Tammy's Parents.

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Hi Tammy,

I feel for your mother. I am in the same boat. I would like to respond

but like your mother, I have very little time. I try to look at my mail

every few days.

I am on this site, and put my mail on " NO Mail. " I read the mail on our

WEB site. I am not bothered with a lot of mail, but when I can I take a look

and can usually just skim, but once in a while I'll write, as to you.

When your father is napping, if she will sign up, she can do as I do and

will gain a wealth of knowledge, and " how to, " as well as friends who care.

This is as important as doing everything in the house. Knowledge is power.

Knowledge will make it easier on her.

She needs some care big time. I have a caregiver for me, but she is only

here 3 1/2 hours a day. She will make lunch.

My husband has hospice. I have been caring for him since he began acting

differently. He wasn't diagnosed until March of 06. Well, he had been

diagnosed the year before with Alzheimer's. (wrong!)

I do give my husband all the love in the world, showing him affection

several times a day. It helps keep him calm at home. He has been kicked out of

4 nursing homes because of agitation and violence. He wasn't in them long.

I also try to agree with him. Never argue. He can't reason.

Dear, I could help your Mom some once in a while, but will not be able to

do much one on one, because I would have to be here checking all the time.

There is nothing much worse than the situation your mother is in, and I

feel for her with all my heart.

I don't know your address.

Love a bunch,

Imogene

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> We are having such a hard time, Mom taking the blunt of it all as she

is his primary caregiver. She calls me at least once to twice a week in

tears and about ready to give up. Along with him being hyper at night and not

settling down which is not allowing her to sleep, so she stays exhausted, he

has began pissing all over the house, he REFUSES to wear depends diapers.

He is getting aggressive physically with Mom, swinging at her, pushing her

and has also begun spitting all over the house instead of swallowing his

saliva. Mom is at her wits end and severely depressed and has NO insurance

and no job as she was just laid off recently from her job. So she is getting

no aid with drugs to calm her down. We BOTH especially MOM just needs an

email buddy to maybe even CALL her and help support her in these times and

maybe answer some lingering questions she keeps presenting to me. I try to

reach out to her in suggestions, some work, some don't, try to help her out

at home as best I can, I have an infant and live three hours from them, and

try to reach out to folks online as well. Mom does NOT have the time to sit

online and do forums or chat groups, she has a LBD husband to care for. I

can't count the number of times she will try to get online only to have him

calling out for her or if we are on the phone talking to have her put me

on hold or call me back because she has to go help him go to the bathroom,

eat, etc. I am so scared of loosing her to a mental breakdown or heart

attack with the stress level she has gone into and how she is not coping well

with some of the stages his disease has recently taken on and how to care for

him. So any suggestions beyond our individual stories of where I can aid

her in reaching out to find her some individuals who have or have had a loved

one with LBD that she can talk to is imperative to me at this point, cause

without her, well I hate to finish the sentence.

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> So anyone willing to send her private emails for her to address when she

has a computer moment of time or make a call to her, PLEASE PLEASE contact

me and help me get my Mother through these difficult times.

>

> Worried Daughter, Tammy

>

Love with a smile,

Imogene

Caregiver for my true Texas Gentleman Husband, who was diagnosed with AD

in '05, but correctly diagnosed with LBD in March '06.

A happy personality is contagious. Infect someone today

Yours Truly