Guest guest Posted April 12, 2000 Report Share Posted April 12, 2000 Cheryl THANKYOU for posting .. no wonder you are feeling down what with all thats going on .. I agree with Kim there are likely doctors that can get you in this summer if thats the only option for you. Who is your present surgeon and would you consider switching? We all would recommend our own .. to you. I know I wanted my surgery near the end of June before school let out and I had mine June 22 within 3 weeks of my consultation so I know it can be done but you might want to make inquiries now while you still have a few months to plan. As with Kim I too have become more assertive with my needs and making it known .. its empowering and I wish I had it before the surgery or while in hospital but I guess I felt I had to be a good little girl and be quiet If you can call back your surgeon and ask WHY they can't do you before surgery and tell them your situation if you already haven't. If not .. maybe consider changing ... We're here for you. If you ever want to talk let me know I'd be more than happy to call you and I'm sure others here would too. Hang in there! Where there is a will there is a way .. and hopefully you'll get this surgery soon so you can start feeling good about yourself again because you are worth it! Hugs Lyssa From: Kim Mihelidakis Sent: Wednesday, April 12, 2000 7:53 AMTo: OSSG-NewEnglandegroupsSubject: Re: Re: discussions Cheryl Welcome to this list, and I am glad you got brave and posted today! That way we can get to know you. First of all.....there ARE definitely doctors in the Boston area that could book your surgery this summer. There are others who have a very long waiting list. If you need names and phone numbers, just ask, ok? Most of us have busy lives, and have to plan this major surgery around our busy schedules also. It would be very nice if you could get the support you need after surgery. Who would be coming to help you? One thing I have found since I've lost weight is that I am a lot more assertive with people about my needs. It is probably not right, but I guess I had to feel good about my self, or worthy or something, in order to insist that others not walk all over me. I DO insist on that now, and I just couldn't before. You may find that in time, that happens to you also. Please keep posting....many of us have been where you are, both physically and emotionally. If you are able, there is a support meeting Thursday night in Newton that you are welcome to attend. You'll meet a lot of us, meet some doctors that do the surgery (Thayer and Reines), and learn a lot. Please come if you can. Hugs from Plymouth, MA kim cherylb@... wrote: In <8d0j38+7umheGroups>, on 04/12/00 at 12:00 AM, "Alice " said: >I am envious of the friendship I feel on this site and others and know >that in order for me to not feel like an outsider I have to take a risk >and participate. Well I am glad to see someone understands how I feel. I think it is hard to jump in and share some painfull and hard to talk about issues though with all this other talk going on. Feel like I am intruding on a party with a bunch of down stuff. I hope my apt with the nutritionist the other day. Ever since than I have been more depressed than usual. There are many reasons for this but I think the biggest one is that I am fearfull now I will not be able to have the surgyury or if I do that it will be a failure. I do not think I will be able to have it cause the receptionist at the Dr's office gave ne the impression that there is no way I would get to surgury this summer. Summer is the only time I have people here who can help. But than I got to thinking about this. That is silly.. I have nooone to help. Oh sure the kids will be home but do you really think they will help.. Well you do not know my kids but they will not. This is bringing back memories of when I had my first cornia transplant. I went to the hospital not knowing if I was comming home that day or staying overnight. I was suppose to call my husband and let him know. Well when they decided they called him and it took 2 hrs to reach him (he ignore there pages) and than when he did finally answer and he came and got me him and the kids were all mad at me for "ruining their fun".. I dunno obviously they had something planned that now that I was home they could not do. I was called every name in the book and felt horrible. Not to mention how much pain I was in. I have since divorced that man and now am married to someone else who "used" to be sweet. But he is already sick and tired of all my aches and pains and he says he will supportive of my choice to do this surgury that apparently means only if I am nice and sweet and not ever in a bad mood and do not hold him respsonsible for his bad actions. He is not speaking to me right now cause he threw away some important papers of mine that were in his nightstand without asking me and I yelled at him. I was upset. He did not apologize for thorwing them away. I had to go dig in the trash to get them out. I of course was very upset and of course ran directly to the cupboard and ate about 10 fig newtons and a small dish of ice cream. I told him lhe other day ofter my apt that I was very upset about how much I weight and how much pain I was in and how I need his help and support. I do not call this help and support. I realllllly wish they had not taken my phen/fen away. Except for the 1.5 years I was on phen/fen I have always wished I was not on this earth. I have never understood why god put me here if he is going to make me have such a miserable life. sigh -- ----------------------------------------------------------- cherylb@... ----------------------------------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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