Guest guest Posted October 9, 1999 Report Share Posted October 9, 1999 Hi Sonya, My DH, , doesn't go to the OB/GYN appts with me for normal stuff just because I usually do it over my lunch hour or something. He does go with me though when I concerns problems with pregnancy and when I was pregnanct with our daughter he almost always went with. I think it is perfectly fine. Take Care, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 9, 1999 Report Share Posted October 9, 1999 I think it is ok...my husband came with me......he was really pissed when he was asked to leave.......but I insisted he stay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 9, 1999 Report Share Posted October 9, 1999 Jan, I can understand that you would be pissed when they asked him to leave. It seems that some of these people have forgotten that YOU are the patient, and it is YOUR life they are dealing with. had a similar experience, and I am hoping that she will share... Take care, Krista Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 9, 1999 Report Share Posted October 9, 1999 Hi you guys !! My dh. Graham, wanted me to post this question, and asks if you would all please take a vote, and tell me what you think. Is it unusual for a husband to want to accompany his wife into the gyneacologists' office ? I have to go for an appointment in 2 weeks, and since my ep. he has always gone with me to hear first hand what the doctor has to say. And yes, he even went in with me when the gynea. did the pap smear. But now someone has told him that it is strange for him to go in with me as it is a womans doctor, so he is feeling weird about coming with. do any of your dh.'s go with you, and how do you feel about a man wanting to be 'holding your hand' while you are examined? Please let me know either way. Sonja ______________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 9, 1999 Report Share Posted October 9, 1999 Jan Good for you ! Sonja > >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: <ectopicpregnancyegroups> >Subject: Re: take a vote >Date: Sat, 9 Oct 1999 22:42:28 +1300 > >I think it is ok...my husband came with me......he was really pissed when >he >was asked to leave.......but I insisted he stay > > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ > >eGroups.com home: /group/ectopicpregnancy > - Simplifying group communications > > > > > ______________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 9, 1999 Report Share Posted October 9, 1999 Hi Sonja, My dh went with to every doctor appt. for all 6 pregnancies. He was also with in the hospital for every loss. The nurses told me many times how lucky I was to have a dh who would attend every visit. felt he should be there to hear everything the doctor said and also hear the heartbeat, u/s, etc. I had internals every week for most of my last pregnancy and was there every time. I don't think your dh should listen to what everyone is telling him. He should do what is right for him. Stacey G. --- sonja kershaw wrote: > Hi you guys !! > > My dh. Graham, wanted me to post this question, and > asks if you would all > please take a vote, and tell me what you think. > > Is it unusual for a husband to want to accompany his > wife into the > gyneacologists' office ? I have to go for an > appointment in 2 weeks, and > since my ep. he has always gone with me to hear > first hand what the doctor > has to say. And yes, he even went in with me when > the gynea. did the pap > smear. But now someone has told him that it is > strange for him to go in with > me as it is a womans doctor, so he is feeling weird > about coming with. do > any of your dh.'s go with you, and how do you feel > about a man wanting to be > 'holding your hand' while you are examined? > Please let me know either way. > > Sonja > > ______________________________________________________ > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > eGroups.com home: > /group/ectopicpregnancy > - Simplifying group > communications > > > > > ===== __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 9, 1999 Report Share Posted October 9, 1999 Sonja, My dh joined me during the HSG test. When I was examined in the er they kicked him out. But it wouldn't have bothered me for him to be there. He rather enjoyed watching the HSG, everything was so quick and clear like a cartoon x-ray. But when I go for yearlys I usually am fitting it in during lunch break. W/ the upcoming pg (notice the ++++ outlook:)), I will expect him to be there all of the way and I know he will do it. The people who think it's strange should just MYOB. Tara " sonja kershaw " wrote: original article:/group/ectopicpregnancy/?start=4 42 > Hi you guys !! > > My dh. Graham, wanted me to post this question, and asks if you would all > please take a vote, and tell me what you think. > > Is it unusual for a husband to want to accompany his wife into the > gyneacologists' office ? I have to go for an appointment in 2 weeks, and > since my ep. he has always gone with me to hear first hand what the doctor > has to say. And yes, he even went in with me when the gynea. did the pap > smear. But now someone has told him that it is strange for him to go in with > me as it is a womans doctor, so he is feeling weird about coming with. do > any of your dh.'s go with you, and how do you feel about a man wanting to