New developments - sympathy wanted please

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I used to 'chat' often, but been busy with everyday life, which includes being

on-call for my BPD (hermit) mom. One week before Christmas, Dad was diagnosed

with dementia (Alzheimers) and in the evaluation to the Dementia Unit at the VA

on New Year's Eve, he " exhibited psychotic behavior " (rolling on the floor,

shouting at Satan, etc). After 2 months of evaluation, his psychiatrist there

told me he has chronic paranoid schizophrenia. My 60 year old sister, who is

the 'full screen version' of Annette Benning's role in " Running with Scissors "

(didn't catch that until I saw the movie) is teaming up with Dad (now in a

nursing home equipped to handle both dementia and schizophrenia) to tell me in

no uncertain terms how I am putting him in there to rot, have never cared about

him, stolen his money (all $750 a month of it - I'm using it to pay off his

debts), taken his home property (he had none) and so on. But she's " not going

to interfere with my decision and will pray for my soul. " I'm now Mom's

favorite child again because she never wants to see Dad again and I'm

'protecting her'. She says she now sees that I do what I say and my sister

doesn't ---then 5 minutes later, she's defending my 'poor sister' and swishing

between personalitites. I've been in and out of courtrooms gettting legal

permission to handle Dad's finances and care, and the same psychiatrist who said

he needed a guardian when he 'only had dementia', says he doesn't need one now

(after being diagnosed with dementia and paranoid schizophrenia). So --as

columnist Dave Barry once wrote: " Would somebody please feel sorry for me

because I feel sorry for myself and that's really not something you want to do

by yourself. " Ah me.. -Leslye