Re: I Just Finished Reading Intuitive Eating and I'm Worried About My Husband

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I was at Disneyland last thursday- sunday! haha how weird. Back to the originial email though, that sounds really upsetting. He is smaller than me! Which upsets me..haha. I am not married, so I cant give much advice other than- talk to him about it. Wish I were more help, but I loved your post. kelleySandi wrote: I just finished reading "Intuitive Eating" and I asked my husband to read it. It's made me really

worried about him. He runs every morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is greeted with, "That just screams fat." He'll only eat 1/2 of his dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4" and weighs 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His size 30 shorts fall off him.We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked about) how he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this year and am now at 144 (5'5" tall). My sister-in-law is right, no matter what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less. I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have become my issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy weight. I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the competition. Plus, there's no

weight that's low enough to be skinny enough. Now that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it influence my body image and self-talk.But, how can I help my husband? I love him. I'm worried because he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on the wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to eat healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him the reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to understand what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.

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I see that I didn't mention that he runs even if he's injured or

sick. He's so thin, he doesn't look healthy at all. The skin is

just hanging on his face. When I try to tell him that he looks so

much better with a little bit more weight, he blows me off.

>

> I just finished reading " Intuitive Eating " and I asked my husband

to

> read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every

> morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs

> himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is

> greeted with, " That just screams fat. " He'll only eat 1/2 of his

> dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4 " and

weighs

> 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His size

30

> shorts fall off him.

>

> We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she

> confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked about)

how

> he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this

year

> and am now at 144 (5'5 " tall). My sister-in-law is right, no

matter

> what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less.

>

> I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have become

my

> issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy

weight.

> I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the

competition.

> Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough. Now

> that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it

influence

> my body image and self-talk.

>

> But, how can I help my husband? I love him. I'm worried because

> he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on the

> wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to eat

> healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him the

> reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to

understand

> what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.

>

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I have been with my boyfriend since I was a freshmsn in high school. When he was a junior I think, he did sort of the same thing, he looked awful! I was soo worried about him. ANd I felt gross about myself in return because he was so skinny, and at the time I really wasnt at all. Everytime I said something, he didnt want to ehar it. I dont know what I did, because he definitely is not like that anymore, so I wish I could give you some advice. But good luck with that. Maybe another relative should say something to him? Maybe that would make it more real to him. Jsut a thoughtSandi wrote: I see that I didn't mention that he runs even if he's injured or sick. He's so thin, he doesn't look healthy at all. The skin is just hanging on his face. When I try to tell him that he looks so much better with a little bit more weight, he blows me off. >> I just finished reading "Intuitive Eating" and I asked my husband to > read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every > morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs > himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is > greeted with, "That just screams fat." He'll only eat 1/2 of his > dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4" and

weighs > 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His size 30 > shorts fall off him.> > We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she > confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked about) how > he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this year > and am now at 144 (5'5" tall). My sister-in-law is right, no matter > what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less. > > I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have become my > issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy weight. > I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the competition. > Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough. Now > that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it influence > my body image and self-talk.> > But, how can I help

my husband? I love him. I'm worried because > he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on the > wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to eat > healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him the > reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to understand > what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.>

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I have been with my boyfriend since I was a freshmsn in high school. When he was a junior I think, he did sort of the same thing, he looked awful! I was soo worried about him. ANd I felt gross about myself in return because he was so skinny, and at the time I really wasnt at all. Everytime I said something, he didnt want to ehar it. I dont know what I did, because he definitely is not like that anymore, so I wish I could give you some advice. But good luck with that. Maybe another relative should say something to him? Maybe that would make it more real to him. Jsut a thoughtSandi wrote: I see that I didn't mention that he runs even if he's injured or sick. He's so thin, he doesn't look healthy at all. The skin is just hanging on his face. When I try to tell him that he looks so much better with a little bit more weight, he blows me off. >> I just finished reading "Intuitive Eating" and I asked my husband to > read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every > morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs > himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is > greeted with, "That just screams fat." He'll only eat 1/2 of his > dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4" and

weighs > 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His size 30 > shorts fall off him.> > We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she > confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked about) how > he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this year > and am now at 144 (5'5" tall). My sister-in-law is right, no matter > what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less. > > I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have become my > issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy weight. > I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the competition. > Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough. Now > that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it influence > my body image and self-talk.> > But, how can I help

my husband? I love him. I'm worried because > he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on the > wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to eat > healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him the > reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to understand > what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.>

