Guest guest Posted February 9, 2010 Report Share Posted February 9, 2010 Ron, Sending up prayers today for you and your Mom and Vader. Do you have him with you? Sounds like you are allowing yourself grief time and that is always a good thing. Even if you remember and " cry all day. " It washes the soul. I hope you will let yourself remember the good times too and the many laughs I remember you had. It needs to all be included in the grieving time. Many hugs, Donna R tomorrow tomorrow would have been mammas birthday.I miss her so much.I have wednesdays off so its going to make it that much harder.last year at this time we made her a cake with her dog vedder on it and had some of her kids and gk over.she died just over a month later.susan would stay home with me if I wanted her too but im just gonna spend the day at home and try to remember the wonderful times and try not to spend it crying..because that's what I feel like doing.I miss her so much...love to all and thank you for listenin. ron Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2010 Report Share Posted February 9, 2010 ron, eventually teh crying will slow down, adn only happen once in a while, daddy has been gone almost 5 years and on thanskgiving holiday times and fahters day, si when i still cry get moddy, and per donnie and kenneth and even my critters all tread water or walk on thin ice around me, daddys bd was always near thanksgiving so i came down from tenn to florida to visit him and after doing that for 15 years or so, it is my sad time still, but i will tel you teh uglies of lbd will be forgotten and the happier memories take over and then you find yourself sad but not crying, but like donna said, crying is good for the soul and the body, cleansing you of the mean stuff in teh body. so let yourself grieve, but maybe you may honor your mom by doing something productive, like daddy loved the stray cats, so in hoor of him i go to the hospital propoerty where people seem to drop of their unwanted cats and spread food around for them , or take some to the humane society in his honor. something that hse loved like reading, take some old books, magazines to a nursing home, and when you are done look up to teh heavens and say 'this is for you mom, i love you', makes you feel good, i promise, hugs. sharon Daughter of Leonard whom was diagnosed in May 2004 and died of complicatons *blood pressure started dropping and wouldn't recover* on Sept 25, 2005. He had bad case of Dr Jekyl/Mr Hyde scenarios. He was showing hallucinations and falling issues since prior to 1994. We moved in to take care of him Jan 19, 2003 and still live in his house. And in feb 2009, i have been diagonosed with 99% probability of lbd. Subject: Re: tomorrow To: LBDcaregivers Date: Tuesday, February 9, 2010, 12:33 PM  Ron, Sending up prayers today for you and your Mom and Vader. Do you have him with you? Sounds like you are allowing yourself grief time and that is always a good thing. Even if you remember and " cry all day. " It washes the soul. I hope you will let yourself remember the good times too and the many laughs I remember you had. It needs to all be included in the grieving time. Many hugs, Donna R tomorrow tomorrow would have been mammas birthday.I miss her so much.I have wednesdays off so its going to make it that much harder.last year at this time we made her a cake with her dog vedder on it and had some of her kids and gk over.she died just over a month later.susan would stay home with me if I wanted her too but im just gonna spend the day at home and try to remember the wonderful times and try not to spend it crying..because that's what I feel like doing.I miss her so much...love to all and thank you for listenin. ron Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2010 Report Share Posted February 9, 2010 Hi Ron, I'd like to ditto what Donna said. I know its hard, especially the first birthday, anniversary of their passing. Hang in there Ron and sending you strength. Courage tomorrow tomorrow would have been mammas birthday.I miss her so much.I have wednesdays off so its going to make it that much harder.last year at this time we made her a cake with her dog vedder on it and had some of her kids and gk over.she died just over a month later.susan would stay home with me if I wanted her too but im just gonna spend the day at home and try to remember the wonderful times and try not to spend it crying..because that's what I feel like doing.I miss her so much...love to all and thank you for listenin. ron Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2010 Report Share Posted February 9, 2010 Dear Ron, Grieve as hard as you need tomorrow. It should help you to get some closure on having endured all the first anniversaries without your mom. I found the first anniversary of Mom's birthday gut wrenching but it is much better now. There is still a sadness, but not the pain. I was surprised to find it was the day of Mom's passing that caught me off guard with emotional memories moreso than the anniversary of the date the next day. That could be because she died on a Saturday rather than a weekday. I was not prepared for that to take hold of me with so many emotional memories of the day. I know others here have said the same. I'll be with you in spirit tomorrow Ron. Once the first year is complete it will get better. Love > > tomorrow would have been mammas