Guest guest Posted September 8, 2004 Report Share Posted September 8, 2004 Labor Day Weekend we spent in Missouri with my in-laws. This is the way it's always been at Mom's house (remember as you read this I love this lady butttt - (grin)) cook, eat and do dishes, that is all we get done when we go to visit. Mom believes in bacon grease in the green beans, lots of fat on the meat, butter and cheese on all vegetables, the most fattening dressing on salads and the richest desserts that can possibly be made. She also believe that one shows their respect for her and her cooking talents by heaping your plate and finishing all thats on the plate. In previous years each time we sat at the table to eat Mom would sit down to a table loaded with the most fattening foods and look over at me and say "I need to go on a diet" and on and on and on. Well, we went to visit this past weekend. She and Papa were waiting on the front porch for us to arrive after not seeing us for three years. All the time we were there no one ever said a word about either of us looking as if we had lost weight. Now, I know if you look at our pictures on the website you can tell that we have lost "some" weight. Before I started this life style change I would have been hurt when not one of the family cared enough to say a word about our accomplishment. But, this time I just smiled and said to myself "Thank you family because I will use your silence as strength to make sure that the next time and the next time and the next time I see you I will still be the same size and I am right now just to show you that I won't put that weight back on - do or die!!!" Before I would have just given up but this will give me something to work towards. Following is how I spent my enjoyable two days. Mom loves the kitchen so it is up early. "What yuh-all want for breakfast"? cw - "Oatmeal please, I'll fix it". Mom: "Oh, you can't live on oatmeal, how about some bacon, sausage, eggs, hash browns, pancakes (have I missed anything) oh yes biscuits and gravy"? cw: "No thank you, oatmeal will do". (Do the dishes and clean up the kitchen.) 10 a.m. Mom: "What do you want to have for lunch (it takes some time to fix lunch)". cw: "A salad and a turkey sandwich will be just fine". Mom: "What do you mean salad and sandwich that wouldn't keep a fly alive". How about some baby back ribs, potato salad with a huge amount of real mayo, baked beans and some yummmmmmy german chocolate cake to top it off". cw: "No thank you, a salad and sandwich will do just fine". Noon - Lunch: Larry and I enjoy salad and small sandwich while everyone else pigs out on ribs and baked beans and that german chocolate cake oooooozing with coconut frosting!! Papa has cholesterol bumps on his eye lids, tummy laying almost to his knees and complaining of his back hurting but muching down on the fat on the top of those rib bones. (Do the dishes and clean up the kitchen.) 2 p.m. Mom: "What yuh-all want for dinner"? (DINNER, my goodness we just finished lunch - well it will take a while to prepare dinner (she is 79 years old - we do help her) cw: "How about some grilled chicken breasts, vegetables, a baked potato and fruit covered with low call cool whip". Mom: "Why you got to be kidding, that was just what I was ah thinking. Now we'll just add some sour cream and butter to the potato, put a bag of cheese on the vegetables and smother that chicken breast in oleo, add a hugh peach pie with vanilla ice cream and that will hold you over until snack before bed time". 6 p.m. Dinner time cw: Honey, you didn't put oleo on my chicken did you? lw: No honey I didn't. cw: Honey, you didn't put oleo on my potato did you. lw: No honey, I put have salsa for you. cw: I hid my veges so they wouldn't get cheese on top of them and I just closed my eyes when the pie and ice cream came on the scene. I look over at our favorite aunt. She has just recently come home from the hospital after passing blood from several months because her stomach lining was infected. She is diagnosed with high blood pressure, sugar diabetes, congestive heart failure, has put on 50 plus pounds and also has cholesterol bumps on her eye lids. Well, heres hoping that all that medication she is taking to keep alive works as she ingests three plates of all of the above items from the dinner menu. (Do the dishes and clean up the kitchen.) 7:30 p.m. Mom: Are yuh all ready for a little snack? I have pecan pie, apple pie, strawberry, chocolate or vanilla ice cream. Oh, I meant to tell you I've got the most delicious cream cheese desert that will just make your mouth water when I tell yuh what's in it. (GREAT BIG SMILE) Please understand I love that lady but do you think she may have been trying to add some unneeded weight to my bones? Carolyn Wilkerson TOPS #TX 1807, Houston Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2004 Report Share Posted September 8, 2004 Carolyn, Your mother-in-law sounds a little like my mother-in-law. Cook, eat, do the dishes. Load the table with fatty food and demand you pile your plate high. Complain if there are leftovers to put away. Then here's where mine is a little different. She didn't offer me seconds, but was careful to offer seconds to everyone else at the table. And when her son (my hubby) was out of the room and out of earshot, she'd tell me over and over in no uncertain terms how fat I was, etc. Grrrrrrrrr! Not all family members are supportive! Sad. I weighed in with a loss last Thursday and was very happy. But I think I've gained it back this week. We'll see. I'm tired of this see- sawing back and forth with two measly pounds that I seem to gain and lose over and over. I have more than a year to go before obtaining my goal. IF I can ever