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I have been with my boyfriend since I was a freshmsn in high school. When he was a junior I think, he did sort of the same thing, he looked awful! I was soo worried about him. ANd I felt gross about myself in return because he was so skinny, and at the time I really wasnt at all. Everytime I said something, he didnt want to ehar it. I dont know what I did, because he definitely is not like that anymore, so I wish I could give you some advice. But good luck with that. Maybe another relative should say something to him? Maybe that would make it more real to him. Jsut a thoughtSandi wrote: I see that I didn't mention that he runs even if he's injured or sick. He's so thin, he doesn't look healthy at all. The skin is just hanging on his face. When I try to tell him that he looks so much better with a little bit more weight, he blows me off. >> I just finished reading "Intuitive Eating" and I asked my husband to > read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every > morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs > himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is > greeted with, "That just screams fat." He'll only eat 1/2 of his > dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4" and

weighs > 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His size 30 > shorts fall off him.> > We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she > confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked about) how > he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this year > and am now at 144 (5'5" tall). My sister-in-law is right, no matter > what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less. > > I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have become my > issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy weight. > I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the competition. > Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough. Now > that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it influence > my body image and self-talk.> > But, how can I help

my husband? I love him. I'm worried because > he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on the > wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to eat > healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him the > reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to understand > what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.>

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Sandi,

I noticed that my husband started to follow my diet rules,

too...although, not to the degree of your husband. Since your

husband follows your example so well, maybe you can do the same with

IE. Show him it is ok not to follow diet rules.

The fact that he does eat junk all night might be a sign that he

really is struggling with diet rules, right? Maybe he really does

not want to crave and binge on junk at night, but he hasn't

verbalized it.

Also, I would say feel free to talk about the IE forums that you

participate in. Share some of the stories of other people

struggling. Maybe something will click after hearing one of our

stories.

I hope he is able to turn things around. What you describe sounds

pretty bad.

Amy

>

> I just finished reading " Intuitive Eating " and I asked my husband

to

> read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every

> morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs

> himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is

> greeted with, " That just screams fat. " He'll only eat 1/2 of his

> dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4 " and

weighs

> 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His size

30

> shorts fall off him.

>

> We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she

> confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked about)

how

> he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this

year

> and am now at 144 (5'5 " tall). My sister-in-law is right, no

matter

> what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less.

>

> I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have become

my

> issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy

weight.

> I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the

competition.

> Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough.

Now

> that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it

influence

> my body image and self-talk.

>

> But, how can I help my husband? I love him. I'm worried because

> he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on

the

> wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to eat

> healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him the

> reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to

understand

> what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.

>

[Guest guest]

Sandi,

I noticed that my husband started to follow my diet rules,

too...although, not to the degree of your husband. Since your

husband follows your example so well, maybe you can do the same with

IE. Show him it is ok not to follow diet rules.

The fact that he does eat junk all night might be a sign that he

really is struggling with diet rules, right? Maybe he really does

not want to crave and binge on junk at night, but he hasn't

verbalized it.

Also, I would say feel free to talk about the IE forums that you

participate in. Share some of the stories of other people

struggling. Maybe something will click after hearing one of our

stories.

I hope he is able to turn things around. What you describe sounds

pretty bad.

Amy

>

> I just finished reading " Intuitive Eating " and I asked my husband

to

> read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every

> morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs

> himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is

> greeted with, " That just screams fat. " He'll only eat 1/2 of his

> dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4 " and

weighs

> 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His size

30

> shorts fall off him.

>

> We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she

> confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked about)

how

> he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this

year

> and am now at 144 (5'5 " tall). My sister-in-law is right, no

matter

> what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less.

>

> I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have become

my

> issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy

weight.

> I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the

competition.

> Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough.

