Guest guest Posted September 1, 2007 Report Share Posted September 1, 2007 hang in there zoloft... had surgery 5/22...... it wasn't the diagnose but the incomtenence thats got me going nutty.... Be a better Globetrotter. Get better travel answers from someone who knows.Yahoo! Answers - Check it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2007 Report Share Posted September 1, 2007 , Depression, anger, fear ….we all run the gamut of emotions when we hear what we believe to be the fatal word Cancer applied to ourselves. Some of the womenfolk I have corresponded with tell me that there is an aspect to their emotional roller coaster that many men don’t understand - the guilt they have in worrying about THEIR future: how they will cope without their partner – when they feel they should be concerning themselves solely with their partner’s problems. .So in this heady emotional mix, it is hardly surprising that there may be some frictional disagreements between you and your wife. My personal outlook on life is to take as few drugs as I can, so I never went the Prozac route, but instead was able to draw on our experiences over our thirty years of marriage when we had got through some pretty tough times without too much scar tissue. As I learned more about the disease, and as we discussed what I was learning, the initial fear that we would be parted in a matter of months receded. As that fear went, many of the other major emotions settled too and we got back onto the even keel that we had managed to achieve over our years together. I hope this helps some, but if you are still finding difficulty in dealing with the issues involved in a diagnosis like prostate cancer, can I suggest you seek counseling rather than resort to drugs? That is the route that I took at an even more perilous time of my life than my PCa diagnosis and I found it really helped. It is often difficult for men to admit that they have any of these problems because it is seen as weak, but it really isn’t. All the best Terry Herbert in Melbourne Australia Diagnosed ‘96: Age 54: Stage T2b: PSA 7.2: Gleason 3+3=6: No treatment. Jun '07 PSA 42.0 - Bony Metastasis: starting ADT My site is at www.prostatecancerwatchfulwaiting.co.za It is a tragedy of the world that no one knows what he doesn’t know, and the less a man knows, the more sure he is that he knows everything. Joyce Carey From: ProstateCancerSupport [mailto:ProstateCancerSupport ] On Behalf Of cpcohen1945 Sent: Sunday, 2 September 2007 3:12 PM To: ProstateCancerSupport Subject: Antidepressants? I was diagnosed with early-stage PCa about two weeks ago. I'm getting over the shock, and I've read enough to understand what's going on _physically_. My doctor has suggested that I take antidepressants. I told him: " When I go out for a bike ride and don't enjoy it, I'll ask you for them. " That may be too simplistic. My wife and I are bickering more often than normal, rather than giving each other emotional support. Is it me, is it her, or is it a sign of depression that I refuse to recognize? I'd like to hear from any of you about antidepressants: What did you take? Why did you start? How useful were they? What were the side-effects? Thanks. I may start trolling the Prozac (et al) mailing lists, but that will only muddy the waters. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2007 Report Share Posted September 2, 2007 Hi All, I am having some severe low back problems, arthritis and old age. I visited the doctor recently and he asked about depression and we got to talking about my dear . I couldn't help it, I started bawling like a baby. I admitted that there were times when the constant continues, that I think that maybe its not worth it. He immediately sent me to see a counselor. We talked for some time and offered me anti-depressants. But I think that I can get by without them. Suicide is a very common problem among veterans. The American Legion has set up a hot line that anyone can call and get help if they need it. The toll free number is: 1-. I hope that none of you reading this needs to call this number. I wish you all the best Aubrey , Depression, anger, fear ….we all run the gamut of emotions when we hear what we believe to be the fatal word Cancer applied to ourselves. Some of the womenfolk I have corresponded with tell me that there is an aspect to their emotional roller coaster that many men don’t understand - the guilt they have in worrying about THEIR future: how they will cope without their partner – when they feel they should be concerning themselves solely with their partner’s problems. .So in this heady emotional mix, it is hardly surprising that there may be some frictional disagreements between you and your wife. My personal outlook on life is to take as few drugs as I can, so I never went the Prozac route, but instead was able to draw on our experiences over our thirty years of marriage when we had got through some pretty tough times without too much scar tissue. As I learned more about the disease, and as we discussed what I was learning, the initial fear that we would be parted in a matter of months receded. As that fear went, many of the other major emotions settled too and we got back onto the even keel that we had managed to achieve over our