We are a group now ; a lot of people are not happy

[Guest guest]

and I can understand that. We all tend to get " happy " with the status

quo and don't like changes. I am that way myself and like to keep

things going the way they are...in other words, sometimes I am " stuck

in the mud " because some changes ARE for the better. Who knows???

Groups may be one of those changes that are for the better??? I did

not like the group concept myself when I first joined a group about a

year ago. Now I have found that there are so many advantages to the

groups. I have listed at the bottom of this message several reasons

why I prefer groups...there are other reasons that are not listed.

These are the main reasons.

The reason I am writing this note to all of our members is to ask you

to please give groups a chance. Don't throw out the baby with the

bathwater!!! If you give groups a chance and then decide to leave,

please let us know you are leaving. We would miss you but would

certainly understand that you felt you had to go. Doris

WHY DORIS LIKES AND PREFERS GROUPS:

1. I like the way you can reply to a message by just clicking reply

and then instead of having to click to messages again to get back the

way we did in clubs, you get a screen that says continue and it takes

you to the message your just replied to.

2. I like the messages being in a " book " order...reading from top to

bottom because that is the way I have always read a book and it comes

natural.

3. I like it that the message you are replying to can be a part of

your reply...if you will notice I usually try to delete all but the

part that shows what I am replying to and who I am replying to.

4. I LOVE it that we can do a search and find a previous message by

its subject. Have not checked to see if you can find one if you

know subject and it was not on the subject line.

5. I would love it more if everyone would learn to put a new subject on

the subject line. Sometimes a subject line has nothing to do with what

someone has written but we just click reply and write our new message

(this happened in clubs too).

6. I like it that you can post larger messages than you could in

clubs. I got tired of having to cut the bottom off messages, writing

continued in next message and then hoping I would get the rest posted

before someone posted another message in between.

7. I also like that you can have a Poll in groups...however, the bc

group would not work for that because I am sure we would never be

able to get everyone to do it that way. It would be wonderful if

Jeana could do a poll about the trip to Phoenix and whoever wanted to

go could say so there. Then everyone could see who was going and who

was thinking about it, etc.

[Guest guest]

I thought I had...sorry

grandmadj@... is my email address.

> and I can understand that. We all tend to get " happy " with the

status

> quo and don't like changes. I am that way myself and like to keep

> things going the way they are...in other words, sometimes I

am " stuck

> in the mud " because some changes ARE for the better. Who knows???

> Groups may be one of those changes that are for the better??? I did

> not like the group concept myself when I first joined a group about

a

> year ago. Now I have found that there are so many advantages to the

> groups. I have listed at the bottom of this message several reasons

> why I prefer groups...there are other reasons that are not listed.

> These are the main reasons.

>

> The reason I am writing this note to all of our members is to ask

you

> to please give groups a chance. Don't throw out the baby with the

> bathwater!!! If you give groups a chance and then decide to leave,

> please let us know you are leaving. We would miss you but would

> certainly understand that you felt you had to go. Doris

>

>

> WHY DORIS LIKES AND PREFERS GROUPS:

> 1. I like the way you can reply to a message by just clicking reply

> and then instead of having to click to messages again to get back

the

> way we did in clubs, you get a screen that says continue and it

takes

> you to the message your just replied to.

>

> 2. I like the messages being in a " book " order...reading from top to

> bottom because that is the way I have always read a book and it

comes

> natural.

>

> 3. I like it that the message you are replying to can be a part of

> your reply...if you will notice I usually try to delete all but the

> part that shows what I am replying to and who I am replying to.

>

> 4. I LOVE it that we can do a search and find a previous message by

> its subject. Have not checked to see if you can find one if you

> know subject and it was not on the subject line.

>

> 5. I would love it more if everyone would learn to put a new

subject on

> the subject line. Sometimes a subject line has nothing to do with

what

> someone has written but we just click reply and write our new

message

> (this happened in clubs too).

>

> 6. I like it that you can post larger messages than you could in

> clubs. I got tired of having to cut the bottom off messages, writing

> continued in next message and then hoping I would get the rest

posted

> before someone posted another message in between.

>

> 7. I also like that you can have a Poll in groups...however, the bc

> group would not work for that because I am sure we would never be

> able to get everyone to do it that way. It would be wonderful if

> Jeana could do a poll about the trip to Phoenix and whoever wanted

to

> go could say so there. Then everyone could see who was going and who

> was thinking about it, etc.

[Guest guest]

grandmad, I'm sorry but I don't understand your message; could you

please clarify...if you want you can send it privately to me at

mkayla38@... doris

> > and I can understand that. We all tend to get " happy " with the

> status

> > quo and don't like changes. I am that way myself and like to keep

> >

[Guest guest]

Definitely! Make mine the holiest Swiss you can find.