Now

> that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it

influence

> my body image and self-talk.

>

> But, how can I help my husband? I love him. I'm worried because

> he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on

the

> wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to eat

> healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him the

> reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to

understand

> what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.

>

[Guest guest]

Sandi,

I noticed that my husband started to follow my diet rules,

too...although, not to the degree of your husband. Since your

husband follows your example so well, maybe you can do the same with

IE. Show him it is ok not to follow diet rules.

The fact that he does eat junk all night might be a sign that he

really is struggling with diet rules, right? Maybe he really does

not want to crave and binge on junk at night, but he hasn't

verbalized it.

Also, I would say feel free to talk about the IE forums that you

participate in. Share some of the stories of other people

struggling. Maybe something will click after hearing one of our

stories.

I hope he is able to turn things around. What you describe sounds

pretty bad.

Amy

>

> I just finished reading " Intuitive Eating " and I asked my husband

to

> read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every

> morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs

> himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is

> greeted with, " That just screams fat. " He'll only eat 1/2 of his

> dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4 " and

weighs

> 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His size

30

> shorts fall off him.

>

> We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she

> confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked about)

how

> he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this

year

> and am now at 144 (5'5 " tall). My sister-in-law is right, no

matter

> what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less.

>

> I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have become

my

> issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy

weight.

> I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the

competition.

> Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough.

Now

> that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it

influence

> my body image and self-talk.

>

> But, how can I help my husband? I love him. I'm worried because

> he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on

the

> wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to eat

> healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him the

> reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to

understand

> what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.

>

[Guest guest]

Sandi, one more thing that I thought of...your DH sounds like he has

very disordered eating/exercizing patterns. I'm not saying that I

think he has an eating disorder, but some of the advice applicable

to ED might be helpful. www.something-fishy.org has some advice for

how to deal with loved ones when you suspect an ED.

> >

> > I just finished reading " Intuitive Eating " and I asked my

husband

> to

> > read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every

> > morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs

> > himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is

> > greeted with, " That just screams fat. " He'll only eat 1/2 of

his

> > dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4 " and

> weighs

> > 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His

size

> 30

> > shorts fall off him.

> >

> > We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she

> > confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked

about)

> how

> > he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this

> year

> > and am now at 144 (5'5 " tall). My sister-in-law is right, no

> matter

> > what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less.

> >

> > I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have

become

> my

> > issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy

> weight.

> > I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the

> competition.

> > Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough.

Now

> > that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it

> influence

> > my body image and self-talk.

> >

> > But, how can I help my husband? I love him. I'm worried

because

> > he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on

the

> > wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to

eat

> > healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him

the

> > reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to

> understand

> > what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Sandi, one more thing that I thought of...your DH sounds like he has

very disordered eating/exercizing patterns. I'm not saying that I

think he has an eating disorder, but some of the advice applicable

to ED might be helpful. www.something-fishy.org has some advice for

how to deal with loved ones when you suspect an ED.

> >

> > I just finished reading " Intuitive Eating " and I asked my

husband

> to

> > read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every

> > morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs

> > himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is

> > greeted with, " That just screams fat. " He'll only eat 1/2 of

his

> > dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4 " and

> weighs

> > 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His

size

> 30

> > shorts fall off him.

> >

> > We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she

> > confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked

about)

> how

> > he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this

> year

> > and am now at 144 (5'5 " tall). My sister-in-law is right, no

> matter

> > what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less.

> >

> > I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have

become

> my

> > issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy

> weight.

> > I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the

> competition.

> > Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough.

Now

> > that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it

> influence

> > my body image and self-talk.

> >

> > But, how can I help my husband? I love him. I'm worried

because

> > he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on

the

> > wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to

eat

> > healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him

the

> > reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to

> understand

> > what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Sandi, one more thing that I thought of...your DH sounds like he has

very disordered eating/exercizing patterns. I'm not saying that I

think he has an eating disorder, but some of the advice applicable

to ED might be helpful. www.something-fishy.org has some advice for

how to deal with loved ones when you suspect an ED.

