Re: Jacquie's open letter to the universe

[Guest guest]

Oh Jacquie! I am sorry. I really really can't

understand these people. I can't. I don't know

anybody who doesn't love Ebony. I think there is

something seriously lacking in the people who live

near you guys. I can't imagine such small minds that

they would exclude someone because of his/her special

needs. That SHOULD make them be nicer to him and more

helpful, not the oposite. I wan't to call a meeting

of these mothers and give them the statistics.

Chances are that some of their children will have

special needs children or that they will if they have

more children. They should help their children learn

about differences and be accepting and encouraging.

They are doing their children and both a

disservice by behaving this way.

I am very, very sorry!!!!!

Tamara

--- The Hunny Family wrote:

> Dear Horrible Reality That I Inhabit:

>

> You really socked it to me today, didn't ya? Got me

> right in the kisser when I wasn't looking.

>

> I guess I've been handling this whole autism thing

> you handed me a little too well lately -- I can't

> think of any other reason you'd throw such a cruel

> twist into my life.

>

> I have to admit, though, that your timing couldn't

> have been better. On my period, on a grey rainy day

> when the edges of depression were closing in. Nice

> touch.

>

> I was already feeling sad when I went to pick

> up at school. It was just 'one of those days'. Of

> course, when his teacher reported he hadn't hit a

> single person today, I was overjoyed! (nice touch,

> again -- setting me up for the fall)

>

> And then, as we neared the car, you swung your

> diabolical plan into action. " See you Saturday?! "

> called Dale's mom. Of course, taking the bait, I

> turned back: " What's on Saturday? " " Oh, " said your

> minion, realizing she'd been a pawn in your nasty

> little Jacquie takedown, " ummmm....oh, well..... " I

> walked away.

>

> Along came another mom, one I trust, one who doesn't

> seem to play your games. " So Debbie, " I said, " tell

> me what we haven't been invited to on Saturday. "

> " Austin's birthday party, " she replied, having the

> good grace to look ashamed on behalf of Austin's

> mother.

>

> Universe, don't you KNOW that calls Austin his

> FRIEND???? That really really LIKES Austin?

>

> Well, all the suspected univited parties have now

> been confirmed.

>

> I managed, although you didn't think I could,to NOT

> cry until we were home and was upstairs. Then,

> admittedly, I lost it, not even allowing my husband

> to touch me for fear the contact would send me over

> the edge into hysteria.

>

> If you had given me an autistic child who didn't

> give a crap about other kids, this wouldn't hurt me

> so badly. But you gave me an autistic child who,

> paradoxically, LOVES people and WANTS to have

> friends. The key to this is social skills, I know.

> He needs more social skills in order to have

> friends. But how will he learn social skills with

> no friends to learn them from?

>

> Have you given me a child who wants so badly to have

> people be with him, and about whom " 's your

> boyfriend! " will be a playground taunt? Have you

> given me a child with such a capacity to love, but

> who may never be loved? A child who never judges,

> but who will always BE judged? A child who wants so

> badly to be included in things, but who will always

> be overlooked and pushed to the sidelines?

>

> What the HELL did he ever do to YOU???????

>

> Jacquie

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

=====

Tamara

mom to :

Ebony, 4 yrs -- asd, ADHD, bi-polar

, 1 year

wife to:

Terry, love of my life

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[Guest guest]

>>>>>

I am fixated on a very graceful revenge which Marc is trying to talk me out

of.

Knowing that considers Austin his " friend " , I want to buy Austin a

birthday card, a nice cute one, and have sign it and give it to him on

Monday. Just that. No catty remarks, no digs...just a nice card from a

sweet kid who found out it was his birthday.

This is calculated to inspire a guilty feeling in the mother.

<<<<<<

You could look at this another way. It would be taking the high road,

wishing the child a happy birthday and showing that you aren't holding any

grudges.

Depends on how you want to look at it.

But, I certainly understand how you feel....

Penny

[Guest guest]

Of course, I meant " a New York MINUTE " !

RE: Jacquie's open letter to the universe

Jacquie -

I'm truly sorry.

I don't know what to say, other than I'd invite to Jacqui's birthday

party in a New York second.

Penny