Why does losing weight mean losing people in your life?

[Guest guest]

Morning everyone.

I'm kinda blue this morning. I figured I'd talk it out and see if

you all could help me get through this.

I sent the co-owners of the BBW group I run (well until tomorrow) a

note stating I was leaving. I didn't mention WLS as the primary

reason but the fact that I'd found someone I love and have no need

to be in a singles group any longer. I tried to message Beth Ann,

the one " friend " who's been having issues with my weight loss, last

night BEFORE I sent the email but she was either not there or

ignoring me. So early this morning before I went to work, she

messages me back and asks what's up. So I took a deep breath and

told her I was leaving the group because I'd found someone and was

in a relationship. I know that she probably had read the email--but

wasn't saying anything (knowing someone for a few years you know how

they operate right?). Her response? " Congrats to you " ...and then

she stopped talking and her messenger said she " was gone to work " .

Sigh...I incredibly started crying. I'm teary now even. Why?

Because I guess I tried--dammit I KNOW tried to be the best friend I

could. But I can't do a damn thing about how SHE is going to be or

not be can I? Fortunately a good friend was online and I vented

with her for a bit this morning before I left for work.

I hurt...and I'm not really sure why. I guess cause it's another

loss but one that I can't control. I'm sad, angry, hurt...a whole

mixture of feelings right now. I KNOW that things weren't going to

get better between us but I guess some small part of me was hoping

that it would.

Sh*t....I don't know ladies. I'm so incredibly sad right now I

can't really articulate all of what I'm feeling. I'm sitting here

crying at work cause I'm so frustrated with the whole thing. I

don't know what I was expecting her to do.

I'm sorry for venting...it's just that I guess I was hoping against

hope that she'd not be the person she is (isn't that silly?).

Sigh...sorry for being so down on a Friday but I know you all

understand.

Alisab