Re: Email Flames Off-List was Re: No Subject - Mark & Barb

[Guest guest]

Barb & Mark,

Barb, you beat me to this and I totally agree with you!!! I am so very

upset that this has happened to you , Mark!!! I find that this kind of

behavior will kill this List - fast!!!! When we start abusing by sending

offending mail to each other is when I leave!! I did not come here to watch

someone be completely kicked in the ass while already feeling abused by the

outside world!! It really makes me want to share my feelings - NOT and I am

sure there are others who are lurking in the background who were ready to

trust this List that are not able to because of this.

Mark, I would like you to send the e-mail to the list exposing the sickness

of this post so some will not dismiss this as you just being sensitive.

Mark, I have to say I am very glad you are here on the List. I find you

help me relate to my niece who is in similar situations as you are. I wish

I had something to help you. I think I have " someone " who can help you but

she does not have a computer. I was going to e-mail you privately and ask

you if she could call you. You can let me know if this is OK. She has

helped me a great deal.

Mark, always let us know when this happens. I have no clue who this is but

I can tell you that this will kill this good thing we have here at CEDA if

we do not expose it. No one wants that to happen as this is the place we

come to be loved when we feel the most unloved. I have a new appreciation

for my insurance, my husband, my family and California. This is due to you,

Mark. It is NOT because you are so pitiful, (see, sometimes I know how your

mind can work), it because you keep trying no matter what!! You may think

you have no choice but to keep trying but you are wrong, there are a million

other bad choices to be made. I hope we can support you and help you make

those right decisions for you.

Now excuse me while I get down off my soap box.

Love Whole Bunches of Kindness, Support, Friendship and Love on The CEDA

List, Carole

> Mark,

>

> Whoever sent you hate mail must be stopped. This kind of behavior cannot

be

> tolerated on this list. This list is meant for support. It is not

> appropriate for anyone on this list to privately flame someone for their

> posts. If someone doesn't like what you have to say, they may ignore you,

> but they should not engage in abusive behavior.

>

> Because you are on AOL, I can't give you detailed instructions on how to

> access your message headers. Maybe someone on the list with AOL can

advise

> you. If you can access your message headers, you should be able to

> determine who sent the message. If you need help finding the headers, you

> can always forward it to me. When AOL forwards messages, it sends

> attachments, so the message headers remain intact on the original message.

> Whoever receives the attachment can view the headers.

>

> Once you know where the message came from, you can do two things. First,

> let Jill know so she can take whatever action she deems appropriate.

> Second, you can write to the person's ISP and file an abuse report.

>

> I know of only two other instances where a person was harrassed by someone

> from the list. It is a very rare occurence. This list is typically one of

> the most supportive I've encountered. Public and private flaming is

> unusual. I commend Jill for creating a safe place for us to share our

> experiences. I am so sorry that someone has abused the trust Jill has

> placed in each of us.

>

> Mark, please don't let the bad behavior of one person drive you away.

There

> are many people on this list who are supportive and care about you.

>

> -Barb

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yea, Carole, I agree with you, and yes, Mark, you are very important to us,

never think that you're not!

Love Lana