't look away. I think getting older is also helping me though. Now that I'm closer to 40 then 20 I'm starting to realize that even if I got down to my old goal weight, I'd probably just look weird. When you are 20 the waif look *might* have some alure for some people, but after a certain point, skinny women just start to look starved to my eye. This is a recent revelation to me as I have been conditioned to think that thinner is always prettier. I am discovering that despite what my mother says, it isn't true! Now I'm trying to be realistic about my goals and my needs and trying to focus more on the important things in my life and less on a number on the scale. I'm also searching around for better role models. Even Tyra Banks isn't really skinny any more. She is gorgeus and veloptuous but certainly not super model skinny. I look at Rosy O'donnel and the girl from " Thats so Raven " (My kids favorite show). I am trying to remind myself that despite what society keeps telling us, you can have a great, fulfilled, successful life and you can have romance and love and family and friends and none of that needs you to be skinny. Sorry for the rant, but talking here really helps!! Jelyn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 Hi , I can completely relate to your feelings. I am also frightened of gaining a huge amount of weight, but as the days go by I'm so relieved not to have to starve myself that those fears are retreating into the background. I can also do myself in by watching TV. Right now on the Today Show they are talking about how much people gain during the hollidays and how we will probably never lose that weight. They are telling us how to avoid the best food at parties. I want to scream at the TV. The worst show for me though is " Biggest Loser " which I feel is terribly destructive and yet I just can't look away. I think getting older is also helping me though. Now that I'm closer to 40 then 20 I'm starting to realize that even if I got down to my old goal weight, I'd probably just look weird. When you are 20 the waif look *might* have some alure for some people, but after a certain point, skinny women just start to look starved to my eye. This is a recent revelation to me as I have been conditioned to think that thinner is always prettier. I am discovering that despite what my mother says, it isn't true! Now I'm trying to be realistic about my goals and my needs and trying to focus more on the important things in my life and less on a number on the scale. I'm also searching around for better role models. Even Tyra Banks isn't really skinny any more. She is gorgeus and veloptuous but certainly not super model skinny. I look at Rosy O'donnel and the girl from " Thats so Raven " (My kids favorite show). I am trying to remind myself that despite what society keeps telling us, you can have a great, fulfilled, successful life and you can have romance and love and family and friends and none of that needs you to be skinny. Sorry for the rant, but talking here really helps!! Jelyn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 , It sounds like you applied successfully some IE principals to your TV watching. If it makes you feel crappy to watch shows like " America's Top Model " , maybe a " HEALTHIER " TV show is called for. There are so many choices these days. I like sci-fi shows because they make me think big picture (as in big universe) and slightly less self-obsessed than I normally am. Who cares what you weigh if little green guys are going to suck your brains out? :-) Amy > > Just need a little boost after watching TV tonight. Today was a > strange day for me. I went rock climbing with my husband and found > that I was not up to my usual standard - weaker than normal. Then > when we got home, I felt famished despite my turkey & avocado sandwich > for lunch. > > But, I spent the evening watching " trash " TV, including America's Top > Model and re-runs of American Idol. > > And, shockingly, after watching very skinny 18-year-olds on TV now I > feel like a huge pig! I feel like I'm eating way, way too much and I > am gaining and I can't stop. It is everything I can do to keep me > away from the Weight Watchers website right now. > > I know it is a phase - that it will pass, but I wonder when I'm going > to not be terrified that I'm gaining. I've stopped weighing myself, > I've made my peace with food (most of the time), I'm really paying > attention to my hunger and satisfaction levels, my binging has been > seriously curtailed. I'm even exercising because I enjoy it. But > that nagging voice in the back of my head keeps saying " you're gaining > weight. You're gaining weight. " > > I've never trusted my body to know what to do - my body has always > been the enemy, every since I was 7 years old and diagnosed with Type > I Diabetes. How can I possibly trust it now, 30 years later? > > Note to self: no more America's Next Top Model. It's making me crazy. > > Thanks for listening all. - > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 Amy, I love Science Fiction too. I like that the women are admired for their brains and their strength, not their perfect bodies. And, sexiness is curvy or muscular, not scrawny. I have to admit though that I am completely hooked on " What Not to Wear " , both the TLC and the BBC America versions. I love their emphasis on accepting your body the way it is and dressing to look as good as you can no matter what size you are. I love how they always find something about their " victim's " figure that's " smokin' " or " so tiny " . That show has really made me feel differently (for the better) about the way I look and dress. > > , > > It sounds like you applied successfully some IE principals to your > TV watching. If it makes you feel crappy to watch shows > like " America's Top Model " , maybe a " HEALTHIER " TV show is called > for. There are so many choices these days. > > I like sci-fi shows because they make me think big picture (as in > big universe) and slightly less self-obsessed than I normally am. > Who cares what you weigh if little green guys are going to suck your > brains out? :-) > > Amy > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 Amy, I love Science Fiction too. I like that the women are admired for their brains and their strength, not their perfect bodies. And, sexiness is curvy or muscular, not scrawny. I have to admit though that I am completely hooked on " What Not to Wear " , both the TLC and the BBC America