What do your therepists say about NC w/Nada?

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Hello-

My Nada recently (beginning of December) 'disowned' me b/c I

reconnected with my father, her exhusband. Right after this

happened, my therepist told me that she thought my mother had

borderline. This has been the most WONDERFUL holiday season I've

EVER had b/c of no nada!!! I can't even begin to explain how freeing

it has been to find out she has BPD. I have always been so afraid I

would turn out like her but now I have no worries. I always thought

something was wrong with me, now I know IT'S HER! She isn't even my

mother anymore, she is this person who is sick. I don't hate her

anymore, I hate the illness. I have NO GUILT!! OMG!! Nada thinks she

is punishing me by 'disowning' me, but it's the greatest gift ever.

My therepist doesn't think my nada is 'done with me'. And my

therepist also seems be of the opinion that I should have some

contact with my nada. Right now, it's easy b/c nada is the one who

doesn't want to talk to me, but my therepist tells me that if I

reject her, I'm rejecting a part of myself.

I told my therepist I really don't think it's in my best interest to

have any contact with nada. I was wondering what other's therepists

say about this?