We've Been there

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Jill,

we have been right where you are now....cancer is a terrible disease for

anyone to have, let alone someone who is a control freak!!! (yep, thats how

I am too).....I prided myself on my healthy eating habits, exercising,

youthful appearance, etc...just like you. I was so totally angry because

it didn't seem to matter...I got cancer anyway....and I could no longer

control my own life....the doctors did. I hoarded my pills, because I

decided I would never go through this again, and would take them all at once

if I had a recurrance....my surgeon was the one who made me really

reevaluate my feelings....we had a nice talk...and his attitude was....YOU

ARE ENTITLED TO FEEL THIS WAY!!! YOU are the one with cancer, You are the

one in pain, scared, uncomfortable, angry, anxious....not your doctor or

your onco nurse. I took his advise to care about ME, and take care of ME,

and allow myself to grieve for what I lost.. The weight gain will leave when

the steroids are done, your hair will grow back, chemo will be over, and

really, no one judges you by the number of breasts you have (IF they do,

they are worthless pieces of poop, and should be shunned).

Please know that we are a support group...this is where you come to vent and

bitch and kvetch, and we are all here for you....we are in this TOGETHER,

and you are never alone with your feelings. It is healthy to express

yourself to people who understand, and that is all of us here.

Please post as often as you need to.....we go through this TOGETHER

Hugs, Elaine

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Jill

for the letter i wrote to you about what happen with me and all and look at how

many people care for you girl when i said if you ever need a pillow to lay your

head on and i said i had a big one well it more like a hugs king size one look

at the people who care that has wrote to you because we all know what you going

through we been there and had the same feeling i thought i really was going to

die every little discomfort i call my dr because i lost my parents to cancer so

to me i was going to die so Jill here's all kinds of pillows here in this grp

for you to lay your head on we here for you and my granddaughter she was scared

to touch me thought i was going to die and finally we sat down as a family and

talk about the disease and how each one felt about it and our fears and all

maybe you and your daughter and husband should sit down and have a family

discussion on it and talk about what each other feels we all love you Jill

cheryl

Subject: We've Been there