What is it with Nadas??!! - no empathy etc...

[Guest guest]

Relating to Annie's post of nadas having no empathy etc -> e.g. " " So

you have a headache, well, big deal. I need you to take me to the

store NOW, " says nada)rings a bell with me. "

My nada often said " well *I've* got a headache too, and *I've* had a

tough day too " when I made one complaint about myself/day etc. God it

got to me. And sometimes I find myself saying that to my husband!

arghh! Like I have to compete for some empathy or something. Annyoing.

Also what is it about nadas exaggerating their health? Nada often said

she had a migraine when obviously it was just a headache because she

could still manage to sit in front of the TV with it blaring, or mow

the lawns!?! Ironically enough her 4th husband actually does suffer

migraines, and he looks awful when he has, but that doesn't stop her

from exaggerating the truth because now its worse " *we* suffer " " you

just don't understand " splatter comes out of her.

[Guest guest]

Mine is all about this.

I say, " My house is a mess, " she says, " Well mine is just as bad! I haven't had

ANY TIME to DO A THING! " (she and my dad are retired)

I say, " I have a bad migrane, " she says, " My shoulder is hurting worse today

than it has in a long time. I'm going to have to restart physical therapy. "

I say, " I got the cold the kids had, " she says. " Oh I think I do, too. I've been

stuffy all day. "

When she found out she needed rotator cuff (shoulder) surgery this Thanksgiving,

she tried to blame the injury on holding my kids when they were babies. They are

3 and 5.

Grr.

Cheryl

[Guest guest]

My most recent experience of this went as follows:

" I had a panic attack the other day "

" Well I had six panic attacks today "

Seriously, does she really need to outdo me when it comes to this??

The funniest thing about it was that it was a confused attempt on my

part to show empathy to HER because she always has panic attacks and

I wanted to tell her I know what it felt like.. needless to say I

lost interest in trying to reach out pretty damn quickly.

So infuriating...

>

> Relating to Annie's post of nadas having no empathy etc ->

e.g. " " So

> you have a headache, well, big deal. I need you to take me to the

> store NOW, " says nada)rings a bell with me. "

>

> My nada often said " well *I've* got a headache too, and *I've* had

a

> tough day too " when I made one complaint about myself/day etc. God

it

> got to me. And sometimes I find myself saying that to my husband!

> arghh! Like I have to compete for some empathy or something.

Annyoing.

>

> Also what is it about nadas exaggerating their health? Nada often

said

> she had a migraine when obviously it was just a headache because

she

> could still manage to sit in front of the TV with it blaring, or

mow

> the lawns!?! Ironically enough her 4th husband actually does suffer

> migraines, and he looks awful when he has, but that doesn't stop

her

> from exaggerating the truth because now its worse " *we*

suffer " " you

> just don't understand " splatter comes out of her.

>

[Guest guest]

No empathy for sure...I had very painful menstrual cramps as a

teenager and nada would insist regardless that I attend school even

when I was almost doubled over with pain and she never gave me any

painkillers either.Just barked at me to get my stuff and get going.

Years later I was talking to one of her best friends from high

school and somehow the subject of menstrual cramps came up,don't ask

me how now! This friend said, " Oh,your mother had the worst problems

with her periods.When we were in high school she had to stay home in

bed and your grandmother had to give her a heating pad and aspirin

for the pain,she suffered terribly... "

I just wanted to slap nada silly when her friend told me

that.Why is it that they are incapable of passing on any loving

nurture that is shown to them? Argh!!! Or was her " terrible

suffering " an act to get attention so she assumed I was also only

acting?

Unfortunately my pain was real and I had to save up my lunch

money to buy myself some Midol.

>

> Relating to Annie's post of nadas having no empathy etc ->

e.g. " " So

> you have a headache, well, big deal. I need you to take me to the

> store NOW, " says nada)rings a bell with me. "

>

> My nada often said " well *I've* got a headache too, and *I've* had a

> tough day too " when I made one complaint about myself/day etc. God

it

> got to me. And sometimes I find myself saying that to my husband!

> arghh! Like I have to compete for some empathy or something.

Annyoing.

>

> Also what is it about nadas exaggerating their health? Nada often

said

> she had a migraine when obviously it was just a headache because she

> could still manage to sit in front of the TV with it blaring, or mow

> the lawns!?! Ironically enough her 4th husband actually does suffer

> migraines, and he looks awful when he has, but that doesn't stop her

> from exaggerating the truth because now its worse " *we* suffer " " you

> just don't understand " splatter comes out of her.

>

[Guest guest]

> >

> > Relating to Annie's post of nadas having no empathy etc ->

> e.g. " " So

> > you have a headache, well, big deal. I need you to take me to the

> > store NOW, " says nada)rings a bell with me. "

> >

> > My nada often said " well *I've* got a headache too, and *I've* had a

> > tough day too " when I made one complaint about myself/day etc. God

> it

> > got to me. And sometimes I find myself saying that to my husband!

> > arghh! Like I have to compete for some empathy or something.

> Annyoing.

> >

> > Also what is it about nadas exaggerating their health? Nada often

> said

> > she had a migraine when obviously it was just a headache because she

> > could still manage to sit in front of the TV with it blaring, or mow

> > the lawns!?! Ironically enough her 4th husband actually does suffer

> > migraines, and he looks awful when he has, but that doesn't stop her

> > from exaggerating the truth because now its worse " *we* suffer " " you

> > just don't understand " splatter comes out of her.

> >

>

The deal is simple. No one else is allowed to be a victim when the

NADA is in the room. They are the only ones who are allowed to feel

any pain.