Re: The Magnificence of Anger

[Guest guest]

Hi

I think the mistake the groupers make is they confuse anger

with acting out. they think " getting angry " automatically

means shouting, swearing, threatening, or being directly

abusive. they dont understand that these are agressive ways

of dealing with anger, not anger itself. instead of

learning healthy ways to express anger assetively, they

overcompensate by trying to stuff it down altogether. as

well as being a mistake in itself, this is likely to cause

sudden rage-breaks and heavy duty acting out, which if

course, is seen as being more evidence as to why one

shouldnt feel angry.

P.

On Wed, 10 Jun 1998 21:15:21 PDT rebecca fransway

wrote:

>

> One of the things so harmful not only in AA but also in other religions,

> is the naming of Anger as Bad.

>

> Anger is called in the Big Book " the dubious luxury of normal men. "

>

> Excuse me, but I have always been normal.

> Nevertheless, I hereby proclaim that Anger is Good.

>

> For those who believe in

> God, realize that if you're angry, God's will is being done whether

> you like it or not. This is a concept so obvious that even a newborn

> baby gets it. Small children and dunces have no problem with it.

>

> Of course, we would expect religion to squelch the fine emotion of

> anger, along with other lifegiving feelings, like horniness.

>

> In AA, I was assured that anger is deadly, and given a method to

> get rid of it--moral inventory, confession, ammends, and prayer. I

> used the method repeatedly. However, determined to alert me to

> the fact that I was being seriously screwed, my Anger kept bobbing

> forth, keeping me awake at night, demanding to light its fire under

> the asses of AA abusers. He would not be smothered. He would

> not be denied!

>

> Now, He has busted loose, shining and clean, determined to

> defend me and others who have been screwed. He got my car

> back from the unrighteous impound of the Police.

> Relentlessly he dogged me into learning media skills, so that the

> 12 step Abusers could be exposed. At a party, he foiled the floozy

> who tried to steal my boyfriend. With great outspokenness, he

> tells the truth!

>

> Your anger will tell you, and others, the truth.

> Could that be why the AAs want to smother him?

>

> Sincerely,

> Fransway

>

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