your brother

[Guest guest]

We have exchanged pictures. He definitely looks like mom. He and I

have different dads but there is some resemblance between the two of

us.

Mom and I were living with her parents, she was 21 and unmarried.

After he was born, the pregnancy was never spoken of again, until of

course I found out. (I guess you could say I'm the black sheep when

it comes to grandma.) Blew her away when she found out that I knew.

I understand there was alot of stigma back then for a woman to be

unmarried and have a child, let along 2. Anyway, mom did a wonderful

job with me and I only wish I could change the past (but of course,

whose mind has that not crossed at some time or other.)

> > So happy for you...Thanks for sharing the good news....Could you

> > explain the tag on about your brother finding you?....georgia

> >

> >

> > Thank you for asking about my signature line. I was born in

1968.

> > Mom had another child in 1970 and placed him for adoption. I

didn't

> > find out about his existence until about 2 or 3 months before mom

> > died of cancer. She died in March 1991 and I began my search for

him

> > in May 1991. I got my first computer in 1996 and started posting

> > messages to oodles and oodles of adoption/people search sites.

Lo

> > and behold, on Oct. 21, 2002, I received an email with the

subject

> > saying " Your Brother. " It was him.

> >

> > He was at a friends house and the friend (whom he hadn't told

about

> > his adoption) said lets mess around on the computer. Type in

your

> > name on yahoo search and see how many people have the same name

as

> > you. Well, he did and only 5 sites came up. All 5 were from

group

> > sites that I had posted my search for him.

> >

> > He tried to find us in 1991 and then ended up in legal trouble

and

> > prison, in FL. When he was released, he moved to AA and

continued to

> > get into trouble and ended up in prison there (had to do some

time in

> > the infamous 'Tent City'. He was released in Oct. 2000.

> >

> > He is trying to get his life back on track now, though he was

just

> > arrested again this past weekend. From the story he told me, he

was

> > trying to be a good citizen this time and still got busted. He

could

> > possibly be looking at 10 years. We haven't had a face to face

> > meeting yet. Was hoping for it this summer but it hasn't worked

out

> > and now it looks like it could be awhile longer.

> >

> > All prayers would be appreciated. I honestly feel that if he

were to

> > get the heck out of AZ, he could really turn around and get on

his

> > feet and stay out of trouble.

> >

> > The bottom quote is how I feel about Birthmoms. Had my mom known

how

> > I felt, maybe we could have found him together and enjoyed him

being

> > in OUR lives.

> >

> > Gayla

> > After 11 years of me searching for him, he Found me!

> > Ballard, MY BROTHER

> > First contact via e-mail, Oct. 21, 2002

> > First phone contact, Oct. 24, 2002

> >

> > **That a MOTHER should want the BEST for her child should not be

an

> > embarrassment but a moment to be PROUD of!!!**

[Guest guest]

You are so right; there was a stigma about having a child out of

wedlock. I am always sorry to hear that someone is pregnant and

unmarried because I know that means hardship for both mother and

child. Let's face it, in most cases it is difficult to be a single

parent, work and have enough quality time for a child and having

enough money is usually a problem. I admire those ladies who have the

courage to " give the baby " out for adoption when they realize that

keeping him/her is not best for either the mother or the child. I

also have a great admiration for the young ladies who have the courage

to say no to abortion when they find themselves pregnant without a

husband. I am a firm believer in marriage but things do happen; it's

the way we handle them that tells what kind of person we are. Your

mom must be a very special lady. doris