years together. I hope this helps some, but if you are still finding difficulty in dealing with the issues involved in a diagnosis like prostate cancer, can I suggest you seek counseling rather than resort to drugs? That is the route that I took at an even more perilous time of my life than my PCa diagnosis and I found it really helped. It is often difficult for men to admit that they have any of these problems because it is seen as weak, but it really isn’t. All the best Terry Herbert in Melbourne Australia Diagnosed ‘96: Age 54: Stage T2b: PSA 7.2: Gleason 3+3=6: No treatment. Jun '07 PSA 42.0 - Bony Metastasis: starting ADT My site is at www.prostatecancerwatchfulwaiting.co.za It is a tragedy of the world that no one knows what he doesn’t know, and the less a man knows, the more sure he is that he knows everything. Joyce Carey I wish you all the bestAubrey Pilgrim, DC (Ret.) Author ofA Revolutionary Approach to Prostate Cancer-Read the original book for FREE at: http://www.prostatepointers.org/prostate/lay/apilgrim/Read new edition for FREE at http://www.cancer.prostate-help.org/capilgr.htmDr. E. Crawford is co-author of the revisionGet a sneak peek of the all-new AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2007 Report Share Posted September 2, 2007 Hi All, I am having some severe low back problems, arthritis and old age. I visited the doctor recently and he asked about depression and we got to talking about my dear . I couldn't help it, I started bawling like a baby. I admitted that there were times when the constant pain continues, that I think that maybe its not worth it. He immediately sent me to see a counselor. We talked for some time and he offered me anti-depressants. But being the macho man I pretend to be, think that I can get by without them. Suicide is a very common problem among veterans. The American Legion has set up a hot line that anyone can call and get help if they need it. The toll free number is: 1-. I hope that none of you reading this ever needs to call this number. I wish you all the best Aubrey on 9/2/07 12:12 AM, cpcohen1945 at cpcohen1945 wrote:> I'd like to hear from any of you about antidepressants:> > What did you take?> > Why did you start?> > How useful were they?> > What were the side-effects?> > Thanks. I'd recommend that you stay away from these evil things. Your doc has fallenunder the spell of a massive marketing campaign on the part of the immoralgreedy pill companies.I took Prozac when it first came out, BUT it was after about 8 months ofindividual and group counseling and under tight observation. I was on 'emfor only a few months and they helped pull me out of what I feel now was acorrectly diagnosed clinical depression.With the craziness that accompanies the massive life changes with the cancermy GP asked me if I wanted to try antideressants again and set me up with acounselor at an off-campus psycholgy clinic. He put me on Prozac right away(like the same day.) I think they may have also given me an MMPI(Personality Inventory), but he certainly didn¹t analyse it before he gaveme the pills. No noticable effect, so they switched me to Lexapro. Like allthese drugs, they slowly build up in the system, so are kind of sneaky. Inthis case, creepy. I became MORE despondent, to the point of being selfdestructive. I finally woke up after a particularly harrowing episode andgot rid of the pills and stopped going to the psycho-quack.Among the things that were told to me was that clinical depression isanalogous to diabetes and that FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE I would have to be onantidepressants just to maintain my existence, the same way a diabetic hasto take Insulin. What a crock of rubbish!Listen, the life changes that accompany this disease are profound andsudden. Yes they are stressful. Yes, you are in an uncomfortable placementally, and agonizing over tough decisions. And you are not your old self,even more so if you are going through androgyn deprivation treatment. Butnone of these things are depression in a clinical sense.So, yes, as you say, ³My wife and I are bickering more often than normal,rather than giving each other emotional support.² Of course! It¹s a copingmechanism (though not an especially good long-term one IMHO) in reaction tothe sudden changes in your lives... there are probably a lot of thingshappening here and you need to work on them - together. At least bickeringis communication... Better than either of you shutting down leaving youapart like oil and water.These dangerous medications-that are being pushed by the criminalbloodsuckers in the pharmaceuitical industry and prescribed by incompetent,undertrained doctors and mental health specialists- should be avoided.Your common-sense reply was the right one. I wish you all the bestAubrey Pilgrim, DC (Ret.) Author ofA Revolutionary Approach to Prostate Cancer-Read the original book for FREE at: http://www.prostatepointers.org/prostate/lay/apilgrim/Read new edition for FREE at http://www.cancer.prostate-help.org/capilgr.htmDr. E. Crawford is co-author of the revisionGet a sneak peek of the all-new AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2007 Report Share Posted September 2, 2007 on 9/2/07 12:12 AM, cpcohen1945 at cpcohen1945@... wrote: > I'd like to hear from any of you about antidepressants: > > What did you take? > > Why did you start? > > How useful were they? > > What were the side-effects? > > Thanks. I'd recommend that you stay away from these evil things. Your doc has fallen under the spell of a massive marketing campaign on the part of the immoral greedy pill companies. I took Prozac when it first came out, BUT it was after about 8 months of individual and group counseling and under tight observation. I was on 'em for only a few months and they helped pull me out of what I feel now was a correctly diagnosed clinical depression. With the craziness that accompanies the massive life changes with the cancer my GP asked me if I wanted to try antideressants again and set me up with a counselor at an off-campus psycholgy clinic. He put me on Prozac right away (like the same day.) I think they may have also given me an MMPI (Personality Inventory), but he certainly didn¹t analyse it before he gave me the pills. No noticable effect, so they switched me to Lexapro. Like all these drugs, they slowly build up in the system, so are kind of sneaky. In this case, creepy. I became MORE despondent, to the point of being self destructive. I finally woke up after a particularly harrowing episode and got rid of the pills and stopped going to the psycho-quack. Among the things that were told to me was that clinical depression is analogous to diabetes and that FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE I would have to be on antidepressants just to maintain my existence, the same way a diabetic has to take Insulin. What a crock of rubbish! Listen, the life changes that accompany this disease are profound and sudden. Yes they are stressful. Yes, you are in an uncomfortable place mentally, and agonizing over tough decisions. And you are not your old self, even more so if you are going through androgyn deprivation treatment. But none of these things are depression in a clinical sense. So, yes, as you say, ³My wife and I are bickering more often than normal, rather than giving each other emotional support.² Of course! It¹s a coping mechanism (though not an especially good long-term one IMHO) in reaction to the sudden changes in your lives... there are probably a lot of things happening here and you need to work on them - together. At least bickering is communication... Better than either of you shutting down leaving you apart like oil and water. These dangerous medications-that are being pushed by the criminal bloodsuckers in the pharmaceuitical industry and prescribed by incompetent, undertrained doctors and mental health specialists- should be avoided. Your common-sense reply was the right one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2007 Report Share Posted September 2, 2007 Hey Aubrey: Are you already using ADT? When I was suffering through the side effects of Lupron, I had such emotional episodes. Fuller Re: Antidepressants? Hi All, I am having some severe low back problems, arthritis and old age. I visited the doctor recently and he asked about depression and we got to talking about my dear . I couldn't help it, I started bawling like a baby. I admitted that there were times when the constant pain continues, that I think that maybe its not worth it. He immediately sent me to see a counselor. We talked for some time and he offered me anti-depressants. But being the macho man I pretend to be, think that I can get by without them. Suicide is a very common problem among veterans. The American Legion has set up a hot line that anyone can call and get help if they need it. The toll free number is: 1-. I hope that none of you reading this ever needs to call this number. I wish you all the best Aubrey In a message dated 9/2/2007 10:02:58 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time, westbankalgmail (DOT) com writes: on 9/2/07 12:12 AM, cpcohen1945 at cpcohen1945@ yahoo.com wrote:> I'd like to hear from any of you about antidepressants:> > What did you take?> > Why did you start?> > How useful were they?> > What were the side-effects?> > Thanks. I'd recommend that you stay away from these evil things. Your doc has fallenunder the spell of a massive marketing campaign on the part of the immoralgreedy pill companies.I took Prozac when it first came out, BUT it was after about 8 months ofindividual and group counseling and under tight observation. I was on 'emfor only a few months and they helped pull me out of what I feel now was acorrectly diagnosed clinical depression.With the craziness that accompanies the massive life changes with the cancermy GP asked me if I wanted to try antideressants again and set me up with acounselor at an off-campus psycholgy clinic. He put me on Prozac right away(like the same day.) I think they may have also given me an MMPI(Personality Inventory), but he certainly didn¹t analyse it before he gaveme the pills. No noticable effect, so they switched me to Lexapro. Like allthese drugs, they slowly build up in the system, so are kind of sneaky. Inthis case, creepy. I became MORE despondent, to the point of being selfdestructive. I finally woke up after a particularly harrowing episode andgot rid of the pills and stopped going to the psycho-quack.Among the things that were told to me was that clinical depression isanalogous to diabetes and that FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE I would have to be onantidepressants just to maintain my existence, the same way a diabetic hasto take Insulin. What a crock of rubbish!Listen, the life changes that accompany this disease are profound andsudden. Yes they are stressful. Yes, you are in an uncomfortable placementally, and agonizing over tough decisions. And you are not your old self,even more so if you are going through androgyn deprivation treatment. Butnone of these things are depression in a clinical sense.So, yes, as you say, ³My wife and I are bickering more often than normal,rather than giving each other emotional support.