be > 'holding your hand' while you are examined? > Please let me know either way. > > Sonja > > ______________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 1999 Report Share Posted October 10, 1999 Sonja, My dh did not usually go to the doc. with me unless there were problems. He was actually in the room when they did my cryosurgery. He went with me every time when he found out I was pregnant. He did not even leave the room when the nurse told him he had to so she could put in the catheter. However, I have to go see the RE and he told me he could not miss any more work. He missed a lot during the pregnancy. He also asked me the same question about " do all men go with their wives? " He said the doc. was just going to put me on fert. drugs anyway. So my Mom is going with me. I think it is very important to have someone with you so the information can be taken in by two perspectives. I really wish my dh could go but I am thankful I do not have to do it alone. So if your husband can go tell him I think it would be great. Angel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 1999 Report Share Posted October 10, 1999 My husband does not go with me as a rule for the routine visits to the ob/gyn, but he HAS been there with me while the doctor did an internal exam (my post-surgery visits) and certainly for the consult when we decided to talk with the doctor about our problems getting and staying pregnant. He was also with me for my HSG, which involved some " internal " workings and I would not have settled for him NOT to be there for that! As long as he is ok with it, it does not bother me at all (not like he has never been " down there " to see what I have) and I don't really care what the doctor thinks...my husband has as much of a right to know what is going on with my body as I do. I practically had to pitch a fit to get him in with me for the HSG but woe be unto anyone that crosses me once I have made up my mind. I think it is great that graham wants to be there with you and if others think it is strange, they are the ones that have a prob not your DH! What about these DHs who accompany wives to the doctor while they are pg? No difference except there is a baby there too! More power to ya! Mommy to two angel babies, 7/12/97 and 11/6/98 visit our website at http://members.tripod.com/don_n_bess/memorial.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 1999 Report Share Posted October 10, 1999 Ok. I did not relate this when I cast my vote but I will share now since Krista suggested it I have had several experiences where the medical staff did not want my husband with me and I had to be ugly. The first was when I had my miscarriage in '97. The nurse told him to leave because she was going to put in a catheter. I said " He is staying " . She argued with me but I won and she was so flustered she could not get the catheter in. She said it was in and I said no it wasn't, it was between my butt-cheeks. She argued with me about that too but I said " I ought to know where it is, it's my body! " Sure enough...she had to get a clean one and start over! While I was in the ER when they were diagnosing the ectopic, Don was not allowed in with me most of the time, but that was a serious situation. I was out of it, and they were really having to work on me a lot to keep me stable, They were very good about calling him in to be with me whenever the doctor was going to talk to us though. I know he wanted to be with me, but I think it would have been harder for them to work, given the critical nature of my condition. He was with me 24/7 in the hospital though and no one said a word. My doctor's office has never said a word about him being with me for appointments, but if they had, I would have pressed the issue. When I went for my HSG they did not want Don back there with me. I had to tell the nurse three times he was coming (by then the whole waiting room was cracking up) and she finally quit arguing. Like I said, if I have made up my mind that something is going to happen, woe be unto the person that crosses me. I would have walked out without the test rather than go through it without Don being there. Like Krista said, sometimes having two sets of eyes and ears helps you remember more later. When it comes to our healthcare, I think we certainly have the right to demand certain things, and having our spouse present for exams and stuff is within our rights. If I am given a problem, I would definitely take my business elsewhere. The only time when I feel they are within their rights to ask a spouse to leave is when life threatening conditions exist and they need the space to work without the distraction (as was the case with me during my ectopic). I will say that my DH wants to be present, and is comfortable being present. He is a comfort to me. He is not squeamish or " jealous " , so he is not presenting a problem to the medical staff by being there. If he did not want to be there, I would definitely not press for his presence. That is something to be worked out between a woman and her DH. If you are still with me hope sharing this helped someone! Mommy to two angel babies, 7/12/97 and 11/6/98 visit our website at http://members.tripod.com/don_n_bess/memorial.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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