quit gaining back what I lose. I still haven't earned my first charm for losing 10 pounds and I've been at this since January! At least I'm going in the correct direction. I'm exercising more now. That should help. Kathleen-#TX-1811, Harlingen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2004 Report Share Posted September 8, 2004 She was either trying to add weight to your bones, or put you on a slow path to self-destruction. But, you got through this by eating right. So, now you can hold up your head proudly and know you were adding to your healthy lifestyle, no adding heart trouble, high cholesterol, etc., etc. Next time you see your family, you will have lost even more weight, and all of them will have more and more problems. You are obviously on the correct path to a long and healthy life. GOOD FOR YOU!!! Hugs, Deanna After thoughts Labor Day Weekend we spent in Missouri with my in-laws. This is the way it's always been at Mom's house (remember as you read this I love this lady butttt - (grin)) cook, eat and do dishes, that is all we get done when we go to visit. Mom believes in bacon grease in the green beans, lots of fat on the meat, butter and cheese on all vegetables, the most fattening dressing on salads and the richest desserts that can possibly be made. She also believe that one shows their respect for her and her cooking talents by heaping your plate and finishing all thats on the plate. In previous years each time we sat at the table to eat Mom would sit down to a table loaded with the most fattening foods and look over at me and say "I need to go on a diet" and on and on and on. Well, we went to visit this past weekend. She and Papa were waiting on the front porch for us to arrive after not seeing us for three years. All the time we were there no one ever said a word about either of us looking as if we had lost weight. Now, I know if you look at our pictures on the website you can tell that we have lost "some" weight. Before I started this life style change I would have been hurt when not one of the family cared enough to say a word about our accomplishment. But, this time I just smiled and said to myself "Thank you family because I will use your silence as strength to make sure that the next time and the next time and the next time I see you I will still be the same size and I am right now just to show you that I won't put that weight back on - do or die!!!" Before I would have just given up but this will give me something to work towards. Following is how I spent my enjoyable two days. Mom loves the kitchen so it is up early. "What yuh-all want for breakfast"? cw - "Oatmeal please, I'll fix it". Mom: "Oh, you can't live on oatmeal, how about some bacon, sausage, eggs, hash browns, pancakes (have I missed anything) oh yes biscuits and gravy"? cw: "No thank you, oatmeal will do". (Do the dishes and clean up the kitchen.) 10 a.m. Mom: "What do you want to have for lunch (it takes some time to fix lunch)". cw: "A salad and a turkey sandwich will be just fine". Mom: "What do you mean salad and sandwich that wouldn't keep a fly alive". How about some baby back ribs, potato salad with a huge amount of real mayo, baked beans and some yummmmmmy german chocolate cake to top it off". cw: "No thank you, a salad and sandwich will do just fine". Noon - Lunch: Larry and I enjoy salad and small sandwich while everyone else pigs out on ribs and baked beans and that german chocolate cake oooooozing with coconut frosting!! Papa has cholesterol bumps on his eye lids, tummy laying almost to his knees and complaining of his back hurting but muching down on the fat on the top of those rib bones. (Do the dishes and clean up the kitchen.) 2 p.m. Mom: "What yuh-all want for dinner"? (DINNER, my goodness we just finished lunch - well it will take a while to prepare dinner (she is 79 years old - we do help her) cw: "How about some grilled chicken breasts, vegetables, a baked potato and fruit covered with low call cool whip". Mom: "Why you got to be kidding, that was just what I was ah thinking. Now we'll just add some sour cream and butter to the potato, put a bag of cheese on the vegetables and smother that chicken breast in oleo, add a hugh peach pie with vanilla ice cream and that will hold you over until snack before bed time". 6 p.m. Dinner time cw: Honey, you didn't put oleo on my chicken did you? lw: No honey I didn't. cw: Honey, you didn't put oleo on my potato did you. lw: No honey, I put have salsa for you. cw: I hid my veges so they wouldn't get cheese on top of them and I just closed my eyes when the pie and ice cream came on the scene. I look over at our favorite aunt. She has just recently come home from the hospital after passing blood from several months because her stomach lining was infected. She is diagnosed with high blood pressure, sugar diabetes, congestive heart failure, has put on 50 plus pounds and also has cholesterol bumps on her eye lids. Well, heres hoping that all that medication she is taking to keep alive works as she ingests three plates of all of the above items from the dinner menu. (Do the dishes and clean up the kitchen.) 7:30 p.m. Mom: Are yuh all ready for a little snack? I have pecan pie, apple pie, strawberry, chocolate or vanilla ice cream. Oh, I meant to tell you I've got the most delicious cream cheese desert that will just make your mouth water when I tell yuh what's in it. (GREAT BIG SMILE) Please understand I love that lady but do you think she may have been trying to add some unneeded weight to my bones? Carolyn Wilkerson TOPS #TX 1807, HoustonEMAIL TEXAS-STYLE!! 