> >

> > I just finished reading " Intuitive Eating " and I asked my

husband

> to

> > read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every

> > morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs

> > himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is

> > greeted with, " That just screams fat. " He'll only eat 1/2 of

his

> > dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4 " and

> weighs

> > 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His

size

> 30

> > shorts fall off him.

> >

> > We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she

> > confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked

about)

> how

> > he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this

> year

> > and am now at 144 (5'5 " tall). My sister-in-law is right, no

> matter

> > what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less.

> >

> > I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have

become

> my

> > issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy

> weight.

> > I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the

> competition.

> > Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough.

Now

> > that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it

> influence

> > my body image and self-talk.

> >

> > But, how can I help my husband? I love him. I'm worried

because

> > he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on

the

> > wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to

eat

> > healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him

the

> > reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to

> understand

> > what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I think he was like this long before I met him. He's been very thin

his whole life. His eating patterns are very much like his

mother's. She does the same thing with skipping meals during the day

and pigging out at night. He's just thrown exercise into the mix.

He took 5 PE classes in one semester when he was in college. He says

that the exercise makes him feel good. But, he's already had to have

sugery on his big toes because of the joints breaking down and he's

walking like he's in pain. He's also got all the signs of IBS and I

am wondering if maybe he's so fearful of getting fat that he stresses

out so much when he eats that he triggers it.

As much as I'm glad I read " Intuitive Eating " for my own development,

I'm almost sorry I did because it opened my eyes to what's happening

to my husband and I know that there is absolutely nothing I can say

or do that will get through to him.

> >

> > I just finished reading " Intuitive Eating " and I asked my husband

> to

> > read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every

> > morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He weighs

> > himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is

> > greeted with, " That just screams fat. " He'll only eat 1/2 of his

> > dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4 " and

> weighs

> > 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His size

> 30

> > shorts fall off him.

> >

> > We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and she

> > confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked about)

> how

> > he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds this

> year

> > and am now at 144 (5'5 " tall). My sister-in-law is right, no

> matter

> > what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less.

> >

> > I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have

become

> my

> > issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy

> weight.

> > I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the

> competition.

> > Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough.

> Now

> > that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it

> influence

> > my body image and self-talk.

> >

> > But, how can I help my husband? I love him. I'm worried because

> > he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on

> the

> > wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to

eat

> > healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him the

> > reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to

> understand

> > what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in it.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you for the link, Amy. I'll check it out.

> > >

> > > I just finished reading " Intuitive Eating " and I asked my

> husband

> > to

> > > read it. It's made me really worried about him. He runs every

> > > morning for at least 30 minutes. He skips breakfast. He

weighs

> > > himself a dozen times a day. Every meal I put on the table is

> > > greeted with, " That just screams fat. " He'll only eat 1/2 of

> his

> > > dinner then turn around and eat junk all night. He's 5'4 " and

> > weighs

> > > 124 pounds. He thinks that's a healthy weight for him. His

> size

> > 30

> > > shorts fall off him.

> > >

> > > We went to Disneyland with his sister's family on Sunday and

she

> > > confided to me that his family has noticed (and has talked

> about)

> > how

> > > he loses weight every time I lose weight. I lost 32 pounds

this

> > year

> > > and am now at 144 (5'5 " tall). My sister-in-law is right, no

> > matter

> > > what I weigh, he weighs 15-20 pounds less.

> > >

> > > I realize that in our 17 years of marriage, his issues have

> become

> > my

> > > issues. When I was overweight, he was at a normal, healthy

> > weight.

> > > I think maybe part of why I stayed fat was to avoid the

> > competition.

> > > Plus, there's no weight that's low enough to be skinny enough.

> Now

> > > that I'm aware of what's happening, I can avoid letting it

> > influence

> > > my body image and self-talk.

> > >

> > > But, how can I help my husband? I love him. I'm worried

> because

> > > he's not looking healthy. His body is telling him that he's on

> the

> > > wrong path and he's not listening to it. How can I get him to

> eat

> > > healthy food throughout the day? Is it too late? I told him

> the

> > > reason I wanted him to read the book is that I want him to

> > understand

> > > what my next step is in eating. I doubt he'll see himself in

it.

> > >

> >

>