--- mkayla38 wrote:

> Nan, could you use a bit of cheese with that

> W(h)ine? Glad you are

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

I am glad you are a group. I have been very busy dealing with brain

tumors and other tumors as well. I don't spend as much time on the

internet as I would like but I guess that is just the way it is when

you are dealing with cancer.

I will try and come in tonite and explain my situation more clearly.

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I will keep you in my prayers. Please post when you are able.

Hugs

nne

> I am glad you are a group. I have been very busy dealing with

brain

> tumors and other tumors as well. I don't spend as much time on the

> internet as I would like but I guess that is just the way it is

when

> you are dealing with cancer.

>

> I will try and come in tonite and explain my situation more clearly.

>

>

[Guest guest]

> and I can understand that. We all tend to get " happy " with the

status

> quo and don't like changes. I am that way myself and like to keep

> things going the way they are...in other words, sometimes I am

" stuck

> in the mud " because some changes ARE for the better. Who knows???

> Groups may be one of those changes that are for the better??? I did

> not like the group concept myself when I first joined a group about

a

> year ago. Now I have found that there are so many advantages to the

> groups. I have listed at the bottom of this message several reasons

> why I prefer groups...there are other reasons that are not listed.

> These are the main reasons.

>

> The reason I am writing this note to all of our members is to ask

you

> to please give groups a chance. Don't throw out the baby with the

> bathwater!!! If you give groups a chance and then decide to leave,

> please let us know you are leaving. We would miss you but would

> certainly understand that you felt you had to go. Doris

>

>

> WHY DORIS LIKES AND PREFERS GROUPS:

> 1. I like the way you can reply to a message by just clicking reply

> and then instead of having to click to messages again to get back

the

> way we did in clubs, you get a screen that says continue and it

takes

> you to the message your just replied to.

>

> 2. I like the messages being in a " book " order...reading from top to

> bottom because that is the way I have always read a book and it

comes

> natural.

>

> 3. I like it that the message you are replying to can be a part of

> your reply...if you will notice I usually try to delete all but the

> part that shows what I am replying to and who I am replying to.

>

> 4. I LOVE it that we can do a search and find a previous message by

> its subject. Have not checked to see if you can find one if you

> know subject and it was not on the subject line.

>

> 5. I would love it more if everyone would learn to put a new subject

on

> the subject line. Sometimes a subject line has nothing to do with

what

> someone has written but we just click reply and write our new

message

> (this happened in clubs too).

>

> 6. I like it that you can post larger messages than you could in

> clubs. I got tired of having to cut the bottom off messages, writing

> continued in next message and then hoping I would get the rest

posted

> before someone posted another message in between.

>

> 7. I also like that you can have a Poll in groups...however, the bc

> group would not work for that because I am sure we would never be

> able to get everyone to do it that way. It would be wonderful if

> Jeana could do a poll about the trip to Phoenix and whoever wanted

to

> go could say so there. Then everyone could see who was going and who

> was thinking about it, etc.

I have no idea why you think you don't have my e-mail, since you write

to me.I would never have kept going through cancer without the support

groups.Sometimes I turn to the breast cancer group, but there have

been instances where people have attacked (Ibelieve the cyber word is

flamed) others either me or others,and there is too nmuch pain out

there foranyone to have to handle this. My " main " group is a general

cancer support group; they are my second family.For anyone who hasn't

used a support group, this is the place you howl, bitch,

weep,pray,laugh,ask for and get infornmation.It is the place where

people understand.It is a rock for caregivers. Not having a support

group would probably have seen to it that I didn't make it.I am really

serious about this.Of course,I may not yet, but so far I am chugging

along.I answer very little, as after the one round of flaming,I read

and learn,and I pray for you all, but I will not expose myself to such

pain again.I have not seen any such thing on the general cancer list,

and there I feel safe.We have been through some odd things like a

person who was so strong for us all, although she was dying,and by

pure chance,we found out that she didn't even and never had had

cancer.(If the list owner wants to write privately,I'll give her the

name).My nname and e-mail is opwen to everyone in the world from the

amount of spam I get (including invit.to a 60 yr old priest with one

breast missing to attend mardi gras party at playboy mansion in New

Orleans- honestly!!!) I may lurk, but I am here for anyone.my e-maill

is totally open (ask Hugh Heffner! lol) Alison+

[Guest guest]

> and I can understand that. We all tend to get " happy " with the

status

> quo and don't like changes. I am that way myself and like to keep

> things going the way they are...in other words, sometimes I

am " stuck

> in the mud " because some changes ARE for the better. Who knows???