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Guest guest Posted September 8, 2004 Report Share Posted September 8, 2004 LOL Carolyn! It's amazing how people can try to sabotage ya...wonder if she knew she was doing it or if it's just "her way"? You did great! I'm not sure I could have turned down biscuits and gravy LOL I love your attitude! Melody Moris, LeaderTOPS #TX 1454, Pleasantonhttp://www.texastops.org After thoughts Labor Day Weekend we spent in Missouri with my in-laws. This is the way it's always been at Mom's house (remember as you read this I love this lady butttt - (grin)) cook, eat and do dishes, that is all we get done when we go to visit. Mom believes in bacon grease in the green beans, lots of fat on the meat, butter and cheese on all vegetables, the most fattening dressing on salads and the richest desserts that can possibly be made. She also believe that one shows their respect for her and her cooking talents by heaping your plate and finishing all thats on the plate. In previous years each time we sat at the table to eat Mom would sit down to a table loaded with the most fattening foods and look over at me and say "I need to go on a diet" and on and on and on. Well, we went to visit this past weekend. She and Papa were waiting on the front porch for us to arrive after not seeing us for three years. All the time we were there no one ever said a word about either of us looking as if we had lost weight. Now, I know if you look at our pictures on the website you can tell that we have lost "some" weight. Before I started this life style change I would have been hurt when not one of the family cared enough to say a word about our accomplishment. But, this time I just smiled and said to myself "Thank you family because I will use your silence as strength to make sure that the next time and the next time and the next time I see you I will still be the same size and I am right now just to show you that I won't put that weight back on - do or die!!!" Before I would have just given up but this will give me something to work towards. Following is how I spent my enjoyable two days. Mom loves the kitchen so it is up early. "What yuh-all want for breakfast"? cw - "Oatmeal please, I'll fix it". Mom: "Oh, you can't live on oatmeal, how about some bacon, sausage, eggs, hash browns, pancakes (have I missed anything) oh yes biscuits and gravy"? cw: "No thank you, oatmeal will do". (Do the dishes and clean up the kitchen.) 10 a.m. Mom: "What do you want to have for lunch (it takes some time to fix lunch)". cw: "A salad and a turkey sandwich will be just fine". Mom: "What do you mean salad and sandwich that wouldn't keep a fly alive". How about some baby back ribs, potato salad with a huge amount of real mayo, baked beans and some yummmmmmy german chocolate cake to top it off". cw: "No thank you, a salad and sandwich will do just fine". Noon - Lunch: Larry and I enjoy salad and small sandwich while everyone else pigs out on ribs and baked beans and that german chocolate cake oooooozing with coconut frosting!! Papa has cholesterol bumps on his eye lids, tummy laying almost to his knees and complaining of his back hurting but muching down on the fat on the top of those rib bones. (Do the dishes and clean up the kitchen.) 2 p.m. Mom: "What yuh-all want for dinner"? (DINNER, my goodness we just finished lunch - well it will take a while to prepare dinner (she is 79 years old - we do help her) cw: "How about some grilled chicken breasts, vegetables, a baked potato and fruit covered with low call cool whip". Mom: "Why you got to be kidding, that was just what I was ah thinking. Now we'll just add some sour cream and butter to the potato, put a bag of cheese on the vegetables and smother that chicken breast in oleo, add a hugh peach pie with vanilla ice cream and that will hold you over until snack before bed time". 6 p.m. Dinner time cw: Honey, you didn't put oleo on my chicken did you? lw: No honey I didn't. cw: Honey, you didn't put oleo on my potato did you. lw: No honey, I put have salsa for you. cw: I hid my veges so they wouldn't get cheese on top of them and I just closed my eyes when the pie and ice cream came on the scene. I look over at our favorite aunt. She has just recently come home from the hospital after passing blood from several months because her stomach lining was infected. She is diagnosed with high blood pressure, sugar diabetes, congestive heart failure, has put on 50 plus pounds and also has cholesterol bumps on her eye lids. Well, heres hoping that all that medication she is taking to keep alive works as she ingests three plates of all of the above items from the dinner menu. (Do the dishes and clean up the kitchen.) 7:30 p.m. Mom: Are yuh all ready for a little snack? I have pecan pie, apple pie, strawberry, chocolate or vanilla ice cream. Oh, I meant to tell you I've got the most delicious cream cheese desert that will just make your mouth water when I tell yuh what's in it. (GREAT BIG SMILE) Please understand I love that lady but do you think she may have been trying to add some unneeded weight to my bones? Carolyn Wilkerson TOPS #TX 1807, HoustonEMAIL TEXAS-STYLE!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 Carolyn, > Here's a pat on the back for your persistance - pat pat pat - it will > pay off. Thanks for the pat on the back. It *has* paid off a little this week. I measured my hips this morning and I've lost one inch! > Also you need another pat on the back for exercising especially with > the probability that it might have been painful - pat pat pat. Thanks. I'm gonna keep it up. I appreciate everyone sharing how much they exercise and how it helps. It has encouraged me to keep at it. Kathleen TOPS #TX 1811, Harlingen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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