versions. I love their emphasis on accepting your body the way it is and dressing to look as good as you can no matter what size you are. I love how they always find something about their " victim's " figure that's " smokin' " or " so tiny " . That show has really made me feel differently (for the better) about the way I look and dress. > > , > > It sounds like you applied successfully some IE principals to your > TV watching. If it makes you feel crappy to watch shows > like " America's Top Model " , maybe a " HEALTHIER " TV show is called > for. There are so many choices these days. > > I like sci-fi shows because they make me think big picture (as in > big universe) and slightly less self-obsessed than I normally am. > Who cares what you weigh if little green guys are going to suck your > brains out? :-) > > Amy > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 Amy, I love Science Fiction too. I like that the women are admired for their brains and their strength, not their perfect bodies. And, sexiness is curvy or muscular, not scrawny. I have to admit though that I am completely hooked on " What Not to Wear " , both the TLC and the BBC America versions. I love their emphasis on accepting your body the way it is and dressing to look as good as you can no matter what size you are. I love how they always find something about their " victim's " figure that's " smokin' " or " so tiny " . That show has really made me feel differently (for the better) about the way I look and dress. > > , > > It sounds like you applied successfully some IE principals to your > TV watching. If it makes you feel crappy to watch shows > like " America's Top Model " , maybe a " HEALTHIER " TV show is called > for. There are so many choices these days. > > I like sci-fi shows because they make me think big picture (as in > big universe) and slightly less self-obsessed than I normally am. > Who cares what you weigh if little green guys are going to suck your > brains out? :-) > > Amy > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 I love watching the Biggest Loser but I have been good about not letting all the diet talk get into my head. I like seeing the transformation of the contestants. They do have a few things that are helpful but I do think they push exercise too much. I can't wait to see Wednesday's episode. It looks like the final 4 are really thin. I have had to tell myself not to get overworked by what I see on there. I would love to have a trainer. I live in a town which has a very small athletic club and it is a very exclusive one and one which is very expensive. Michele healthyjel wrote: I can also do myself in by watching TV. Right now on the Today Show they are talking about how much people gain during the hollidays and how we will probably never lose that weight. They are telling us how to avoid the best food at parties. I want to scream at the TV. The worst show for me though is "Biggest Loser" which I feel is terribly destructive and yet I just can't look away. . Michele CR: The Last Juror by Grisham Access over 1 million songs - Yahoo! Music Unlimited. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 I actually really like The Biggest Loser, because I can tend to find it pretty inspiring at times, like when they really feel they have a losing battle going on, or when they're trying so hard and it's not working, and it just shows the need to keep going no matter what. I do really find I learn from the show, and I like to go on the message boards and see what people say about it and what they learn from it too. I can't wait to see Wednesday's show either; I do try to remember that it has been quite a few months since we've seen these contestants, try to remember that when you see them looking so thin, and remember that $250,000 is one hell of a motivator, okay? It would be for me, at least. love, Deanna > I can also do myself in by watching TV. Right now on the Today Show > they are talking about how much people gain during the hollidays and > how we will probably never lose that weight. They are telling us how > to avoid the best food at parties. I want to scream at the TV. The > worst show for me though is " Biggest Loser " which I feel is terribly > destructive and yet I just can't look away. > > > > Recent Activity > > 24 > New Members > > 1 > New Links > > Visit Your Group > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 I'm glad you can separate the diet talk from the show. I've only watched it once, but my concern was that the people lose (and are encouraged to lose) SO MUCH weight so fast. People losing 15, 20 pounds in a week? (At least the show I watched). That freaked me out, and I haven't watched since. But, I may have completely misunderstood. I love What Not to Wear, that someone mentioned. And the only other show I watch regularly is House because I love Hugh Laurie! :-) > > I love watching the Biggest Loser but I have been good about not letting all the diet talk get into my head. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2006 Report Share Posted December 12, 2006 I like What Not To Wear for the same reasons. I have learned a lot about accepting my body & finding clothes that look good on me from the show. > I have to admit though that I am completely hooked on " What Not to > Wear " , both the TLC and the BBC America versions. I love their > emphasis on accepting your body the way it is and dressing to look as > good as you can no matter what size you are. I love how they always > find something about their " victim's " figure that's " smokin' " or " so > tiny " . That show has really made me feel differently (for the better) > about the way I look and dress. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2006 Report Share Posted December 12, 2006 I like What Not To Wear for the same reasons. I have learned a lot about accepting my body & finding clothes that look good on me from the show. > I have to admit though that I am completely hooked on " What Not to > Wear " , both the TLC and the BBC America versions. I love their > emphasis on accepting your body the way it is and dressing to look as > good as you can no matter what size you are. I love how they always > find something about their " victim's " figure that's " smokin' " or " so > tiny " . That show has really made me feel differently (for the better) > about the way I look and dress. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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