> Groups may be one of those changes that are for the better??? I did

> not like the group concept myself when I first joined a group about

a

> year ago. Now I have found that there are so many advantages to the

> groups. I have listed at the bottom of this message several reasons

> why I prefer groups...there are other reasons that are not listed.

> These are the main reasons.

>

> The reason I am writing this note to all of our members is to ask

you

> to please give groups a chance. Don't throw out the baby with the

> bathwater!!! If you give groups a chance and then decide to leave,

> please let us know you are leaving. We would miss you but would

> certainly understand that you felt you had to go. Doris

>

>

> WHY DORIS LIKES AND PREFERS GROUPS:

> 1. I like the way you can reply to a message by just clicking reply

> and then instead of having to click to messages again to get back

the

> way we did in clubs, you get a screen that says continue and it

takes

> you to the message your just replied to.

>

> 2. I like the messages being in a " book " order...reading from top to

> bottom because that is the way I have always read a book and it

comes

> natural.

>

> 3. I like it that the message you are replying to can be a part of

> your reply...if you will notice I usually try to delete all but the

> part that shows what I am replying to and who I am replying to.

>

> 4. I LOVE it that we can do a search and find a previous message by

> its subject. Have not checked to see if you can find one if you

> know subject and it was not on the subject line.

>

> 5. I would love it more if everyone would learn to put a new

subject on

> the subject line. Sometimes a subject line has nothing to do with

what

> someone has written but we just click reply and write our new

message

> (this happened in clubs too).

>

> 6. I like it that you can post larger messages than you could in

> clubs. I got tired of having to cut the bottom off messages, writing

> continued in next message and then hoping I would get the rest

posted

> before someone posted another message in between.

>

> 7. I also like that you can have a Poll in groups...however, the bc

> group would not work for that because I am sure we would never be

> able to get everyone to do it that way. It would be wonderful if

> Jeana could do a poll about the trip to Phoenix and whoever wanted

to

> go could say so there. Then everyone could see who was going and who

> was thinking about it, etc.

[Guest guest]

Groups are fine and they do sometimes help. Sometimes though I just

don't want to know or even talk about it because the thought of it

still scares the hell out of me and other times it makes me tired.

But , I do enjoy the comraderie that is displayed and am willing to

join in and relay my story hear others storiies and help where I can.

Becky

> and I can understand that. We all tend to get " happy " with the

status

> quo and don't like changes. I am that way myself and like to keep

> things going the way they are...in other words, sometimes I

am " stuck

> in the mud " because some changes ARE for the better. Who knows???

> Groups may be one of those changes that are for the better??? I did

> not like the group concept myself when I first joined a group about

a

> year ago. Now I have found that there are so many advantages to the

> groups. I have listed at the bottom of this message several reasons

> why I prefer groups...there are other reasons that are not listed.

> These are the main reasons.

>

> The reason I am writing this note to all of our members is to ask

you

> to please give groups a chance. Don't throw out the baby with the

> bathwater!!! If you give groups a chance and then decide to leave,

> please let us know you are leaving. We would miss you but would

> certainly understand that you felt you had to go. Doris

>

>

> WHY DORIS LIKES AND PREFERS GROUPS:

> 1. I like the way you can reply to a message by just clicking reply

> and then instead of having to click to messages again to get back

the

> way we did in clubs, you get a screen that says continue and it

takes

> you to the message your just replied to.

>

> 2. I like the messages being in a " book " order...reading from top to

> bottom because that is the way I have always read a book and it

comes

> natural.

>

> 3. I like it that the message you are replying to can be a part of

> your reply...if you will notice I usually try to delete all but the

> part that shows what I am replying to and who I am replying to.

>

> 4. I LOVE it that we can do a search and find a previous message by

> its subject. Have not checked to see if you can find one if you

> know subject and it was not on the subject line.

>

> 5. I would love it more if everyone would learn to put a new

subject on

> the subject line. Sometimes a subject line has nothing to do with

what

> someone has written but we just click reply and write our new

message

> (this happened in clubs too).

>

> 6. I like it that you can post larger messages than you could in

> clubs. I got tired of having to cut the bottom off messages, writing

> continued in next message and then hoping I would get the rest

posted

> before someone posted another message in between.

>

> 7. I also like that you can have a Poll in groups...however, the bc

> group would not work for that because I am sure we would never be

> able to get everyone to do it that way. It would be wonderful if

> Jeana could do a poll about the trip to Phoenix and whoever wanted

to

> go could say so there. Then everyone could see who was going and who

> was thinking about it, etc.