² Of course! It¹s a copingmechanism (though not an especially good long-term one IMHO) in reaction tothe sudden changes in your lives... there are probably a lot of thingshappening here and you need to work on them - together. At least bickeringis communication. .. Better than either of you shutting down leaving youapart like oil and water.These dangerous medications- that are being pushed by the criminalbloodsuckers in the pharmaceuitical industry and prescribed by incompetent,undertrained doctors and mental health specialists- should be avoided.Your common-sense reply was the right one. I wish you all the bestAubrey Pilgrim, DC (Ret.) Author ofA Revolutionary Approach to Prostate Cancer-Read the original book for FREE at: http://www.prostate pointers. org/prostate/ lay/apilgrim/Read new edition for FREE at http://www.cancer. prostate- help.org/ capilgr.htmDr. E. Crawford is co-author of the revision Get a sneak peek of the all-new AOL.com. Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2007 Report Share Posted September 2, 2007 Hi Sonny, No, I am fortunate. I had a radical prostatectomy in 1992. My PSA has been undetectable since then. But I have had some very emotional crises in the last few years. My only son died of alcoholism in 1997. Then my only daughter of the same thing in 2004. Then my died in April of this year. I have been able to keep busy and avoid most feelings of depression. But lately my low back has really started hurting. It is due to arthritis and old age. I am in constant pain. This has really added to my problems. I have been given some oxycodone which seems to help a bit. Thank you for asking. I am going to be okay. Aubrey Are you already using ADT? When I was suffering through the side effects of Lupron, I had such emotional episodes. Fuller Get a sneak peek of the all-new AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2007 Report Share Posted September 2, 2007 > >Date: 2007/09/02 Sun PM 12:00:36 CDT >To: ProstateCancerSupport >Subject: Re: Re: Antidepressants? I am usually quiet about what I read for opinions, however I feel a need to respond to this post. I find that anytime someone broad-brush generalizes from a bad experience, it can have adverse affects on others. I would agree that often meds are prescribed errantly, however there is value in a proper usage of an anti-depression. These were never intended to be a cure for depression, rather, they are an aid to help those who truly need assistance to cope with overwhelming issues. I agree that learning how to handle the issues of life, without meds is important. However we are not all in a position to deal with these overwhelming issues without some assistance. I am one of those purported under-trained mental health professionals, I have seen the value of short term meds, as well as the problems of over prescribing. I do think it is important in a venue like this to not call names, and not generalize based on bad experiences. There are competent physicians out there who are able to prescribe in a manner than will provide relief during a very difficult time in a persons life. And as we as brothers in this terrible club all realize, we each have different needs to help get us through the trauma. > >> >>Date: 2007/09/02 Sun PM 12:00:36 CDT >>To: ProstateCancerSupport >>Subject: Re: Antidepressants? > >> >>on 9/2/07 12:12 AM, cpcohen1945 at cpcohen1945@... wrote: >> >>> I'd like to hear from any of you about antidepressants: >>> >>> What did you take? >>> >>> Why did you start? >>> >>> How useful were they? >>> >>> What were the side-effects? >>> >>> Thanks. >> >>I'd recommend that you stay away from these evil things. Your doc has fallen >>under the spell of a massive marketing campaign on the part of the immoral >>greedy pill companies. >> >>I took Prozac when it first came out, BUT it was after about 8 months of >>individual and group counseling and under tight observation. I was on 'em >>for only a few months and they helped pull me out of what I feel now was a >>correctly diagnosed clinical depression. >> >>With the craziness that accompanies the massive life changes with the cancer >>my GP asked me if I wanted to try antideressants again and set me up with a >>counselor at an off-campus psycholgy clinic. He put me on Prozac right away >>(like the same day.) I think they may have also given me an MMPI >>(Personality Inventory), but he certainly didn¹t analyse it before he gave >>me the pills. No noticable effect, so they switched me to Lexapro. Like all >>these drugs, they