birthday.I miss her so much.I have wednesdays off so its going to make it that much harder.last year at this time we made her a cake with her dog vedder on it and had some of her kids and gk over.she died just over a month later.susan would stay home with me if I wanted her too but im just gonna spend the day at home and try to remember the wonderful times and try not to spend it crying..because that's what I feel like doing.I miss her so much...love to all and thank you for listenin. ron > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2010 Report Share Posted February 9, 2010 Dear Ron,  It's ok to cry - but try to remember all the good times you had. I'm fortunate to still have my Mom with me, and I cry a lot just thinking about what is happening, and what I know will happen, and I know I'll cry tons when she's gone, too - but I will treasure all the good memories. Sending you hugs, prayers, and love, Helene in NY (where we are expecting a blizzard!) Subject: tomorrow To: LBDcaregivers Date: Tuesday, February 9, 2010, 12:46 PM  tomorrow would have been mammas birthday.I miss her so much.I have wednesdays off so its going to make it that much harder.last year at this time we made her a cake with her dog vedder on it and had some of her kids and gk over.she died just over a month later.susan would stay home with me if I wanted her too but im just gonna spend the day at home and try to remember the wonderful times and try not to spend it crying..because that's what I feel like doing.I miss her so much...love to all and thank you for listenin. ron Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2010 Report Share Posted February 10, 2010 Hi Ron, I lost my mom only 6 weeks after her birthday. My brother and sister hadn't had a chance to spend her birthday with her for many years. My brother was going back to Boise about 10 days before her birthday and my sister was going to be in the hospital on her birthday, so I suggested that we plan a 'surprise' early birthday party 11 days early. I am so glad that we did, because none of us expected it to be her last birthday. I have pictures of her blowing out her candles, etc. It was a very good day for her. I don't think that we had yet received the LBD dignosis at that point. Every holiday and other special occasion for the first year was hard and I did spend time crying...sometimes just because I miss her so much, but sometimes the tears are cleansing tears that need to be shed. If you feel like you need to cry, then by all means cry. It is cleansing and healing for you. My mom's birthday is February 25th, so I am sure that I will cry again and then on April 13th is the 2nd anniversary of her entering eternal life. We will always miss our moms, but they wouldn't want us shedding tears that are tearing us apart, only the tears that are cleansing to our souls to help us through our heartbreak. Hugs and prayers, Joan > > tomorrow would have been mammas birthday.I miss her so much.I have wednesdays off so its going to make it that much harder.last year at this time we made her a cake with her dog vedder on it and had some of her kids and gk over.she died just over a month later.susan would stay home with me if I wanted her too but im just gonna spend the day at home and try to remember the wonderful times and try not to spend it crying..because that's what I feel like doing.I miss her so much...love to all and thank you for listenin. ron > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2010 Report Share Posted February 10, 2010 Ron, Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I just lost my Momma two days before her birthday. Try to remember all the good birthdays you shared and that she is now spending her birthday without Lewey. Take care hon.  etta Subject: tomorrow To: LBDcaregivers Date: Tuesday, February 9, 2010, 12:46 PM  tomorrow would have been mammas birthday.I miss her so much.I have wednesdays off so its going to make it that much harder.last year at this time we made her a cake with her dog vedder on it and had some of her kids and gk over.she died just over a month later.susan would stay home with me if I wanted her too but im just gonna spend the day at home and try to remember the wonderful times and try not to spend it crying..because that's what I feel like doing.I miss her so much...love to all and thank you for listenin. ron Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 11, 2010 Report Share Posted February 11, 2010 Hi, Ron! I didn't open this until today, I hope you had a sweet Wednesday full of the good memories and that you are back to your own happy self today knowing your Mom is watching over you and happy with the new life and happiness you've found with and her beautiful girl. Hugs, Raquel > > tomorrow would have been mammas birthday.I miss her so much.I have wednesdays off so its going to make it that much harder.last year at this time we made her a cake with her dog vedder on it and had some of her kids and gk over.she died just over a month later.susan would stay home with me if I wanted her too but im just gonna spend the day at home and try to remember the wonderful times and try not to spend it crying..because that's what I feel like doing.I miss her so much...love to all and thank you for listenin. ron > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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