slowly build up in the system, so are kind of sneaky. In >>this case, creepy. I became MORE despondent, to the point of being self >>destructive. I finally woke up after a particularly harrowing episode and >>got rid of the pills and stopped going to the psycho-quack. >> >>Among the things that were told to me was that clinical depression is >>analogous to diabetes and that FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE I would have to be on >>antidepressants just to maintain my existence, the same way a diabetic has >>to take Insulin. What a crock of rubbish! >> >>Listen, the life changes that accompany this disease are profound and >>sudden. Yes they are stressful. Yes, you are in an uncomfortable place >>mentally, and agonizing over tough decisions. And you are not your old self, >>even more so if you are going through androgyn deprivation treatment. But >>none of these things are depression in a clinical sense. >> >>So, yes, as you say, ³My wife and I are bickering more often than normal, >>rather than giving each other emotional support.² Of course! It¹s a coping >>mechanism (though not an especially good long-term one IMHO) in reaction to >>the sudden changes in your lives... there are probably a lot of things >>happening here and you need to work on them - together. At least bickering >>is communication... Better than either of you shutting down leaving you >>apart like oil and water. >> >>These dangerous medications-that are being pushed by the criminal >>bloodsuckers in the pharmaceuitical industry and prescribed by incompetent, >>undertrained doctors and mental health specialists- should be avoided. >> >>Your common-sense reply was the right one. >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2007 Report Share Posted September 2, 2007 Agree--as another mental health counselor who often suggested a full medical to clients who were depressed beyone the scope of talk therapy. The anti-depressant is not a panacea--it is an aid to "get over the hump" and the talk therapy being the longer term assist. Our local hospital has a CAPSS program, which is excellent. Many men, I know have a hard time with "talk" about their illness, but it does help. Carol Luggage? GPS? Comic books? Check out fitting gifts for grads at Yahoo! Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 Hi , I've been on psych meds for over 20 years (Bipolar disorder). I'll give my opinion, but that doesn't mean it applies to you. I'm declining to answer your questions about antidepressant experience, because benefits and side effects differ from person to person - hence such information could cloud rather than clarify your situation. I love your " bike ride test " for gauging possible depression, plus bike riding is great for reducing situational depression. The stresses of PCa diagnosis are very real, with emotional consequences. These are as a normal response to stressful circumstances; if you were oblivious to them there'd be something wrong with you. Depression and anxiety of this nature tend to respond well to counselling, without medication. My wife and I were brought closer together by my PCa. How? We read the same books and liturature (including the latest s Hopkins White Paper), she accompanied me to a local PCa Survivor's group (found through the local branch of the American Cancer Society), and together we accumulated enough knowledge to overcome fear of the unknown. I discovered that she needed support every bit as much as I did. If anxiety and depression become significant to either of you, medications might be appropriate. If so, I suggest consulting a good psychiatrist for diagnosis and prescription. A primary care physician can prescribe based on what you say; a good psychiatrist does so based on how you say it. Bruce Harvey Dx PCa 2000 age 51 by DRE, PSA 3.8 , stage 2, Gleason 6 (3+3), RRP 6/2000, PSA < 0.1 2000-2006, 1.8 2007, now on ADT. > > I was diagnosed with early-stage PCa about two weeks ago. I'm > getting over the shock, and I've read enough to understand what's > going on _physically_. > > My doctor has suggested that I take antidepressants. I told him: > > " When I go out for a bike ride and don't enjoy it, I'll ask you for them. " > > That may be too simplistic. My wife and I are bickering more often > than normal, rather than giving each other emotional support. > > Is it me, is it her, or is it a sign of depression that I refuse to > recognize? > > I'd like to hear from any of you about antidepressants: > > What did you take? > > Why did you start? > > How useful were they? > > What were the side-effects? > > Thanks. > > I may start trolling the Prozac (et al) mailing lists, but that will > only muddy the waters. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 Everyone -- Thank you all for responding. Life would be dull if we all agreed. I'm going to wait for a while before taking any antidepressants. I'm not depressed _yet_ -- I'll know it when it hits me (or my wife). Meanwhile I'll be talking to the radiation people next week -- they'll try to convince me that the surgeon is unreasonably biased toward cutting, rather than ionizing.. Such is life . . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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